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Fractalated
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College Confusion
#6056533 - 09/13/06 09:20 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I've just started college. I'm hundreds of miles from home and I've got a bunch of really weird feelings right now. I feel homesick for the comforts of home, my parents, and my friends. I don't really know anyone here, and it seems a lot of people already know each other.
I've never really been good at making friends, and now that I'm here and don't know anyone, I've got some weird, almost contradictory feelings. I feel as though I want to go out and meet people and make some new friends. I also feel as though I want to just stick to myself and my own devices. I'm questioning the value of friendships. Though back home I had a few close friends and really enjoyed spending time with them.
Alot of the people I've meet and seen around campus so far (it's a smaller campus) seem to be concerned with their image and partying. Alot of egotistical types. I mean I do enjoy partying from time to time, but I'm not into getting completely shitfaced with huge parties. I'm more of a relax and drink some beer with good friends kinda guy.
Some of my roommates however, seem to be more of the just get fucked up as much as possible types, and may end up having a lot of parties in our room, which I've got mixed feelings about, since I'm definitely not always in the mood to party. More often I'm in the mood to just chill out.
My roommate seems cool, he smokes and trips from time to time, so we can relate. He already has a girlfriend on campus (I think he's from the area?), so we haven't hung out too much.
Maybe it's just the shock of a totally new world, but I feel very weird. I would really appreciate any words of wisdom or personal experiences or advice for getting through college.
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ohmatic
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yeah i know what your talking about.
the first semester was something new for me also, not knowing anyone as i also moved for my studies. ull be surprised, ull get to know couple of people from your courses rather quick if u do some projects for college with them together.
think of it like that, ur new in a new area, this could be a chance for yourself to start something over and give things a new beginning. it worked pretty well for me, good luck
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Re: College Confusion [Re: ohmatic]
#6056558 - 09/13/06 09:29 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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man, starting college is always tough. Best way to make friends: go out to a big party (you don't have to get hammered, but make an appearence), then go out back to where everyone is smoking, and ask if anyone would like to join you in smoking a bowl. you might find someone who's really awesome, or you could end up smoking with some real Douche bags, but if you do that once or twice, I promise you'll find a couple people you're compatible with.
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Re: College Confusion [Re: ApJunkie]
#6056690 - 09/13/06 10:40 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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you can also easily find people without having to use drugs
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Re: College Confusion [Re: ohmatic]
#6057168 - 09/13/06 01:19 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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ohmatic said: you can also easily find people without having to use drugs
Not in college you can't...
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ohmatic
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= : smirk:
heh
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Quote:
Penguarky Tunguin said:
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ohmatic said: you can also easily find people without having to use drugs
Not in college you can't...
heh....even though i dont really do 'drugs' anymore, almost all my friends were made through drugs one way or another
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Re: College Confusion [Re: bobjones]
#6057215 - 09/13/06 01:39 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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if u consider seratonine to be a drug, all of your friends were made through drugs
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Re: College Confusion [Re: ohmatic]
#6057406 - 09/13/06 02:53 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Hey man, I'm in your exact same situation. Over at my school everybody is just into getting extremely drunk and fucked up. Last night, take for example, my suite mate came in late and ended up throwing up what appeared to be his entire intestines. I'm definitely not into the beer drinking scene myself. I trip about once every week and a half or so and smoke fairly often. I haven't found anybody over here similar to me unfortunately. And man, it's a weird feeling. They're are absolutely no hippies over here, just insane egotistical beer drinkers. And I've been nervous as hell because I have to give a speech for my psychology class in front of 40+ people in a tightly cramped room on tuesday. At least I'll be speaking about the symbiotic relationship between humans and psychedelic mushrooms. And nobody has heard of Phish over here......
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Fractalated
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Re: College Confusion [Re: Feanor]
#6057474 - 09/13/06 03:16 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Wow that is a pretty shitty situation, you weren't exagerating.
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Re: College Confusion [Re: ohmatic]
#6057518 - 09/13/06 03:25 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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ohmatic said: you can also easily find people without having to use drugs
Of course you can, but he said he appreciates the fact that his roomie smokes occasionally, so I figured a good way to meet other people like that would be through pot also. agreed?
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Re: College Confusion [Re: ApJunkie]
#6057573 - 09/13/06 03:41 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Oh I gotcha now. I am trying to cut back on smoking though. I've been a pretty heavy smoker for the past four years or so, and I've had some good times, but nowadays pot just brings out anxiety in me, and it just hasn't been as fun as it usually is. I'm trying actually to cut down on the use of all intoxicants.
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ApJunkie
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shit, then college is really going to be tough for you :p
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Re: College Confusion [Re: ApJunkie]
#6058020 - 09/13/06 05:37 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Find some good hobbies. Some good places to chill. I think you can find good friends who do the same stuff asy ou if you know where to look.
