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Anonymous #1
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Ever cheat on your significant other?
#7428133 - 09/19/07 01:16 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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any cheaters here?? any dudes getting some Xtra snatch when GF is away at work??
or any cute girls who realize their BFs cocks are just too small...and spend time skipping class/work for some serious lovin??
its ok...we all do it.....dump your hearts out here
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7428142 - 09/19/07 01:18 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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i've never cheated, but i've enabled cheating multiple times.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7428149 - 09/19/07 01:21 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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no. i have never cheated on anyone... ever.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#7428153 - 09/19/07 01:22 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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wake up bitch, you've been cheated on though!!
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Anonymous #4
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7428158 - 09/19/07 01:22 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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I have no significant other to cheat on, nor anyone to cheat with for that matter
no love brah...no love
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Anonymous #5
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #4]
#7428219 - 09/19/07 01:32 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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No, but ive gotten close to cheating many times
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #5]
#7428221 - 09/19/07 01:33 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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good job! What made you stop, your SO coming home too soon?
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Anonymous #6
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7429794 - 09/19/07 08:03 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Never, in 9 years.
~D.C.
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Anonymous #7
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7430001 - 09/19/07 08:49 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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that's what fantasies or the single life is for. i have issues with monogamy in general, but cheating is retarded.
i shouldn't really be one to talk since i was with a married guy for 2.5 years, but yeah, let's just say i had little respect for others back then.
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Anonymous #8
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #7]
#7430178 - 09/19/07 09:38 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Oh but that's the hottest sex! Fooling around when you aren't supposed to.
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Anonymous #9
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #8]
#7432156 - 09/20/07 12:40 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Cheaters are spineless piece of shit cowards. The word cheating pisses me off so bad it makes me want to pump gasoline into peoples piss holes and throw them in a fire.
If you cheat you don't love the person you're with. If you don't love the person you're with why waste their fucking time.
You know what's even hotter than cheating. Walking in on the chick thats cheating on you with her guy, and stuffing her cunt with broken glass and making them fuck at gunpoint. Now thats fucking hot....
Everyones done it....go fuck yourself pal.....I respect and LOVE the people I love.
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Anonymous #10
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #9]
#7432194 - 09/20/07 12:49 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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^ gay
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Anonymous #9
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #10]
#7432268 - 09/20/07 01:12 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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^insecure loser that will never actually love anyone or be loved by anyone
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Anonymous #10
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #9]
#7432973 - 09/20/07 03:35 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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^^ not insecure about those things
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Anonymous #11
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #9]
#7434744 - 09/20/07 11:13 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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I've been married ten years and am essentially guilty of cheating. To suggest this is because I don't love the person I'm married to is really just an easy way to dismiss the issue and sweep it neatly under the rug.
The fact is, human relationships are HIGHLY complex. Marriage is a cultural mechanism which essentially attempts to reduce these complexities... cute and easy in theory, very difficult in practice.
I'm not proud of it.
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Anonymous #12
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #10]
#7434831 - 09/20/07 11:36 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
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Anonymous said: ^ gay
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Anonymous said: ^insecure loser that will never actually love anyone or be loved by anyone
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Anonymous said: ^^ not insecure about those things
^^^Fucking queermoes.
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Anonymous #13
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7434903 - 09/21/07 12:05 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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never.
but i have been cheated on, and it's not a good feeling.
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Anonymous #14
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #13]
#7435007 - 09/21/07 12:39 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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> To suggest this is because I don't love the person I'm married to is really just an easy way to dismiss the issue and sweep it neatly under the rug.
True.
It is certainly possible to love more than one person concurrently.
But its best to tell them whats up straight out, so no one has any weird surprises. Takes some balls but its the only honorable thing to do.
My housemate warns all girls on the first date that he is kind of a slut. Since they know from the beginning, they are pretty much ok with it.
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Anonymous #8
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #14]
#7435548 - 09/21/07 07:19 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said:
Since they know from the beginning, they are pretty much ok with it.
I seriously doubt it. The girls just say that because it's not serious yet. I bet if he kept it up (ha) after the relationship got more serious they wouldn't feel the same way.
