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Personality traits...and changing them...
#7492393 - 10/06/07 07:25 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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there are a few things about my personality that I don't like...and would like to change. its not really that I don't like parts of myself but more of how other people react to certain things I say or do. which affects my relationships with people.
i'm starting to catch on to these behaviors when they occur and try to stear away but there are other times when i keep repeating the behavior with out even being conscious of it.
what are some techniques I can use to change myself? basically I want to not appear to be argumentative, listen more, and just be more docile. oh and one of my biggest problems I have with people I think...is that I'm TOO honest...or maybe I should say open...I share too much information at times...and either it makes a bad impression or the person is annoyed by my little rant.
so yeah....help me. thanks.
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: TameMe]
#7493339 - 10/07/07 01:04 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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what are some techniques I can use to change myself?
I heard of think kick-ass technique which called using one's Will... it goes like this: you use your will and determination and change what you don't like about yourself.
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: MushroomTrip]
#7493355 - 10/07/07 01:11 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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When it comes to limiting food, on a scale of 1 to 10, i have 0 will power..I gorge up on food when I am happy and when i am frustrated too..
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: shakercee]
#7493379 - 10/07/07 01:19 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yes but using your will is not about feeling guilty. From the " " I get from you, I can understand that you fell guilty, this feeling, contrary to what we might think of it, only does more ham than good. It's what keeps us doing the "mistakes" that we do instead of curing us. For instance, maybe you could use your determination to help yourself live a healthy life instead of just stop eating food cause it's "bad" You can start by having a positive attitude about your body & mind, exercise at least a few minutes every day, and then, when you'll already see changes, you'll automatically cut back from having a relationship with food.
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: MushroomTrip]
#7493405 - 10/07/07 01:30 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yes, i did exercise a few times. I would begin with great enthusiasm, and it really felt good both body and mind, but then inertia sets in and i start finding excuses, "i don't have time, i am too tired, etc."
Like you said, positive attitude would help. i have to start remembering how good it really when i was exercising. I am sure it would work out just fine..:)
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: shakercee]
#7493425 - 10/07/07 01:45 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Just being aware will slowly do it. Now that you have noticed that its happening and you dont like it, every time it happens be aware of it and its negative results and over time you will naturally stop doing it. I dont think there is a quick way of doing it though.
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: TameMe]
#7493446 - 10/07/07 01:59 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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TameMe said: there are a few things about my personality that I don't like...and would like to change. its not really that I don't like parts of myself but more of how other people react to certain things I say or do. which affects my relationships with people.
i'm starting to catch on to these behaviors when they occur and try to stear away but there are other times when i keep repeating the behavior with out even being conscious of it.
what are some techniques I can use to change myself? basically I want to not appear to be argumentative, listen more, and just be more docile. oh and one of my biggest problems I have with people I think...is that I'm TOO honest...or maybe I should say open...I share too much information at times...and either it makes a bad impression or the person is annoyed by my little rant.
so yeah....help me. thanks.
i have a technique (yes some substance for once) that i cannot recommend more..
the moment you wake up from sleep, focus on the self. the moment you wake up sit up straight and be aware. observe everything that is happening to you, everything that you become attached to. observe the coming and going thoughts and feelings and don't do anything else either than observe.
it is so effective to do this the moment you wake up, because the moment you wake up is the moment you start becoming attached to your every day conditioning. if you can observe this conditioning the moment you wake up, understanding of it will grow and this will allow for detachment from it and bliss and connection will follow. make it a daily habit and you WILL transform.
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: shakercee]
#7493448 - 10/07/07 02:04 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yes.  Well it's kind of easy to fall back in that inertia and start finding excuses in "I'm too tired" and "maybe just for today I'll have to take a break"... but this can easily be avoided if you just keep on exercising even when you feel that tired. Because you'll create a precedent for the other times you'll be tired and you will be able to feel good about yourself and create a habit out of it.
