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Veritas

Registered: 04/15/05
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Re: i have no one else to turn to [Re: ManianFH]
#7383409 - 09/08/07 11:36 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Great advice!
IMO, when we look to others to fill us with happiness, we have created a bottomless pit of need within ourselves. No matter how hard a well-meaning partner tries, their love can not fill us up.
But when we choose to take full responsibility for our happiness, and enjoy others for the unique beings they are, we can feel the positive effect of being loved by them.
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Grok
Has Been a Bad Boy



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Re: i have no one else to turn to [Re: Veritas]
#7389157 - 09/09/07 06:22 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Listen to mickdawg!!!
You don't realize it now, and probably won't anytime soon, but this is all a blessing in disguise bro. That's no way to be in a relationship. I'd venture to guess it's probably your first one, or first major one. Life is not meant to be lived for other people. There is absolutely nothing noble doing so. If you keep this sort of attitude girls will walk all over you for the rest of your life, just like this one is.
What you have is a great opportunity for personal growth. It ain't comfortable but such experiences rarely are. Take advantage of it.
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TheMan420
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Re: i have no one else to turn to [Re: Grok]
#7389275 - 09/09/07 06:53 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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hey man it does suck but you gotta look at the good side of things because thats all you have to look at really.
You said you were with her for four years thats long i think that you might have forgotten what you really like it sounds like she had you bitched whip, yea i know you love her and all. ill tell you somein that happened to me my ex was caught by me cheating on my bed! yea she told me she loved me and everything but seeing that showed me she didn't giva fuck about me, we still talk and everything because i would still want to get back with her but no i wont. i nearly killed the fucker but i just left after smashing him up so he couldn't fuck anymore for awhile. i wanted to beat the fuck out of her aswel but I'm not like that at all. Rage filled me for days even thinking back 2years later i still get fried!
after that night i just went out with my real friend, the ones that really care about you and meet with nicer people and even better looking ones, so if shes out partying like a rock-star and you want someone to devote your love to id say call up some old buddies that you probably haven't talked to in awhile and go out and have some fun with em man. your a one of a kind and when a girl see's that in you she will fall in love with you as much as you love her and then your ex will see this and know she did a bad thing. trust me on this one! hope you do better!PEACE
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Iolaa
iolaa, not lolaa
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Re: i have no one else to turn to [Re: TheMan420]
#7390028 - 09/09/07 10:21 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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if there's one thing i've learned about loneliness, is that it comes in waves. for a while it's going to be shitty, really REALLY shitty. and you're going to just sit there and mope. but pretty soon, like a week, your phone is going to be blowing up with people wanting to hang out with you. then you look back and say, "yeah, i still love her, but it's not anything i couldn't have with someone WAY more deserving".
hope that helps!
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Rustifer
prestige worldwide



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Re: i have no one else to turn to [Re: Iolaa]
#7390504 - 09/10/07 01:25 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'm going through pretty much the same thing, me and my high school sweetheart just broke up 2 months ago, We had been living together for the past year and a half and decided she was going to start having a relationship with somebody else. I packed my shit and left my home and my life behind. It sucks thinking about how close I was with her family, and how all the plans we had are all gone now. It still doesn't feel like it, but using my man logic says it's better this way. Now mostly the only emotion I feel about the situation now is anger, at myself, for allowing myself to be so caught up in her that I never noticed how unhealthy of a relationship it was, for not noticing that I was wasting my life away working for something that wasn't worth my time.
But now I'm back in my home town with all of my old buddies and I'm having a blast. I have all kinds of me time now, it feels really good now to start working on myself. I'm pretty sure that I landed a better job than the one I had 2 months ago, I've gained 10 pounds (I'm 6'0, 135 lbs) and I'm about to move into an apartment with 2 friend where my rent will be less than half of what I left that bitch with. I'm pretty pumped about my new single life now, there's a lot of things I shouldve been doing the past years, and a lot of pretty young girls I missed out on. I'm very glad I got out when I did, and didn't end up with a kid and being in a miserable relationship for even more of my life.
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basdathea
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Re: i have no one else to turn to [Re: Rustifer]
#7471429 - 09/30/07 06:53 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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yes listen to mickdawg666, remember I told you that a loooong time ago but u didnt listen. and thats the reason why I need to be alone right now. I need to find myself, be realized in something I truly love. I feel lost right now specially after our first "break" i started to discover something in me. something you killed with your violence, it was nice I was starting to get over it until we came back again and everything fell apart once again. I really dont like doing this but its for my own good and yours. Dont say I cheated on you because that is not true, we broke up and I really thought that we will never come back. I was never with anyone else when I was with you and never cheated on anyone. why would I do something I dont want others to do to me, its illogical. Its all a process of re-discovering yourself. suffering makes us go the wrong way sometimes its just finding a way to recognize your path and go on with your life. find internall love for your own being and thatll be enough. then youll see if that someone comes to you. may be seek psychological help that helped me a lot and it can to you. hope you feel better.
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Alion



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Re: i have no one else to turn to [Re: ManianFH]
#7471438 - 09/30/07 06:58 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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Get over it, move on.
Go to bed and wake up to a new day.
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ajdaak
raver for life



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Re: i have no one else to turn to [Re: ManianFH]
#7471469 - 09/30/07 07:10 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
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i have had two long term relationships in my life one was a five year and one was a four year and i have a son with and both pretty much ended like that the only thing i can tell you is go out make new friends or build back up old friends if they are true friends they will understand but you have to figure out what makes only you happy again because the only way your girlfriend will realize she really loves you is by missing you but you also might go out and find out what makes you happy is not being with her at all but the whole jist of this is make just yourself happy and everything else will just fall in place
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leery11
I Tell You What!


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Re: i have no one else to turn to [Re: ajdaak]
#7499586 - 10/08/07 09:26 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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strangled by our coveting recognize this as a holy gift we can embrace the pain and transmutate this cold and fated anchor let go and cry all you need
and just feel
you will now be stronger
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