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Mike_yy


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Christmas is a lonely time of year.
#6385057 - 12/19/06 12:15 AM (17 years, 1 month ago) |
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And i'm slowly becoming accustomed to that.
Every year i still look forward to it, maybe that's a remnant from my childhood. It gets to this time and i'm preparing myself to be alone,, and to put on that happy face for everyone else who seems to have an eventful time.
Don't get me wrong,, i'm happy that everyone's happy and enjoying themselves, it's just when i hear about peoples plans/things they've done i get this hollow, lonely feeling. Knowing that through it all i will/have been sat by myself. Reluctantly waiting for the holiday to pass, reluctant because i want to enjoy it.
Sometimes it feels like isolating myself completely would be a relief because everything's less in my face.. I think that's just my minds way of trying to protect itself though. It's hard enough trying to make out like i had a fun time as it is.
Problem is i'm 24, single, without a family. All my friends have the familys they were brought up in,, and now they have their own familys too.
Normally it's not really an issue,, it's just at Christmas. Everyone seems to go on lock down for 2-3 weeks and i don't see anyone.
Christmas can be a tough time of year,, if things are not quite right in your life it has a way of making everything seem 10x worse.
I hope anyone who feels the same,, or anyone who feels like they're going to have a hard time for whatever reason knows they're not alone.

Any wise words from anyone are always appreciated.
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Re: Christmas is a lonely time of year. [Re: Mike_yy]
#6385067 - 12/19/06 12:22 AM (17 years, 1 month ago) |
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Sorry man. 
All I can say is, look for a girl or something?
Or get a puppy!
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Mike_yy


