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OfflineMazatecMon
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Help with a girl.. Please.. Any advice appreciated
    #613090 - 04/19/02 06:52 PM (14 years, 7 months ago)

There is this girl which is my ex... I started going out with her in 8th grade.. now im a junior in highschool.. we only went out for a month, but I felt we really connected. I was ignorant back then, I let her go. This was all taking place when I first started experimenting with drugs.. my state of mind was in a weird place. When I look back on all this I simply laugh at my ignorance of the situation with this girl. I've known her since 4th grade when I moved to this town. I dated around with many girls.. which was good.. all I liked a great deal.. but none of the relationships lasted.. and in every relationship there was my ex coming to mind. I'm not sure what to do?... how should I talk to her about my feelings? .. right now she has a boyfriend, he's a total loser. I can't see why she would be with this guy I almost feel bad for her, he treats her like shit. I've been waiting to let their relationship fall or keep going.. but it seems to keep going.. I dont know what to do.. if I tell her it might affect her relationship... but I dont want that to happen.. but I do in a way.. but I dont want any problems with her boyfriend... what do you think I should do? Wait longer... see how things go.?. ..Look for other girls...? Lately i've been smoking so much that I can't seem to care.. but I want to care, I want to try again with this girl really badly.. the situation... 1 Year left.. Boyfriend Graduates.. but I think is saying back..


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Re: Help with a girl.. Please.. Any advice appreciated [Re: MazatecMon]
    #613118 - 04/19/02 07:33 PM (14 years, 7 months ago)

Seems like this should be in OFF TOPIC...

But here goes:
Get over her. You're in fucking high school! Let her be treated like shit, that's the standard role of the woman in this culture (and most). If she is strong (mind/will etc.), she'll see through the bullshit and she'll dump the guy. If not, then you're better off without her.


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OfflineWeirdShroomer
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Re: Help with a girl.. Please.. Any advice appreciated [Re: Sclorch]
    #613125 - 04/19/02 07:41 PM (14 years, 7 months ago)

Yeah....live your life..I bet you can find much better than her..enjoy life
Thats my opinion
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Re: Help with a girl.. Please.. Any advice appreciated [Re: MazatecMon]
    #613211 - 04/19/02 09:22 PM (14 years, 7 months ago)

Listen up young feller...

There are plenty of fish in the ocean.

The fun is in the fishing, not keeping the thing flopping around on your boat with a hook in it's mouth, bleeding everywhere and making your boots smell like they belong to a sushi chef.

Catch and release is the way to go, until it's time to start your own hatchery.

Enough said.


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Re: Help with a girl.. Please.. Any advice appreciated [Re: ]
    #613298 - 04/19/02 11:43 PM (14 years, 7 months ago)

well put


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Re: Help with a girl.. Please.. Any advice appreciated [Re: MazatecMon]
    #614274 - 04/21/02 03:51 AM (14 years, 7 months ago)

if you do talk to her, don't bother saying negative things about her current boyfriend. even if you're right, ain't gonna get you nowhere.
if she wants to bring up negative shit about him, that's good, be a good ear, but don't do it yourself.


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Re: Help with a girl.. Please.. Any advice appreciated [Re: MazatecMon]
    #614573 - 04/21/02 11:37 AM (14 years, 7 months ago)

HEHE...  I think you shoud do what you want!! And I think you want her back! SO GET HER! TELL HER what you feel and stuff.. :smile: Maybe she feels the same way. If she tells you bullshit be carefull! She might say this for I don't know what reason. You will know if she wants you or not! :smile: IF she doesn't want you TELL your mind  "I have to live on, shroom on".  Take care! You will make it! I have this problems also...Can't take my mind from my exgirfrind :smile:


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Re: Help with a girl.. Please.. Any advice appreciated [Re: dumlovesyou]
    #614728 - 04/21/02 03:11 PM (14 years, 7 months ago)

this reminds of this one time, I went to visit my so called girlfriend, just the girl that I always in love with, so I had'nt seen her for months, and I just stopped by, and she told me she was seeing someone, and I was like , I did'nt say anything, I just thought she was angry at me, lying, etc, so then we just hugged each other, and then we just hung out for a little while, ( I don't talk much) and then she dropped me off at my house, and started crying in my driveway, and I asked what was wrong, and she said nothing, and the next day I called her, and she said she had a boyfriend, and to stop calling her. So I guess we are stil on bad terms, that was about a year ago.


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Re: Help with a girl.. Please.. Any advice appreci [Re: nugsarenice]
    #615833 - 04/22/02 11:27 PM (14 years, 7 months ago)

Yea some chicks are fucked up like that (unfortunately i have a tendency to believe most are). Cryin' in the driveway sounds familiar... my ex came back once for some vacation and of course she was had been my ex for some months by this time, but we still made love. The only downer was when she started crying in the middle of it all, while I was inside her. Made me feel confused, sad, basically like shit. I didn't kno what I could do to make her happy... I might add that I didn't pressure the sex at all, the ball was completely in her court at the time, but she just busted into tears in the middle of it all yet said "...it was okay." As for MazatecMon: don't worry about that girl. If she is something special, then go for it - but if it doesn't work out, don't stress. There are always more women out there.


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OfflineDocPsilocybin
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Re: Help with a girl.. Please.. Any advice appreci [Re: MazatecMon]
    #615989 - 04/23/02 03:19 AM (14 years, 7 months ago)

I can't think of any real useful advice to give. But It's my experiece that the more you try the less likely I end up happy. The best things always just happen it seems. Give it time, sit back, grow some shrooms, and if she wants you, she'll come to you. If you try and make her like you, you'll end up giving off a bad impression and scare her away. I've been there before.

In the meantime though, just be happy! Although girls are awesome sometimes its a helluva lot more fun just to be single! Soon enough you'll find someone special, in the meantime live life how you see fit!



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Re: Help with a girl.. Please.. Any advice appreciated [Re: MazatecMon]
    #617346 - 04/24/02 02:28 PM (14 years, 7 months ago)

First of all, it is important to try to realize this truth, and I am not kidding here: You are going to look back on this in about 4-7 years (maybe sooner) and realize that this situation and many other hellish experiences you have while you are a teen are not that big of a deal. You may even laugh out loud. Do whatever you can do to understand this because it will really put things into perspective.

Your probably thinking of how to make yourself appear more attractive to this girl. You probably think about her quite a bit... before you go to bed, when your not preoccupied with something else. You're letting this girl ruin you life right now, not that she is a bad person, but you are doing it to yourself. It's time for action: Either reslove to move on or go after her.

Try taking a cost benefit analysis: If you tell her, what might you gain and what might you lose? Is it worth the risk? Make a list if this helps. And your probably over idealizing her also. This is important. You probably have an image of her that is absolute perfection. Is this realistic? No. I'm sure she has several faults of which you are not aware. Try to bring your image of her down to reality.

Also, you should make sure to get out and do other things besides obsessing about this girl. I know, I've been there. You may not want to do anything else, but it is important that you get your mind off of it for a while.

Good luck and let us know if anything changes...




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