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Anonymous #11
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #14]
#7436975 - 09/21/07 02:47 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: > To suggest this is because I don't love the person I'm married to is really just an easy way to dismiss the issue and sweep it neatly under the rug.
True.
It is certainly possible to love more than one person concurrently.
But its best to tell them whats up straight out, so no one has any weird surprises. Takes some balls but its the only honorable thing to do.
My housemate warns all girls on the first date that he is kind of a slut. Since they know from the beginning, they are pretty much ok with it.
I was pretty upfront about it after realizing the furtive nature of the situation was harmful to all parties involved. In fact, we all met for a drink shortly afterward and had a very friendly chat. It was tense at first, I thought perhaps the veins in my head were going to rupture, however after the initial shock subsided there was no need for medical intervention. My spouse was even cool with the relationship continuing, but did request to be informed if it again progressed to a physical level. To a certain extent, each of us had our hearts broken, if for different reasons. An enriching experience all around because it not only forced a relatively in depth analysis of our feelings as individuals, but as a group of three people whose lives were linked in a very intimate way. We all remain on very good terms and the closeness persists.
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Anonymous #8
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #11]
#7438315 - 09/21/07 09:15 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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That was incredibly mature and wonderful of your partner to accept and get past it. But I would think they are the exception, not the rule.
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Anonymous #16
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #8]
#7450344 - 09/25/07 02:16 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Would never ever do that to someone I love.
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Anonymous #17
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #16]
#7451746 - 09/25/07 12:57 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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if i cheated on my SO, that'd say a whole lot about my lack of character and (what i consider) worth.
you're wasting your SOs time if you do that sort of thing.
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Anonymous #18
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11518381 - 11/24/09 12:11 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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I have been having an affair with a woman at work for 2 1/2 years and she finally broke it off. I have been married 26 years and want to fulfill my obligation to my children but I have fallen completely in love with this woman. She said if I leave my wife she will be there for me, but we can’t continue on like this. I don’t blame her but I am sick to my stomach thinking about her. My kids are teenagers but I cannot afford to leave my wife and still support them through college like they deserve. I will remain married for my kids and I will follow through with my obligations to my family but deep down in my heart I will always love this woman.
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Anonymous #19
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11518486 - 11/24/09 12:28 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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does making out and feeling up count as cheating? if so. twice.
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Anonymous #20
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #19]
#11519000 - 11/24/09 01:50 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Hahaha. On Friday I cheated on my girlfriend with a sluuuut.
My girlfriend found out and dumped me and I have no intention of dating the girl I cheated with. Ex girlfriend is a riiiich bitch, university student who is about a 7/10.
The girl I fucked is a broke ass punker who didn't finish high school but is a 10/10.
Should have thought that one through.
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Anonymous #21
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #20]
#11519183 - 11/24/09 02:14 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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pussy is pussy. Dont matter if its a jersey cow.
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Anonymous #22
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #11]
#11519760 - 11/24/09 03:35 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #11 said: I've been married ten years and am essentially guilty of cheating. To suggest this is because I don't love the person I'm married to is really just an easy way to dismiss the issue and sweep it neatly under the rug.
The fact is, human relationships are HIGHLY complex. Marriage is a cultural mechanism which essentially attempts to reduce these complexities... cute and easy in theory, very difficult in practice.
I'm not proud of it.
Essentially guilty? How does that work? I suppose if you were raped I'll look the other way. But it seems like you are just making excuses for selfish behavior. What's so complex about it? You just don't cheat if you are in a committed relationship. If you are interested in other people, you let your partner know, and move on.
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Anonymous #8 said: That was incredibly mature and wonderful of your partner to accept and get past it. But I would think they are the exception, not the rule.
Sounds more like weak and passive than mature and wonderful to me.
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Anonymous #23
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #22]
#11520206 - 11/24/09 04:41 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Cheating on someone and breaking their heart, if that persons heart being broken almost breaks your heart as well, should be a learning experience. If it isn't a learning experience then good luck with future relationships, if it is a learning experience then the potential is there for extremely successful future relationships. Men more often than women make that stupid fucking mistake to cheat on the person they love. Don't give me that "oh then you don't love them" bullshit. Its natural for a man to have the urge to sleep with other women. But being a man as opposed to an animal is to resist that urge successfully. However just because a man makes that mistake once or maybe even twice does not necessarily mean that he doesn't truly love the person he cheated on. Circumstances mean a lot. A man cheating on his significant other one time with his SO's sister is different than a man cheating on his SO one time with his ex. Cheating is cheating. But the fact is the SO being cheated on would feel differently about the two scenarios. You can't just black and white it. Especially if you've never experienced it.
