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Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her
#6611716 - 02/26/07 07:39 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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I know she has a boyfriend, she knows I know she has a boyfriend. I've met her boyfriend twice.
I haven't known her THAT long, we've hung out maybe 4-5 times.
Tell her I like her and could be more than friends? Don't tell her? I feel like if I don't tell her it will eat me alive.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: freddurgan] 2
#6611725 - 02/26/07 07:43 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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I tend to not say anything if I know there is someone else involved in the picture, just because I think it's the respectful thing to do (and believe it or not, I don't always think with my dick)
But it's really up to you. Just keep in mind that if she really likes this guy, you probably won't be friends with her afterwards or if you are it may be awkward at times
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: freddurgan]
#6611757 - 02/26/07 08:10 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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If you wanna be this girls boyfriend I'd suggest you just wait it out and hope they break up. If she breaks up with him because she wants to date you, don't you think it would eat you up inside that she could do the same thing to you eventually with another guy? It's like if she were cheating on her boyfriend with you and then they broke up and you became her boyfriend. why whouldn't she cheat on you too? But if you're just looking for a lay then you could go right ahead. just don't hope for anything more. I personally would just wait it out either way.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: cookeman]
#6611768 - 02/26/07 08:13 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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God damnit. You guys are right.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: freddurgan]
#6611786 - 02/26/07 08:22 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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Dropping hints and flirting a bit is ok to do now. IMO. Cause after all, love hurts. That's the nature of the beast, people change partners over time.
But Cookeman makes some excellent points. And unless you fear she will never break up with him. Then wait it out awhile. In the meantime, be the best friend you can be. Maybe even surprise her with a gift sometime, but don't get crazy and come on to strong.
Play it cool, calm, and collective.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: cookeman]
#6611796 - 02/26/07 08:24 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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Tell her I like her and could be more than friends? Don't tell her? I feel like if I don't tell her it will eat me alive.
Don't say anything. As long as she's taken, it will eat you alive anyway. Just be the guy who is more fun to hang around with than her boyfriend. If you can't be that guy, you'll never end up with her anyway.
Just have fun with her, flirt here and there, if she likes you she'll let you know. Don't get attached to a girl who is not single.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: freddurgan]
#6611814 - 02/26/07 08:31 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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don't say anything. i know it sucks, but it's not your place to come between her and her boyfriend. trust me, you do not want to be that guy... cause that guy is a dick.
if they break up, then go for it. but don't hold your breath... best bet is to move on and let whatever is gonna happen, happen.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: WhiskeyClone]
#6611825 - 02/26/07 08:37 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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Just have fun with her, flirt here and there, if she likes you she'll let you know.
i disagree with the "flirt here and there" part. whenever guys who know that i am taken flirt with me, it always makes me think they are lame and desperate. i mean, if they know i have someone, then wtf are they doing except trying to come between me and that person= LAME.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: a2ndopinion]
#6611828 - 02/26/07 08:39 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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BEWARE THE FRIEND ZONE
Other than that - i have no advice.
but beware the friend zone, see "Just Friends" the movie for reference i you are unaware of what the friend zone is.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: a2ndopinion]
#6611897 - 02/26/07 09:12 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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i mean, if they know i have someone, then wtf are they doing except trying to come between me and that person= LAME.
Ah flirting doesn't have to be disrespectful like that... it isn't always an attempt to subvert someone's relationship. It's merely to establish a repore. Do you really think everyone who flirts with you is trying to steal you away?
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: WhiskeyClone]
#6611981 - 02/26/07 09:51 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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WhiskeyClone said: Just be the guy who is more fun to hang around with than her boyfriend.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: freddurgan]
#6612027 - 02/26/07 10:20 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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DOn't tell her.
Just be cool for the time being and just be the guy that she knows likes her but has the patience and maturity to wait it out.
More than likely she's nothing special and you should go find someone who's not taken, because you probably only really like her because she's unattainable anyway.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Penguarky Tunguin]
#6612032 - 02/26/07 10:22 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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Telling her is probably the worst idea you've ever had. Just fantasise about her suffering a horrific injury like losing a leg, her boyfriend leaving her cos he cant cope, and you taking care of her for the rest of her life, pushing the wheel chair and helping her learn to walk on her artificial limb. Thats probably what Id do anyway.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: freddurgan]
#6612044 - 02/26/07 10:27 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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If you don't mind being sneaky then you could just linger as a good *friend* until her bf pisses her off and she needs a shoulder to cry on.
