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Offlineleery11
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apologizing
    #5939585 - 08/07/06 01:29 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

if you were part of a mutual wronging that left the party with much hurt on both ends, and you had a chance to give an informal apology, say via message.....

to this person.....

and you feel like you owe it to them, but you wonder.... should it just be let go?

what would you do?

I'm not sure if I should send her one or not. It's heartfelt as best it can be...... it's just that.... either way life will go on..... but now that I'm mature, should I make amends? Is that not what you do when you hurt someone? But isn't it really only what you do IF you still are receiving?

To send an apology brings us closer together. While not a bad thing it does dredg up the past which , maybe, should stay buried?


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....I embrace my desire to feel the rhythm, to feel connected enough to step aside and weep like a widow, to feel inspired, to fathom the power, to witness the beauty, to bathe in the fountain, to swing on the spiral of our divinity and still be a human......
Om Namah Shivaya, I tell you What!


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Offlineleery11
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Re: apologizing [Re: leery11]
    #5939594 - 08/07/06 01:33 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

also of note i am in a process of trying to be a bit more ....

spine-posessing right now... sent a message to a friend that kind of drifted away saying some stuff to him as well.

also asked a girl "out" that i had been talking to briefly with no real expectations, other than just hoping to get to talk to someone in person a while and see if we can be friends or something, nothing much more than that.


so this would be good for me.

i mean i feel like in the scheme of things, this was a MUTUAL hurting, it's a schism hurting

no fault no to blame but it doesn't mean.....

and so i think we both owe each other a lot karmically and i can't pinpoint how either would be a worse purpetrator, but....

it seems like if there were a cosmic scale to things somehow we would have to make it up to each other, and me specifically make it up to her.... so i'd might as well now right?


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I am the MacDaddy of Heimlich County, I play it Straight Up Yo!

....I embrace my desire to feel the rhythm, to feel connected enough to step aside and weep like a widow, to feel inspired, to fathom the power, to witness the beauty, to bathe in the fountain, to swing on the spiral of our divinity and still be a human......
Om Namah Shivaya, I tell you What!


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Re: apologizing [Re: leery11]
    #5939601 - 08/07/06 01:37 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

maybe they are trying to avoid you so you dont cause a scene.have you ever smelled an irish setter after its been dead for 3 days?


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Offlineleery11
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Re: apologizing [Re: jungjedi]
    #5939607 - 08/07/06 01:39 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

thankfully no.

they can't really avoid me.

this is an online directory kind of thing and we both go to the same school now.

anyway i sent it.

in the highest most peaceful reality, there would be some sort of amends made for the mess, and i should live up to those standards if i wish to live in such a place.


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I am the MacDaddy of Heimlich County, I play it Straight Up Yo!

....I embrace my desire to feel the rhythm, to feel connected enough to step aside and weep like a widow, to feel inspired, to fathom the power, to witness the beauty, to bathe in the fountain, to swing on the spiral of our divinity and still be a human......
Om Namah Shivaya, I tell you What!


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Re: apologizing [Re: leery11]
    #5939617 - 08/07/06 01:43 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

i dont like apologies. i dont like to give them, and i dont like to receive them. whats done is done and being sorry about it doesnt really change that fact.


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  Edited by yageman (04/20/06 4:20 PM) 


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Re: apologizing [Re: wrestler_az]
    #5939629 - 08/07/06 01:48 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

yeah it does. becuase it's saying that you validate their existence as a person and wish them well.

i guess it depends on the scope though!

i'm thinking on the cosmic scale, we crossed paths, but then we messed each other up... so it's not like we aren't still affecting each other to this very day, so you'd might as well clean the debris up some.

i mean right straight as Tool would put it
days away I still feel you, touching me ... changing me.....


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I am the MacDaddy of Heimlich County, I play it Straight Up Yo!

....I embrace my desire to feel the rhythm, to feel connected enough to step aside and weep like a widow, to feel inspired, to fathom the power, to witness the beauty, to bathe in the fountain, to swing on the spiral of our divinity and still be a human......
Om Namah Shivaya, I tell you What!


Edited by leery11 (08/07/06 01:49 AM)


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Re: apologizing [Re: leery11]
    #5939640 - 08/07/06 01:52 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

actions are louder than words, or at least thats what ive been told. apologizing is doing little more than stating the obvious.

dont be sorry, just dont do it again.


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  Edited by yageman (04/20/06 4:20 PM) 


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Re: apologizing [Re: wrestler_az]
    #5939722 - 08/07/06 02:26 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

did you kill her irish setter?


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Re: apologizing [Re: leery11]
    #5939737 - 08/07/06 02:32 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

Sometimes apologizing, helps you out more than the receiving party.
Helps get it off your chest. :thumbup:  IMO


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Re: apologizing [Re: leery11]
    #5939740 - 08/07/06 02:33 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

i go about these kind of things like this:

if an apology is definately needed you will know
if an apology is definately not needed you will know

if its up in the air,
has an apology ever done harm on the cosmic level?


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Re: apologizing [Re: Cherk]
    #5939746 - 08/07/06 02:36 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

are you going to fuck her after you apologize?


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Re: apologizing [Re: leery11]
    #5939773 - 08/07/06 02:50 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

send her pics of your meat... fuck it HAH


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Re: apologizing [Re: array]
    #5942295 - 08/07/06 09:16 PM (17 years, 5 months ago)

Do what is right.  Do what is in your heart :smile:  Your heart knows if it is needed or not.  Start living from your heart, it won't matter if it hurts for a short while to apologize if it feels better forever.


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