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3rd semester (4th including summer sessions). I met one guy here who is cool (1st sem) he became my dealer and then we became decent friends. He went away though and lives a 30 minute drive or so away from here. We're both busy and don't get a lot of time to hang out.
Then over the summer I met an amazing girl who I could relate to 99%. She kind of flaked out on me.
Other than that, previous hobbies kind of limited the amount of friends I wanted to make. Then when I actually started wanting to make friends and conversing with people, I only ran into douchebags and the party-all-the-time types.
You'll meet people eventually if you put yourself in those situations, they usually won't come to you. Every once in a while, though, they'll stumble upon you or vice versa.
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The easiest way to make friends in college is to join some clubs.
I don't mean any club, but something you really care about. Settings where everyone is there because they care about, or believe in, or want to participate in something common are great for meeting people you can make a real connection with. Aside from the obvious "everyone there has something in common" people will tend to agree with each other on more than just what the club is about.
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Re: College Confusion [Re: Economist]
#6059038 - 09/13/06 09:54 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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You'll probably find some friends any time soon. A lot of people at my college are still a bit friendless, but remember that school has just started. But if you don't want friends, then don't go out of your way to find some. I have made a couple of friends, but also I like to spend a fair amount of time by myself.
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Re: College Confusion [Re: Feanor]
#6059112 - 09/13/06 10:12 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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People like to party a lot at the beginning of the year because for a lot of people they are like 'yay freedom'. It will calm down after a while, you'll meet people.
As for your roommate barfing.. that's gross dude. Keep your shoes out of the common area.
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Re: College Confusion [Re: Kbell]
#6059695 - 09/14/06 02:44 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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seperated rooms ! i could never live on campus, beh, fucking bullshit..
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Re: College Confusion [Re: ohmatic]
#6062392 - 09/14/06 07:52 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Yeah I found college to be disappointing last year. Third day and everyone had their superficial clicks and stuff. Drinking wasn't my scene and neither was smoking pot continuously. I only made a few good friends but thats all you need. Be yourself and you'll attract like minded people.
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it's still early. school just started 2 or 3 weeks ago probably. in 2 months from now things will be completely different. there's plenty of like minded people out there, you just havent met them yet.
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remember that a lot of those kids who seem to have made friends already, well those friends are still very new to them too. just talk to everyone man. become a good conversationalist. even if it feels like small talk and meaningless, you will find the people who you can click with and the ones you can't. i miss college very much. it's not all about getting fucked up either. im not that type of person, but i partied a lot, because basically your only responsibilities are getting your schoolwork done, and some of it doesn't even matter- you get a grade, not a paycheck. so lots of people are like WOOOHOO FREEDOM! just take advantage of college man. once its over, you will wish you were still there trust me. it won't be what you dreamed it to be, but it can be a lot of things you might not expect it to be, too. if someone invites you to a party, go to it!~ if it sucks, leave. but you won't know unless you go. and sometimes, if theres a bunch of morons acted like wasted idiots, you will really stand out and shine, and the good folk will gravitate to you. it took me a while to find my niche in college, but once you do, you will love it.
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Re: College Confusion [Re: kake]
#6069497 - 09/17/06 12:11 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Yeah, I see what you're saying. A lot of my original post was based around a feeling of homesickness: withdrawal from my addiction to the comforts of home and loved ones there. As I'm getting to know people better and make friends, I'm already starting to feel better and less confused. I think it's the initial shock of the transition that was fucking with me.
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This too shall pass
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Re: College Confusion [Re: Shroomism]
#6070757 - 09/17/06 01:30 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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In college everyone is open to new friendships and new "experiences" its when you go out of college that things get difficult!
Its nothing you should worry about, even if you don't try you'll find many friends! I made tones of friends simply because I was always flicking my tongue piercing (I miss it now that I took it out). People just came and talked to me saying:
uuuuhhhh that's digusting - avoided these ppl or man, wanna come for a joint or we are organising this rave, you are invited
alhtouhg its also good to meet people that are different than you, don't just go for the hippie/spiritual/druggie type!
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Re: College Confusion [Re: trunksan]
#6075854 - 09/18/06 08:50 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Good to hear things are going well, Fractaled.
Things are going fine for me....... Now if only I could find a trip buddy....
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Re: College Confusion [Re: Feanor]
#6077375 - 09/19/06 09:49 AM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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I too just moved far from home to go to school. I came here not knowing a soul.
I was at school and saw a person alone smoking on a bench. I went up and bummed a smoke off of them and now we are friends. I actually went up to their place on the weekend to go whale watching.
You will make friends. I promise you.
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