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Anonymous #15
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #8]
#7436045 - 09/21/07 10:49 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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We split after 2 years, I fucked all the chicks I could, and we returned (5 years ago).
That's the closest I've been to cheating.
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Anonymous #11
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #14]
#7436975 - 09/21/07 02:47 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said: > To suggest this is because I don't love the person I'm married to is really just an easy way to dismiss the issue and sweep it neatly under the rug.
True.
It is certainly possible to love more than one person concurrently.
But its best to tell them whats up straight out, so no one has any weird surprises. Takes some balls but its the only honorable thing to do.
My housemate warns all girls on the first date that he is kind of a slut. Since they know from the beginning, they are pretty much ok with it.
I was pretty upfront about it after realizing the furtive nature of the situation was harmful to all parties involved. In fact, we all met for a drink shortly afterward and had a very friendly chat. It was tense at first, I thought perhaps the veins in my head were going to rupture, however after the initial shock subsided there was no need for medical intervention. My spouse was even cool with the relationship continuing, but did request to be informed if it again progressed to a physical level. To a certain extent, each of us had our hearts broken, if for different reasons. An enriching experience all around because it not only forced a relatively in depth analysis of our feelings as individuals, but as a group of three people whose lives were linked in a very intimate way. We all remain on very good terms and the closeness persists.
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Anonymous #8
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #11]
#7438315 - 09/21/07 09:15 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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That was incredibly mature and wonderful of your partner to accept and get past it. But I would think they are the exception, not the rule.
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Anonymous #16
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #8]
#7450344 - 09/25/07 02:16 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Would never ever do that to someone I love.
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Anonymous #17
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #16]
#7451746 - 09/25/07 12:57 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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if i cheated on my SO, that'd say a whole lot about my lack of character and (what i consider) worth.
you're wasting your SOs time if you do that sort of thing.
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Anonymous #18
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11518381 - 11/24/09 12:11 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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I have been having an affair with a woman at work for 2 1/2 years and she finally broke it off. I have been married 26 years and want to fulfill my obligation to my children but I have fallen completely in love with this woman. She said if I leave my wife she will be there for me, but we can’t continue on like this. I don’t blame her but I am sick to my stomach thinking about her. My kids are teenagers but I cannot afford to leave my wife and still support them through college like they deserve. I will remain married for my kids and I will follow through with my obligations to my family but deep down in my heart I will always love this woman.
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Anonymous #19
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11518486 - 11/24/09 12:28 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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does making out and feeling up count as cheating? if so. twice.
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Anonymous #20
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #19]
#11519000 - 11/24/09 01:50 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Hahaha. On Friday I cheated on my girlfriend with a sluuuut.
My girlfriend found out and dumped me and I have no intention of dating the girl I cheated with. Ex girlfriend is a riiiich bitch, university student who is about a 7/10.
The girl I fucked is a broke ass punker who didn't finish high school but is a 10/10.
Should have thought that one through.
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Anonymous #21
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #20]
#11519183 - 11/24/09 02:14 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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pussy is pussy. Dont matter if its a jersey cow.
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Anonymous #22
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #11]
#11519760 - 11/24/09 03:35 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #11 said: I've been married ten years and am essentially guilty of cheating. To suggest this is because I don't love the person I'm married to is really just an easy way to dismiss the issue and sweep it neatly under the rug.
The fact is, human relationships are HIGHLY complex. Marriage is a cultural mechanism which essentially attempts to reduce these complexities... cute and easy in theory, very difficult in practice.
I'm not proud of it.
Essentially guilty? How does that work? I suppose if you were raped I'll look the other way. But it seems like you are just making excuses for selfish behavior. What's so complex about it? You just don't cheat if you are in a committed relationship. If you are interested in other people, you let your partner know, and move on.
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Anonymous #8 said: That was incredibly mature and wonderful of your partner to accept and get past it. But I would think they are the exception, not the rule.
Sounds more like weak and passive than mature and wonderful to me.
