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Realized this tonight
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The sooner you start loving everyone else in life, the happier and more wonderful your life can become.
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: Syle]
#7386231 - 09/08/07 11:46 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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First start loving yourself. Everything else will follow.
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: Syle]
#7386547 - 09/09/07 01:52 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Do you just have to love them or do you have to act out this love in any way? For example if you love everyone would you not be obligated to cause no harm to anyone?
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ha! now you have like 10,000 things more you have to learn to get to the good stuff.
joking aside i'm just going to second adjust's question.
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: Syle]
#7386620 - 09/09/07 02:55 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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What is love?
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: Syle]
#7386628 - 09/09/07 03:03 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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The sooner you start loving everyone else in life, the happier and more wonderful your life can become.
would you love this fella?
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: shakercee]
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The sooner you start loving everyone else in life, the happier and more wonderful your life can become.
would you love this fella?
I do not like that fella!
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: shakercee]
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The sooner you start loving everyone else in life, the happier and more wonderful your life can become.
would you love this fella?
Of course. Why not?
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Yeah?..what has Osama done that anyone can love him, except for his diehard..yes they die hard.. followers?
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: shakercee]
#7387483 - 09/09/07 09:55 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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You can love someone & not like what they do. You can love someone and think that they are angry and unskillful. You can love someone and see proof that they intend to cause harm to others, and so decide to limit their freedom.
Too many people think that loving means being a doormat.
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what has Osama done that anyone can love him
Who says that you have to earn love? I feel love for the man in that photo, though I suspect that he is a dangerous person. He has sad eyes, and I believe that his actions are based in the same motivation as mine--to be happy. His idea of what will bring happiness is probably VERY different from mine, but this does not make him evil.
Perhaps if he had grown up the way I have, with the deep love & constant affection of my family, and the safe surroundings & abundance of resources we have in the U.S., he would share my ideas of what will bring happiness.
And if I had grown up as he did, and processed my experiences through the same filters, I might share HIS ideas of what will bring happiness.
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: shakercee]
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shakercee said: Yeah?..what has Osama done that anyone can love him, except for his diehard..yes they die hard.. followers?
Well, I heard he is an excellent french kisser.
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Now you're naughty. I'll take care of that...
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: Veritas]
#7387542 - 09/09/07 10:07 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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You can love someone & not like what they do. You can love someone and think that they are angry and unskillful. You can love someone and see proof that they intend to cause harm to others, and so decide to limit their freedom.
I agree with you there. My loved one may be heading down the wrong path, and I would still love that person.
But my point was about loving mass murderers like Osama, Hitler, Stalin..etc.
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: Veritas]
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Veritas said: Perhaps if he had grown up the way I have, with the deep love & constant affection of my family, and the safe surroundings & abundance of resources we have in the U.S., he would share my ideas of what will bring happiness.
And if I had grown up as he did, and processed my experiences through the same filters, I might share HIS ideas of what will bring happiness.
Precisely. I could not judge anyone, and will feel compassion for them and how they have come to be, within their life's circumstances, regardless.
This does not prevent me from realizing the nature of their actions, and acting in accordance with this realization in order to promote the well-being of myself, others, that person, etc. Native American philosophy felt compassion for the deer and the bison that they, due to the nature of reality, brought death upon.
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Well, I heard he is an excellent french kisser.
I see..
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Now you're naughty. I'll take care of that...
Me? Naughty?
You'd never guess who told me about Bin Laden's kissing.
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: shakercee]
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You can love someone & not like what they do. You can love someone and think that they are angry and unskillful. You can love someone and see proof that they intend to cause harm to others, and so decide to limit their freedom.
I agree with you there. My loved one may be heading down the wrong path, and I would still love that person.
But my point was about loving mass murderers like Osama, Hitler, Stalin..etc.
What's not to love? They are living beings, which is my prequalification for being loved. Unless you believe that someone must earn love, and adhere to certain behaviors in order to continue to receive love, then Hitler is just as potentially loveable as your girlfriend.
IMO, the real question is--are you capable of loving Osama, Hitler, Stalin, Manson, Bundy, and so on?
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You'd never guess who told me about Bin Laden's kissing. 
