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BIGSWANG
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Re: no more sex for me and my girlfriend [Re: Amber_Glow]
#7201904 - 07/20/07 10:17 AM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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BOOOM- HEADHSOT
-------------------- Admin Edit: Your signiture is inappropriate and has been removed. Do not harass other members in your signiture. Also refrain from posting links to scat pornography. If I see anything like that here again, you will be banned.
Edited by BIGSWANG (07/20/07 10:17 AM)
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Amber_Glow
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Re: no more sex for me and my girlfriend [Re: BIGSWANG]
#7201916 - 07/20/07 10:21 AM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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I feel bad for being harsh on this guy (lol this is my wuss side coming out, I shouldn't feel bad...) but it's 100% true and this guy needs to hear it for his own good because he is wasting his own time in many ways.
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ManianFH
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Re: no more sex for me and my girlfriend [Re: Amber_Glow]
#7202407 - 07/20/07 12:48 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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im done talking here. you guys have gotten so off base, i dont even know where to start to correct you.
you dont nearly know enough of the parameters of our relationship or my past relationships to make such assumptions, which I suppose is not exactly your fault. nonetheless, the meat of this topic ended on page 2/3.
I wouldnt say I have been bashing on HB in particular.. I made a mental blueprint of all the shit that didnt really hit close to home.. which was a good majority of the trashtalking and whathave you and responded accordingly, so no hard feelings. since very little information of any use has actually been stated since at least a few days ago, im going to repost something that this topic probably should have ended on.
-------------------- notapillow said: "you are going about this endeavor all wrong. clear your mind of useless fear and concern. buy the ticket, take the ride, and all that.... " ChrisWho said: "It's all about the journey, not the destination."
Edited by mickdawg666 (07/20/07 12:50 PM)
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ManianFH
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Re: no more sex for me and my girlfriend [Re: ManianFH]
#7202457 - 07/20/07 12:59 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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Quote:
mickdawg666 said: thanks for the interesting feedback. I am glad so many people found this topic useful or at least interesting.
I have come to the decision that playing any kind of game with her will be detrimental to our relationship, and its not the kind of behavior i want to encourage in her, and least of all myself. I am still not going to make any sexual advances, until she is the intiator. At that point, whether I am in the mood or not will decide whether we take it further.
Also as far as discussing sexual needs that I have, such as receiving blowjobs, handjobs, and her being more active when we are having sex - I will wait for the right time, and ust ask for these things, when I feel like I truly would like them. I don't want her to be my sex slave, that is not the kind of sexual relationship I want. However, these things are important to me, and I dont want to repress that. If she refuses when I ask, well you'll probably see my frustrated rants about it here.
Im not going to play games, or be withdrawn just because im not getting what I want. that feels childish to me. I feel that if we both care about the others needs, both our needs will be met through respectful and truthful communication. - broadly put.
trust.. not headgames I would anyday take lonliness over puttin up a front for my true self. dont lie to yourself man, or the one you love if you ever want a fulfilling relationship. ive tried that macho stuff before, and mainly it doesnt work because i dont like acting like an idiot, it ruins your relationship, becuase youre trying to change personalities in front of your partners eyes... and also becuase its not who I am. save that macho bullshit for the bedroom, not for the fucking mindgames.
-------------------- notapillow said: "you are going about this endeavor all wrong. clear your mind of useless fear and concern. buy the ticket, take the ride, and all that.... " ChrisWho said: "It's all about the journey, not the destination."
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40oz
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Re: no more sex for me and my girlfriend [Re: ManianFH]
#7202621 - 07/20/07 01:43 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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you still didnt answer my question! have you seen american beauty?
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ManianFH
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Re: no more sex for me and my girlfriend [Re: 40oz]
#7203048 - 07/20/07 03:35 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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of course i have, we both have.
shes been off her prozac for a few days and her sex drive is coming back btw.. though she says she feels unstable.. so im probably going to suggest she either get back on it or switch to another med.
welbutrin didnt work too well for her, nor did lexapro.. so well see where to go from here.
HB i hope you dont take anything i said as a personal attack on you - sometimes I get too personal with the stupid shit people say on here to try and get a response, and vent haha. so nothing against you man.
thanks for your input the people who did try
-------------------- notapillow said: "you are going about this endeavor all wrong. clear your mind of useless fear and concern. buy the ticket, take the ride, and all that.... " ChrisWho said: "It's all about the journey, not the destination."
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HB
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Re: no more sex for me and my girlfriend [Re: ManianFH]
#7203058 - 07/20/07 03:40 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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no worries. so long as you read my post that's all that was asked of you ... you do with it what you will.
I was being very genuine though and I feel I have some experience to speak on the matter, having had an ex-gf with the same problem, who was also on Prozac. So at least consider what I have said.
Anyway, good to hear her sex drive is coming back, even slightly. That might tip the odds in the favor of it just being a medication-induced problem, which means it could be fixable.
Stay alert!
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ManianFH
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Re: no more sex for me and my girlfriend [Re: HB]
#7203127 - 07/20/07 03:58 PM (16 years, 7 months ago) |
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yeah man... i dont know sometimes a small problem is exacerbated by listening to the wrong advice. not that its necessarily bad, but just predicated on inaccuracies..
I am typically very confident in myself and my masculinity (when im not fucked over with my anxiety that is)... and reading some of the wrong shit can set that off that anxiety, just making the situation that much worse.
I did re-read your post, and im not sure exactly where we fall in agreement, ill just agree that taking a masculine role is not a bad thing. But im not ever going to do that in a way where i am trying to play games or trick my girlfriend into being more sexual. She loves me for who I am, and nonetheless, I dont want to change my true personality, for her or anyone.
I will consider whats been said in some of the posts here though, thanks.
-------------------- notapillow said: "you are going about this endeavor all wrong. clear your mind of useless fear and concern. buy the ticket, take the ride, and all that.... " ChrisWho said: "It's all about the journey, not the destination."
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