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knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well.
#7446400 - 09/24/07 01:01 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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This is an anonymous post, and I am making it as such because this is a deeply personal issue to me. I just need to bounce some of the ideas I have in my head off of some people. I don't want to go into too much background, but some is needed. First, I should begin by saying I have gotten a girl pregnant. I'm 21, and while I know plenty of people who have children at younger ages than I, It just does not fit into my plans right now.
I believe many people, both men and woman, think about this before it happens. The "what If's". I have always said if I get someone pregnant I will simply support them, tell them how I feel and support them with whatever decision they make. Because I have the view that is ultimately the womans choice as to whether or not they should consider an abortion. I think it should be said here that the girl I was/am sleeping with are pro-choice. I respect people who are pro-life, but I think any insight from a pro-life prospective is unhelpful at the moment. This is not to say I don't value a human life. Just I am trying to keep this realistic.
Now let me back up and explain my relationship to this girl. We know each other semi-casually, and from the start I have maintained that the relationship would not be serious, and in fact, I have very little time for her past a "friends with benefits" situation. I don't like using the term, but I made sure she was okay with it long before anything physical took place, and have given her several opportunities not to continue if she was okay with the arrangement. I do care about her feelings, but I have noticed that she is not very emotionally mature. She can be very needy, and manipulative. She also cuts, and as of the last week threated suicide more than once. I'm a good person, and respond to this the best I can. I have been seriously contemplating that any sort of physical relationship would be a bad idea.
Last week she was worried she hadn't started her period, and we got her a test. The result was negative. I just moved to a new location for school and am not always near her, and she still hadn't received her period a week later so she took another one last night which resulted as a positive. After a rough few hours she told me that she wanted to keep the child. I expressed how I think this is a bad idea. explaining to her my situation about how I don't see myself finishing school currently, and how I will move home and work. She doesn't think I will need to do that. In fact, she said if I do she wants to not even speak to me, nor accept money. which is absurd, as she has no job, has a poor work ethic (quiting two jobs without even notifying her employers over the past 3 weeks). and is in credit-card debt. So I don't know where she expects money to come from.
This is a blow to my world right now. I feel bad, but I think I may put more pressure on an abortion. at least express my case more strongly. She has had one before with an ex of 2yrs. She doesn't want to be pressured, because she claims she was before. Nor do I want to pressure her, but why give up a child from an ex she was with for over 2 years and not want to give up a child from someone they have none for a few months in a casual way. But I honestly think I should lay it on the line. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I think she has some issues to work out. not only within herself, but financially as well. She is an only child, and apparently claims she is "bratty" but that it gets money from her parents. Which is a turn off to me, as I have always worked. And I have met her parents, they don't have too much money.
I just don't know what to do. Should I pressure her, it may end the relationship, but I think that may be good. I have normally maintained a serious relationships, and that is where I had initially thought about the "What-if" scenario. So I understand that me applying pressure would make me a hypocrite. I would still be there if she decides to keep it, I do have a strong moral conscious and could never abandon a child. I'm just so conflicted, and let me say I'm not getting any studying done, that I desperately need to do. I'm under a lot of stress.
I am having a hard time articulating what I want to say, but thats the gist of it. Can anyone offer any insight?
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Anonymous #2
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7446433 - 09/24/07 01:24 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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I had "child scares" twice in my life and Im only 19.
This is MY OPINION : Get a abortion!
If I got a girl pregnant I know it would suck to do such an act or highly un-moral but I would tell her get an abortion or Ill just walk off. If you tell her you dont want to keep the child but she does then you cant be held responsible since it was HER choice!
The last girl I was with that thought she was pregnant told me she was going to kill herself...
I have BIG BIG plans for my life and having a child will just fuck it up! sometimes we need to act un-moral or cruel to advance our lifes but we must pick the lesser of the two evils...
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Anonymous #3
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7446492 - 09/24/07 02:15 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Everyone knows its you 40oz
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Anonymous #1
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7446499 - 09/24/07 02:18 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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I do have some moral responsibilities if she does have a child. We aren't dating, we aren't together, we just get together and fuck every now and than. But, If I walked off I would still be liable for child support, and would do my best with that. But, I'm thinking I'll just man up and strongly encourage an abortion. I half think she is manipulating me here. She has admitted that manipulation is a bad habit of hers. But I'm taking the benefit of the doubt and assuming she is pregnant.