Ahhh, catching them on the rebound - the oldest and dirtiest trick in the book!
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Ego Death]
#6612053 - 02/26/07 10:30 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Ego Death]
#6612073 - 02/26/07 10:38 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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If you catch her on the rebound, it won't last. You can probably fuck her brains out for a few months while she pines over her lost love and pretends that shes into you because she needs affection and thinks that if she holds onto you, you'll help her get over him.
Rebounds never last. But if that is what you want to be, go for it. Everyone needs a rebound relationship.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: CherryBom]
#6612221 - 02/26/07 11:42 AM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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or... 1) become a master at lucid dreaming. 2) make love to her in your sleep.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: WhiskeyClone]
#6612380 - 02/26/07 12:31 PM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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i mean, if they know i have someone, then wtf are they doing except trying to come between me and that person= LAME.
Ah flirting doesn't have to be disrespectful like that... it isn't always an attempt to subvert someone's relationship. It's merely to establish a repore. Do you really think everyone who flirts with you is trying to steal you away?
no, i don't think that everyone who flirts with me is trying to steal me away. i just think it's lame, and i don't see the point if it is known that one or both of the flirters are involved with someone. i don't flirt with other guys... cause what's the point? i have a BF. i'll flirt with him if i feel the need to flirt.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: CherryBom]
#6612412 - 02/26/07 12:44 PM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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CB is right about rebound relationships I just got out of one... it was great for both us.
Once I went on a college trip with some people for a long weekend, got to be really good friends with a girl in my group for Geology kind of like match in heaven shit we fucked a few times she left her boyfriend a week later and we dated 8 months solid after that and only parted because heading different directions in our lives. I never mentioned anything about WANTING her even though she had a boyfriend. The key is to see her and talk to her without him really even in the picture.. Pretend he does not exist and if she mentions him his existance is insignifigant...
Edit: Why is everyone caught up with status of a individual. I myself even if in a relationship am OPEN to meeting someone new and beautiful that might just be the person that is my match. I guess I'm just a dreamer when everyone else is a realist. I mean think about how many times in your life you have changed your mind.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: rawtoxic]
#6612567 - 02/26/07 01:30 PM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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rawtoxic said: CB is right about rebound relationships I just got out of one... it was great for both us.
Once I went on a college trip with some people for a long weekend, got to be really good friends with a girl in my group for Geology kind of like match in heaven shit we fucked a few times she left her boyfriend a week later and we dated 8 months solid after that and only parted because heading different directions in our lives. I never mentioned anything about WANTING her even though she had a boyfriend. The key is to see her and talk to her without him really even in the picture.. Pretend he does not exist and if she mentions him his existance is insignifigant...
Edit: Why is everyone caught up with status of a individual. I myself even if in a relationship am OPEN to meeting someone new and beautiful that might just be the person that is my match. I guess I'm just a dreamer when everyone else is a realist. I mean think about how many times in your life you have changed your mind.
dude... i am all about keeping an open mind... but i am also all about respecting the person i am in a relationship with. if i wanted to play the field and fuck lots of guys, i wouldn't agree to be in a committed, exclusive relationship. that's just the way i am though.
that girl that ultimately left her BF for you also cheated on him with you. in my book, that deserves a . cheating is never even almost ok. break up with the person first, and then fuck whoever you want... but don't cheat.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: a2ndopinion]
#6613391 - 02/26/07 05:00 PM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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Well I didn't tell her and I'm not going to. I'm glad I asked.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: freddurgan]
#6614258 - 02/26/07 08:45 PM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
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drama on the forum? lol, oh well, i wouldnt know the answer
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: drumanick0]
#6615609 - 02/27/07 04:23 AM (17 years, 24 days ago) |
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It sucks to be in that position.
I would also say don't tell her. Or tell her that you like her, but don't expect a single thing back. I just have no idea how that would turn out, since I don't know what she's like at all. I agree with being more fun than her boyfriend, be cool. If it's meant to happen, it will.
