|
freddurgan
Techgnostic
Registered: 01/11/04
Posts: 3,648
Last seen: 11 years, 9 months
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: a2ndopinion]
#6613391 - 02/26/07 05:00 PM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
|
|
Well I didn't tell her and I'm not going to. I'm glad I asked.
|
drumanick0
Stranger
Registered: 12/20/06
Posts: 58
Last seen: 15 years, 10 months
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: freddurgan]
#6614258 - 02/26/07 08:45 PM (17 years, 25 days ago) |
|
|
drama on the forum? lol, oh well, i wouldnt know the answer
-------------------- None of the pictures and things I say are real. They are all just for kicks. My Journal
|
fluffyfluffy
Awesome!
Registered: 02/17/07
Posts: 87
Loc: California
Last seen: 16 years, 10 months
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: drumanick0]
#6615609 - 02/27/07 04:23 AM (17 years, 24 days ago) |
|
|
It sucks to be in that position.
I would also say don't tell her. Or tell her that you like her, but don't expect a single thing back. I just have no idea how that would turn out, since I don't know what she's like at all. I agree with being more fun than her boyfriend, be cool. If it's meant to happen, it will.
My boyfriend was in a similar situation as you about two years ago. We worked together, we hung out a few times, and he liked me but I had a boyfriend.
(Sidenote: I wasn't at all into my "boyfriend" at the time; he was this kind of lame ANNOYING douchebag that I didn't want to be with. I told him I didn't want to be with him and he just pestered me and pleaded until I FINALLY gave in, because I'm generally a nice person who likes to make others happy...I wish I'd been stronger though.)
Anyway, my current boyfriend was obviously WAY better and more fun to be around, so... I broke up with the lame ass guy, who I'd only been with like a month anyway, because it needed to be done. So eventually, my current boyfriend, the fun, happy, awesome!!! one got to be with me in the end. If you really do like her, just try to be there for her and show her a good time so she'll want to spend more of it with you.
My boyfriend thought about telling me too. In fact, he was actually going to freak out at me and tell me that I should be with him and stuff. I would have been shocked (in a mostly good way...I think) if he had, but I'm really glad he didn't. It showed that he respected me, my feelings, my other "relationship," etc. He waited until I was free & had been single for a while before telling me that he "really liked me" And we were a couple .2 seconds later, because I really liked him as well!
He did do things to show that he liked me without ever stating it though, like...he told me he hated feet, but mine were cute (what a great pick up line, eh?), and one time we tripped on mushrooms together, he told me that I could lick his ear because he knew I wanted to lick his ear (another gem). One time when he thought I was sleeping, he held my hand...kind of scurried away FAST once he realized I was awake, though, HAHA!! There are ways that you can let on that are fairly innocent and won't get you into trouble. Also, if she does indeed like you back, it'll reinforce that.
Good luck, man!
|
tonyperez420
Shaman Rasta
Registered: 11/03/04
Posts: 1,234
Last seen: 11 years, 1 month
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: fluffyfluffy]
#6615631 - 02/27/07 04:40 AM (17 years, 24 days ago) |
|
|
best advice...
you got to downplay the fact that she has a b/f keep reminding her how much fun she is missing out on and try to make her "self-fulfill" the above facts
you must not let her pick up on these psychological games
|
Fungimental
stranger thanfiction
Registered: 09/24/06
Posts: 41
Loc: Australya
Last seen: 11 years, 8 months
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: tonyperez420]
#6615924 - 02/27/07 07:59 AM (17 years, 24 days ago) |
|
|
My brother is in a similar situation atm, but feels that it is immoral to try and steal the girl that he is pining for. Realistically, he either has to be unscrupulous and steal her from her bf or give it away and start looking elsewhere where he might actually find what he's looking for..
The point is, you could end up waiting a lot longer then you might think. With no guarantee of getting together with her, even if she ends up ditching the current bf.
-------------------- "Consider the lilly ..in the field" "Consider the lilly?" "Ah, well the birds then" "What birds?" "Any birds" "Why??" "Well, have they got jobs?" "Who?" "The birds!" "Have the birds got jobs!?"
|
SweaterWEATher
Natural Shaman
Registered: 07/01/13
Posts: 51
Last seen: 10 years, 1 month
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: freddurgan]
#19509373 - 02/02/14 04:43 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Take what you THINK you DESERVE. Then smokabowla. Stop. PONDER.
-------------------- Acceptance is the first step to happiness. You don't have to like me but we can come together on similar interests. Whatchu got? Dis I got. If you can be, just be free. ...Next, came You.
|
Synthe
Gatorade me, bitch!
Registered: 11/10/12
Posts: 7,961
Loc: Three bags of Funyuns
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: SweaterWEATher]
#19509789 - 02/02/14 07:22 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Quote:
SweaterWEATher said: Take what you THINK you DESERVE. Then smokabowla. Stop. PONDER.
(6 years, 11 months ago)
--------------------
|
Bikerfool
Your Local Edgelord
Registered: 11/21/05
Posts: 1,579
Last seen: 6 hours, 23 minutes
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Synthe]
#19510257 - 02/02/14 10:18 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
All is fair in love and war bro.
If there's no ring on her finger then go for it.
|
robbyberto
Water Boy
Registered: 05/11/06
Posts: 15,502
Loc: Netherlands
Last seen: 1 month, 15 days
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: freddurgan]
#19510275 - 02/02/14 10:22 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
You should not say anything or make any hints. Additionally someone said to wait it out and that is the worst advice ever.
