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Bowers
Bobba Ganoosh


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I need someone elses opinion...
#5929402 - 08/03/06 06:36 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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When you REALLY liked someone, do you still have lingering feelings, even though you are in a relationship with someone else? You never dated this person you "liked," just really liked them. And the only reason they were never an item is because she did not return the feelings.
Is it wrong for me to feel jealous when they hang out? Is it wrong for me to feel jealous when he has all his buds over from school and she being one of them crashes there for the night too?
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Corporal Kielbasa

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Re: I need someone elses opinion... [Re: Bowers]
#5929403 - 08/03/06 06:38 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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stalk her
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Bowers
Bobba Ganoosh


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haha I can't. I live too far away, otherwise I would be at this gathering of friends. It's a long distance relationship. I know they are hard and everyone says DON'T BOTHER. But hey... So am I wrong to be jealous. I need both female and male reactions here.
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Bowers
Bobba Ganoosh


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Re: I need someone elses opinion... [Re: Bowers]
#5929458 - 08/03/06 06:55 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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Alright.. no one has words on that topic, what about he also hangs out with this chick who doesn't like and doesn't even know me. WTF? I thought she seemed cool through the pictures I've seen of her, but if she doesn't like me and hates me, she wants what is mine! He knows this, but still hangs out with her. Is THAT a big deal?
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Bowers
Bobba Ganoosh


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Re: I need someone elses opinion... [Re: Bowers]
#5929483 - 08/03/06 07:08 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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thanks pubbers
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bhamlaxy
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Re: I need someone elses opinion... [Re: Bowers]
#5929517 - 08/03/06 07:19 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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I was sort of in a situation like this. My best friend was dating this girl, and they broke up, but kept a minor relationship going. Me and her starting getting really close, i mean REALLY close, more emotionally so than physically. But in one weekend, things kind of collapsed and she got sucked back into dating him, because hes really manipulative and would make her feel bad.
Even after I got into another relationship I would be very jealous. I just felt bad knowing I would treat her so much better. Every time she came to me asking for help with her current relationship, it sucked even more.
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badchad
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Re: I need someone elses opinion... [Re: bhamlaxy]
#5929575 - 08/03/06 07:36 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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A very subjective question.
In a nutshell: yes. I think it's possible to have feelings for someone else, or "like" them, even if you are in a relationship. As the saying goes: "Just because you are on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu".
I don't think it's healthy to be madly in love with, or feel very deeply for someone else if you're in a committed relationship.
Since you took the effort to post the question, it sounds to me like the latter. You're probably more attracted to the "chase" of this girl than anything else. I think jealosuy is natural but considering that you don't see this girl (long distance) I think thats a tad much.
$0.02
-------------------- ...the whole experience is (and is as) a profound piece of knowledge. It is an indellible experience; it is forever known. I have known myself in a way I doubt I would have ever occurred except as it did. Smith, P. Bull. Menninger Clinic (1959) 23:20-27; p. 27. ...most subjects find the experience valuable, some find it frightening, and many say that is it uniquely lovely. Osmond, H. Annals, NY Acad Science (1957) 66:418-434; p.436
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Bowers
Bobba Ganoosh


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Re: I need someone elses opinion... [Re: badchad]
#5929694 - 08/03/06 08:21 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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I am the female here. I am learning that I am a jealous person. I just don't think he is taking how I feel into much consideration. If I were to have a guy friend of mine chill at my place then crash there for the night, he would be pretty upset. But when I get upset for the same reason, he freaks out and says I am always grilling him. But up until a week before we started seeing eachother, he was still trying to get with her.
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