If she ends up keeping it, I'm not going to be in an relationship of any sort with her, I have made that clear over and over, since before anything physical began. But, I will be a father, I am just going to have to reevaluate my life decisions, I'm a junior in college an to top that off I'm an anthropology major. I would have to either drop out, or at the very least change my major to something that brings in money. She doesn't work and is over 1,000 in debt, wtf is she thinking. sigh.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #3]
#7446502 - 09/24/07 02:20 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: Everyone knows its you 40oz
I can assure you its not him. I don't post on the shroomery to often, but I've been a member here for a few years now. Either way, this is anonymous for a reason.
But if another member here is having a similar issue, I encourage him to let it be known I could use someone to talk to that is in a similar situation, or has gone through one. I've been in scares like this before, but never one that (apparently) came back with a positive result. I'm so dumb, I should've known better = \
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Anonymous #4
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7446515 - 09/24/07 02:32 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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been there. done that. its pretty fucked up.
do you like the name, number and address you got right now? no? perfect!
but really, you gotta let her know how fucked up the world is right now, and its only getting worse. No need to bring anymore children into the world without a decent life. For fuck sakes there are children in africa huffing shit fumes right right now.
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Anonymous #5
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7446521 - 09/24/07 02:35 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'm female, and I believe the choice should be totally up to the woman...
HOWEVER, I think the man should have a choice as well- to lead his life without a child, or to be a participant in raising the child.
I do not believe that someone should be responsible for another persons choice, even if they both contributed to the issue.... whoever makes the decision, takes responsibility, in my opinion.
This girl does not sound at all ready to have a child. Ask her if she has told her parents... unless you know they are pro life. Hopefully they might convince her out of the idea.
She is definitely not ready for a child, and you don't want one now. Abortion.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #5]
#7446524 - 09/24/07 02:37 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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just punch her in the fucking stomach
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Anonymous #5
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #3]
#7446535 - 09/24/07 02:54 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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That is not an effective method for abortion.
....the same cannot be said for charging assault.
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Anonymous #6
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7446579 - 09/24/07 03:29 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Try to convince her to have an abortion but do so in a respectful and non-pushy way. Calmy explain the situation and how it is not amenable to bringing a child into the world.
Then when she gets the abortion run like fucking hell. This chick sounds like bad news.
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Anonymous #7
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7446584 - 09/24/07 03:37 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Have an abortion. My chick just had to get one last week. Sometimes it's the only option, it's not as bad as it seems. If you pay a little more the chick can be completely knocked out,as opposed to just being sedated. They make that vaccume tube clear for some evil reason, my insane ass chick has been using,seeing her unborn child sucked out of her, as a crutch for any negotiations.
I still want her dead, btw.
Abortion,amigo. Why fuck up your lifes over a casual fuck?
and Don't fall that shit. Give it a year or two and you'll be in court having to pay up the ass support before you know it.
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Anonymous #6
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #7]
#7446885 - 09/24/07 08:26 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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There are too many people in this world and a lot of the time people who shouldn't be having kids are the ones who are having the kids thus making more fucked up people.
Abortion. Abortion. ABORTION.
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Anonymous #8
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #6]
#7446974 - 09/24/07 09:01 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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First of all if you don't want children then use a fucking condom. Don't have sex with someone, even casual sex, unwrapped then get upset when she's pregnant. If she actually is. Before I got too upset I would go with her to the Dr. I find it interesting that when the test was done together it was neg and when she did it alone just a week later it was pos.
I have had an abortion. I would never do it again. It is awful! I can completely understand why she might not want to do it again.
It seems like you actually are considering taking responsibility, good for you! It takes two to make a baby.
There is a third option you know, there are thousands of people waiting in line to adopt newborn babies. Maybe discuss this option with her as well. I know you are upset but she is too, plus if she really is pregnant those hormones are racing thru her right now making everything seem 1000 times worse. good luck
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #8]
#7447061 - 09/24/07 09:31 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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-- >>First of all if you don't want children >>then use a fucking condom. Don't have >>sex with someone, even casual sex, >>unwrapped then get upset when she's >>pregnant. --
I have admitted my mistake, and I realize the stupidity. Oh trust me, I realize.
