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Anonymous #29
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #27]
#11528644 - 11/25/09 07:44 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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wow,
i hate cheaters.
never cheated, i never could...
however i have been cheated on, had my heart broken...y i told my GF of the time, if you screwed around on me, you are not the type of person I ever want to be with (i later found out that she had) but she promised me she hadn't and i believed her..... 3 months later it was all over...
some people i just dont understand
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Anonymous #25
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #29]
#11528678 - 11/25/09 07:50 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #29 said: wow,
i hate cheaters.
never cheated, i never could...
however i have been cheated on, had my heart broken...y i told my GF of the time, if you screwed around on me, you are not the type of person I ever want to be with (i later found out that she had) but she promised me she hadn't and i believed her..... 3 months later it was all over...
some people i just dont understand
Ever think that maybe she cheated on you for a reason?
Ever try rationalizing that reason?
If you answered no to at least one of these questions, you are a biased faggot.
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Anonymous #22
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #25]
#11529138 - 11/25/09 09:34 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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The point is there is no justification for cheating. The "reason" doesn't matter.
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Anonymous #25
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #22]
#11529791 - 11/25/09 11:46 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #22 said: The point is there is no justification for cheating. The "reason" doesn't matter.
There is justification for cheating because there are 'reasons' for cheating. If there isn't reasoning in its being, then why would cheating even exist?
you = ???
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Anonymous #30
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #9]
#11530140 - 11/26/09 01:18 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #9 said:
With that being said I cheated on my loved one, a year after my original post in this thread.
Mistakes happen
#9 I'm dying to hear this
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Anonymous #22
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #25]
#11530192 - 11/26/09 01:40 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #25 said:
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Anonymous #22 said: The point is there is no justification for cheating. The "reason" doesn't matter.
There is justification for cheating because there are 'reasons' for cheating. If there isn't reasoning in its being, then why would cheating even exist?
you = ???
If I were to kill someone in cold-blood because I, "just felt like it", I'd have a reason wouldn't I? But would I have a justification? Absolutely not!
So in this same sense, it doesn't matter what "reason" you come up with, it still won't justify your actions.
It might explain your actions... sure.
But not justify them.
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Anonymous #25
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #22]
#11530223 - 11/26/09 01:50 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #22 said:
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Anonymous #25 said:
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Anonymous #22 said: The point is there is no justification for cheating. The "reason" doesn't matter.
There is justification for cheating because there are 'reasons' for cheating. If there isn't reasoning in its being, then why would cheating even exist?
you = ???
If I were to kill someone in cold-blood because I, "just felt like it", I'd have a reason wouldn't I? But would I have a justification? Absolutely not!
So in this same sense, it doesn't matter what "reason" you come up with, it still won't justify your actions.
It might explain your actions... sure.
But not justify them.
You're comparing cheating to murder? Wow. Nice analogy you got there. Let me point out a few flaws.
Murder can be justified. Someone points a gun at you, and you have a gun yourself, what do you do? Die? Or would you kill him instead?
Just like murder, cheating consists of a very large spectrum of situations.
Justification of cheating is a very gray subject. Views are very opinionated and highly situational. But, in some instances, one can 'justify' cheating if both parties were to allow it. I'm not saying cheaters are repentant sinners so you should forgive them. Rather, cheaters should be understood, instead of ignorantly pushed aside. Human emotions run deep. They are complex. People can be easily hurt. And subconscious, emotional 'grudges' are inevitable.
If you saw your elementary school bully fall on his ass and eat shit, you'd feel gratification inside. Yes, such satisfaction is 'dark' and negative, but they are somewhat humanistic in that they exist within us. The same goes for romantic relationships.
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Anonymous #31
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #25]
#11530490 - 11/26/09 04:42 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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My girlfriend was ok with me hooking up with someone here and there.
It's not much different than being exclusive. Every other person is disappointing and I've come to the conclusion that it's highly unlikely that I'll meet anyone that could make me more happy.
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Anonymous #32
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? *DELETED* [Re: Anonymous #31]
#11530497 - 11/26/09 04:46 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #31
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #32]
#11530502 - 11/26/09 04:49 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #32 said: I've cheated, and felt terrible about it. But that was when I was younger. Now, I don't see why anyone would want to cheat on someone they love. Just doesn't make sense to me. I just need one person to make me happy.
32: I was given the option to cheat and arrived to the same conclusion anyway.
On another note, cheating led to me leaving a crappy relationship. But I never cheated in a way that I had to conceal it from then on.
