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good / bad idea to move a gf in?
    #6550046 - 02/10/07 11:17 AM (14 years, 3 months ago)

a friend of mine is getting kicked out of her place soon, and needs a place to stay. she's pretty far away (same state), so we haven't been in a serious relationship with each other or anything for a while...

anyways, i'm doing pretty good right now, and have the space, but i'm really worried about her cramping my style - plus in case it doesnt work out, not sure how i would deal with the situation since i wouldnt want to just kick her out on the street. She's already talking about getting a job, so I don't think that will be too much of a problem, but who knows. I'm a cynic.

just looking for some advice on the situation from anyone who has something to say one way or the other.


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Re: good / bad idea to move a gf in? [Re: kotik]
    #6550443 - 02/10/07 02:18 PM (14 years, 3 months ago)

It sort of sounds to me like you're asking for trouble with that situation. Moving in a girl who you were previously in a relationship with, but now you're not anymore? jealousy issues will spring up, tension, etc. Plus, like you said, what happens if/when you don't want her there anymore? That could get mighty ugly. I would offer to help her find a place, but I wouldn't move her into yours necessarily, unless she's literally going to wind up homeless. In that case, I would let her stay there temporarily, while she finds an alternate living situation. Living with friends can always cause issues, but especially when it's friends of the opposite sex that you have hooked up with in the past. That's my opinion, anyways.


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Re: good / bad idea to move a gf in? [Re: Liz]
    #6550592 - 02/10/07 03:05 PM (14 years, 3 months ago)

i agree with liz.. sounds like a bad situation waiting to blow up in your face..

i guess it would all depend on how bad you NEED to have a roomate in order to keep the bills in line and what not.. but i dont think id ever move in an ex-gf.

my 2 cents.


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Re: good / bad idea to move a gf in? [Re: kotik]
    #6551982 - 02/10/07 09:52 PM (14 years, 3 months ago)

Well since you already feel somethings wrong (otherwise you wouldn't make that thread) I think it's a very big possibility that it will suck. The funny thing is that a few months ago I was asking the same questions you do and of course it went like shit.
I had to help a friend (one of my best friends), so not exactly bf but anyways. Si I had that questions too before he moved in but I said like... I can't just leave him out on the streets when I can help him out... he came and from the very first days he started to become annoying but I said well it's just me not being used to having someone around that much... but then things got worse, my house was a mess all the time because he didn't clean at all. Besides the cleaning up issue there were others too like I couldn't have any private moments with my boyfriend because he was always there and felt that it was no need for him to leave since he was "minding his business". I told him several times to start cleaning up and his excuse was the same that ha had no time because he has to go to work (like I didn't have to go to school and shit) and really messed up my life for a few months because I was thinking I couldn't just kick him out till I couldn't take it anymore and told him to leave.
This happened a month ago and now my life is starting to get a sense of normality again but not entirely.
So of course the advice I can give you is THINK really think about all that possibilities before letting her live with you. Even your best friends can act totally different when things like that happen and it's you getting an extra problem on your head. Especially if you're already asking yourself if that's the right thing to do, which means that you might have reasons for your doubt.


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Re: good / bad idea to move a gf in? [Re: kotik]
    #6552064 - 02/10/07 10:11 PM (14 years, 3 months ago)

You never really know somebody until you live with them. That could either be a good thing or a bad thing.


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Re: good / bad idea to move a gf in? [Re: Le_Canard]
    #6552103 - 02/10/07 10:21 PM (14 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

ToiletDuk said:
You never really know somebody until you live with them. That could either be a good thing or a bad thing.




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Re: good / bad idea to move a gf in? [Re: demiu5]
    #6553308 - 02/11/07 06:39 AM (14 years, 3 months ago)

thanks guys


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Re: good / bad idea to move a gf in? [Re: kotik]
    #6563888 - 02/13/07 08:04 PM (14 years, 3 months ago)

so after some thinking i figured i'll give it a shot. At one point in my life i was living with 2 crack heads, 2 strippers and one other person, and like fuckin 12 dogs in the ghetto (as in all the neighbors were section 8).

so at this point in my life, i think a little risk will do me good. and of course, worst case scenario: i can always come back here to complain about it.


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Re: good / bad idea to move a gf in? [Re: kotik]
    #6564073 - 02/13/07 08:52 PM (14 years, 3 months ago)

Lol good luck :smile:


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