-- >>If she actually is. Before I got >>too upset I would go with her to >>the Dr. I find it interesting >>that when the test was done >>together it was neg and when she >>did it alone just a week later it >>was pos. --
Good Idea, me and her don't live to close since I moved for school back in august, I was going to wait till this weekend and drive down and see her, with a third test.
-- >>I have had an abortion. >>I would never do it again. >>It is awful! I can completely >>understand why she might not >>want to do it again. -- I understand as well =(
-- >>It seems like you actually are >>considering taking responsibility, >>good for you! It takes two to >>make a baby. --
I already have, I'm not a bad person. At least not on purpose.
-- >>There is a third option you know, >>there are thousands of people >>waiting in line to adopt newborn >>babies. Maybe discuss this option >>with her as well. I know you are >>upset but she is too, plus if she >>really is pregnant those hormones >>are racing thru her right now making >>everything seem 1000 times worse. --
I mentioned that, and she wouldn't even consider that. Thinks its a horrible Idea, so yah.
-- >>good luck -- Thank you
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Anonymous #9
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7447329 - 09/24/07 11:17 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #9]
#7447422 - 09/24/07 11:44 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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it sucks dude. it really, really does. i've gone through it myself with a girl when i was 18 and a freshman in college. in fact, she got pregnant during a session of breakup sex. she missed her period, took a test, and called me up out of the blue 3 weeks after we'd broken up to tell me the horrid news.
we agreed keeping it was a very, very bad idea, so she took an abortion pill she got from a friend who has a doctor for a dad. i know she felt horrible about it for a long time afterwards. in fact, i'm fairly certain when she thinks about it now she still feels dreadful. however, i feel that it was absolutely necessary. it could have fucked both of our lives up huge... huge.
i think what you have planned is reasonable. having her take the test again with you there to make sure she's not just manipulating you is definitely a good idea. and if worse comes to worst and she is pregnant, just emphasize how ill-prepared both of you are (especially her), and how it will really just fuck up both of your plans. i'm not really sure what else to tell you. but hang in there. you seem intelligent, and i'm sure you'll pull through. good luck dude.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #10]
#7447644 - 09/24/07 01:10 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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this is her current away message
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i just got this ridiculous craving for a new pair of shoes. i am obligated to spend the little money i have on shoes. yes. shut up. don't try to convince me otherwise. >:O
Is she even taking this seriously, or is she really not that bright. Sigh. Why do I get myself into these horrible situations.
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Anonymous #10
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7447665 - 09/24/07 01:16 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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because sometimes it's really difficult to not think with the smaller head?
maybe that means that she is just jerking you around, if she's just going to spend what she has on shoes?
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Anonymous #6
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7447959 - 09/24/07 02:46 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: this is her current away message
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i just got this ridiculous craving for a new pair of shoes. i am obligated to spend the little money i have on shoes. yes. shut up. don't try to convince me otherwise. >:O
Is she even taking this seriously, or is she really not that bright. Sigh. Why do I get myself into these horrible situations.
Dude, I've been there. When you're getting pussy your brain shuts off. A girl could even be not that good-looking and the sex could be so-so and I'll still stick my dick in her. That's how horny us guys are. And if she looks halfway decent and the sex is halfway decent then it's all over for most of us males...we'll take stupid chances, have unprotected sex, and occassionally just blow our load up in them because we're so horny.
You need to convince this chick to get the abortion then you need to stop fucking her (she sounds like more trouble than she's worth). If you do keepo fucking her then WRAP THAT SHIT UP or get her on the pill.
Thank God I've never had a kid. Phew!!
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Anonymous #11
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #6]
#7448157 - 09/24/07 03:45 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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crazy chicks have been known to lie about this sort of thing
and if she's as nutty and broke as you say, things may just.. work themselves out on their own. if she drinks and doesn't eat well, odds really are in your favor.
the whole paternity thing is fucked up hard, even if she signed a waiver or some other legal document stating you were not responsible for any child support.. guess what the court doesn't care and you'd have to pay anyway. and these days it's just about fucking IMPOSSIBLE to avoid that. if you try, the government will just track you down and take money from your paycheck, or throw you in jail because that helps somehow
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Anonymous #6
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #11]
#7448162 - 09/24/07 03:47 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yeah, I didn't even think of that. With these nutty bitches sometimes they make up fake pregnancies to get attention. Also, if she is knocked up it could be some other dude's because nutty bitches are usually slutty too.
