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DistortedEyes
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i kind of have poor social skills....
#7405391 - 09/13/07 05:52 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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I was shy as a child and i don't really have good social skills, this has affected my ability to make new friends and get a job.
I've been trying to fix the "damage" of being shy as a child for a few years now.
I can be social when it comes to things I'm interested in though.
I take a long time to build trust with people and don't usually get close to people, it's weird.
once I'm friends with someone i will be a good friend and don't fuck anyone over and I'll be social but i think i have problems with the initial interaction.
I feel like it's time to shed this skin, it's been well overdue, allot has changed in the last few years and i have no reason to be shy anymore.
I seem to be stuck in old habits of not interacting with anyone.
I will start university on Monday and i think it would be the perfect time to just jump right in the deep end and put myself out there, I'm not a person that takes "baby steps", i like to "just do it".
Has anyone ever been in the same kind of situation? have you ever been shy and just thought "fuck this i want to meet some people"?
thanks
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memes
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Re: i kind of have poor social skills.... [Re: DistortedEyes]
#7405399 - 09/13/07 05:55 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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yeah, two weeks ago. i've always been the guy that occasionally makes a joke or two and gets a laugh, but when it comes to most other social interactions im just not good at 'em.
couple weeks ago i started workin out, and carrying myself like i was a badass. turned on my "inner alpha-male" and now i have two girls that want me, and i'm already tired of the drama.
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JonnyOnTheSpot
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Re: i kind of have poor social skills.... [Re: DistortedEyes]
#7405404 - 09/13/07 05:56 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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well...it's safe to say that you're not alone here. 
edit: it sounds like college will be good for you.
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RandalFlagg
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Re: i kind of have poor social skills.... [Re: DistortedEyes]
#7405466 - 09/13/07 06:11 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yep, every day. I'm shy and quiet and this has caused me to miss out on a lot of shit. I wish I could give you some advice on how to be more open, but I can't. I'm introverted and will continue to be so for a long time I surmise.
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Mocha Bear
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Re: i kind of have poor social skills.... [Re: RandalFlagg]
#7405535 - 09/13/07 06:25 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yeah college will be good. I think I was like that for awhile. I was the quiet one in the room...that people loved when they got to know...but I sorta kept to myself. I told myself once I got to school "You're going to meet a new person everyday" and I did. I'd walk up to people and introduce myself. Of course I couldn't do that for long since class got in the way, but now I'm more open to people and I love it. You should try that! I think college will be great, that's where a lot of people grow.
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SymmetryGroup8
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Re: i kind of have poor social skills.... [Re: Mocha Bear]
#7405825 - 09/13/07 07:20 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'm the same way. My problems is that my brain automatically puts up a wall between people and me, often quite arbitrarily. I'm really good friends with some but others I fail to interact with on any sort of meaningful level. It's really weird because it seems arbitrary. Although I suspect on a sub-conscious level I pick out ones that I feel comfortable being around. This is mostly due to a combination of my past experiences and personality.
I'm a fucking weird cat.
I'm really comfortable in small groups. I get along with my co-workers fine so it doesn't really affect my job.
I hate it tho. I really want to open up more and meet new people. I can over come a lot of these problems when I travel. Which is why I enjoy going to far away places.
Maybe what I need is a fucking shrink.
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Re: i kind of have poor social skills.... [Re: DistortedEyes]
#7406160 - 09/13/07 08:27 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Psh, stop bitching
The only reason I've ever sat next to people is because I didn't know they were there
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