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Anonymous #33
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #13]
#11530808 - 11/26/09 07:37 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #13 said: never.
but i have been cheated on, and it's not a good feeling.
same
Fuck a bitch theyz all crazy
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Anonymous #22
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #25]
#11531802 - 11/26/09 11:56 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #25 said:
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Anonymous #22 said:
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Anonymous #25 said:
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Anonymous #22 said: The point is there is no justification for cheating. The "reason" doesn't matter.
There is justification for cheating because there are 'reasons' for cheating. If there isn't reasoning in its being, then why would cheating even exist?
you = ???
If I were to kill someone in cold-blood because I, "just felt like it", I'd have a reason wouldn't I? But would I have a justification? Absolutely not!
So in this same sense, it doesn't matter what "reason" you come up with, it still won't justify your actions.
It might explain your actions... sure.
But not justify them.
You're comparing cheating to murder? Wow. Nice analogy you got there. Let me point out a few flaws.
Murder can be justified. Someone points a gun at you, and you have a gun yourself, what do you do? Die? Or would you kill him instead?
Just like murder, cheating consists of a very large spectrum of situations.
Justification of cheating is a very gray subject. Views are very opinionated and highly situational. But, in some instances, one can 'justify' cheating if both parties were to allow it. I'm not saying cheaters are repentant sinners so you should forgive them. Rather, cheaters should be understood, instead of ignorantly pushed aside. Human emotions run deep. They are complex. People can be easily hurt. And subconscious, emotional 'grudges' are inevitable.
If you saw your elementary school bully fall on his ass and eat shit, you'd feel gratification inside. Yes, such satisfaction is 'dark' and negative, but they are somewhat humanistic in that they exist within us. The same goes for romantic relationships.
You are taking a lesser interpretation of my argument and forming your entire argument around it, subsequently missing the entire point.
I was referring specifically to "cold-blooded murder" with the motive being, "I just felt like.." to illustrate a point of how someone could have reasons for doing something, but not a justification.
Your false analogy of what you claim to be "murder", is really just self-defense and has no bearing on anything we were discussing.
AND
If both parties are "cheating" in the relationship, then it's not cheating, it's called an open relationship.
Look, why don't you just explain the circumstances in which you cheated so we can examine them. Much easier.
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Anonymous #34
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #22]
#11532155 - 11/26/09 01:19 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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I've never cheated, but have been cheated on. Yeah it sucks...
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Anonymous #26
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #34]
#11532205 - 11/26/09 01:29 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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it's a pretty shameful cowardly act.
im embarrassed that i did it, if i have any regrets in life it is that i did not have the courage/self esteem to end those relationships in a graceful way :/
i've been cheated on also.
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Anonymous #35
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #26]
#11533076 - 11/26/09 04:47 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Pretty ashamed to say I did, once.
A friend I'd known for years hooked up with me outta the blue and we were together two months-was really good, but the last week, I just knew she was going back to her ex. I was kinda cool with it-we'd had a great time together, and I knew she was quite hung up on the guy-I just considered it a goods time. But anyway, the last week, she was totally off and I knew why and didn't mind, just wanted her to tell me, get it over with and just be mates.
She didn't, and over new year another friend made a pass at me. We'd crashed out on a mate's sofa after the party and I spent about 8 hours til dawn saying no. In my head, I'm not a cheater, even though I knew my girl was leaving anyway. But in the end, my will broke and I thought "fuck it" and got the girl off with a finger job. Then the guilt hit a bit, but I let her go down on me too.
I was totally right about the gf-she left two days later when I saw her and that was all cool, but I've never told her. Still feel very shitty about that, especially considering there've been fucking loads of times in my life I could've been stupid (and more justifiably so!), but never have due to my morality.
Then this once. 
So, yup, I'm on the cockwad side of this debate. <--me
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Anonymous #24
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #35]
#11533106 - 11/26/09 04:56 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Honestly, I don't see a whole lot wrong about what you did. You knew the relationship was ending and so did she. Relationships shouldn't be a contract.
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Anonymous #35
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #24]
#11533251 - 11/26/09 05:35 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Cheers man, appreciate the empathy. Was expecting a rollicking, to be honest.
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Anonymous #25
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #22]
#11533576 - 11/26/09 06:47 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #22 said:
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Anonymous #25 said:
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Anonymous #22 said:
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Anonymous #25 said: There is justification for cheating because there are 'reasons' for cheating. If there isn't reasoning in its being, then why would cheating even exist?
you = ???
If I were to kill someone in cold-blood because I, "just felt like it", I'd have a reason wouldn't I? But would I have a justification? Absolutely not!
