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Silvermind
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Being friendly and honest.....
#7466239 - 09/29/07 01:40 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Where would you draw it? Im having a hardtime figuring this out. People say Im way too honest and open, but on the inside I def. dont want that to be, so how do I keep my privacy but still remain honest and friendly to others?
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Re: Being friendly and honest..... [Re: Silvermind] 1
#7466245 - 09/29/07 01:46 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Simply. When there's something you don't want other people to know about your life, you just tell them that it is something private and you prefer to keep it that way.
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Silvermind
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Re: Being friendly and honest..... [Re: MushroomTrip]
#7466262 - 09/29/07 01:58 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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I wish it were that easy. I always respond to something I dont wanna talk about by saying "I dunno"... Like playing dumb about it. That usually gets people thinking that their wasting their time trying to probe me with questions, haha.
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Re: Being friendly and honest..... [Re: Silvermind]
#7466277 - 09/29/07 02:06 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Well yes but this leaves room for interpretation and you're also facing the risk to meet some very insisting persons which won't be satisfied with this answer and that will try to squeeze new answers from you. Why face all this stress?  I had lots of difficulties in telling people that there are things that I just rather keep only to myself, and that was because I felt uncomfortable with giving this answer. But when I found out how efficient it is, things just got easier. Saves me of a lot of unnecessary drama.
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Re: Being friendly and honest..... [Re: MushroomTrip]
#7466732 - 09/29/07 09:18 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Haha! Yeah, I know right, I dont understand what theyre trying to accomplish, but it gets fucking annoying! And then, if I dont tell them right away, they think Im "hiding something"
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Edited by Silvermind (09/29/07 09:19 AM)
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Re: Being friendly and honest..... [Re: MushroomTrip] 1
#7467217 - 09/29/07 12:37 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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This is why we coined the phrase, "it's none of yer fuckin business, but thanks for askin."
Or make up your own. Like: "I don't wanta tell and you can't make me."
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Edited by Icelander (09/29/07 12:38 PM)
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Re: Being friendly and honest..... [Re: Icelander]
#7467241 - 09/29/07 12:43 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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well people say that about me to but what i norm do is the people that try to get info out of me i normally wonder why and don't tell them nothing but the people that don't pry on my life know my whole life just think about that
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Re: Being friendly and honest..... [Re: Icelander]
#7467310 - 09/29/07 01:07 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Another good response to impertinent questions: Why do you want to know? Usually they don't have an answer, but if they do respond, you can say "Oh, how interesting" and move on to another subject. 
If you'd like to be more direct, you can respond "I don't wish to discuss that with you."
Honesty and privacy are not incompatible.
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Re: Being friendly and honest..... [Re: Veritas]
#7467383 - 09/29/07 01:31 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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I think, "why do you want to know fucker" is just a wee bit more effective and puts one in a superior position for directing subsequent conversation towards ones own personal ends.
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Re: Being friendly and honest..... [Re: Icelander]
#7467421 - 09/29/07 01:49 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Whatever works for you, sweetie. I suppose it depends upon the questioner AND the tone one wishes to set for their interactions.
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Re: Being friendly and honest..... [Re: Veritas]
#7467432 - 09/29/07 01:55 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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I agree... fucker.
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Re: Being friendly and honest..... [Re: Icelander]
#7467470 - 09/29/07 02:08 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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I made the mistake of asking a female friend in a yahoo pm, "what are you doing right now?" and she said "it is not something i would discuss with you" ever since then i have stopped asking personal questions.
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Re: Being friendly and honest..... [Re: Silvermind]
#7467481 - 09/29/07 02:17 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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If someone is suspicious of you about something, you've already lost to an extent, it will be hard to hide it from then on. The idea is to not lead on to anything you wish to conceal. In the end, if you don't want to talk about it, give them an honest reason why, not just "I don't want to talk about it", or saying it in a rude or condescending way. Doing that can push people out of your life and makes you seem like a jerk who thinks his life is too special to share with others. There's a good chance they won't feel like inquiring into your life any more, or talking with you about anything personal. They may very well begin to resent you. Remember that we all become curious about other people, and you wouldn't want to be treated in a rude way. Just remember that people are curious and try to put their minds at rest as kindly and honestly as you can.
Edited by jonathan_206 (09/29/07 02:21 PM)
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And remember no matter how sour things go, or how much of an idiot that person is, it's never acceptable to be rude or mean.
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Re: Being friendly and honest..... [Re: Icelander]
#7467487 - 09/29/07 02:20 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Icelander said: I think, "why do you want to know fucker" is just a wee bit more effective and puts one in a superior position for directing subsequent conversation towards ones own personal ends.
Haha, I think that would just get my ass kicked.
But yeah, I agree. Some people do continue asking just to be annoying. That happened to my friend once, and when he started to act like the kid wasnt there, he started making a big scene. My friend was pissed about it later on, but he sat there and didnt say a word. I was amazed at his patience. Even I told him afterwards, "you shoulda just told him to go fuck himself" and he said "Naa..."
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Quote:
jonathan_206 said: And remember no matter how sour things go, or how much of an idiot that person is, it's never acceptable to be rude or mean.
as we can see from your ratings.
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