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KingOftheThing
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another person whining
#5829473 - 07/06/06 09:16 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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and its me. its impossible to meet women im compatible with. i get so frustrated i just give up. however eventually i start getting all worked up and need to find a female to take to bed. usually this is someone im not even happy about bedding. ive decided to start working out again and attempt to stick with it. i havent in years really kept with it. i guess this is just cuz i got more chicks when i was younger and in shape. im not sure the type of chicks id even attract by being in better shape are the kind i want. i mean i bought a nice car which attracts women, and i have a pretty decent apartment which impresses some girls when i bring em in...they seem to be vapid whores though. i just want a girl who i can talk to, relate to, etc.. every so often i'll find one, wont realize it right away, then end up in the friend zone. i have a bunch of female friends, most of whom i get along wih great but now i know them too well to date them. then i have this other bad habit of crushing on chicks who are unattainable for one reason or another.
im not going to stop looking, or swear off women, that's crazy talk... i like the freedom of the single life, but sometimes i miss the companionship a relationship can provide. i dont miss the fights or nagging...but i think ive learned so much now from all my past dating experiences i could be a better boyfriend. im almost half tempted to check out an internet dating site, my buddy from work met his beautiful wife on match.com. that would be a last resort.
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I hear you. Finding Ms. Right is an arduous process. Whores can be fun to play with, but you don't want to take them home to mom nor do you want to spend any amount of time with them. Sometimes you get stuck in the "friend's zone" with girls that you want to be with. Other times you get some girl crushing on you and you just want to be friends. Sometimes things click with a girl and it turns out that she has a boyfriend. Sometimes you like a girl, but things just don't happen for whatever reason. Etc..etc.. The list of tragic love crap goes on and on.
I have thought about the internet dating thing and it just seems so utterly desperate that I can't bring myself to do it. I think it would be completely humiliating. It's like saying, "Hey...I've either failed at all of my relationships or I am such a dork that I haven't had any. Would you want to go out with me? Please...? I'm desperate."
Edited by RandalFlagg (07/06/06 09:29 PM)
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KingOftheThing
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Re: another person whining [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5829540 - 07/06/06 09:32 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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yeah the internet dating thing really would be my rock bottom. im not ready for that yet
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leery11
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nice girls will be reluctant to date because they don't want to put out.
they will be found in nice places, certain kinds of artistic or compassionate coffee shops....
churches.
clubs and organizations. going for walks.
i dunno man it depends. it's good to be in college.... i don't know how you would ever dream of finding a nice girl if you weren't near a university. go to the mall? yeah right.... ughh.....
all i know is there are tons of nice girls here.... i just don't happen to have relationships with any of them. or any girls.....
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RandalFlagg
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The whole internet mating dance is so lame too. People only post the best possible pictures of themselves...so the pictures aren't terribly representative of how they look. And if the person is ugly they will post grainy or far-away pics. Then once contact is made the two people will engage in the strange banter of what I like to call "false modesty". An example of this phenomenon is, "Oh...I look terrible in this picture", etc.. The lameness and fakeness only increase from there.
I don't know...maybe you should put a profile with some pictures up. Make sure your pictures are grainy though. J/K
Who knows? Maybe you'll find Ms. Right while slouching over your keyboard. Stranger things have happened.
Edited by RandalFlagg (07/06/06 09:50 PM)
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Re: another person whining [Re: leery11]
#5829625 - 07/06/06 09:52 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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leery11 said: they (nice girls) will be found in nice places, certain kinds of artistic or compassionate coffee shops....
churches.
clubs and organizations. going for walks.
All of the girls in those places are ho's.
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leery11
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Re: another person whining [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5829705 - 07/06/06 10:11 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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mmmm.
if you're being serious I can understand. many church goers are not spiritual, just dogmatic.... but not very dedicated to their dogmas, more just following trends.
i guess what i mean is that there are certain religious instiutions (lets say a unitarian church or a small gathering of devoted Christians) where there would be quality girls with good standards.
as for going for walks it depends upon the location. pure intention juxtaposed sets two lovers souls in motion.
if you are out on some sort of introspective journey walking around, I believe you will run into people similar to you.
oh and for the clubs...... clubs of your specific interest.