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Anonymous #23
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #22]
#11520206 - 11/24/09 04:41 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Cheating on someone and breaking their heart, if that persons heart being broken almost breaks your heart as well, should be a learning experience. If it isn't a learning experience then good luck with future relationships, if it is a learning experience then the potential is there for extremely successful future relationships. Men more often than women make that stupid fucking mistake to cheat on the person they love. Don't give me that "oh then you don't love them" bullshit. Its natural for a man to have the urge to sleep with other women. But being a man as opposed to an animal is to resist that urge successfully. However just because a man makes that mistake once or maybe even twice does not necessarily mean that he doesn't truly love the person he cheated on. Circumstances mean a lot. A man cheating on his significant other one time with his SO's sister is different than a man cheating on his SO one time with his ex. Cheating is cheating. But the fact is the SO being cheated on would feel differently about the two scenarios. You can't just black and white it. Especially if you've never experienced it.
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Anonymous #24
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #22]
#11520233 - 11/24/09 04:43 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Haha, this thread is so full of motherfuckers who use cog dissonance to justify their cheating.
I've never cheated, and if I did, I'd probably feel guilty forever.
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Anonymous #23
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #24]
#11520342 - 11/24/09 04:56 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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I'm more likely to cheat if I am more attractive than my significant other and know I am more attractive than my significant other because i deserve those as attractive or more attractive than me. That is some solid cognitive dissonance. So all of you who say Ive never and I never will must be the less attractive spouse. Right?
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Anonymous #25
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11520397 - 11/24/09 05:04 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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I have. It was ultimately a mistake, but something that had to be done.
Most of those who have never cheated probably won't understand, but cheating brought me closer to my girlfriend. If I didn't cheat then, I probably would be doing it now, or be single. I'm not going to say it was the best thing that ever happened to me, but it was definitely a learning process.
Sadly, I cheated on my gf with multiple people. All of them were damn good fucks, but none of them were essentially 'there' for me. And I was just fucking these bitches to fill a void left in my heart after my gf had broken up with me 2 years prior. I know that's a stupid excuse, and I know that I'm a fucker, but human emotions are the least bit understandable. Small instances could be ingrained within us for a very long time. Thus, they are capable of having a humongous emotional impact on our lives.
When my gf first broke up with me, I was still in high school and she was going off to college. She tried justifying it to me with excuses like "I just need time to find myself." and all of that typical bullshit. In the back of my mind, I was completely positive she just wanted to hook up with other people. The fact that she tried to deny it made the pain even more apparent. And, afterwards, she ended up hooking up with some guy in Mexico on my birthday, which was the same day as the Homecoming Dance. The funny thing was that she made it a big deal about who I was going to Homecoming with; the Homecoming queen and subsequently a fine ass bitch with a nice fucking ass. Her jealousy was obvious, so I decided to take the emotionally understanding route of not hooking up with her even though I was single. I'm not trying to make excuses for myself for there are none. But one must understand the complex nature of human emotions before he/she deems certain acts to be unjustifiable. She hurt me and she didn't even know it. I never really made the effort to make it known to her, but I never knew she'd hurt me like she did. Consequently, a void was created within me. And the only known temporary cure was promiscuity.
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Anonymous #9
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #25]
#11521869 - 11/24/09 08:01 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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This thread is 2 years old you lame ass cheating loser.
I hope you contracted something foul and your wife starts fucking trannys you loveless prick. Your kids are getting raped while you are out.
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Anonymous #9
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #9]
#11521884 - 11/24/09 08:03 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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With that being said I cheated on my loved one, a year after my original post in this thread.
Mistakes happen
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Anonymous #26
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #9]
#11522772 - 11/24/09 10:07 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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yep yep. when i was too young and dumb to end the relationship when it had expired.....
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Anonymous #25
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #9]
#11523889 - 11/25/09 01:37 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #9 said: This thread is 2 years old you lame ass cheating loser.
I hope you contracted something foul and your wife starts fucking trannys you loveless prick. Your kids are getting raped while you are out.
If you're replying to me, then you're a fucking idiot.
You should probably go kill yourself.