Like always... Pope Benedict? ... I hear you two are homies 
Also... don't you think you're getting away without some sever spankings
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He does have nice lips.
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Yes, like always... I knew you'd guess.
I could never think that.
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: Veritas]
#7387639 - 09/09/07 10:27 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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What's not to love? They are living beings, which is my prequalification for being loved. Unless you believe that someone must earn love, and adhere to certain behaviors in order to continue to receive love, then Hitler is just as potentially loveable as your girlfriend.
IMO, the real question is--are you capable of loving Osama, Hitler, Stalin, Manson, Bundy, and so on?
You are talking about the highest form of love - unconditional love.
Let me forget about Osama and his ilk. Am I capable of loving my boss. Lately i don't agree with his policies, and have developed a disliking and hate towards him..but there are times when i see a better part of him..
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: shakercee]
#7387678 - 09/09/07 10:34 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Again, does he need to earn your love?
IMO, the actions of others trigger our own limitations to being loving, but have nothing to do with their own loveability. If we recognize that these limits exist within us, and can be expanded, then it becomes clear that everyone is potentially loveable.
I don't know if humans are capable of purely unconditional love. Perhaps the healthiest & least-neurotic among us can come close to this ideal. Yet I see it as a worthy aim, however far from the mark my arrows might land.
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: Veritas]
#7387717 - 09/09/07 10:44 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Again, does he need to earn your love?
Well, truth to be said, in one of my posts in another thread, i had mentioned that i have found something in everyone, a commanality that i can relate, the feeling of being alive, just being. And i had love for everyone..i have to find that again, the realization...but for Osama...well i have to go deeper. 
Thanks, for your insights, Veritas.
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: Veritas]
#7387756 - 09/09/07 10:56 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Veritas said: Again, does he need to earn your love?
IMO, the actions of others trigger our own limitations to being loving, but have nothing to do with their own loveability. If we recognize that these limits exist within us, and can be expanded, then it becomes clear that everyone is potentially loveable.
I don't know if humans are capable of purely unconditional love. Perhaps the healthiest & least-neurotic among us can come close to this ideal. Yet I see it as a worthy aim, however far from the mark my arrows might land.
sorry all, I was in mid trip when I designed this thread, so it has to be taken with a grain or two of salt. yes, unconditional love is what I was talking about. I realized last night that I judge people a lot and I need to just love people for what they are, other human beings. When I can start doing that effectively and genuinely, then I can only assume my own outlook on life will be 100 times more beautiful.
I am not saying that I judge all people in an unfair way, but I caught myself last night judging for no reason on a few people I know. It's really stupid and there isn't any need for me to do that to them, even if it's in my own head and kept to myself; it can only hurt the relationship between us.
Anyways, this post was kind of a ramble, but it showcases the ideal I am going to be shooting for the duration of this existence 
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: shakercee]
#7387758 - 09/09/07 10:57 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Another thing to think about...we probably do not know the whole truth about Osama, or Hitler, or any of the "failed" humans whom history has painted as monsters.
A history class I took years ago had a fascinating chapter on propaganda, in which we reviewed flyers and posters which were distributed during different wars. The common theme was "they are not human." It seemed to me that the intention of such propaganda was to cut the empathic connection between us & "them," and to create a framework in which it was acceptable to hate and kill strangers.
Realize that we, as Americans, have been subjected to massive amounts of propaganda regarding Osama bin Laden, and that the kernel of truth that may exist within the layers of lies is not likely to be known by us.
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: Veritas]
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Veritas said: Another thing to think about...we probably do not know the whole truth about Osama, or Hitler, or any of the "failed" humans whom history has painted as monsters.
A history class I took years ago had a fascinating chapter on propaganda, in which we reviewed flyers and posters which were distributed during different wars. The common theme was "they are not human." It seemed to me that the intention of such propaganda was to cut the empathic connection between us & "them," and to create a framework in which it was acceptable to hate and kill strangers.
Realize that we, as Americans, have been subjected to massive amounts of propaganda regarding Osama bin Laden, and that the kernel of truth that may exist within the layers of lies is not likely to be known by us.
i have a hard time separating that from naivety...?
