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lysergicide
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just a stupid little rant.
#7489575 - 10/05/07 07:06 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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i have a best friend who, it seems like, really doesn't want to see me. i'll explain.
whenever i ask her to hangout, she'll tell me that she doesn't know what shes doing for the day (meaning some plans are up in the air). but, she also always tells me that shes never busy, and she is always free. if anybody else asks her to make plans, she'll tell them sure, and she'll make sure nothing gets in the way with them. and i'm sure of that.
but if i ask her, she says that she doesn't know her plans for the day yet or that she already has plans. she tells me that she is impulsive and goes with whatever comes along first, but it's never me. she just waits it out, and then decides what she wants to do for the day, and i'm always the last choice. always.
i'm starting to really believe that she has grown tired of me or doesn't care anymore. but i really don't like how she acts like that.
i asked her yesterday, and she said "she didn't know what she was doing." she also told me that she had no plans. i haven't seen her in awhile, i told her, give me a call and she said alright, and i haven't heard from her. today was the same deal. we were supposed to hang out but apperantly, she has other plans already, but she'll stop by at the end of the day just to say hi if i want. and i'm pretty sure she ditched that.
right. real best friend, i'd say.
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lysergicide
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: lysergicide]
#7489589 - 10/05/07 07:11 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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just felt like ranting for the night.
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: lysergicide]
#7489632 - 10/05/07 07:21 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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maybe its time to confront her about it? just let her know if she doesnt want to hang out with you she can come up with a better excuse than "i dont know what im doing tonight." excuse.
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lysergicide
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: wortiesbo]
#7489642 - 10/05/07 07:25 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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apperantly she tells me that it's a not, and that i'm "getting worked up over nothing." ha
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: lysergicide]
#7489667 - 10/05/07 07:29 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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She probably has a new best friend named Cocaine. The dodginess is a prime indicator.
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: Grok]
#7489693 - 10/05/07 07:35 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Stop trying so hard. If you're going to hang out, you'll hang out. My guess is that you're become slightly infacuated with this dilemma, so every time that she rejects you, it's a HUGE deal for you.
Find a new friend, get a hobby, eat mushrooms, do something other than think about this girl.
then eventually, you'll hang out. patience and don't concern yourself with it.
float downstream with this friendship. don't fight the current so badly.
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: lysergicide]
#7489702 - 10/05/07 07:40 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I'd say take the hint and move on.
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: Diploid]
#7489719 - 10/05/07 07:45 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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its an illusion man
best friend
friend
lover
if she's your best friend you will be together hanging out
if you try to shackle her to that term the only thing that come is resentment
i don't advocate watching the pieces fall away, but i do not advocate coveting
look her in the eye and tell her the Truth about your assessment and tell her to tell you the Truth
and don't care, its easier that way
it doesn't mean you won't have relationships, it just means you won't have wounds.
question my authority of course
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: lysergicide]
#7489884 - 10/05/07 08:42 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I had a friend who cut me out of her life by being passively avoidant. She was (is) always polite but in a rush to end our interactions whenever we run into each other. I've never said anything about it, although maybe I should have. I just decided I would rather take the hint and let go. I'm not going to fight for a friendship that isn't mutual. It of course always hurts when people do this. I recommend nurturing friendships that are more reciprocal and not clinging to people who aren't good to you. Stop trying to hang out with this girl. If she really is your friend, she'll come to you. If she's not, then you know.
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: lysergicide]
#7490278 - 10/06/07 01:10 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I think that you really can't be angry with that. Maybe you're suffocating her or maybe she really doesn't wanna be friends with you at all. What is obvious is that you're too pushy and that this kind of attitude never helps. You act like you depend on her and like you have many expectations from your friendship. Now if she has the least of personality, she will not accept that, even if she's not even aware what she doesn't like in your behavior. Get your own life in your hands, center yourself and become your own person. Start enjoy living (cause from the way you sound, you really don't seem to that lately), stop thinking about how you've been "betrayed", stop having expectations from this relationship. Simple as that.
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: MushroomTrip]
#7490562 - 10/06/07 06:36 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I agree. Don't try to need people...or possess them. Give others space and if they don't want to be around you then let your reality breath and learn to let go. Look at my signature that says it all about this subject.
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: Huehuecoyotl]
#7490795 - 10/06/07 09:02 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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what someone else wants is always mysterious - it is a measure of their needs not yours
maybe it is rewarding to be in a select group & unrewarding to be disconnected from your choice.
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: lysergicide]
#7491053 - 10/06/07 11:20 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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WAKE UP!
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: Icelander]
#7491993 - 10/06/07 04:47 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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This person does not treat you like a best friend.Therefore, she is not your best friend. There is nothing wrong with expecting those you have a relationship with to treat you with consideration, honestly and pure love.
Unless you are seriously misinterpreting some signals, then this person is not your best friend. It's not nothing, don't let her lie to you. But don't try to aggressively drag it out of her either. Not everyone has the same expectations of friendship, and people change all the time, for better or for worse.
Whether her detachment to you is warranted or not, I cannot determine. But don't put so much dependence on other people to be there for you. We all need love, we all need support, but I have found that almost everyone is not dependable ultimately. Your family will let you down, your friends will let you down, and the only person you can depend on is God.
This happens all the time, and maybe, just maybe you're one of the few. Maybe you're on the path to truth love, like I was. People should be faithful, with full an open honesty, with unfeined love, ready to help those in need, always ready to help support those they love, which should be everyone.Loving others as they would want to be loved. Don't let anyone convince you to disregard what is truly sacred, even if you're the only person left, by yourself.
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only person you can depend on is God.
So God is a person.;) I knew it was a creation in the image of mankind.
I do not depend on god for anything at all. This is the best part of my personal beliefs IMO.
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: Icelander]
#7492281 - 10/06/07 06:30 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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There has to be more to this story of yours.. How were you guys before all this was going on? There were matters that happened to lead up to why your "best friend" is acting this way.
-peace
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: TheLightIsOn]
#7492291 - 10/06/07 06:35 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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love is impermanent
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: TheLightIsOn]
#7492297 - 10/06/07 06:38 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ya know, WTF is so hard about posting your response to your intended victim? It's not like these are your first posts here. It's like coming to this country and refusing to learn english.
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: Icelander]
#7492372 - 10/06/07 07:21 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Quote:
Icelander said: Ya know, WTF is so hard about posting your response to your intended victim? It's not like these are your first posts here. It's like coming to this country and refusing to learn english.
is there something wrong with what he said? even if it intended on making this guy a victim...i don't see a problem with what he asked.
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Re: just a stupid little rant. [Re: Icelander]
#7494652 - 10/07/07 02:36 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Icelander,
Is that a velociraptor your fake Jesus is holding? What IS that thing? I know it's off topic, but that is bugging me.
b.t.w. Jesus didn't have long hair. That's a greek and roman adaptation. Not to mention he wasn't handsome at all.
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