So in this same sense, it doesn't matter what "reason" you come up with, it still won't justify your actions.
It might explain your actions... sure.
But not justify them.
You're comparing cheating to murder? Wow. Nice analogy you got there. Let me point out a few flaws.
Murder can be justified. Someone points a gun at you, and you have a gun yourself, what do you do? Die? Or would you kill him instead?
Just like murder, cheating consists of a very large spectrum of situations.
Justification of cheating is a very gray subject. Views are very opinionated and highly situational. But, in some instances, one can 'justify' cheating if both parties were to allow it. I'm not saying cheaters are repentant sinners so you should forgive them. Rather, cheaters should be understood, instead of ignorantly pushed aside. Human emotions run deep. They are complex. People can be easily hurt. And subconscious, emotional 'grudges' are inevitable.
If you saw your elementary school bully fall on his ass and eat shit, you'd feel gratification inside. Yes, such satisfaction is 'dark' and negative, but they are somewhat humanistic in that they exist within us. The same goes for romantic relationships.
You are taking a lesser interpretation of my argument and forming your entire argument around it, subsequently missing the entire point.
I was referring specifically to "cold-blooded murder" with the motive being, "I just felt like.." to illustrate a point of how someone could have reasons for doing something, but not a justification.
Your false analogy of what you claim to be "murder", is really just self-defense and has no bearing on anything we were discussing.
AND
If both parties are "cheating" in the relationship, then it's not cheating, it's called an open relationship.
Look, why don't you just explain the circumstances in which you cheated so we can examine them. Much easier.
Your focus on minute details is apparently an act of desperation. And I am very aware of the oncoming 'bash' you are readily arming yourself with once I spew out my own circumstances with cheating. Alas, I already spoke my piece earlier in this thread. You can read it if you'd like. If you have any questions, you can ask me.
And, like I said, cheating involves a very wide spectrum of events. 'Cold-blooded' murder can only be compared to 'cold-blooded' cheating, so to speak. Thus, your comparison of 'cold-blooded' murder to the whole spectrum of cheating is obviously and innately flawed.
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Anonymous #26
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #35]
#11534070 - 11/26/09 08:32 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #35 said: Pretty ashamed to say I did, once.
A friend I'd known for years hooked up with me outta the blue and we were together two months-was really good, but the last week, I just knew she was going back to her ex. I was kinda cool with it-we'd had a great time together, and I knew she was quite hung up on the guy-I just considered it a goods time. But anyway, the last week, she was totally off and I knew why and didn't mind, just wanted her to tell me, get it over with and just be mates.
She didn't, and over new year another friend made a pass at me. We'd crashed out on a mate's sofa after the party and I spent about 8 hours til dawn saying no. In my head, I'm not a cheater, even though I knew my girl was leaving anyway. But in the end, my will broke and I thought "fuck it" and got the girl off with a finger job. Then the guilt hit a bit, but I let her go down on me too.
I was totally right about the gf-she left two days later when I saw her and that was all cool, but I've never told her. Still feel very shitty about that, especially considering there've been fucking loads of times in my life I could've been stupid (and more justifiably so!), but never have due to my morality.
Then this once. 
So, yup, I'm on the cockwad side of this debate. <--me 
i don't think that was too bad, you shouldn't beat yourself up about it.
mine are way WAY worse :/
i had an affair while married and ended up leaving my husband for the guy and dating him for a year. then i cheated in him too, with another guy in my boyfriends bed while he was in europe for 3 weeks. i was really young, really stupid and had no sense of trust or self esteem. i just assumed he would cheat on me while he was away so i was preemptively "getting him back for it". it gets worse but i am almost too embarrassed to give any further details. it never ends well, NEVER.
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Anonymous #22
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #25]
#11538976 - 11/27/09 06:06 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #25 said: Your focus on minute details is apparently an act of desperation. And I am very aware of the oncoming 'bash' you are readily arming yourself with once I spew out my own circumstances with cheating. Alas, I already spoke my piece earlier in this thread. You can read it if you'd like. If you have any questions, you can ask me.
Well, if your reading comprehension skills weren't sub-par I wouldn't have to go over the details to add clarification to what would otherwise be obvious.
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And, like I said, cheating involves a very wide spectrum of events. 'Cold-blooded' murder can only be compared to 'cold-blooded' cheating, so to speak. Thus, your comparison of 'cold-blooded' murder to the whole spectrum of cheating is obviously and innately flawed.
I was illustrating a point. I wasn't making a comparison. Get it?
Either way, I think this conversation has accomplished next to nothing and wasted our time. I'm going to go play with my cat.
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