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DoctorJ


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being receptive
#5882813 - 07/20/06 09:11 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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"One of the things I learned from my father, is to try to think like the people around me."
-Michael Corleone, The Godfather
A truly receptive person is always considerate of the opinions of others. He is like a sponge, who absorbs the emotions and thoughts of those around him.
He is conscious of the existence and rights of others. Though he does not allow himself to be abused, he recognizes the need to bend for others, as they bend for him. "Bend and you shall remain whole." Truly, he respects the feelings of others as his own.
There is a difference between a hivemind and a team mentality. Just because one is receptive does not mean he is subject to the will of the majority. It just means that he is willing to listen to reason, and admit that he might not have all the information to make the right decision. Thus, the viewpoints of others are valuable to him, but not necessarily superior to his own will.
It is a fine line between being receptive and being a pushover.
A pushover is one who has lost his objectivity. So is a domineer. Objectivity is the key to good reception. One must be able to objectively examine the viewpoints of others and evaluate whether they are valid or just full of shit. And yes, there are many people in this world who are full of shit. Not everyone is right, and discerning the correct viewpoints from the faulty ones is a constant struggle for the truly receptive.
Just because I am receptive and willing to listen does not mean that I have to agree with everyone. Disagreeing with someone doesn't necessarily mean that I am closeminded. It might just mean that they are wrong 
But still, I always try to at least attempt to understand why a person might see things a different way. But at some point, you have to admit that you find the music distasteful and simply change the station. Nothing wrong with that; we all have boundaries.
The big problems I see in human social interaction revolve around an imbalance in receptiveness. There are some who are not receptive enough and tend to walk on others. There are some who are too receptive and tend to get trampled. Perhaps the reason why there is imbalance in the world is because some folks are too hard and others too soft. Thus, I have tried to stay in the middle of the spectrum, be as objective as I can, listen with an open mind, but also speak and act from the heart.
Thus, as a receptive, I have no choice but to absorb the viewpoints of others. But I do have the choice to accept or decline the information that is fed to me by my environment.
Its hard to keep an open mind in a world full of hustlers. You get cheated a few times and become cynical. I find it hilarious and sad at the same time, when those who have lied to me turn around and call me 'paranoid'. Perhaps if they told the truth, I wouldn't be so paranoid!
Its a delicate balance to keep, being open-minded while refusing to be a mark. How do you guys deal with this problem?
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capliberty
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Re: being receptive [Re: DoctorJ]
#5883384 - 07/21/06 12:41 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I think this question can be answered by comparing it to say, like an NBA coach,
NBA coaches can't be total disciplinarians because they have essentially deal with players who have equal ground as they do,
So they have to be receptive to players wishes while still trying to assert their own philosophy to the game, its a hard job,
some coaches will be too strict and they alienate themselves from their players, while others are too much of a players coach and allow players to conduct themselves in an ineffective manner, these coaches usually get a lack luster performance from their players, no real backbone or real organization is implemented
good coaches find that fine line, or balance to assert discipline and be flexible, I guess you got to look at the overall goal, whatever is conducive to winning, be able to appease certain needs or wants, while still being fair, also being able to assume control and order when needed, the key is getting the respect of the team and motivating them to achieve highest level of play possible, I think you got to tap into whats their best interest, which is winning,
but I guess it isn't so black/white in life as it is in sports in being receptive but not being a pushover, I guess if their is a conflict you have to identify why their is one, what the common goal is, and work from there
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Re: being receptive [Re: capliberty]
#5884259 - 07/21/06 12:00 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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i'm just barely starting to apply such things.
one of the issues was stubborness.
in engaging in debate with a christian i found myself deliberately ignoring much of what he said, while at the same time realizing that i shouldn't have.
now somehow i think it is remedied as i simply said to him "my problem isn't with Jesus, it is just with the authorities, which doesn't really have anything to do with him in the first place" as an apology and a concession........ (does that mean you conceede... i couldn't think of the right word?)
now hopefully we can actually bridge some gaps, because i do need to make complete amends with Christianity, and dogma, in order to understand my own dogma.
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Re: being receptive [Re: DoctorJ]
#5884773 - 07/21/06 02:59 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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"One of the things I learned from my father, is to try to think like the people around me."
-Michael Corleone, The Godfather
Michael: ...My father taught me many things here - he taught me in this room. He taught me - keep your friends close but your enemies closer. Now if Hyman Roth sees that I interceded in this thing, in the Rosato Brothers' favor, he's going to think his relationship with me is still good...That's what I want him to think. I want him completely relaxed and confident in our friendship. Then I'll be able to find out who the traitor in my family was.
- Michael Corleone, Godfather Part II
-------------------- Anxiety is what you make it.
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