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Sexual harrassment
#7393289 - 09/10/07 07:08 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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So at my work, one of the VP's is a pretty cool guy. He's a big wig and an old guy, but he's completely down to earth. He's also very new. Well he makes a lot of comments that would be considered inappropriate at my job. I've heard more than a few women say that his comments make them uncomfortable. I really like the guy. He's a really funny guy. He's an old, fat, Vice President but he walks around singing "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun" or that song where they say "Don't you wish your girlfriend was hot like me". He's really fun and funny. But he says sexual things that make women uncomfortable at my job. I've heard him say things. He's just joking, but the women don't think it's funny.
So today, one of the supervisors told me about some of the things that he has said to her as well as other people and I thought that I needed to go save him from himself. So I go into his office on the pretense of some other issue and then say "Oh by the way...." and tell him that I think he's going to get in trouble if he keeps saying the things that he's saying. Well he was really shocked and hurt. I tried to make it clear that this was not HR speaking to him but a friend who wants to warn him before he gets himself into trouble. He told me that he was grateful for me coming into warn him, but I think that he was really hurt. All he tries to do is have fun and wake these robots out of their stupor and then I come and take the wind from his sails.
Should I have done that? I really think that the idea that this guy says inappropriate things is building momentum, so I wanted to warn him before it got out of control. Or should I have ignored this and just gone home and got high?
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Re: Sexual harrassment [Re: Learyfan]
#7393310 - 09/10/07 07:13 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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yes, it'll give him a chance to stop the offensive behavior, saves the company from potential lawsuits, but keep in mind that most people that makes these sort of jokes are also somewhat serious, they're fishing.
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Re: Sexual harrassment [Re: Learyfan]
#7393311 - 09/10/07 07:13 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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maybe talk to the women who are trying to take his freedom away.
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Re: Sexual harrassment [Re: Prisoner#1]
#7393315 - 09/10/07 07:14 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Prisoner#1 said: yes, it'll give him a chance to stop the offensive behavior, saves the company from potential lawsuits, but keep in mind that most people that makes these sort of jokes are also somewhat serious, they're fishing.
but some people, this is the only way they know how to communicate to women.
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makaveli8x8 said: but some people, this is the only way they know how to communicate to women.
being the VP of a corporation large enough to have an HR rep approach you, you need to know other ways of communicating, especially in the todays market. In a place of business there is no men and women, just employees when it concerns execs.
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Prisoner#1 said: yes, it'll give him a chance to stop the offensive behavior, saves the company from potential lawsuits, but keep in mind that most people that makes these sort of jokes are also somewhat serious, they're fishing.
Well, that could be. All I know is that I really like the guy. He's funny and fun. No one at my job is funny and/or fun. We're all robots. So I hope that he has good intentions.
I sent him a follow up e-mail after I had processed this awkward moment in my head and told him that everyone loves him but that he just needs to be more aware of their feelings on this issue. He sent me one back thanking me for the heads up but it was laced with sadness and anger. He talked about having to "walk on pins and needles" from now on and not be himself. That sucks.
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makaveli8x8 said: maybe talk to the women who are trying to take his freedom away.
What's that? I did do that. That's how this started. You must be higher than I am off of that sweet, sweet leaf.
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Re: Sexual harrassment [Re: Learyfan]
#7393401 - 09/10/07 07:31 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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no, i read you talked to them. but you didn't give any details about it. So it was more like...they approached you and said "he makes me akward" and thats the end of convo.
what im sayin is, you talked to the guy and said he needed to tone it down.
now you need to talk to the women and tell them to lighten up a little.
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Re: Sexual harrassment [Re: Prisoner#1]
#7393405 - 09/10/07 07:31 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Exactly. He tells them that they have nice legs and stuff. That's not going to fly where I work. I wanted to help the guy out. I think I did the right thing, but I hate that I made the guy sad and possibly took the wind out of his sails. Plus, I think he's seriously interested in which of his staff members told HR.
I almost wish I had just BS'ed the supervisor. But I had to be protective because I like this girl. I should have just gone and gotten all high.
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Re: Sexual harrassment [Re: Learyfan]
#7393419 - 09/10/07 07:35 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Learyfan said: He tells them that they have nice legs and stuff.
well sugar tits, it's great to admire women, but in business it's best to keep your mouth shut, at least until you know them pretty well and have learned their sense of humor
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Telling women to "lighten up" isn't a reality in the business world. He would look them up and down and then tell them that they look ravishing or something. He would tell them that they have nice legs. He would look at an attractive prospective new hire up and down and then say "You're hired". Shit like that. I know it's not a big deal, but it is at my job. So I warned the guy that he might get himself into trouble.
I should have just found some dank nugs and smoked them up.
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Re: Sexual harrassment [Re: Learyfan]
#7393436 - 09/10/07 07:40 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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by chance are you in the human resources dept?
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Re: Sexual harrassment [Re: Learyfan]
#7393458 - 09/10/07 07:43 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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That's really unfortunate. It's never good that people can't take a joke, but alas it is your friend who is in the wrong.
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Re: Sexual harrassment [Re: Learyfan]
#7393459 - 09/10/07 07:43 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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it sounds like he knows ebonics so just say.
damn fool if you keep talking to them bitchs like that their gonna trip and get you for sexxual harrassment,
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Sounds like you did the right thing.
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Prisoner#1 said: by chance are you in the human resources dept?
Yeah. I tried to make it clear that it was coming just from a concerned friend though.
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Gastronomicus said: That's really unfortunate. It's never good that people can't take a joke, but alas it is your friend who is in the wrong.
Right. Thank you.
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LosAngelesGraff said: it sounds like he knows ebonics so just say.
damn fool if you keep talking to them bitchs like that their gonna trip and get you for sexxual harrassment,
Well he's funny. He's a grey haired, fat man in his 50's and he's singing "Don't you wish your girlfriend was hot like me". He gives a lot of us robots some much needed laughter.
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Innominate said: Sounds like you did the right thing.
Thanks. I was hoping so.
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Re: Sexual harrassment [Re: Learyfan]
#7393567 - 09/10/07 08:09 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yeah, you definately did the right thing. Imagine how terrible he would feel if he had gotten fired, or worse, had criminal charges pressed against him for jokes.
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Right on. Thank you.
I should have toked him up afterward as a gesture of good will though.
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Re: Sexual harrassment [Re: Learyfan]
#7393590 - 09/10/07 08:13 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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There's always tomorrow, and nothing says good will like a nice bowl
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I think he must have used to smoke. He has made numerous references to marijuana smoking as if he's aware of it more than my other co-workers. Of course I have to act like I have no idea what he's talking about but that it's still funny.
Then I go home and toke up.
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Re: Sexual harrassment [Re: Learyfan]
#7393609 - 09/10/07 08:18 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Haha right on
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