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StickyWater
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Bisexuals are frustrating...
#6845051 - 04/28/07 11:56 AM (16 years, 9 months ago) |
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Edited by StickyWater (04/29/08 01:17 PM)
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: StickyWater]
#6846150 - 04/28/07 05:47 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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why not have a threesome.
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: StickyWater]
#6846714 - 04/28/07 08:12 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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She's punking you, man. If she gets to kiss other people so do you. Gender has nothing to do with it. Fair is fair.
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: DirtMcgirt]
#6847414 - 04/28/07 11:23 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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Edited by StickyWater (04/29/08 01:16 PM)
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: StickyWater]
#6848705 - 04/29/07 08:24 AM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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StickyWater said: She's told me she probably wont stop because there's nothing I should be getting jealous over and that's just how they've always expressed their close friendship.
shes perfectly right imho, you seriously need to chill out dude.
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: ohmatic]
#6848924 - 04/29/07 10:00 AM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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ohmatic said:
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StickyWater said: She's told me she probably wont stop because there's nothing I should be getting jealous over and that's just how they've always expressed their close friendship.
shes perfectly right imho, you seriously need to chill out dude.
imo that is the clear bullshit of someone who wants to have their cake and eat it too
i have a friend who is borderline bisexual (though i can't be certain that she doesn't just like the image), she once said 'any guy i go out with has to understand that i'm going to kiss girls and stuff or he can shit off', in fact she often says this, or variations on the theme. So it makes me think about the twisted double standard of the female brain. I think it is a massive grey area and anyone involved has to make their own decision.
Im afraid i can't comment further than that first line on your situation stickywater, as you clearly have deeper feelings for the girl than i am qualified to judge or advise you on, in this situation.
But personally, id say to any girl like that (before it got too deep i guess, or as a chance that it might) - "no fucking bullshit, if you want to kiss or fool around with other people, irrespective of gender (consider my sexuality you fucking bitch!)** then i want to as well. If they whined about it, trying to spoon me all that close friend crap then i would a) tell them to go fuck themselves, as they are doing it for sexual gratification, whether it is an expression of friendship or not, it still is what it is. or b ) i'd just fool around and not tell them, if they found out and got mad id call them a disgusting hypocrite.
Sorry these things dont help as they dont consider deep feelings, but i think that girls that think like that are being dishonest to themselves and those that they love or at least are involved with. They have warped themselves round an edict of contemporary culture and i find it a monumental insult of a selfish and immature mindset that they might say 'oh you can kiss guys, no problem', to a hetrosexual male (or female).
As a final note of experience - i have kissed a couple of guys, friends, as an experience. I wouldnt do it often as it doesnt fulfill me sexually, if your girl is doing this stuff often, then it does give her a sexual kick and like i say, gender shouldnt come into it as she would like it.
Hope this is food for thought. Apologies if it sounds a little like a militant rant at times but i feel strongly on double standards that hide behind skewed takes on the current culture of the unenlightened. lol more militancy, but yeah.
good luck sorting your shit out bro
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: Jackenobi]
#6853583 - 04/30/07 11:31 AM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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Edited by StickyWater (04/29/08 01:16 PM)
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: StickyWater]
#6853932 - 04/30/07 01:18 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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I completely feel you on that. I had a bi girlfriend, and the relationship was AMAZING. The only thing that killed me was my jealousy toward her wanting to be with other girls. In my eyes, being with another girl, even doing ANYTHING this another girl was a no-go, simply because it's another person. It's another person that would be receiving the affection that's for me only, and I completely opposed to it.
It's different when you actually care about the person, you know? I could have a threesome with 2 girls I just met but if it's my girlfriend I couldn't do it..
It always reminds me of Friends, and how Ross lost his wife when they had a threesome. She concentrated on the other chic and left him out of it and I'll be DAMNED if that happens to me.
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: Newbie]
#6854316 - 04/30/07 03:20 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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My girlfriend is bisexual, and we've had this conversation before. We have a very loving and trusting relationship, but when we first started dating, we both hooked up with her friend.
It was a fun experience, but a few weeks later she told me that she had been making out with her friend at her friends boyfriends house. I felt kind of left out, and overwhelmed with emotions, kind of like you have.