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: Syle]
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Naivete The state or quality of being inexperienced or unsophisticated, especially in being artless, credulous, or uncritical.
How is it naive to separate the actions from the person? To question the veracity of media depictions of those with whom our government is at war? 
In fact, I would say that it requires naivete to believe the propaganda is accurate, given the historical use of said methods.
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: Syle]
#7387845 - 09/09/07 11:26 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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good point. i misunderstood what you were saying. sorry.
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: Syle]
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The Love that is Transcendental is Love as a state of Being. It requires mindful realization that Being is our true nature. For myself, loving others in the light of this realization mean 'letting be,' allowing others to just Be without me desiring, demanding, manipulating, exploiting or in some way laying a trip with my own agenda on others. This sounds emotionally colorless on my part, but loving others in a Transcendental way is not an emotion-based action. It is not what is called romantic love or friendship. It is not necessarily affectionate either.
What it is, is the recognition of our true nature as freedom - the freedom to rest in our own nature - the freedom of knowing that even though others regard us as a body and a mind, we are not obliged to share their false understanding of human nature and neither are we obliged to regard the bodies and minds of others as their true nature. The more intently I adhere to this perspective, the more I can see in the deluded and unhappy people with whom I work on a daily basis. I can read their expressions and anticipate their reactions with greater accuracy. Each of my perceptions seems surrounded and separated by more and more space - space of colorless awareness. I hear stupid insensitive remarks or attempts at intimidating me and I understand where these people are coming from and I smile inwardly (sometimes outwardly) and 'forgive' them their non-comprehending ways, trapped in their own minds as they are. This is how I love these people. I listen and I acknowledge, but I remain logical not emotional, not unconscious. I love others with all the clarity that I can Be when I'm around them and convey fulfillment, if not just contentment with the moment.
A middle-aged obese female assistant principal who is herself miserable, visits misery on everyone she encounters. She came in this school year with obvious liposuction and stomach-stapling (which she said was gall-bladder surgery). She still eats compulsively, even while talking with others in her office. People try to be nice to her by complimenting her on her appearance, but this is not love, this is a form of ass-kissing. Everyone knows her emotional story - that her husband divorced her 25 years ago, and she must play this story of being a victim repeatedly in her mind, generating bitter emotions which she spreads to others and constantly tries to self-sooth herself with food. This person tells the world that her job is her life and she micromanages everyone she can. This is an individual with a big ego and a bigger "pain-body" as Eckhart Tolle calls it. Rather than reinforce either of these aspects of this woman, I endeavor to present the Presence of simple Being. At root, we are of the same Being, but my ego is not a vehicle for communicating it. She may never get it, as dense as her pain-body seems to be, but the best way to be loving in this case is to Be transparent to all the pain she throws out. "Resist not evil" as the admonition goes, respond, NOT react to this very toxic personality.
To love someone Transcendentally is to be a Light, a Clear Light, a Presence in which another can feel free and accepted, not complimented or criticized. That is to say, Be a source of Transcendental Oneness, above the human entrapment in duality.
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For myself, loving others in the light of this realization mean 'letting be,' allowing others to just Be without me desiring, demanding, manipulating, exploiting or in some way laying a trip with my own agenda on others.
Well put. I like this concept, and find that it is easier to apply when I am content with my own existence & generally in a balanced state. When I am out of balance, my tendency is to wish that others would be other than they are, as though it will help me feel better.
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Re: Realized this tonight [Re: Veritas]
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Thanks. The commandment or suggestion (in less egotistic traditions) to love one another, or better yet, to love your enemies requires further elucidation. The naive meanings of the English word love are not helpful. I didn't intend to infer a no-action state of Being either. I can still help someone without thought of reward, but I wanted to respond with something which described having one's Love Light on always and how one might love without obvious activity. The Old Testament expects total love from one's whole Being: "Thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thy heart, with all thy soul and with all thy might." Spiritual, mental and physical participation in Being in each moment. Compassionate action (LORD) flows from immersion in Being (God). Am I just going to Witness an ant lion beetle struggle or am I going to Save it from drowning in the pool? One could say that loving "the LORD thy God" is loving compassion above all else.
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