My boyfriend was in a similar situation as you about two years ago. We worked together, we hung out a few times, and he liked me but I had a boyfriend.
(Sidenote: I wasn't at all into my "boyfriend" at the time; he was this kind of lame ANNOYING douchebag that I didn't want to be with. I told him I didn't want to be with him and he just pestered me and pleaded until I FINALLY gave in, because I'm generally a nice person who likes to make others happy...I wish I'd been stronger though.)
Anyway, my current boyfriend was obviously WAY better and more fun to be around, so... I broke up with the lame ass guy, who I'd only been with like a month anyway, because it needed to be done. So eventually, my current boyfriend, the fun, happy, awesome!!! one got to be with me in the end. If you really do like her, just try to be there for her and show her a good time so she'll want to spend more of it with you.
My boyfriend thought about telling me too. In fact, he was actually going to freak out at me and tell me that I should be with him and stuff. I would have been shocked (in a mostly good way...I think) if he had, but I'm really glad he didn't. It showed that he respected me, my feelings, my other "relationship," etc. He waited until I was free & had been single for a while before telling me that he "really liked me" And we were a couple .2 seconds later, because I really liked him as well!
He did do things to show that he liked me without ever stating it though, like...he told me he hated feet, but mine were cute (what a great pick up line, eh?), and one time we tripped on mushrooms together, he told me that I could lick his ear because he knew I wanted to lick his ear (another gem). One time when he thought I was sleeping, he held my hand...kind of scurried away FAST once he realized I was awake, though, HAHA!! There are ways that you can let on that are fairly innocent and won't get you into trouble. Also, if she does indeed like you back, it'll reinforce that.
Good luck, man!
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: fluffyfluffy]
#6615631 - 02/27/07 04:40 AM (17 years, 24 days ago) |
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best advice...
you got to downplay the fact that she has a b/f keep reminding her how much fun she is missing out on and try to make her "self-fulfill" the above facts
you must not let her pick up on these psychological games
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: tonyperez420]
#6615924 - 02/27/07 07:59 AM (17 years, 24 days ago) |
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My brother is in a similar situation atm, but feels that it is immoral to try and steal the girl that he is pining for. Realistically, he either has to be unscrupulous and steal her from her bf or give it away and start looking elsewhere where he might actually find what he's looking for..
The point is, you could end up waiting a lot longer then you might think. With no guarantee of getting together with her, even if she ends up ditching the current bf.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: freddurgan]
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Take what you THINK you DESERVE. Then smokabowla. Stop. PONDER.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: SweaterWEATher]
#19509789 - 02/02/14 07:22 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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SweaterWEATher said: Take what you THINK you DESERVE. Then smokabowla. Stop. PONDER.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Synthe]
#19510257 - 02/02/14 10:18 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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All is fair in love and war bro.
If there's no ring on her finger then go for it.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: freddurgan]
#19510275 - 02/02/14 10:22 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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You should not say anything or make any hints. Additionally someone said to wait it out and that is the worst advice ever.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Bikerfool]
#19510276 - 02/02/14 10:22 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I think people take the boyfriend girlfriend thing too seriously.
It's an experimental time of heart break, and doing what's best for one's self.
The game changes when people get engaged and married, but until then, game on.
Let passion be your guide, not rules of right and wrong behavior.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Bikerfool] 1
#19510331 - 02/02/14 10:34 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Bikerfool said:
The game changes when people get engaged and married, but until then, game on.
Let passion be your guide, not rules of right and wrong behavior.
It's not a game, douche bag. It's shitty to try and mess peoples relationships up.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: robbyberto] 1
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Funny thing is people love to act like this. "I can get any girl even if she isn't single." But when it comes time to deal with an angry boyfriend they cower. IDC how unshroomy it is but anyone who trys breaking up a couple for personal gain deserves an ass kicking. The fact you want to ruin other peoples happiness for your own is unshroomy.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Mescalean]
#19510705 - 02/02/14 11:56 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I have been in this exact situation. I got the girl eventually and lost her to another guy she ended up secretly seeing. I was acquaintances with her for a few years after that and she did the exact same tree swinging thing to guy after guy. Your girl could or could not be like this. It could be that she hasn't dated anyone in a while. That said, I would never date someone who needs a partner.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: All We Perceive]
#19510762 - 02/02/14 12:10 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I was in a similar predicament with a chick un till Friday afternoon when she text me out of the blue blatantly pointing to the fact that she wanted to go out.