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Anonymous #12
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #5]
#7448691 - 09/24/07 06:38 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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ya know, i find it really funny that some women think the decision should be solely up to them. they are not the only person that contributed to a fertilized egg, nor should they have full control of decisions following said conception. yeah they may have to carry it for 9 months and lots of pain and blah blah fucking blah, but guess what, if the male says he does not want the kid and they decide to continue and keep it, they should be given full responsibility and sign a paper giving all legal action and monetary pursuit up. its fucked up how two people can make a mistake, yet only one gets to decide the fate of them both.
the bitches who decide to keep when the man says he doesnt want to, youre the ones who create woman beaters and murderers. god might rule some of your lives, but he does not rule everyones life.
as for advice for the poster of this topic, is there any way you could slip her some pennyroyal tea??
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Anonymous #13
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #11]
#7448757 - 09/24/07 06:57 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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good luck
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Anonymous #1
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #6]
#7449042 - 09/24/07 08:07 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: Yeah, I didn't even think of that. With these nutty bitches sometimes they make up fake pregnancies to get attention. Also, if she is knocked up it could be some other dude's because nutty bitches are usually slutty too.
Btw, that wasn't the original poster. Also, she doesn't eat to well, but she doesn't drink. I dont know. I wished she lived closer, we have sort of made plans this weekend, where I will talk to her in person about all this. I am sure she is half expecting this. I just hope it goes well. I need her to at least explain to me why she wants to keep the child. I need to hear a reason, other than, the last abortion I had I was pressured, and I don't want to be pressured again.
Further, I didn't come in her. and at first we were using a condom, and than she said she was going to go back on the pill at which point I stopped using one, but didn't come into her until after a week of her being on the pill. Although, I guess it goes to show you don't need to actually cum. We only really saw each other on weekends, and this was over about a 3-4 week period.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7449050 - 09/24/07 08:08 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Also, thanks for all the support and input. The good and the bad, I need it.
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Anonymous #6
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7449058 - 09/24/07 08:10 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: but didn't come into her until after a week of her being on the pill.
The pill doesn't take effect until 1 month after a girl first starts taking it.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #6]
#7449107 - 09/24/07 08:22 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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really, she assured me that it was safe. Either way that doesn't matter. she tracks her cycles very thoroughly, and the week she wasn't on the pill, but I had stop using a condom she was the most fertile. So its more than likely that week.
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Anonymous #11
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7449154 - 09/24/07 08:33 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
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Anonymous said: Yeah, I didn't even think of that. With these nutty bitches sometimes they make up fake pregnancies to get attention. Also, if she is knocked up it could be some other dude's because nutty bitches are usually slutty too.
Btw, that wasn't the original poster. Also, she doesn't eat to well, but she doesn't drink. I dont know. I wished she lived closer, we have sort of made plans this weekend, where I will talk to her in person about all this. I am sure she is half expecting this. I just hope it goes well. I need her to at least explain to me why she wants to keep the child. I need to hear a reason, other than, the last abortion I had I was pressured, and I don't want to be pressured again.
Further, I didn't come in her. and at first we were using a condom, and than she said she was going to go back on the pill at which point I stopped using one, but didn't come into her until after a week of her being on the pill. Although, I guess it goes to show you don't need to actually cum. We only really saw each other on weekends, and this was over about a 3-4 week period.
now is your chance push her down the stairs.
.. also, now who knows about the preggers test or not, but so far as her being late. couldn't her just starting back on the pill fuck her cycle up, depending on.. voodoo? I don't know, none of that shit makes the least bit of sense to me. just.... just go with the stairs.
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Anonymous #8
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #11]
#7449299 - 09/24/07 09:03 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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A girl has to be on the pill for 30 days for it to be effective. It can also cause a false positive reading on a test.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #8]
#7454235 - 09/26/07 01:13 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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wtf she told me everything was okay after a week. I was talking to another girl tonight who told me it had to also be a month. I'm started to feel taken, but that obviously doesnt matter anymore.
