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ixitwistedixi
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What would you do with this shit?
#5928461 - 08/03/06 12:29 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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Last night i was walking out of a store with my girlfriend and she seemed really down, so i obviously asked her what was bothering her and she said nothing and that it wasn't me, i shouldn't worry. But she cried the whole way home. When we got home i kept prodding as to what it was that was bothering her and she refused to tell me she would just cry. So i asked her if it was something she had done that would hurt me, and she said yes. she said "I cant tell you because it would make you stop loving me. Would you hate me if we just stopped talking about it?" So i agreed i was really wore out after about 3 - 4 hrs of this. But I'm not stupid i know what this means. She has or Is screwing around on me. Ive been with her for 3 1/2 years now we have lived together for 1 1/2 and up until last night i believed nothing could be better. Looking back now i see the subtle signs of this. But I'm left with what to do. I know i will confront her when i see her later on at home, but what to do about this. Leave her? Thats my first instinct i mean how can i be with someone who could do something like this to me? Or stay and try to work this out? Again i just cant help but feeling betrayed, and how is that worked out? I just really love her alot and am really hurt about this. Although it isn't confirmed thats whats going on but what am I left to think? I'm just stuck and have left this to the wind and the shroomery for advice.
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: ixitwistedixi]
#5928486 - 08/03/06 12:42 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'd say tell her to be straight-up honest with you. Once you know the facts you will be more capable of making the next decisions regarding your relationship.
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: AlteredAgain]
#5928499 - 08/03/06 12:47 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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Dude, once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. Drop her like a hot rock.
Assuming thats it and she is not just upset about running your hamster or dog over.
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Edited by kilroy69 (08/03/06 12:48 PM)
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: kilroy69]
#5928503 - 08/03/06 12:50 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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Just a question. Has she been hanging out with any of your friends? Has any of your friends been acting odd? Thats usually the first place to look as bad as it sounds.
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Edited by kilroy69 (08/03/06 12:51 PM)
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: ixitwistedixi]
#5928508 - 08/03/06 12:51 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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If she cheated on you, assess your feelings about it.
if you think it can be worked out(and feel it worthwhile), and she is willing to do so, then work things out. stranger things have happened. people can cheat and learn a lifelong lesson, it's possible.
if you don't think it's something you can work out then your best bet is to physically remove yourself from the situation. the longer you stick around her in the flesh the harder it will be to make any sort of decision in your best interest.
you invested a lot of time into the relationship so don't let it be something you toss aside and never look at as a lesson learned. you live and learn.. let this be another one of those situations if it must end.
as much as it hurts, my best advice to you is to walk away and fly solo.
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ixitwistedixi
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: kilroy69]
#5928509 - 08/03/06 12:52 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yeah i do gotta get the truth about the situation but, i cannot think of anything else it could be. Be ill know soon enough. And kilroy i think your right, even if she did get swept away in the heat of the moment, who is to say this wont happen again?
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: ixitwistedixi]
#5928531 - 08/03/06 12:58 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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do you guys share a bank acct? credit cards?
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: ixitwistedixi]
#5928551 - 08/03/06 01:07 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
ixitwistedixi said: who is to say this wont happen again?
the only thing certain is death, change. all we can do is go with it. hope all goes well.
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: goobler]
#5928555 - 08/03/06 01:09 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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IF she cheated, then you need to get rid of her. You JUST DON'T DO THAT TO PEOPLE. PERIOD. They're not worth staying with, at any cost.
It sounds to me like she's about to leave you. I hate to say it but she's showing the symptoms I've learned to look for. The crying, putting off talking about it, 3-4 hours of asking what's wrong...I've been there and that's what I think is up.
If I'm wrong, my bad for bringing you down, but good luck with everytihng. I stepped out of this game for a while. I'm going to try single life. When they say it's not about you, it is. When they say it's not for someone else, they're with someone the next day. I hate that shit.
Edited by Newbie (08/03/06 01:12 PM)
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ixitwistedixi
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: Newbie]
#5928672 - 08/03/06 02:04 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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Well she has definately been acting weird none of my friends though. She did go out last Sunday with someone from work which is weird because she is the type of person that would (or use to) want to take me everywhere with her. Well im going to go see her at work now she isnt officially off untill 8 (she works a split) Im not going to bring it up there for her sake, i wouldnt want to talk about it in the middle of a 10 hr shift either. And no we dont share accounts or anything if we split it off neither of us would have any seriouus problems of finding where we are going to go.
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: ixitwistedixi]
#5928689 - 08/03/06 02:11 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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Damn dude I'm very sorry to hear about this. It's hard to grasp at first and you are probably going to want and try to work it out which is never really a good idea. It's best to go your separate ways and maybe cross paths again down the road when/if she is ready to settle down, maybe not. Good luck to you man, keep us updated.
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: ixitwistedixi]
#5928696 - 08/03/06 02:14 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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get the truth. Then don't do anytyhing rash, come back here post the update and we will decide for you.
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: Liquidkick]
#5928704 - 08/03/06 02:16 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yeah I'm really interested to see what's going on. Keep us posted!
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: Newbie]
#5928725 - 08/03/06 02:23 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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if she did cheat on you, its going to be hard but you have to get out of there or kick her out.
i've been cheated on several times, it suxors and i will not be making that mistake anymore.
also i don't know if this is a univeral truth, but if they do it once they'll do it again the next time they feel like it.
edit: blah blah blah, i'm sure you already know this, but you're too good for that bullshit. there are more fish in the sea and often the fishing is the funnest part.
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Edited by truekimbo2 (08/03/06 02:25 PM)
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ixitwistedixi
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: truekimbo2]
#5928948 - 08/03/06 03:39 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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Well i went and picked her up from work so she could chill on her split, smoked a bowl and talked. I told her we don't have to talk about it right now but i need her to tell me what it is she is keeping from me tonight. She says Why? i felt Why Not would have been a suitable answer but i told her if she expects me to be open and honest with her she needs to do the same. And she agreed still said nothing. We smoked a bowl and kinda hung out. But I'm going to keep on this i cant just let it go shes going to have to talk to me tonight about this. I'm beginning to think now maby it was a while ago that she had cheated? We have been dating for 3 1/2 years. I need to figure out the truth and sleep on this shit. I mean what if this was 2 years ago? Should i feel any different?
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: ixitwistedixi]
#5928965 - 08/03/06 03:45 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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dump her to the curb 1000x fuck her. move on.
the quicker you end this, the quicker you'll feel better.
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: ixitwistedixi]
#5928966 - 08/03/06 03:45 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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Do you believe she just cracked out of nowhere after 2 years? Personally I wouldn't buy that. You said yourself she's been acting weird lately and went out with a guy from work.. Should have gotten it out of her last night dude. She's had all day to make something up or tone the situation down to make herself look better.
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: Vvellum]
#5928969 - 08/03/06 03:47 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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Well if my assumtions are true but she hasnt left room for many other conclusions. i have She is either cheating or crazy...?
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: ixitwistedixi]
#5928975 - 08/03/06 03:50 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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cheating.
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Re: What would you do with this shit? [Re: Vvellum]
#5928981 - 08/03/06 03:54 PM (17 years, 5 months ago) |
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Man the way your talking your not going to leave her even if she tells you she has been cheating. Do what you want... I can tell that nothing we say here is going to affect your decision at all
Edited by BuddahKillah (08/03/06 03:54 PM)
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