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Divided_Sky
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Is this really so unreasonable?
#5861508 - 07/15/06 11:08 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I work early in the morning and have to go to bed really early. Last night I was hanging out with my ladyfreind and it was starting to get late, in fact I should have already been asleep. We decided to keep hanging out but when she saw this other girl she ended up talking to her for like 20 minutes while I was waiting to hang out and setting myself up for more and more sleep deprivation. I started to get impatient.
Finally we go upstairs to her room and start to get physical. She says she doesn't want to use my time, but I tell her this is a good use. Anyhow we have to have foreplay for like a whole hour and then after like 15 minutes of sex she appears to come twice, and just as I am almost there SHE STOPS! She says it is hurting, so I tell her to finish it off oraly. She agrees but then decideds to change her shirt and mess with her hair for a couple of minutes while I am waiting and my arousal is plumetting. Then I'm like "Fuck it." and I get really mad. Then she is like "I don't want you to be late for work tommorow" when after almost an hour and a half of pleasuring her (which could all have been accomplished in less than a half)while I should have been asleep it would have taken maybe 1-2 minutes to finish.
Anyways she called me an asshole because I got so frustrated. I worked a hard 8 hours at a futile task, got stuck in traffic trying to get somewhere for an hour and a half and gave her more than two hours when I should have been asleep and she spent it gabbing with someone else and then took an insanely long time on foreplay and then after getting herself off she stops as I am at almost critical mass, yet I am being an asshole for getting pissed? It's like she doesn't understand that with a full time job and an early riser I don't have all the time in the world to waste and when I make time to hang out with her I don't like it to be squandered talking to someone else or leaving me sexually frustrated.
Is that really reasonable?
-------------------- 1. "After an hour I wasn't feeling anything so I decided to take another..." 2. "We were feeling pretty good so we decided to smoke a few bowls..." 3. "I had to be real quiet because my parents were asleep upstairs..."
Edited by Divided_Sky (10/18/06 04:33 PM)
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OneMoreRobot3021


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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: Divided_Sky]
#5861515 - 07/15/06 11:10 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Just breathe, let it pass, and get on with your life. Yeah you might feel frustrated right now, but it's all just a blip on the radar of your relationship.
-------------------- Acid doesn't give you truths; it builds machines that push the envelope of perception. Whatever revelations came to me then have dissolved like skywriting. All I really know is that those few years saddled me with a faith in the redemptive potential of the imagination which, however flat, stale and unprofitable the world seems to me now, I cannot for the life of me shake. -Erik Davis
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RandalFlagg
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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: Divided_Sky]
#5861527 - 07/15/06 11:13 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Wow D_S. This seems like a complete change for you. Just a few months ago you seemed all introspective and sensitive about your lady and your relationship. Now you're like, "ME NEED SEX NOW!".
I understand your frustration. Some women pull shit like that sometimes. It comes with the territory and you just have to deal with it.
Edited by RandalFlagg (07/15/06 11:13 AM)
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MXNR
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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: Divided_Sky]
#5861529 - 07/15/06 11:14 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I've been in that same situation dude. SHE IS ACTING UNREASONABLY. If you provide her with an orgasm, it is her responsibility to provide you with one. This is the deal.
It's pretty obvious that she just wanted to receive and not give back. She is just blaming you as a diversionary tactic. You have reasons to be upset with her and instead of apologizing and accepting responsibility, she trys to play some bullshit angle.
Find some one who enjoys sex with you as much as you do!
Good luck.
What the fuck? You just have to deal with it? Do you guys treat women like children often? Listen, if you have a problem with the relationship, let her know how you feel about it and that you think she is not being fair. You most certainly do not just "have to deal with it." Bullshit.
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Divided_Sky
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Well actually, she wants to break up with me because I've been getting more irritable since this kind of thing tends to happen pretty often. She almost always wants to stop before I'm finished (when using my time) and after a while I start to lose my patience.
-------------------- 1. "After an hour I wasn't feeling anything so I decided to take another..." 2. "We were feeling pretty good so we decided to smoke a few bowls..." 3. "I had to be real quiet because my parents were asleep upstairs..."
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OneMoreRobot3021