The end.
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Anonymous #27
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #20]
#11523907 - 11/25/09 01:43 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #20 said: Hahaha. On Friday I cheated on my girlfriend with a sluuuut.
My girlfriend found out and dumped me and I have no intention of dating the girl I cheated with. Ex girlfriend is a riiiich bitch, university student who is about a 7/10.
The girl I fucked is a broke ass punker who didn't finish high school but is a 10/10.
Should have thought that one through.
She lost 3 points for her massive, foul-smelling vagina.
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Anonymous #28
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #27]
#11523916 - 11/25/09 01:47 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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yeah, and she ended up breaking up with me 2 years later so I don't regret it at all
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Anonymous #27
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #28]
#11523931 - 11/25/09 01:50 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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do you miss the smell?
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Anonymous #29
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #27]
#11528644 - 11/25/09 07:44 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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wow,
i hate cheaters.
never cheated, i never could...
however i have been cheated on, had my heart broken...y i told my GF of the time, if you screwed around on me, you are not the type of person I ever want to be with (i later found out that she had) but she promised me she hadn't and i believed her..... 3 months later it was all over...
some people i just dont understand
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Anonymous #25
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #29]
#11528678 - 11/25/09 07:50 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #29 said: wow,
i hate cheaters.
never cheated, i never could...
however i have been cheated on, had my heart broken...y i told my GF of the time, if you screwed around on me, you are not the type of person I ever want to be with (i later found out that she had) but she promised me she hadn't and i believed her..... 3 months later it was all over...
some people i just dont understand
Ever think that maybe she cheated on you for a reason?
Ever try rationalizing that reason?
If you answered no to at least one of these questions, you are a biased faggot.
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Anonymous #22
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #25]
#11529138 - 11/25/09 09:34 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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The point is there is no justification for cheating. The "reason" doesn't matter.
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Anonymous #25
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #22]
#11529791 - 11/25/09 11:46 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #22 said: The point is there is no justification for cheating. The "reason" doesn't matter.
There is justification for cheating because there are 'reasons' for cheating. If there isn't reasoning in its being, then why would cheating even exist?
you = ???
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Anonymous #30
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #9]
#11530140 - 11/26/09 01:18 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #9 said:
With that being said I cheated on my loved one, a year after my original post in this thread.
Mistakes happen
#9 I'm dying to hear this
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Anonymous #22
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #25]
#11530192 - 11/26/09 01:40 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #25 said:
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Anonymous #22 said: The point is there is no justification for cheating. The "reason" doesn't matter.
There is justification for cheating because there are 'reasons' for cheating. If there isn't reasoning in its being, then why would cheating even exist?
you = ???
If I were to kill someone in cold-blood because I, "just felt like it", I'd have a reason wouldn't I? But would I have a justification? Absolutely not!
So in this same sense, it doesn't matter what "reason" you come up with, it still won't justify your actions.
It might explain your actions... sure.
But not justify them.
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Anonymous #25
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #22]
#11530223 - 11/26/09 01:50 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #22 said:
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Anonymous #25 said:
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Anonymous #22 said: The point is there is no justification for cheating. The "reason" doesn't matter.
There is justification for cheating because there are 'reasons' for cheating. If there isn't reasoning in its being, then why would cheating even exist?
you = ???
If I were to kill someone in cold-blood because I, "just felt like it", I'd have a reason wouldn't I? But would I have a justification? Absolutely not!
So in this same sense, it doesn't matter what "reason" you come up with, it still won't justify your actions.
It might explain your actions... sure.
But not justify them.
You're comparing cheating to murder? Wow. Nice analogy you got there. Let me point out a few flaws.
Murder can be justified. Someone points a gun at you, and you have a gun yourself, what do you do? Die? Or would you kill him instead?
Just like murder, cheating consists of a very large spectrum of situations.
Justification of cheating is a very gray subject. Views are very opinionated and highly situational. But, in some instances, one can 'justify' cheating if both parties were to allow it. I'm not saying cheaters are repentant sinners so you should forgive them. Rather, cheaters should be understood, instead of ignorantly pushed aside. Human emotions run deep. They are complex. People can be easily hurt. And subconscious, emotional 'grudges' are inevitable.