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Re: Christmas is a lonely time of year. [Re: skeeter]
#6385084 - 12/19/06 12:38 AM (17 years, 1 month ago) |
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Wish it was that easy, ive spent alot of time getting close with someone but i don't think she knows what she wants. She lives in fantasy land half the time and i'm not sure it's going to go anywhere.
nevermind tho,, .
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Re: Christmas is a lonely time of year. [Re: Mike_yy]
#6385319 - 12/19/06 03:44 AM (17 years, 1 month ago) |
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why don't you hang out with your friends family? I know we always invite friends over that don't have any one else to celebrate with. Most family's are more than happy to share Christmas with a family friend.
Good luck and don't despair. If you don't end up getting together with anyone, go out of town for the weekend on a snowboarding trip or something. Enjoy it in the best way you can.
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Re: Christmas is a lonely time of year. [Re: Mike_yy]
#6385328 - 12/19/06 03:52 AM (17 years, 1 month ago) |
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Christmas time depression, is pretty common. I have a lot of it too. I just try to stay busy, and get along as best I can. Cheer up mate, it won,t last forever.
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Re: Christmas is a lonely time of year. [Re: rod]
#6385483 - 12/19/06 07:10 AM (17 years, 1 month ago) |
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Toddo said: why don't you hang out with your friends family?
I would but i'd feel like i was imposing without an invite lol. Everyone's so busy around this time, i guess they assume i am too. No one really asks. We usually have a good drink together though before everything starts.
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rod said: Christmas time depression, is pretty common. I have a lot of it too. I just try to stay busy, and get along as best I can. Cheer up mate, it won,t last forever.
I'm not too bad,, , i just felt like talking about it. It's funny how such a positive time of year can have negative effects.
I don't like the way ive come to accept the lonely feelings as the norm for Christmas. It kinda feels pathetic when you have nothing to talk about after everything's over. People asking me if ive had a good time,, and i just agree.
Putting things into perspective i know some people have it alot worse than i do. It's just about a feeling that i carry really. Like you say it won't last forever.
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Re: Christmas is a lonely time of year. [Re: Mike_yy] 1
#6386199 - 12/19/06 11:25 AM (17 years, 1 month ago) |
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Just ask one of your friends. If a good friend asked if it would be alright to tag along Christmas day, I would be totally for it. The whole idea behind Christmas is doing shit like that. It could turn out being a very cool experience.
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Re: Christmas is a lonely time of year. [Re: Mike_yy]
#6387072 - 12/19/06 03:36 PM (17 years, 1 month ago) |
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to me xmas means nothing it is just another societal convention that people conform to the same as funerals, weddings, it,s nothing i agreee with or would have proposed i just go about my life as usual,read some books, drink some strong ale, the only annoying part really is when business closes
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Re: Christmas is a lonely time of year. [Re: 5150]
#6395792 - 12/22/06 12:33 AM (17 years, 1 month ago) |
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Problem is i'm 24, single, without a family. All my friends have the familys they were brought up in,, and now they have their own familys too.
Normally it's not really an issue,, it's just at Christmas. Everyone seems to go on lock down for 2-3 weeks and i don't see anyone.
First of all, take of that fake happy face, and indulge in your true side. Being fake only confuses you and prolongs you from feeling bad enough to actully do something, and it probably makes people around think youre happy enough so they dont give you the cheer they would if they knew you were really sad. Second of all, find some real friends that either are in the same situation you are in, or that would invite you to their christmas. Its ok brother, youre gonna be ok. Merry christmas man. Whatever that means. Is it even important? Someone elses time of year? Fuck, be thankful youre not in America. Everyone around here just gets really busy and pushy this time of year cause theyre material driven. And those that arent material driven are saddened because theyre families always wanna give them crap, and its not about it to them. Know that christmas is an unhappy year for alot of people, very lonely. I dunno man, does it even matter? If yes, then go find some real friends who would invite you to their christmas.
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Re: Christmas is a lonely time of year. [Re: CerebralFlower]
#6396644 - 12/22/06 11:08 AM (17 years, 1 month ago) |
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enjoy the holiday! I have been in the same position, i just looked at it as in ideal opportunity to eat, smoke skunk and play computer games watch dvd's etc - it was the only time in the year where i could properly take time to myself to relax knowing that no-one would interrupt me as they would all be busy doing things elsewhere.
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Re: Christmas is a lonely time of year. [Re: Mike_yy]
#6396982 - 12/22/06 01:06 PM (17 years, 1 month ago) |
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A lot of people feel like this, I have been shitty feeling during the holidays many of times. It seems like it will never be the same as when I was a kid. Things seem better when they are new, the whole meaning of it changed as I got older. I don't even want people to get me gifts because I can't afford to give them much of anything. I barely have enough money to eat every day. It makes me feel bad, for not being able to do much of anything.
Seeing all of the damn commercials, same old movies, same old songs, the decorations, the people dressed "festively", etc. gets tiresome very easily. It even makes me pissed off sometimes. It can be so repetitive. Seems I can't escape from the constant reminder that it's that time of year. Almost like it's all just rubbing it in, constantly.
I have no real family that I talk to anymore other than just my girlfriend which lives with me. The rest live far away, or I don't talk to them. Most of my family disowned me years ago due to my past life style - over shit that happened years ago and is long over. I was much worse off when I didn't have the gf though. When I see a bunch of people sitting around and having fun at dinner with the family or whatever I kind of get the feeling that something is missing. It's a bad feeling.
I just can't seem to get in the "holiday spirit" ever. I don't even understand why I can't get motivated to want to enjoy it. I just hope it passes by fast so all of the decorations can come down.
Happy Holidays anyway though bro, I hope you find some kind of way to enjoy yourself, or at least cope with it.
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Re: Christmas is a lonely time of year. [Re: eris]
#6398664 - 12/23/06 03:50 AM (17 years, 1 month ago) |
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I think it's good that you want to hang out with friends and get closer to your family members. You should make that happen. It's really not that hard.
I will use myself as an example. All I'd have to do is call my Uncle Mike and talk with him about possibly visiting before he would invite me over. You have to have good cousins or some kind of relatives, right? If not, maybe you could use this as an oppurtunity to get to know them better.
I think it helps to focus on the positive stuff. If nothing else, you are doing a good job of pretending to be a concious individual with something to live for. When you consider how big of a part socialization plays in our lives, it is really not suprising that you'd have to struggle to do it right.
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Re: Christmas is a lonely time of year. [Re: The_Hobbit]
#6401944 - 12/24/06 01:11 PM (17 years, 1 month ago) |
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I'm just going to relax for the next week,, i had a great night with a friend last night so i'm feeling alot better.
Ive put alot of effort into sorting my sleeping habits out recently so i'm almost looking forward to getting up earlier, getting wasted and watching all the crap on tele,, .
It is difficult not having a family though,, definitely more so around this time of year... Only person i have is my mom but she's ill with emphysema and that just adds to any Christmas stress..
Anyway i'm gonna crack open a can,, see what films are on later,, .
Happy Christmas everyone.
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Re: Christmas is a lonely time of year. [Re: Mike_yy]
#6402588 - 12/24/06 05:33 PM (17 years, 1 month ago) |
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perhaps your mom would like to see you? you still are her son, and i am sure she loves you a lot. not everything is about you all the time, and i mean that in the nicest way possible. hope all goes well.
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Re: Christmas is a lonely time of year. [Re: Syle]
#6403760 - 12/27/06 11:40 PM (17 years, 1 month ago) |
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I know man,,, it's not that simple though.. Ive been living with illness since i was 16,, i do my best.
It's hard living around someone who's dying,, i know we all are but to actually watch it is hard.
She does have a drink at Christmas but she can't control her emotions. That's naturally led to my avoidance. Our relationship is a weird one,,, alot of it's to do with how she is and how ive turned out. Generally very complicated. It would take me that long to write the full thing out i'd never expect anyone to comment on it,,, my friends have before but they don't know exactly what it's like ( bless them for trying tho,,,, and for them being right ).
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