I'm seeing her on friday, and I wish it was now. I have a lot to say. I have very little actualy, but I know it will turn into a lot. She has a hard time listening to and following logic. I met a girl the other night. keep in mind I am not in any realtionship with this girl I have knocked up, and that her myspace profile is also listed as dating. Well I meet a friend in my buliding the other night, its a female friend. ANd she thinks i'm fucking her after meeting her 3hrs. I'm not and even if I am wtf! how does it matter. I finaly just said I'm not talking to you anymore tonight, after she demanded a play by play of the night. She responded with I HATE YOU and I'm a Liar. I am starting to hate her. I was really hoping she would be a friend. I have trouble getting close to people. But she apparently has trouble being reasobale with people. Its late and I'm rambaling, and I should use paragraphs. but this girl is pushing me harder than anyone has before in my life.
AND SHE WANTS TO HAVE MY BABY, wtf!!!!! she said the other day that she wants it simply because she doesn't want to be alone. I know she is at least 1,000 dollars in debt, if not more. She has no job, no work ethnic, and thinks her parents will pay for the kid if she has one!!!! wtf wtf wtf, she seemed so normal and intelligent when I met her! no one tell me I'm stupid, because i've been doing that all week.
sigh, goodnight.
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Anonymous #11
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7454500 - 09/26/07 05:45 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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don't worry, when I was a freshman in college I was with a bitch even crazier than that. luckily I didn't knock her up 
you should really tell her that having a kid won't mean she's not alone. it'll just mean she's alone with a FUCKTON of responsibility and work to do, all the time, for the next two decades. children are NOT company. they are work. if she wants company, she needs a pet.
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #11]
#7454777 - 09/26/07 07:48 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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I really really really think this girl is fucking with you.
If she is on the pill an OTC test will not be accurate. I would tell her that I'm not talking to her anymore about it until she has a letter from the dr confirming the pregnancy.
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Anonymous #6
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7454895 - 09/26/07 08:33 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: wtf she told me everything was okay after a week. I was talking to another girl tonight who told me it had to also be a month. I'm started to feel taken, but that obviously doesnt matter anymore.
I'm seeing her on friday, and I wish it was now. I have a lot to say. I have very little actualy, but I know it will turn into a lot. She has a hard time listening to and following logic. I met a girl the other night. keep in mind I am not in any realtionship with this girl I have knocked up, and that her myspace profile is also listed as dating. Well I meet a friend in my buliding the other night, its a female friend. ANd she thinks i'm fucking her after meeting her 3hrs. I'm not and even if I am wtf! how does it matter. I finaly just said I'm not talking to you anymore tonight, after she demanded a play by play of the night. She responded with I HATE YOU and I'm a Liar. I am starting to hate her. I was really hoping she would be a friend. I have trouble getting close to people. But she apparently has trouble being reasobale with people. Its late and I'm rambaling, and I should use paragraphs. but this girl is pushing me harder than anyone has before in my life.
AND SHE WANTS TO HAVE MY BABY, wtf!!!!! she said the other day that she wants it simply because she doesn't want to be alone. I know she is at least 1,000 dollars in debt, if not more. She has no job, no work ethnic, and thinks her parents will pay for the kid if she has one!!!! wtf wtf wtf, she seemed so normal and intelligent when I met her! no one tell me I'm stupid, because i've been doing that all week.
sigh, goodnight.
Oh man. First of all, let me give you my condolences. Dealing with nutty and immature bitches SUCKS. I've been there. Everything you are telling me about this girl and what she's doing screams immature, fickle, selfish, stupid, and manipulative. Girls like this SUCK to have to deal with because they are fucking crazy and guided by whatever fickle desire and emotion pops into their head that day.
This situation totally sounds like the chick is bothered by the whole "sex and no love" situation. I've seen it before. I used to fuck this one chick and she couldn't wrap her little brain around the fact that I didn't want her, I didn't find her very physically attractive, and that I was just fucking her because she was the only vagina around at the time. She liked guy attention and she wanted guys to go all gaga over her and treat her like she was a queen so that she could have power over them. Ironically, the second that she had power over them she got bored with them. Go figure. Girls like this end up fucking a lot of guys because they are so promiscuous and they think that because they are getting such guy attention that they are hot, amazing, and desirable. In reality, us guys are just horny and we'll fuck anything that moves. Bitches like this are POISON, son. I'm almost 30...so I have been around the block a few times. Even though I'm a horny fucker I won't stick my dick in girls like this anymore.
You NEED to have this girl get an abortion (if she is even telling the truth about the whole pregnancy). Whatever you have to do you need to do it. Maybe go to her parents? Maybe play her game and act all caring to try to persuade her to go to the clinic? Whatever it takes you need to make sure it happens. Imagine dealing with this stupid bitch for the rest of your life. But, my one piece of advice is don't come across as pushy or desperate. If you come across as pushy with girls like this they just become stubborn. If you come across as desperate then they won't listen to you. You need another strategy.