If you saw your elementary school bully fall on his ass and eat shit, you'd feel gratification inside. Yes, such satisfaction is 'dark' and negative, but they are somewhat humanistic in that they exist within us. The same goes for romantic relationships.
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Anonymous #31
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #25]
#11530490 - 11/26/09 04:42 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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My girlfriend was ok with me hooking up with someone here and there.
It's not much different than being exclusive. Every other person is disappointing and I've come to the conclusion that it's highly unlikely that I'll meet anyone that could make me more happy.
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Anonymous #32
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? *DELETED* [Re: Anonymous #31]
#11530497 - 11/26/09 04:46 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #31
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #32]
#11530502 - 11/26/09 04:49 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #32 said: I've cheated, and felt terrible about it. But that was when I was younger. Now, I don't see why anyone would want to cheat on someone they love. Just doesn't make sense to me. I just need one person to make me happy.
32: I was given the option to cheat and arrived to the same conclusion anyway.
On another note, cheating led to me leaving a crappy relationship. But I never cheated in a way that I had to conceal it from then on.
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Anonymous #33
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #13]
#11530808 - 11/26/09 07:37 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #13 said: never.
but i have been cheated on, and it's not a good feeling.
same
Fuck a bitch theyz all crazy
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Anonymous #22
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #25]
#11531802 - 11/26/09 11:56 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #25 said:
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Anonymous #22 said:
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Anonymous #25 said:
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Anonymous #22 said: The point is there is no justification for cheating. The "reason" doesn't matter.
There is justification for cheating because there are 'reasons' for cheating. If there isn't reasoning in its being, then why would cheating even exist?
you = ???
If I were to kill someone in cold-blood because I, "just felt like it", I'd have a reason wouldn't I? But would I have a justification? Absolutely not!
So in this same sense, it doesn't matter what "reason" you come up with, it still won't justify your actions.
It might explain your actions... sure.
But not justify them.
You're comparing cheating to murder? Wow. Nice analogy you got there. Let me point out a few flaws.
Murder can be justified. Someone points a gun at you, and you have a gun yourself, what do you do? Die? Or would you kill him instead?
Just like murder, cheating consists of a very large spectrum of situations.
Justification of cheating is a very gray subject. Views are very opinionated and highly situational. But, in some instances, one can 'justify' cheating if both parties were to allow it. I'm not saying cheaters are repentant sinners so you should forgive them. Rather, cheaters should be understood, instead of ignorantly pushed aside. Human emotions run deep. They are complex. People can be easily hurt. And subconscious, emotional 'grudges' are inevitable.
If you saw your elementary school bully fall on his ass and eat shit, you'd feel gratification inside. Yes, such satisfaction is 'dark' and negative, but they are somewhat humanistic in that they exist within us. The same goes for romantic relationships.
You are taking a lesser interpretation of my argument and forming your entire argument around it, subsequently missing the entire point.
I was referring specifically to "cold-blooded murder" with the motive being, "I just felt like.." to illustrate a point of how someone could have reasons for doing something, but not a justification.
Your false analogy of what you claim to be "murder", is really just self-defense and has no bearing on anything we were discussing.
AND
If both parties are "cheating" in the relationship, then it's not cheating, it's called an open relationship.
Look, why don't you just explain the circumstances in which you cheated so we can examine them. Much easier.
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Anonymous #34
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #22]
#11532155 - 11/26/09 01:19 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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I've never cheated, but have been cheated on. Yeah it sucks...
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Anonymous #26
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #34]
#11532205 - 11/26/09 01:29 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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it's a pretty shameful cowardly act.
im embarrassed that i did it, if i have any regrets in life it is that i did not have the courage/self esteem to end those relationships in a graceful way :/
i've been cheated on also.
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Anonymous #35
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #26]
#11533076 - 11/26/09 04:47 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Pretty ashamed to say I did, once.