I talked with her about it saying, its one thing if we experience this stuff together as a couple, but when you make out or hook up with other people (girl or guy) by yourself, it hurts me. She said ok, well do that kind of thing together.
Dude, if its causing you anxiety and emotional frustration, something needs to change, either you, her or the relationship. Since you're in a relationship, tell her that her actions kissing other girls hurt you, and you have no interest in being with those other girls, only her. Ask her to respect your feelings in the same way.
Its not worth playing games and going around hooking up with other girls to get back at her, if she continues to hook up with other people without regard to your emotions, its time to end the relationship.
Some people might say thats like giving an ultimatum, but honestly, dont settle for something that hurts you man. Theres plenty of girls out there who like only guys, or would respect your need for a loyal relationship.
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: StickyWater]
#6854322 - 04/30/07 03:22 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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Would you think it is ok for her to be with another guy?
I am bisexual. We like both guys and girls. Persons are persons. People are people. We are attracted to humans not girls or guys. You are on an equal level with the girls she is doing. She doesn't draw a distinction between sexes and neither should you. She just wants to have her cake and eat it too.
That is how it works for me anyway. If I am seeing a guy, I do not feel a need to see a girl at the same time to 'fulfill' me, and vice versa. A bisexual can be just as monogamous. This girl just doesn't like having one partner at a time.
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: Amber_Glow]
#6854928 - 04/30/07 06:59 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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Edited by StickyWater (04/29/08 01:16 PM)
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: StickyWater]
#6855158 - 04/30/07 07:47 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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Bi girlfriend messing around with girls...physical distance...emotional uncertainty 
I feel your pain. My current girlfriend, the love of my life, is bi, and there is a definite pain that comes with being attached to someone who is bi. Only the inexperienced would suggest a threesome.
I don't have any advice right now because I smoked myself stupid today but I wanted to let you know that I know how you feel. And regardless of what happens with this girl, don't let her walk all over you. Be strong and maintain your own heart first.
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: gluke bastid]
#6855518 - 04/30/07 08:57 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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Every one needs to watch or re-watch Chasing Amy. 
Great flick.
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you need to chill out man! my gf is bisexual also and I made it very clear to her since the beginning that if she wants to have some fun with a girl then I have to be there also If she won't agree to that, ditch her.
Also, if anyone has issues with even that...they must be crazy! it was one of my best experiences watching my gf eat out another girl and make her cum.... yum
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: compman]
#6858347 - 05/01/07 01:40 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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So you wouldn't mind if your gf sucked another man's dick and made him cum in her mouth?
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: gluke bastid]
#6859257 - 05/01/07 05:32 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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If it was a trusting relationship I dont see why not. If I can have sex with other girls with her, why cant she have sex with other guys with me?
I think going into details tries to blow the concept out of proportion which is that if you and your partner truly care for each other, you'll be respectful of what each other would like to experience, or not experience.
This goes both ways however, for both people.
If one person cant handle something, i.e. his girlfriend sucking some guy off in a threesome she wants to have, then that person shouldn't take advantage of having a threesome with her and another girl, and being able to eat that other girl out.
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: StickyWater]
#6861737 - 05/02/07 05:00 AM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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Indirectly if so, so why make/let them be?
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: Gomp]
#6862749 - 05/02/07 12:21 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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Edited by StickyWater (04/29/08 01:15 PM)
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: StickyWater]
#6862902 - 05/02/07 01:21 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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Not to give the cliche response, but man, you have quite the opportunity here. Fuck threesomes, hang out with a bunch of her friends and have a full-blown _____girls + 1 man orgy.
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: StickyWater]
#6866000 - 05/03/07 02:33 AM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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It sounds like she's still yearning to explore her sexuality with women/multiple partners, and that she may have jumped into a monogamous relationship before she was ready. As opposed to confronting her, mebbe you could just try to have an honest, open dialogue about what she's feeling, it may help her process her own feelings and be more conscious of them herself. You might not find the answers you're wanting to hear, but at least you'll understand.
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Re: Bisexuals are frustrating... [Re: CosmicJoke]
#6866073 - 05/03/07 03:24 AM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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Edited by StickyWater (04/29/08 01:15 PM)
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