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RandalFlagg said: The whole internet mating dance is so lame too. People only post the best possible pictures of themselves...so the pictures aren't terribly representative of how they look. And if the person is ugly they will post grainy or far-away pics. Then once contact is made the two people will engage in the strange banter of what I like to call "false modesty". An example of this phenomenon is, "Oh...I look terrible in this picture", etc.. The lameness and fakeness only increase from there.
I don't know...maybe you should put a profile with some pictures up. Make sure your pictures are grainy though. J/K
Who knows? Maybe you'll find Ms. Right while slouching over your keyboard. Stranger things have happened.
it is good to put up both ugly and sexy pictures to give people the best idea about you.
-------------------- I am the MacDaddy of Heimlich County, I play it Straight Up Yo! ....I embrace my desire to feel the rhythm, to feel connected enough to step aside and weep like a widow, to feel inspired, to fathom the power, to witness the beauty, to bathe in the fountain, to swing on the spiral of our divinity and still be a human...... Om Namah Shivaya, I tell you What!
Edited by leery11 (07/06/06 10:13 PM)
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DoctorJ


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KingOftheThing said: yeah the internet dating thing really would be my rock bottom. im not ready for that yet
I say, swallow your pride and go for it!
Who cares where you meet ms right, as long as she's ms. right!
I met my current GF off myspace. never been happier with a girl. She's exactly what I needed, albeit a few years late.
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Re: another person whining [Re: DoctorJ]
#5829893 - 07/06/06 10:59 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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DoctorJ said:
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KingOftheThing said: yeah the internet dating thing really would be my rock bottom. im not ready for that yet
I say, swallow your pride and go for it!
Who cares where you meet ms right, as long as she's ms. right!
I met my current GF off myspace. never been happier with a girl. She's exactly what I needed, albeit a few years late.
I agree with this guy, who cares how you find ms right, atleast you find her! Its better to try with the resources you have then to not try at all because of social stigmas.
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Re: another person whining [Re: eligal]
#5830121 - 07/07/06 12:00 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Yeah, I mean...surely even jaded Shroomerite men can appreciate the power of the internet to draw people together, placing you in contact with people you would have never, ever met otherwise.
As long as you reach your destination, who cares how you got there?
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Re: another person whining [Re: eligal]
#5830287 - 07/07/06 01:07 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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KingOftheThing said: yeah the internet dating thing really would be my rock bottom. im not ready for that yet
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I say, swallow your pride and go for it!
Who cares where you meet ms right, as long as she's ms. right!
I met my current GF off myspace. never been happier with a girl. She's exactly what I needed, albeit a few years late.
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I agree with this guy, who cares how you find ms right, atleast you find her! Its better to try with the resources you have then to not try at all because of social stigmas.
LOL I met my second husband on a singles site. We ended up divorcing because he wants children, and I decided I wasn't ready for them, and couldn't tell him when I would be.
In spite of that, I still advocate meeting people online. There's a poll that links a personality test. The general idea thus far based on the results is that majority of the test takers from this site, have tested to have introverted personalities. This said, interaction with people is "draining".
The idea behind that is, if you don't like being around people to begin with, you're not as likely to find someone in the crowd. For me being around people at times proves irritating because I don't find anyone that I remotely identify with, at all. (Though, not to rule out the defensive attitude from the beginning as being a significant factor.)
The internet proves to allows an environment, where if you so choose, you can drop your normal daily defenses (or would rather pretend you're some super awesome person, when in reality you lead a rather pathetic life). There are a lot of fake people on the internet, and as in life it's fairly easy to spot them.
After all, who gives a damn what people think of you on the internet? I wouldn't personally go looking for love in some random chat room, or posting to a singles site (dates there always end up like interviews), but if talking to someone casually develops into something then what's the harm of following where it leads?
Destiny (if it exists), doesn't pertain only to physical contact anymore... as the world moves forward, so does destiny.