A friend I'd known for years hooked up with me outta the blue and we were together two months-was really good, but the last week, I just knew she was going back to her ex. I was kinda cool with it-we'd had a great time together, and I knew she was quite hung up on the guy-I just considered it a goods time. But anyway, the last week, she was totally off and I knew why and didn't mind, just wanted her to tell me, get it over with and just be mates.
She didn't, and over new year another friend made a pass at me. We'd crashed out on a mate's sofa after the party and I spent about 8 hours til dawn saying no. In my head, I'm not a cheater, even though I knew my girl was leaving anyway. But in the end, my will broke and I thought "fuck it" and got the girl off with a finger job. Then the guilt hit a bit, but I let her go down on me too.
I was totally right about the gf-she left two days later when I saw her and that was all cool, but I've never told her. Still feel very shitty about that, especially considering there've been fucking loads of times in my life I could've been stupid (and more justifiably so!), but never have due to my morality.
Then this once. 
So, yup, I'm on the cockwad side of this debate. <--me
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Anonymous #24
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #35]
#11533106 - 11/26/09 04:56 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Honestly, I don't see a whole lot wrong about what you did. You knew the relationship was ending and so did she. Relationships shouldn't be a contract.
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Anonymous #35
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #24]
#11533251 - 11/26/09 05:35 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Cheers man, appreciate the empathy. Was expecting a rollicking, to be honest.
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Anonymous #25
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #22]
#11533576 - 11/26/09 06:47 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #25 said: There is justification for cheating because there are 'reasons' for cheating. If there isn't reasoning in its being, then why would cheating even exist?
you = ???
If I were to kill someone in cold-blood because I, "just felt like it", I'd have a reason wouldn't I? But would I have a justification? Absolutely not!
So in this same sense, it doesn't matter what "reason" you come up with, it still won't justify your actions.
It might explain your actions... sure.
But not justify them.
You're comparing cheating to murder? Wow. Nice analogy you got there. Let me point out a few flaws.
Murder can be justified. Someone points a gun at you, and you have a gun yourself, what do you do? Die? Or would you kill him instead?
Just like murder, cheating consists of a very large spectrum of situations.
Justification of cheating is a very gray subject. Views are very opinionated and highly situational. But, in some instances, one can 'justify' cheating if both parties were to allow it. I'm not saying cheaters are repentant sinners so you should forgive them. Rather, cheaters should be understood, instead of ignorantly pushed aside. Human emotions run deep. They are complex. People can be easily hurt. And subconscious, emotional 'grudges' are inevitable.
If you saw your elementary school bully fall on his ass and eat shit, you'd feel gratification inside. Yes, such satisfaction is 'dark' and negative, but they are somewhat humanistic in that they exist within us. The same goes for romantic relationships.
You are taking a lesser interpretation of my argument and forming your entire argument around it, subsequently missing the entire point.
I was referring specifically to "cold-blooded murder" with the motive being, "I just felt like.." to illustrate a point of how someone could have reasons for doing something, but not a justification.
Your false analogy of what you claim to be "murder", is really just self-defense and has no bearing on anything we were discussing.
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If both parties are "cheating" in the relationship, then it's not cheating, it's called an open relationship.
Look, why don't you just explain the circumstances in which you cheated so we can examine them. Much easier.
Your focus on minute details is apparently an act of desperation. And I am very aware of the oncoming 'bash' you are readily arming yourself with once I spew out my own circumstances with cheating. Alas, I already spoke my piece earlier in this thread. You can read it if you'd like. If you have any questions, you can ask me.
And, like I said, cheating involves a very wide spectrum of events. 'Cold-blooded' murder can only be compared to 'cold-blooded' cheating, so to speak. Thus, your comparison of 'cold-blooded' murder to the whole spectrum of cheating is obviously and innately flawed.
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Anonymous #26
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #35]
#11534070 - 11/26/09 08:32 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #35 said: Pretty ashamed to say I did, once.
