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adamj
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Ah fuck what do I do, need help
#7349814 - 08/29/07 08:39 PM (16 years, 6 months ago) |
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My friend/coworker (15 years older than me, lives with girlfriend and they have a 6 month old daughter together) has been drinking all day. When he drinks he gets violent and snappy, angry.
I'm not super tight with him, we jam music a couple nights a week.
Tonight while I was at work his girlfriend called me and said he is extremely drunk and getting violent. She wanted me to come get him and take him away from the house/daughter. She said she is going to the neighbors with the kid. (I should also say they argue a lot, especially when he drinks/goes out at night/)
I don't want to get involved. I'm hoping when she says violent he's just yelling but somehow this fell into my lap to take care of.
He's on probation, from a previous bar fight a couple months ago. So yeah, he has a drinking problem.
Ahhhh FUCK I don't want to go there but I can't just ignore it. Chances are he'll just direct anger towards me when I get there.
how do I deal with this? I know calling the cops is one thing, but I told his girlfriend that if it reaches that point do not hesitate to call them.
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avidpicker
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Re: Ah fuck what do I do, need help [Re: adamj]
#7349825 - 08/29/07 08:43 PM (16 years, 6 months ago) |
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Go beat his drunk ass,it will be forgotten 2morrow.
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RandalFlagg
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Re: Ah fuck what do I do, need help [Re: adamj]
#7349828 - 08/29/07 08:44 PM (16 years, 6 months ago) |
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I wouldn't get involved in shit like that.
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HELLA_TIGHT
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Re: Ah fuck what do I do, need help [Re: adamj]
#7349830 - 08/29/07 08:44 PM (16 years, 6 months ago) |
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Why doesn't she leave his drunk ass to get arrested? drrrrrr
Take the girl and leave.
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bukkake
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Re: Ah fuck what do I do, need help [Re: RandalFlagg]
#7349853 - 08/29/07 08:53 PM (16 years, 6 months ago) |
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RandalFlagg said: I wouldn't get involved in shit like that.
Let personal responsibility take its course.
You aren't a nanny.
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leftandright
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Re: Ah fuck what do I do, need help [Re: bukkake]
#7349864 - 08/29/07 08:55 PM (16 years, 6 months ago) |
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ah man up and do it. might get some pussy
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DieCommie
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Re: Ah fuck what do I do, need help [Re: adamj]
#7349884 - 08/29/07 09:00 PM (16 years, 6 months ago) |
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Call the police, and call child services. The child needs to be taken away if the mother refuses to leave. Getting a child taken away is one of the biggest reasons that women leave domestic violence. If not, she will make excuses and stay with him leading to more violence and dysfunction.
The most important thing is the child, and the best thing for her is to be taken out of that home. Otherwise the cycle of violence will just continue and she will likely seek out abusers when she matures.
BTW im not just making this up, my wife is a professional domestic violence advocate with a degree, so I have picked up a thing or two. The man is a lost cause, the women and child are all that matter.
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Maverick
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Re: Ah fuck what do I do, need help [Re: DieCommie]
#7349917 - 08/29/07 09:12 PM (16 years, 6 months ago) |
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Use a bottle, get wasted, and be like "LETS BRAWL!"
Dunno man seriously that's some fucked up shit. Beat his ass if you have to.
Oh, and the child services thing might be a good idear sorta, but the mother would hurt. Just make sure they know the mother needs to be able to see and be with the daughter, and that she's not the threat.
Edited by DRTMaverick (08/29/07 09:13 PM)
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DieCommie
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Re: Ah fuck what do I do, need help [Re: Maverick]
#7349924 - 08/29/07 09:16 PM (16 years, 6 months ago) |
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If she allows the child to be in a violent home, she is a threat.
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Papaver
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Re: Ah fuck what do I do, need help [Re: adamj]
#7349935 - 08/29/07 09:20 PM (16 years, 6 months ago) |
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I dunno...
Sometimes, living in a society and having family and friends, means we form these damned social bonds, which carry responsibility with them, and force us to get involved with stupid shit we really don't want to be involved with... Such is life...
I guess, if you're going to rise to the challenge, then the best thing to do is to try and get him out out of the house and provide some sort of diversionary activity...
It's never a good idea to confront a drunk, about his behavior, when he's drunk. That sort of talk is best left for a sober afternoon or morning the next day...
I don't really have an answer for you. Sometimes I drag myself out of the house over such situations, and sometimes I don't. It all depends on my relationship with the people involved and how I'm feeling at that moment. One thing is for sure, having friends can be a real pain in the ass, but it beats the alternative...
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Re: Ah fuck what do I do, need help [Re: DieCommie]
#7349978 - 08/29/07 09:37 PM (16 years, 6 months ago) |
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DieCommie said: Call the police, and call child services.
This.
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Maverick
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Re: Ah fuck what do I do, need help [Re: DieCommie]
#7349982 - 08/29/07 09:39 PM (16 years, 6 months ago) |
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DieCommie said: If she allows the child to be in a violent home, she is a threat.
She's giving the kid to him. She's trying to get the kid out of the house obviously. She's just scared to do it any other way probably.
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TruuBeeezzy
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Re: Ah fuck what do I do, need help [Re: Maverick]
#7350030 - 08/29/07 09:58 PM (16 years, 6 months ago) |
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DRTMaverick said: Use a bottle, get wasted, and be like "LETS BRAWL!"
winner!
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Re: Ah fuck what do I do, need help [Re: HELLA_TIGHT]
#7350040 - 08/29/07 10:03 PM (16 years, 6 months ago) |
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HELLA_TIGHT said: Why doesn't she leave his drunk ass to get arrested? drrrrrr
Take the girl and leave.
because bitches are stupid and for some reason they LOVE to hook up with drunk assholes that beat them.
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HELLA_TIGHT
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Re: Ah fuck what do I do, need help [Re: Jive turkey]
#7350264 - 08/29/07 11:21 PM (16 years, 6 months ago) |
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haha
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