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Anonymous #24
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #22]
#11520233 - 11/24/09 04:43 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Haha, this thread is so full of motherfuckers who use cog dissonance to justify their cheating.
I've never cheated, and if I did, I'd probably feel guilty forever.
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Anonymous #23
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #24]
#11520342 - 11/24/09 04:56 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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I'm more likely to cheat if I am more attractive than my significant other and know I am more attractive than my significant other because i deserve those as attractive or more attractive than me. That is some solid cognitive dissonance. So all of you who say Ive never and I never will must be the less attractive spouse. Right?
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Anonymous #25
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11520397 - 11/24/09 05:04 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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I have. It was ultimately a mistake, but something that had to be done.
Most of those who have never cheated probably won't understand, but cheating brought me closer to my girlfriend. If I didn't cheat then, I probably would be doing it now, or be single. I'm not going to say it was the best thing that ever happened to me, but it was definitely a learning process.
Sadly, I cheated on my gf with multiple people. All of them were damn good fucks, but none of them were essentially 'there' for me. And I was just fucking these bitches to fill a void left in my heart after my gf had broken up with me 2 years prior. I know that's a stupid excuse, and I know that I'm a fucker, but human emotions are the least bit understandable. Small instances could be ingrained within us for a very long time. Thus, they are capable of having a humongous emotional impact on our lives.
When my gf first broke up with me, I was still in high school and she was going off to college. She tried justifying it to me with excuses like "I just need time to find myself." and all of that typical bullshit. In the back of my mind, I was completely positive she just wanted to hook up with other people. The fact that she tried to deny it made the pain even more apparent. And, afterwards, she ended up hooking up with some guy in Mexico on my birthday, which was the same day as the Homecoming Dance. The funny thing was that she made it a big deal about who I was going to Homecoming with; the Homecoming queen and subsequently a fine ass bitch with a nice fucking ass. Her jealousy was obvious, so I decided to take the emotionally understanding route of not hooking up with her even though I was single. I'm not trying to make excuses for myself for there are none. But one must understand the complex nature of human emotions before he/she deems certain acts to be unjustifiable. She hurt me and she didn't even know it. I never really made the effort to make it known to her, but I never knew she'd hurt me like she did. Consequently, a void was created within me. And the only known temporary cure was promiscuity.
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Anonymous #9
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #25]
#11521869 - 11/24/09 08:01 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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This thread is 2 years old you lame ass cheating loser.
I hope you contracted something foul and your wife starts fucking trannys you loveless prick. Your kids are getting raped while you are out.
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Anonymous #9
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #9]
#11521884 - 11/24/09 08:03 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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With that being said I cheated on my loved one, a year after my original post in this thread.
Mistakes happen
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Anonymous #26
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #9]
#11522772 - 11/24/09 10:07 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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yep yep. when i was too young and dumb to end the relationship when it had expired.....
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Anonymous #25
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #9]
#11523889 - 11/25/09 01:37 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #9 said: This thread is 2 years old you lame ass cheating loser.
I hope you contracted something foul and your wife starts fucking trannys you loveless prick. Your kids are getting raped while you are out.
If you're replying to me, then you're a fucking idiot.
You should probably go kill yourself.
The end.
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Anonymous #27
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #20]
#11523907 - 11/25/09 01:43 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #20 said: Hahaha. On Friday I cheated on my girlfriend with a sluuuut.
My girlfriend found out and dumped me and I have no intention of dating the girl I cheated with. Ex girlfriend is a riiiich bitch, university student who is about a 7/10.
The girl I fucked is a broke ass punker who didn't finish high school but is a 10/10.
Should have thought that one through.
She lost 3 points for her massive, foul-smelling vagina.
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Anonymous #28
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #27]
#11523916 - 11/25/09 01:47 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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yeah, and she ended up breaking up with me 2 years later so I don't regret it at all
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Anonymous #27
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Re: Ever cheat on your significant other? [Re: Anonymous #28]
#11523931 - 11/25/09 01:50 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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do you miss the smell?
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