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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: Divided_Sky]
#5861535 - 07/15/06 11:15 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Well, if it's a trend, then fuck it man, break up with her. That's not cool if she never wants you to finish. If she likes you or loves you and wants to pleasure you and maybe you take longer than her, she has to understand that and go along with it.
You should dump her before she can dump you, and then do as MXNR said and find someone who enjoys sex the same way that you do.
-------------------- Acid doesn't give you truths; it builds machines that push the envelope of perception. Whatever revelations came to me then have dissolved like skywriting. All I really know is that those few years saddled me with a faith in the redemptive potential of the imagination which, however flat, stale and unprofitable the world seems to me now, I cannot for the life of me shake. -Erik Davis
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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: Divided_Sky]
#5861540 - 07/15/06 11:17 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Next time finish quickly and leave here there high and dry
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RandalFlagg
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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: Divided_Sky]
#5861548 - 07/15/06 11:19 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Why don't you start retaliating? Start withholding sex from her. Or, you could go the mature route (I don't recommend it) and ask why she is doing this shit.
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goobler
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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5861776 - 07/15/06 12:49 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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shes just acting like.....a guy
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FalseAlternative
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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: goobler]
#5861967 - 07/15/06 02:01 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Dude, my girlfriend does that same stuff. She doesn't care if I go home with blue balls. It's just something you gotta deal with if you really love the chick. Talk to her about it, and get it semi-resolved. If she continues to pull that shit, dump her.
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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5861983 - 07/15/06 02:07 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Quote:
RandalFlagg said: Start withholding sex from her.
A tactic that will never work on a woman. Never. Not when they can get it anytime they want from whomever.
She is being unreasonable. How hard is it to get a guy off? Come on. Stop talking to her for awhile.
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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: goobler]
#5861988 - 07/15/06 02:09 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Quote:
goobler said: shes just acting like.....a guy

So very, very true!
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MOTH
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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: Divided_Sky]
#5862135 - 07/15/06 03:15 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I truly think "giving" is just as good as "getting" when it comes to sexual relations. I enjoy giving my husband pleasure, oral or otherwise. She is being selfish.
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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: MOTH]
#5862138 - 07/15/06 03:16 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Quote:
EllemyshShade said: I enjoy giving my husband pleasure, oral or otherwise.
Otherwise =....anal?
-------------------- Acid doesn't give you truths; it builds machines that push the envelope of perception. Whatever revelations came to me then have dissolved like skywriting. All I really know is that those few years saddled me with a faith in the redemptive potential of the imagination which, however flat, stale and unprofitable the world seems to me now, I cannot for the life of me shake. -Erik Davis
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TM
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Quote:
OneMoreRobot3021 said:
Quote:
EllemyshShade said: I enjoy giving my husband pleasure, oral or otherwise.
Otherwise =....anal?
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EllemyshShade said: To my mind, it's just another sexual action you can experience with a partner. A way to feel pleasure.
Yep!
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MOTH
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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: TM]
#5862181 - 07/15/06 03:43 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I stand by my statement(s).
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goobler
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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: MOTH]
#5862193 - 07/15/06 03:50 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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stand? oh my
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Leanin
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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: goobler]
#5862377 - 07/15/06 05:19 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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dude next time u fuck her pull out and rub one out on her face.
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OneMoreRobot3021


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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: Leanin]
#5862384 - 07/15/06 05:20 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I bet you're a real casanova.
-------------------- Acid doesn't give you truths; it builds machines that push the envelope of perception. Whatever revelations came to me then have dissolved like skywriting. All I really know is that those few years saddled me with a faith in the redemptive potential of the imagination which, however flat, stale and unprofitable the world seems to me now, I cannot for the life of me shake. -Erik Davis
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Re: Is this really so unreasonable? [Re: Divided_Sky]
#5862401 - 07/15/06 05:26 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Edit: Break up with her.
Edited by Cowgold (07/15/06 05:33 PM)
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