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The_Hobbit
Bilbo Baggins


Registered: 04/06/04
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Re: Can't Talk To People [Re: Placeholder]
#5974466 - 08/17/06 09:34 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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Placeholder said: You have taken the words right out of my mouth. I find it really hard to meet people and make new friends now, and i feel intimidated by alot of people, even when i have no reason to be. Good luck man.
To hobbitcg: that all makes perfect sense man, thanks for writing that, it seems like it could help alot... +5
to eligal: exactly, smalltalk is the worst. When with someone i don't know that well, and even sometimes with good friends, i just stop talking, i just start thinking of things to say, but i draw complete blanks, its like my mind just stops functioning, and i hate it.
Rather than thinking of things to say, you can think about what they're saying. Thoughts will always be popping into your head about what to say. That happens whether you try for it or not. The thing that doesn't happen without your effort is focus. You have to listen to the other person. Use your brain and understand what they mean. Do not get away from that one point. FOCUS. When you lose that, you lose the one thing that matters most. Just pay attention. When it's your turn, then talk. You may not have much to say, but mean what you say. Just say it - let loose and be passionate about it.
Not every conversation is going to be deep. You cannot assume things. Don't judge yourself by thinking that you need to live up to some illusion that you can't even comprehend in the moment. That is fear.
Realize that you are not perfect and things will not always work like you think they should. That's why you have to have the love for yourself and love for everyone else. That will leave no other option than to do your best in the moment. Then you will see what you're made of.
-------------------- Smoking my hobbit leaf... Please keep in mind that I am just a human being. Please read my posts carefully and interpret their meaning for yourself.
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QuantumMeltdown
Space Monkey



Registered: 10/31/01
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Re: Can't Talk To People [Re: Placeholder]
#5974499 - 08/17/06 09:43 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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Try drinking/drugging thats what myself and probably other shroomerites do and we make plenty of friends but thats not exactly good for you physical or mental well being now is it?
-------------------- -QuantumMeltdown Total abstinence is so excellent a thing that it cannot be carried to too great an extent. In my passion for it I even carry it so far as to totally abstain from total abstinence itself. -Mark Twain "The time has come the walrus said, little oysters hide their heads, my Twain of thought is loosely bound I guess its time to Mark this down, Be good and you will be lonesome Be lonesome and you will be free Live a lie and you will live to regret it That's what livin' is to me That's what livin' is to me" Jimmy Buffett
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davidiusthebeast
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Registered: 05/10/06
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hey friend, i have the same situation except i smoke all the time, sometimes if i smoke a ton of dope i can feel myself going crazy, other times im pretty much alone so its all good but when im in public ppl can see into my soul
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The_Hobbit
Bilbo Baggins


Registered: 04/06/04
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davidiusthebeast said: hey friend, i have the same situation except i smoke all the time, sometimes if i smoke a ton of dope i can feel myself going crazy, other times im pretty much alone so its all good but when im in public ppl can see into my soul
That's true when you're not high, too. Now, what's the most important lesson to learn from that? Accept the fact that you are a part of everything.
-------------------- Smoking my hobbit leaf... Please keep in mind that I am just a human being. Please read my posts carefully and interpret their meaning for yourself.
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