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Cowgold
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Aggravated by my mom...
#7187971 - 07/17/07 12:48 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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She takes the forever to tell a story. I'll ask her a yes or no question and she starts talking and won't stop. I know... hope the answer was in there somewhere, but I stop listening after the first or second sentence.
Short answers are the best answers.
You ever have someone trap you in a conversation that has no intention of letting you finish talking? You say something that triggers them to talk non-stop for the next 5 minutes. The only way out is to be boarderline rude and cut them off or just walk off midsentence.
I love my mom, but everyone I work with suffers after I end a conversation with her. Puts me in super-dick mode.
The end.
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Re: Aggravated by my mom... [Re: Cowgold]
#7187985 - 07/17/07 12:50 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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i've known teachers who've had strokes that do that
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Re: Aggravated by my mom... [Re: Cowgold]
#7187986 - 07/17/07 12:50 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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dude.. my friends dad was the absolute worst at that... he'd start talking about one thing, and just fucking go on and on forever about it. then start bringing up things that have no relevance or wont be happening for months.. we just stopped even saying stuff to him.... cause hed always do it right as we were about to leave
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Re: Aggravated by my mom... [Re: Cowgold]
#7188024 - 07/17/07 12:56 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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I have a buddy that does that.. on coke mostly. He gets all manic, and goes off on uber long tangents. It starts off you try to be polite, and change the conversation, than you show him you are bored, and stop talking. Than after he's taken control of conversation from everyone in the room, and won't give up this subject that is boring you to tears, and making everyone quite uncomfortable. One day we were begging him for hours to quit, and he straight just wouldn't. I was stuck there, so i feigned sleep untill he quit.
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Cowgold
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Re: Aggravated by my mom... [Re: Infrared]
#7188030 - 07/17/07 12:58 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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I hope your friends dad doesn't have a stroke. 
There's this guy that pours concrete for us and he'll trap you and tell you all about what he's been doing and how good it's been going. I try and hide when he shows up, but if he catches me I have to tough it out cause he does a good job.
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Re: Aggravated by my mom... [Re: Cowgold]
#7188040 - 07/17/07 01:00 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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I reccomend the book Driven To Distraction... Edward M. Hallowell
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Re: Aggravated by my mom... [Re: MyInnerChild]
#7188254 - 07/17/07 01:40 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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I work with a guy, he'll come ask you a question about something and halfway through the first word he'll cut you off and give his input. Then he pauses and you think he's done and start to talk, but as soon as you get a grunt out he cuts you off again. I just think its funny now since Ive worked with him for a long time. This guy is impossible to talk over and even if you are actually talking he has no problem cutting you off and talking about something completely different. The funniest thing is, I really believe he has no idea he is doing it.
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Re: Aggravated by my mom... [Re: Cowgold]
#7190105 - 07/17/07 09:09 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yeah, my mom does that too.
The trick I found was that I can interupt her and stear the conversation with another comment or question.
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Re: Aggravated by my mom... [Re: Cubenisseur]
#7190142 - 07/17/07 09:19 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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I hate when my mom is on the phone she'll just go on and on about every little thing she's doing at that moment. I think she just likes to hear the sound of her voice
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Re: Aggravated by my mom... [Re: Cowgold]
#7190175 - 07/17/07 09:27 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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haha I've got a neighbor that does the same thing.
Will go on and on about something, but he gives those little pauses that you think is you golden chance out of the conversation and maybe start the jog you were supposed to start 15min ago.. so you just barely get out "well see ya lat!......" BAM he interupts and starts a whole new tangent.
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Re: Aggravated by my mom... [Re: Cowgold]
#7190637 - 07/17/07 11:22 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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Love mom while she,s here with you, damn, I wish my parents were here to get on my nerves.
Nope, no shithead names, just demonoid codes r8pry58kjd
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Re: Aggravated by my mom... [Re: shithead]
#7190648 - 07/17/07 11:24 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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I do. She's just hard to communicate with.
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Re: Aggravated by my mom... [Re: Cowgold]
#7190657 - 07/17/07 11:27 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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Thats all there really is, love.
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Re: Aggravated by my mom... [Re: Cowgold]
#7190668 - 07/17/07 11:31 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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I have an aunt that absolutely pisses me off, because she has to be center of attention all the time. You simply can not talk around her, she will interrupt u everytime, and u cant just continue talking and talk over her because she just don't stop. And this really drives me to a violent point when I just want to shake her and hit her in the head a couple of times and ask "What the fuck don't u understand about, 'Please stop fukking interupting me'?"
Being interrupted is a big pet peeve of mine I hate it.
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You can hate ADD without hating the person who has it. For the chronic tangent go-er, one can stop the conversation by hanging up..with a warning beforehand that you'll do it...stated calmly before the frustration escalates. It won't stop if the loved one/friend doesn't get the message that it will simply not be tolerated.
1st try blaming yourself: "Please, let's keep to one topic of conversation..I find it difficult to follow so many ideas at once." Then one might go to: "I love you but I find this going off on tangents extremely frustrating..I'll have to get off if you insist on continuing"
Hopefully after a few times of being hung up on...with a patient warning...the message will get through. Yelling at the person just puts them on the defensive/sends them into denial thus accomplishing nothing or you'll find they put in an effort during the next conversation and then whamo, back to old habits after that.
Unfortunately, my newfound clarity shows me that MY mother does the same thing that I used to put up with....ah well. She sent me a card saying "Thanks for putting up with me just the way I am". Her message: don't expect me to take Addarall at 74, though I know she could and spare my father more frustration over her telling the same story 5 times and telling things she was asked not to repeat and going "on and on" etc. It would spare her more of his telling her to shut up. I heard that on a regular basis all my formative years. I'm re-writing my script....here's an example:
My daughter called me the other day..during the conversation I didn't stop to give directions to another child in the house, I stayed on the one subject we were talking about and that was it. After we got off the phone, she called me right back and said: "Mum, I see that your Addarall is working b/c that was the most normal conversation I've ever had with you".
When interrupted, keep talking...they'll get the message that way too. You're not being rude or trying to "get back" at them, you're just asserting your rights as a human being to be listened to till you've completed your thought.
ADD people a) have many thoughts running at high gear at once. b) have little patience to listen passively without running off at the mouth again. It's embarrassing to have it pointed out but leaving a book on the coffee table to be looked at at their convenience like Driven to Distraction (which addresses ADULT ADD, as well as childhood ADD), may help eventually. Or not if they don't admit/follow through on DOING something about it!
PATIENCE is SO hard with us! Hang in there!
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Re: Aggravated by my mom... [Re: Cowgold]
#7192729 - 07/18/07 01:08 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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I feel you. My mom is like that. It annoys the fucking hell out of me even though I love her more than anything.
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