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Veritas

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We don't need to make babies, some of us want to, and masturbation will suffice for basic sexual needs, though it may not be all that one could want. 
Neither of these so-called needs has anything whatsoever to do with obsession and self-destruction. Why should someone create misery in their own life due to relational "failure" with a specific person? If it was about making babies, they would best serve this need by moving on to a willing candidate. If it was about satisfying sexual needs, same game plan. It's totally impractical to fixate on a particular person, and convince oneself that they have ruined your life.
This is not about needs, it is about neurosis.
Edited by Veritas (09/16/07 05:58 PM)
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Icelander
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Re: Love [Re: Veritas]
#7417681 - 09/16/07 07:48 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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It's totally impractical to fixate on a particular person, and convince oneself that they have ruined your life.
Who would ever do such a silly thing? They would have to be daft.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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Rahz
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Re: Love [Re: Veritas]
#7418565 - 09/17/07 12:16 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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The paradox is that a person will become more attractive the less they believe someone else's affection is needed. Love, by it's very nature, is love of the self. It goes to our very core, and the illusion of not being loved is the very core of our problems.
-------------------- rahz comfort pleasure power love truth awareness peace "You’re not looking close enough if you can only see yourself in people who look like you." —Ayishat Akanbi
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BlueCoyote
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"The pain one carries is the love one withholds."
Honest love to others can't be hurt, because it's independent of the self. But of course I know what you speak of. It's a rough way to learn about one's dependent 'love' (if one may still call it 'love', what I doubt).
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Icelander
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Re: Love [Re: Rahz]
#7419854 - 09/17/07 02:11 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Rahz said: The paradox is that a person will become more attractive the less they believe someone else's affection is needed. Love, by it's very nature, is love of the self. It goes to our very core, and the illusion of not being loved is the very core of our problems.
Right you are. Great post.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
Edited by Icelander (09/17/07 02:12 PM)
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