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: MushroomTrip]
#7493541 - 10/07/07 03:43 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: MushroomTrip]
#7494553 - 10/07/07 02:04 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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MushroomTrip said:
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what are some techniques I can use to change myself?
I heard of think kick-ass technique which called using one's Will... it goes like this: you use your will and determination and change what you don't like about yourself.
i know. it's like the nike slogan "just do it"
but when i'm unconcious of what i'm doing in the moment....how could i invoke my will to stop something i don't realize i'm doing?
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: onlynow]
#7494556 - 10/07/07 02:07 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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onlynow said:
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TameMe said: there are a few things about my personality that I don't like...and would like to change. its not really that I don't like parts of myself but more of how other people react to certain things I say or do. which affects my relationships with people.
i'm starting to catch on to these behaviors when they occur and try to stear away but there are other times when i keep repeating the behavior with out even being conscious of it.
what are some techniques I can use to change myself? basically I want to not appear to be argumentative, listen more, and just be more docile. oh and one of my biggest problems I have with people I think...is that I'm TOO honest...or maybe I should say open...I share too much information at times...and either it makes a bad impression or the person is annoyed by my little rant.
so yeah....help me. thanks.
i have a technique (yes some substance for once) that i cannot recommend more..
the moment you wake up from sleep, focus on the self. the moment you wake up sit up straight and be aware. observe everything that is happening to you, everything that you become attached to. observe the coming and going thoughts and feelings and don't do anything else either than observe.
it is so effective to do this the moment you wake up, because the moment you wake up is the moment you start becoming attached to your every day conditioning. if you can observe this conditioning the moment you wake up, understanding of it will grow and this will allow for detachment from it and bliss and connection will follow. make it a daily habit and you WILL transform.
thank you! this is the sort of thing i was looking for. i'll definitely try this out.
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: TameMe]
#7494608 - 10/07/07 02:22 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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When you become aware of them they change of themselves. With awareness comes choice and you will always choose what you truly desire.
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: Icelander]
#7494624 - 10/07/07 02:27 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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i believe that. and i'm a little worried that my true desire is not to change. well i'm not really worried.....just would like to experience something else.
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: TameMe]
#7494700 - 10/07/07 02:47 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I have the same problems. Rooting out unconscious or conscious motivations can take many years IME. I suggest one keep at it gently without looking for any type of reward or success but rather as an exercise in curiosity.
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: Icelander]
#7494869 - 10/07/07 03:25 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Icelander said: Rooting out unconscious or conscious motivations can take many years IME.
Or it could take seconds.
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: fireworks_god]
#7494894 - 10/07/07 03:31 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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It's a combination of holding on to intention, letting go of results
Something may change in your personality after only wishing it once, and somethings may never change after wishing it to change for years. Find the balance and be grateful for the great things in your personality you already possess.
Have you tried meditation? I would like to recommend you try doing about 15 minutes of a meditation of your choice every day and see if it makes you more conscious of your programming
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: fireworks_god]
#7494920 - 10/07/07 03:37 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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on ibogaine
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: TameMe]
#7494922 - 10/07/07 03:38 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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slowing down your reactions and editing them
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: EternalCowabunga]
#7494928 - 10/07/07 03:39 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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EternalCowabunga said:Have you tried meditation? I would like to recommend you try doing about 15 minutes of a meditation of your choice every day and see if it makes you more conscious of your programming
take a long hike in nature, meditate an hour, do some yoga, take a solo lsd trip with some weed and observe.
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Re: Personality traits...and changing them... [Re: TameMe]
#7495169 - 10/07/07 04:36 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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onlynow's technique is excellent so make a habit of that.
also use the power of the word if if helps you.
vocalize your intentions or write them down so that you can externalize your motivations. that will make them much more powerful.
be receptive to your inner voice and watch your awareness, then apply.
with time you will pour yourself right into the glasses you shaped.
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