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MrMax
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I could really use some support right about now
#7471794 - 09/30/07 08:29 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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I don't really know who to turn to right now. All of my close friends who I usually talk to are sleeping. I just need to get this out.
We've been dating for 2 years, and at first we were practically living together. Seeing each other every day. Recently we have started growing apart, we just don't have much in common now as far as interests, directions in life, or anything else that usually draws people together.
I don't really want to let go. It's really hard for me to imagine life without her. She was my first real long relationship, and definitely my strongest and the most meaningful. We've both put up with our fair share of BS, but I think she treats me like shit sometimes. It just doesn't feel like its working anymore.
I kind of want her to just end it, because frankly, I really can't bring myself to do it and stick to it. But at the same time I really want things to get better and be how they were before.
Why does this have to be so hard
-------------------- “People usually consider walking on water or in thin air a miracle. But I think the real miracle is not to walk either on water or in thin air, but to walk on earth. Every day we are engaged in a miracle which we don't even recognize: a blue sky, white clouds, green leaves, the black, curious eyes of a child -- our own two eyes. All is a miracle.” -Thich Nhat Hanh
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RandalFlagg
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Re: I could really use some support right about now [Re: MrMax]
#7471805 - 09/30/07 08:31 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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In my experience when shit like this starts to go down in a relationship then it's over and there is no point in trying to prolong it. It only will bring more pain.
I think it's healthier and better in the long run to just move on.
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CherryBom
Yoga Gypsy


Registered: 12/26/98
Posts: 11,177
Loc: Ontario
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Re: I could really use some support right about now [Re: RandalFlagg]
#7471814 - 09/30/07 08:33 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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You are really lucky that you didn't move in with her, or get engaged or make some babies. Now THAT would be make this natural separation so much more difficult.
Be grateful that you can recognize the natural course of this beautiful relationship. Let it go.
Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened!
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Alion



Registered: 08/14/07
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Re: I could really use some support right about now [Re: CherryBom]
#7471836 - 09/30/07 08:37 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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check the other 500 threads that talk about the same shit, but by a different person.
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ajdaak
raver for life



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Re: I could really use some support right about now [Re: CherryBom]
#7471838 - 09/30/07 08:37 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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what i have figured out is if shit is getting like that go your own way when you can still be friends and if you where meant to be it will happen but if its not meant to be she will be your closest friend for life
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DrCamacho89
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Re: I could really use some support right about now [Re: MrMax]
#7471879 - 09/30/07 08:44 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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If it's worth holding onto, fight. If it's not, then bolt. If you're waiting for her to break up with you, aren't you just wasting both of your times? Talk to her about it. You should know which way to go by the end of that conversation. Sometimes you'll find that staying together and working through tough times can help a relationship. It keeps it from being stagnant. First you have to know if that's what you want. Only you can make that decision.
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Binx0101
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Re: I could really use some support right about now [Re: DrCamacho89]
#7471921 - 09/30/07 08:52 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Just be mature with eachother, if you two truely do have different outlooks on life then it wont work for very long. If you can just take an intelligent approach when and if you bring it up and put everything out on the table its for the best in the long run.
So idunno man, relationships are tough
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floppypeter
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Re: I could really use some support right about now [Re: Binx0101]
#7471961 - 09/30/07 08:59 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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there are many people out there
dont be defined by this relationship
define your own rromantic relationship
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Nem
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Re: I could really use some support right about now [Re: floppypeter]
#7472273 - 09/30/07 10:28 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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It sounds to me like you want to end it but are afraid you are making the wrong decision because this is the first time you have been forced to make said decision about a serious relationship.
What you need to do is talk to her about it. It can only help both of your lives by doing it. If you decide you should stay together then you both have your cards on the table. If you decide to break up then you have reached a conclusion, it is win-win. Ff you break up the first couple weeks might feel like you made the wrong decision, eventually that goes away. If it doesn't nothing is ever final, you can always get back together and it will most likely be better that time around.
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ZippoZ
Knomadic



Registered: 06/17/03
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Loc: Pongyang, North Korea
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Re: I could really use some support right about now [Re: CherryBom]
#7472318 - 09/30/07 10:38 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened!
very true
remember the good times
its sad to say, that all good things do seem to come to an end.
if its really over between you two, give her some space,
its going to be hard because of all of the time you are used to spending with her, try and fill that time by hanging out with your friends and finding a hoby or somthing else that you truly feel passionate about.
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zippoz "in times of widespread chaos and confusion, it has been the duty of more advanced human beings - artists, scientists, clowns, and philosophers - to create order. In such times as ours however, when there is too much order, too much m management, too much programming and control, it becomes the duty of superior men and women and women to fling their favorite monkey wrenches into the machinery. To relieve the repression of the human spirit, they must sow doubt and disruption" "People do it every day, they talk to themselves ... they see themselves as they'd like to be, they don't have the courage you have, to just run with it."
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CherryBom
Yoga Gypsy


Registered: 12/26/98
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Re: I could really use some support right about now [Re: ZippoZ]
#7472339 - 09/30/07 10:42 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Or take up drinking heavily.
I wish I did that more when I went through my break up. Maybe I can do that now. Retroactive healing.
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ZippoZ
Knomadic



Registered: 06/17/03
Posts: 13,227
Loc: Pongyang, North Korea
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Re: I could really use some support right about now [Re: CherryBom]
#7472378 - 09/30/07 10:59 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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thats the boat im on currently, and truth be told, not the greatest place to be.
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zippoz "in times of widespread chaos and confusion, it has been the duty of more advanced human beings - artists, scientists, clowns, and philosophers - to create order. In such times as ours however, when there is too much order, too much m management, too much programming and control, it becomes the duty of superior men and women and women to fling their favorite monkey wrenches into the machinery. To relieve the repression of the human spirit, they must sow doubt and disruption" "People do it every day, they talk to themselves ... they see themselves as they'd like to be, they don't have the courage you have, to just run with it."
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