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Anonymous #14
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7455431 - 09/26/07 11:42 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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AND SHE WANTS TO HAVE MY BABY, wtf!!!!! she said the other day that she wants it simply because she doesn't want to be alone. I know she is at least 1,000 dollars in debt, if not more. She has no job, no work ethnic, and thinks her parents will pay for the kid if she has one!!!! wtf wtf wtf, she seemed so normal and intelligent when I met her! no one tell me I'm stupid, because i've been doing that all week.
You, my friend, have knocked up the worst kind of girl
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Anonymous #6
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #14]
#7455450 - 09/26/07 11:46 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: You, my friend, have knocked up the worst kind of girl
Yep. Poor guy. I can't wait until the male birth control pill comes out.
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Anonymous #15
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #6]
#7456709 - 09/26/07 05:38 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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It's called a condom.
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Anonymous #16
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #15]
#7460857 - 09/27/07 03:35 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Damn bro.
I've had my experiences (am currently, as well) with nutty bitches. I know your situation and that terrible feeling of doom deep within your chest. Just hold on tight, you're going for a ride. You've done well getting a grip on reality and I'm sure the idea has already set in.
Bout a year ago (as of June) my girlfriend and I had an abortion. We were going through some pretty serious drug and alcohol benjes and we found out about two months after she got pregnant that she was. Seeing how a 2 month old baby who's had it's share of mushrooms, acid, cocaine, and alcohol would probably come out as scrambled eggs we made the responsible decision to not bring another "sped" into this world. Do I sometimes regret the decision? Definitely. I've spent a year in depression trying to deal with the bullshit, but I know it worked out better in the end for everybody involved (especially the child). However, in this situation all I did was tell my girlfriend that I would support her (and let her know my opinion about aborting it) and she made the decision on her own.
Give this girl some time. She's only just pregnant, you've got some time before you don't have a choice to have the baby. Well, right now you don't have a choice. The harder you press into her your opinion the harder she's going to resent you for it (if I know women). This chick knows she's in a serious situation and I'm sure she knows that she cannot afford to have this baby. Just let her come to the decision on her own, the last thing you want to do is persuade her into doing something she doesn't actually want to do. Regardless of how shitty it's life will be, if she dumps it and she isn't entirely sure for herself it's what she wanted there's a good chance it will seriously fuck her up. I don't care whether you want to continue a relationship with her or not, persuading her into doing it would be a bad, bad decision.
If anything express your concerns about the quality of life the child would have. Remind her that it costs roughly half a mill to raise a child to the age of 18 and that she's a broke ass hoe. She'll come to her senses, just give it time.
And if all else fails you could always try my "smoke it out" routine (my girlfriend is often times late on her period and I go through nervous spouts where I smoke an oz of kinebud with her a week until the baby drops out... plus she's a heavy drinker, chances are she's been pregnant a few times we haven't known about).
Oh yeah, just wait until she starts having morning sickness and see how badly she wants to have an eight pound screaming bowling ball drop out of her soon to be cavernous vagina. It won't happen.
Ss
P.S. W00T, my gf went on her period yesterday. *High fives*
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Anonymous #16
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #16]
#7469024 - 09/30/07 02:11 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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ps apparently the girl i posted about is no longer my gf.
suicide, anyone?
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Anonymous #1
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #16]
#7469042 - 09/30/07 02:34 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: ps apparently the girl i posted about is no longer my gf.
suicide, anyone?
That wasn't the original poster, and since this is all anonymous I have no idea who he is referring to.
Anyway, being the original poster let me give an update. I just got home (about 4:30am) from her place. Things are good now, I hope. For awhile. There was some fighting about other things, but before I left she admitted she was being very jealous, and that everything I said did make sense. Although, she did say that after I said I dont think we should be sleeping together anymore. Long, long story. She decided on an abortion. I guess its not 100% becuase she hasn't made an appointment yet, but I'm pretty sure she will follow through on it.
I told her why I didn't want a child, explained to her why I think it would be bad for a child right now for both of us. I didn't touch on her being slightly unstable emotionally, but focused on how she is sitll living at home, and just starting at a community college at 20. Meaning she has time to get out there and make something of herself. That life will get different, blah, blah.