I text her back and asked her about her boyfriend and she said they had split up. Were now going for a drink one night next week after work haha
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Bubbles85]
#19510778 - 02/02/14 12:14 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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U guys think too hard about everything in life just gonwith the flow an everything will fall into place
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Sheekle]
#19510801 - 02/02/14 12:20 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I just realized this thread is like 7 years old
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: robbyberto]
#19510895 - 02/02/14 12:44 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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robbyberto said:
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Bikerfool said:
The game changes when people get engaged and married, but until then, game on.
Let passion be your guide, not rules of right and wrong behavior.
It's not a game, douche bag. It's shitty to try and mess peoples relationships up.
Dating is a game and the purpose of it is to find out who you're best suited for, and who you'd like to make a permanent arrangement with.
A lot of people don't see it like this and end up in stagnant relationships or marrying someone they're not well suited for.
This is a big reason why divorce rates are so high. Because people take they're situation too seriously, don't explore other options, and find out a couple years later that they're not with the right person.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: All We Perceive]
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Bubbles85]
#19510933 - 02/02/14 12:51 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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leave her alone, she's happy
haha i'm such a bitch
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: a2ndopinion]
#19510939 - 02/02/14 12:52 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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lol clearly op is not black, without question they would not be worried about this. Not to be racist. Im a civil rights activist and everything. Lol but op is not black.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: ShiVersblood]
#19511519 - 02/02/14 02:47 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: freddurgan]
#19511610 - 02/02/14 03:03 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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i would like an update from freddurgan. 7 years later, did you end up with this girl after telling her?
are you now married to one another with 3 children? or are you single, and reading this while eating knock-off mac and cheese in a pay-by-week motel?
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: ManianFH]
#19513652 - 02/02/14 11:12 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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been in a similar situation. just wait and they'll break up if she starts to like you enough. pretty rough to do but w/e
fuck bitches get money
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: indica]
#19513655 - 02/02/14 11:13 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Indica's back? weren't you just in antartica or some shit?
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: TrentBoyett]
#19513720 - 02/02/14 11:34 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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yeah mang. been back about a week, just chillin.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: indica]
#19513742 - 02/02/14 11:39 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Damn, how long were you there for? Your thread about leaving doesn't seem like it was that long ago. Were you involved with that trapped ship at all?
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: indica]
#19513819 - 02/03/14 12:02 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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TrentBoyett said: Damn, how long were you there for? Your thread about leaving doesn't seem like it was that long ago. Were you involved with that trapped ship at all?
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indica said: yeah mang. been back about a week, just chillin.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: NotTheDevil]
#19513833 - 02/03/14 12:07 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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yeah i was involved in that shit. actually that reminds me i should go and update the thead about it with all the shit that went down.
that was a fucking tits up hahaha what a bunch of wankers
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: indica]
#19513869 - 02/03/14 12:22 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: freddurgan]
#19513977 - 02/03/14 01:03 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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i'm in this same boat at the moment. kind of shitty. because the girl is almost the perfect woman and realyl flirty, but she is in a serious relationship and i think just wants to stay friends.
one of those " right place, wrong time " things.
i'm probably just going to give up on things soon. see how they go for a bout a week and then call it quits. i don't want it to drag out into one of those ongoing things. cos i'll just end up obsessed with her and that wont end well for myself.
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Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: freddurgan]
#19514061 - 02/03/14 01:23 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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freddurgan said: I know she has a boyfriend, she knows I know she has a boyfriend. I've met her boyfriend twice.
I haven't known her THAT long, we've hung out maybe 4-5 times.
Tell her I like her and could be more than friends? Don't tell her? I feel like if I don't tell her it will eat me alive.
Well hell, that was in February 2007. I have a bad feeling things didnt work out between the two of them.
I always feel like I am spelling it wrong when I put a R after the B in February. Who was the retarded homosexual who decided how to spell February. Febuary looks more accurate in my book.
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