-------------------- “People say having kids is life changing, well that doesn’t necessarily mean a good thing, does it? I could take one of my legs off. That would change my life.” -Karl Pilkington
|
Bikerfool
Your Local Edgelord
Registered: 11/21/05
Posts: 1,579
Last seen: 6 hours, 23 minutes
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Bikerfool]
#19510276 - 02/02/14 10:22 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
I think people take the boyfriend girlfriend thing too seriously.
It's an experimental time of heart break, and doing what's best for one's self.
The game changes when people get engaged and married, but until then, game on.
Let passion be your guide, not rules of right and wrong behavior.
|
robbyberto
Water Boy
Registered: 05/11/06
Posts: 15,502
Loc: Netherlands
Last seen: 1 month, 15 days
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Bikerfool] 1
#19510331 - 02/02/14 10:34 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Quote:
Bikerfool said:
The game changes when people get engaged and married, but until then, game on.
Let passion be your guide, not rules of right and wrong behavior.
It's not a game, douche bag. It's shitty to try and mess peoples relationships up.
-------------------- “People say having kids is life changing, well that doesn’t necessarily mean a good thing, does it? I could take one of my legs off. That would change my life.” -Karl Pilkington
|
Mescalean
Burke is love, burke is life.
Registered: 01/18/12
Posts: 6,755
Last seen: 7 years, 15 days
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: robbyberto] 1
#19510460 - 02/02/14 11:04 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Funny thing is people love to act like this. "I can get any girl even if she isn't single." But when it comes time to deal with an angry boyfriend they cower. IDC how unshroomy it is but anyone who trys breaking up a couple for personal gain deserves an ass kicking. The fact you want to ruin other peoples happiness for your own is unshroomy.
-------------------- FREE BURKE
|
All We Perceive
Sea Cucumber
Registered: 09/24/07
Posts: 10,491
Last seen: 8 months, 23 days
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Mescalean]
#19510705 - 02/02/14 11:56 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
I have been in this exact situation. I got the girl eventually and lost her to another guy she ended up secretly seeing. I was acquaintances with her for a few years after that and she did the exact same tree swinging thing to guy after guy. Your girl could or could not be like this. It could be that she hasn't dated anyone in a while. That said, I would never date someone who needs a partner.
-------------------- "plus they atually think jambands are good or sumthing, so they clearly know absolutely nothing about music, clearly lol" -Bassfreak
|
Bubbles85
Registered: 10/15/12
Posts: 2,884
Loc: England
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: All We Perceive]
#19510762 - 02/02/14 12:10 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
I was in a similar predicament with a chick un till Friday afternoon when she text me out of the blue blatantly pointing to the fact that she wanted to go out.
I text her back and asked her about her boyfriend and she said they had split up. Were now going for a drink one night next week after work haha
|
Sheekle
FREE BURKE
Registered: 01/11/10
Posts: 53,153
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Bubbles85]
#19510778 - 02/02/14 12:14 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
U guys think too hard about everything in life just gonwith the flow an everything will fall into place
-------------------- "Ur cat died because he hated u" - Koods "I hope JSB kicks your ass one day." - Vandago "you are the biggest 'internet guy' I have ever come across"- Jokeshopbeard "The more I see you post the more I realize you're just this fuckin tie dye loser who trolls the Shroomery 24/7." - Herbologist "Sheekle you cannot vile the dice of bullshit you have posted on this forum over the years, I like databases" - thelastoneleft "or maybe i just come from a blood line of superior intelligence" - trees R.I.P Kelsy, ?/?/?? - 6/11/16
|
All We Perceive
Sea Cucumber
Registered: 09/24/07
Posts: 10,491
Last seen: 8 months, 23 days
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Sheekle]
#19510801 - 02/02/14 12:20 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
I just realized this thread is like 7 years old
-------------------- "plus they atually think jambands are good or sumthing, so they clearly know absolutely nothing about music, clearly lol" -Bassfreak
|
Bikerfool
Your Local Edgelord
Registered: 11/21/05
Posts: 1,579
Last seen: 6 hours, 23 minutes
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: robbyberto]
#19510895 - 02/02/14 12:44 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Quote:
robbyberto said:
Quote:
Bikerfool said:
The game changes when people get engaged and married, but until then, game on.
Let passion be your guide, not rules of right and wrong behavior.
It's not a game, douche bag. It's shitty to try and mess peoples relationships up.
Dating is a game and the purpose of it is to find out who you're best suited for, and who you'd like to make a permanent arrangement with.
A lot of people don't see it like this and end up in stagnant relationships or marrying someone they're not well suited for.
This is a big reason why divorce rates are so high. Because people take they're situation too seriously, don't explore other options, and find out a couple years later that they're not with the right person.
|
Bubbles85
Registered: 10/15/12
Posts: 2,884
Loc: England
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: All We Perceive]
#19510909 - 02/02/14 12:46 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
|
showme
Stranger
Registered: 01/23/09
Posts: 1,782
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: Bubbles85]
#19510933 - 02/02/14 12:51 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
leave her alone, she's happy
haha i'm such a bitch
-------------------- Imagination is the organ of meaning.
|
ShiVersblood
VAmPiRES HELLA ❤
Registered: 08/18/07
Posts: 115,642
Loc: United States of America
Last seen: 20 hours, 11 minutes
|
Re: Telling a girl who has a boyfriend that you really dig her [Re: a2ndopinion]
#19510939 - 02/02/14 12:52 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
lol clearly op is not black, without question they would not be worried about this. Not to be racist. Im a civil rights activist and everything. Lol but op is not black.
|
|