I told her not to give me an answer today about whether she would keep it or not, and to think about what I said. But instead tell me why she wants a baby. She answered because I want one. which prompted me to say wtf, no thats what I asked you. She said because she didn't want to be a lone. Which prompted me to bring up the conversation we had about her barely getting out into the world... IDK, who needs to hear this. So far I think things are going to be okay for me here. I've learned a valuable lesson. Thanks for the support shroomery.
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Anonymous #16
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7469054 - 09/30/07 02:42 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Hey bro, i've been looking for an update.
glad things aren't as shitty as they seemed. good luck dealing with the abortion emotions, mine happened a year and a half ago and i'm still fucked up over it.
good luck, bro.
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Anonymous #17
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #16]
#7469811 - 09/30/07 10:15 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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birth control ftw
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Anonymous #18
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #17]
#7478029 - 10/02/07 04:29 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Women are shit.
All you need is your right hand, some kleenex and http://www.efukt.com http://www.deviantclip.com and http://www.inhumanity.com
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Anonymous #1
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #18]
#7490350 - 10/06/07 02:19 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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meh, she changed her mind on monday. She is keeping it now. She didn't bother to tell me till tonight! among other things she decided to "fight" about. I don't understand, she said everything I said made a lot of sense to her, and reiterated that comment tonight.
I asked her to think about it, and not give me an answer until she thought about it. As we talked about it tonight she denied some of the points I made. Like No, that wont happen, or I wont let you. Meaning, I do not feel she really thought about what I said. If she is only denying the possibility of them even happening. Oh btw, she decided monday, the same day she wished to keep the child that she was going to Vegas (lives in PA) in decemember. Did I mention she is 15k in debt. Still the only reason she wants a child is because she is sick of being alone.
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Anonymous #11
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7490438 - 10/06/07 03:29 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I told you that pushing her down the stairs was your best bet. Now you'll have to wait for a traffic accident or violent mugging.
Nothing says "alone" like a single mother. Turns a fair number of guys away, especially at that age. Even if you can find time to date. Which if you move somewhere that you know nobody, you won't be able to, since you'll have to watch the kid and not have anyone to babysit.
Tough break on the child support, though. If she has it you are going to get hit, no matter what she says.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #11]
#7513876 - 10/13/07 10:27 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I still dont know what she is doing. I have more or less avoided her and everyone I know this week. except this young cute girl who lives downstairs. But I have NO sex drive, not even when I masturbate. Meaning, I CAN"T GET IT UP. I keep thinking about this! not about her, but this fucking mistake. I am not sure if she is fucking with me or not. She has given me signs this week that she is going to get an abortion, and that she wont. Either way, I think I am re-evaluating some things in my life right now. But, I think this young cute girl that live s down stairs is going to stop talking to me, becuase I cant fuck her like I should. But she just gets my mind off of things.
I am rambling, but I have had a shitty week. Re-negotiating my apartment lease for next year, probably going to raise a lot. But, if she has a kid, how I am going to even afford this anyway? Also, my major college grant was unexpectedly canceled on me on tuesday. Meaning that by Friday I had a HUGE bill owed, less face a 25 dollar late fee. WTF, thanks for the prompt warning.
I went on a long solitary hike this afternoon, I didn't get much solved, just got my mind off of life. I have a feeling that this cute girl that lives downstairs wont be around much longer, as she is not getting proper sex. Its ashame, I haven't looked for a girl in a long time, but the past few girls, hell almost all the girls I have ever met have such problems, and I always have to be the optimistic one. This girl has the best personality in anyone I've been with for awhile. I feel like screaming, but don't need neighbors.
I doubt anyone is listening anymore to my ramble, but I'm just glad I have place to do it.
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Anonymous #19
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11225353 - 10/11/09 07:57 AM (14 years, 3 months ago) |
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How you travellin' OP?
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Anonymous #20
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #19]
#11225562 - 10/11/09 09:03 AM (14 years, 3 months ago) |
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You could promise her a lot of money, solve all her debts in exchange of the abortion (i know it's amoral but at this point hey) and just run away when it's done.
Anyway goodluck, you sound like a good man who doesn't deserve such a shitty fate.