Just some thinks to think
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Re: another person whining [Re: DoctorJ]
#5830765 - 07/07/06 07:53 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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My parents met through a dating service, and they've been married for 27 years.
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Re: another person whining [Re: Silversoul]
#5830837 - 07/07/06 08:47 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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i've been trying to use facebook for dating off and on for about a year and a half...
currently i am speaking to one interesting girl who will converse with me in detail about anything, but it's hard to gauge her interest.
her xanga says that she is wanting to ask out some guy at her work though, and she's not in my city during the summer so i can't be like "hey so would you like to hang out"
so yeah........ I suppose this makes me a narcissist but I think I'd be way better than some guy working somewhere....... but I'd be sort of a very strange influence on her, given her religious nature and my inquisitive nature.
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Re: another person whining [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5830914 - 07/07/06 09:31 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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RandalFlagg said: I have thought about the internet dating thing and it just seems so utterly desperate that I can't bring myself to do it. I think it would be completely humiliating. It's like saying, "Hey...I've either failed at all of my relationships or I am such a dork that I haven't had any. Would you want to go out with me? Please...? I'm desperate."
Same here. It's an ego thing for sure, but one I don't see myself remedying anytime soon. It creeps me out for some reason, yet I've met a few shroomerites in real life and we're good friends now....
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Re: another person whining [Re: DoctorJ]
#5831702 - 07/07/06 01:31 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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DoctorJ said: I met my current GF off myspace. never been happier with a girl. She's exactly what I needed, albeit a few years late.
You have a girlfriend? When did this happen?
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Re: another person whining [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5831818 - 07/07/06 01:56 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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like 6 weeks ago.
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Re: another person whining [Re: DoctorJ]
#5831924 - 07/07/06 02:21 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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oh so its cool for you to complain about not finding someone that doesn't suck, but I get hated on for doing the same! pfffffffffft bitches.
Anyways Kott, you know what my advice is, since I listen to you whine all the time I'll nag you if thats what you want...I'll take one for the team
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Re: another person whining [Re: Gillette]
#5832589 - 07/07/06 05:11 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Gillette said: oh so its cool for you to complain about not finding someone that doesn't suck, but I get hated on for doing the same! pfffffffffft bitches.
Anyways Kott, you know what my advice is, since I listen to you whine all the time I'll nag you if thats what you want...I'll take one for the team
lol naaah the last thing i need is long distance nagging! at least when im dating a chick locally and she nags, im able to bang her. its the trade off all us guys accept. we put up with a certain amount of nagging as long as we know it eventually stops and we get some good lovin' 
i think i need a hippy chick as long as she is at least moderately attractive and without the dreads and body hair
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KingOftheThing said: and its me. its impossible to meet women im compatible with. i get so frustrated i just give up. however eventually i start getting all worked up and need to find a female to take to bed. usually this is someone im not even happy about bedding. ive decided to start working out again and attempt to stick with it. i havent in years really kept with it. i guess this is just cuz i got more chicks when i was younger and in shape. im not sure the type of chicks id even attract by being in better shape are the kind i want. i mean i bought a nice car which attracts women, and i have a pretty decent apartment which impresses some girls when i bring em in...they seem to be vapid whores though. i just want a girl who i can talk to, relate to, etc.. every so often i'll find one, wont realize it right away, then end up in the friend zone. i have a bunch of female friends, most of whom i get along wih great but now i know them too well to date them. then i have this other bad habit of crushing on chicks who are unattainable for one reason or another.
im not going to stop looking, or swear off women, that's crazy talk... i like the freedom of the single life, but sometimes i miss the companionship a relationship can provide. i dont miss the fights or nagging...but i think ive learned so much now from all my past dating experiences i could be a better boyfriend. im almost half tempted to check out an internet dating site, my buddy from work met his beautiful wife on match.com. that would be a last resort.
Ha Ha, there is no such thing as being compatable with another person. Give it up. Soon you will be involved with someone that will teach you everything you need to learn. But they won't ever be compatable with you. 
If you want compatable, get a dog.
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