A friend I'd known for years hooked up with me outta the blue and we were together two months-was really good, but the last week, I just knew she was going back to her ex. I was kinda cool with it-we'd had a great time together, and I knew she was quite hung up on the guy-I just considered it a goods time. But anyway, the last week, she was totally off and I knew why and didn't mind, just wanted her to tell me, get it over with and just be mates.
She didn't, and over new year another friend made a pass at me. We'd crashed out on a mate's sofa after the party and I spent about 8 hours til dawn saying no. In my head, I'm not a cheater, even though I knew my girl was leaving anyway. But in the end, my will broke and I thought "fuck it" and got the girl off with a finger job. Then the guilt hit a bit, but I let her go down on me too.
I was totally right about the gf-she left two days later when I saw her and that was all cool, but I've never told her. Still feel very shitty about that, especially considering there've been fucking loads of times in my life I could've been stupid (and more justifiably so!), but never have due to my morality.
Then this once. 
So, yup, I'm on the cockwad side of this debate. <--me 
i don't think that was too bad, you shouldn't beat yourself up about it.
mine are way WAY worse :/
i had an affair while married and ended up leaving my husband for the guy and dating him for a year. then i cheated in him too, with another guy in my boyfriends bed while he was in europe for 3 weeks. i was really young, really stupid and had no sense of trust or self esteem. i just assumed he would cheat on me while he was away so i was preemptively "getting him back for it". it gets worse but i am almost too embarrassed to give any further details. it never ends well, NEVER.
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Anonymous #22
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #25]
#11538976 - 11/27/09 06:06 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #25 said: Your focus on minute details is apparently an act of desperation. And I am very aware of the oncoming 'bash' you are readily arming yourself with once I spew out my own circumstances with cheating. Alas, I already spoke my piece earlier in this thread. You can read it if you'd like. If you have any questions, you can ask me.
Well, if your reading comprehension skills weren't sub-par I wouldn't have to go over the details to add clarification to what would otherwise be obvious.
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And, like I said, cheating involves a very wide spectrum of events. 'Cold-blooded' murder can only be compared to 'cold-blooded' cheating, so to speak. Thus, your comparison of 'cold-blooded' murder to the whole spectrum of cheating is obviously and innately flawed.
I was illustrating a point. I wasn't making a comparison. Get it?
Either way, I think this conversation has accomplished next to nothing and wasted our time. I'm going to go play with my cat.
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Anonymous #36
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #22]
#11540480 - 11/27/09 11:38 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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I say fuck it to the whole thing and just make sure the person I am with is open to the relationship changing.
If not, good bye and good luck, those relationships are riddled with complexities.
The guy who said mairrage is a cultural mechanism and that although it seems to simplify things, it fails in doing so, puts it bluntly and rather refreshingly, its not one shade, its multiple and ever changing patterns.
They fool us in how slow they change, time is ultimatly the enemy in relationships.
What else?
not much, open relationships , commited relationships, .
I only have sex with people if I know their sexual health status and if they are generally serious about relationships in general and making them last, but not about trying to climb mountains.
Fucking stress is just unbearable when the magic has gone.
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Anonymous #37
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #36]
#11688627 - 12/20/09 08:03 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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cheated once 2 years ago and still feel guilty for it to this day. Im just not that kind of a person. I think there are good people and bad people. good people are the ones who are not serial cheaters.
everyone saying there is justification or rationalization to cheating are the same low life cheaters that cant quit or dont have the self control to do so. pathetic
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Anonymous #38
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #37]
#11708735 - 12/23/09 09:07 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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I dropped E with my one of my best friends. I am (was) best friends with his boyfriend also.
I sucked his dick. I don't know if thats cheating, but I sure feel like an asshole.
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Anonymous #37
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #38]
#11710579 - 12/24/09 07:24 AM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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lol @ that. nething you wouldnt do or say in front of them is cheating. otherwise it wouldnt bother you to do so in front of them
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Anonymous #39
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #37]
#11715702 - 12/25/09 05:18 AM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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hell yeah. i was going out with "D" and i cheated on her with "K" and "J" and then when i was going out with "K" i cheated on her with "A" and "J" then i left all of them and i am messing around with another "A" right now.
that day karma comes back to me
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