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Anonymous #21
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #20]
#11225577 - 10/11/09 09:07 AM (14 years, 3 months ago) |
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this thread is sooo old
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Anonymous #20
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #21]
#11225587 - 10/11/09 09:09 AM (14 years, 3 months ago) |
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lol i didn't realised ! I'm wondering what happened to OP
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Anonymous #22
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11233118 - 10/12/09 01:11 PM (14 years, 3 months ago) |
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I wouldn't handle it too well either.
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Anonymous #23
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Anonymous #24
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #11]
#11235115 - 10/12/09 06:59 PM (14 years, 3 months ago) |
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She also cuts, and as of the last week threated suicide more than once.
That right there should tell you abortion is the way to go. It's a hard choice but if you can't be sure of the welfare of the child's parent(s) then you shouldn't have a child at all.
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Anonymous #25
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #11]
#11238066 - 10/13/09 07:18 AM (14 years, 3 months ago) |
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This chick needs an abortion.
But right now, it sounds like she wants to keep it. So accept that she will keep it, but make the situation sound as unappealing as it actually is.
If she keeps the child, you will:
1. Not maintain any kind of relationship with her. You will not see her, have sex with her, or know her family.
2. You will demand split custody of the child. That means you would get the child one week, she the other. If this happened, she would NOT RECEIVE ANY CHILD SUPPORT!.
3. Tell her that you have serious doubts about her capabilities as a mother. Tell her that in your opinion, she would be a bad mother and you would not want to have children with her. I know this sounds harsh, but it is the truth. Tell her that she will inflict psychological suffering on the child.
4. Because she will be so incompetent as a parent, you will seek full custody if the child is not well cared for. This will entail child support payments from her to you.
Good luck dude.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #23]
#11665367 - 12/16/09 09:35 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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WTF,
oh right this.
UPDATE
she was full of shit I am pretty sure. she sent me a shit load of emails every day, and then every other day, and then slowly stoped. Moral of the story if the sex is crazy good she may be crazy.
All is well now.
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Anonymous #23
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Anonymous #26
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #23]
#11666259 - 12/17/09 01:14 AM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous #27
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #26]
#11666277 - 12/17/09 01:20 AM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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Im a girl and think the choice should be made from both parties however the reality is that its pretty one sided. I would say try your hardest to convice her abortion is the best option as in my opinion it is and it seems thats what you want as well. However the bottom line is unfortunetley the decision is hers.
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Anonymous #28
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11666627 - 12/17/09 04:52 AM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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nextime dshsb instead. Bitches cant get pregnant if you stick to the shit box!
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Anonymous #29
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #28]
#11666688 - 12/17/09 05:45 AM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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go for abortion, u must talk her into it
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Anonymous #30
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #28]
#11668924 - 12/17/09 02:35 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous #28 said: nextime dshsb instead. Bitches cant get pregnant if you stick to the shit box!
Here's a daddy in the making, ladies and gents.
OP, good for you that shit turned out alright.
Remember-quadruple up on those condoms from now on! Seriously. If you get into bed with a chick without your dick wrapped up looking like it's a fucking Eskimo, we'll fucking know!Call it the shroomerite Force, or something, we'll sense it and we'll abseil through the skylight and cut the little bastard right off you.
For your own good, of course.
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Anonymous #31
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Edited by Anonymous (10/09/11 10:31 AM)
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Anonymous #32
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #31]
#11681426 - 12/19/09 03:15 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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Tell her you want that shit aborted Yesterday, and if she won't then kick her in the stomach.
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Anonymous #33
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #32]
#11681628 - 12/19/09 03:48 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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i can tell u this much. if its just a casual relationship, id get a dna test before you flip. and did u actually see the test? if shes manipulative she could very well be lying. and second, if she does have the baby, dont sign the acknowlegment(sp?) of parenthood. dont let a crazy bitch with a baby ruin your life dude. she'll have you by the balls for a good long while. tell her to get an abortion and if not to hell with her. thats my advice. cold hearted yes, but in todays world we have this kind of shit forced on us. take care and good luck.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #33]
#11681639 - 12/19/09 03:50 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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damn you people need to read the thread its already been taken care of the bitch was lying.
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Anonymous #34
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #3]
#11681879 - 12/19/09 04:35 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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Nice, thanks for saving my time.
I'm gonna go read a book.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: knocked Someone Up, and I'm not handling it to well. [Re: Anonymous #34]
#11681887 - 12/19/09 04:35 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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