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RandalFlagg
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#5806875 - 06/30/06 01:52 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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I'm going to whine again. Please bare with me.
I haven't gotten laid in two months. When you were getting sex on a regular basis and then all of a sudden you aren't...it sucks.
When I go for a long time (six months or more) without getting any I start to forget about it almost. When I start to forget about it, it doesn't bother me. But, in the sexless weeks and months after getting sex on a regular basis...I just can't stop thinking about it.
I am not too keen on a relationship right now nor am I in the mood to "mack", so I anticipate that I will continue to not get laid for a while. Does anybody have any tips on helping me to not think about sex? Is there a way to decrease my libido?
Help!!
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Chronic marijuana use is known to decrease the libido of men.
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Re: No sex [Re: MOTH]
#5806885 - 06/30/06 01:59 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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I hate being stoned.
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Dreamer987
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Why aren't you interested in a relationship?
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MOTH
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That's the only thing I could come up with...aside from profuse masturbation.
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Dreamer987
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Remember, theres nothing wrong with chronic masterbation.
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RandalFlagg
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Dreamer987 said: Why aren't you interested in a relationship?
Long story.
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Dreamer987
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I don't really know how you can get rid of your sex drive. Some kind of meditation? Priests Molest children, and that seems to work well for them...
Sex or a lack of it isn't really a big deal. A lot of men have to deal with that. Masturbation is a good outlet.
The real issue is why a healthy young dude like yourself does not want a relationship. You should tell us about that. Even if we don't have any advice for you, just writing it out might help you figure on some things.
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Re: No sex [Re: MOTH]
#5806914 - 06/30/06 02:08 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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EllemyshShade said: That's the only thing I could come up with...aside from profuse masturbation.
That stops working after a while.
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Re: No sex [Re: rod]
#5806922 - 06/30/06 02:12 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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rod said: people say saltpeter will
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you sure got a purdy mouf
/pats couch
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RandalFlagg
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Dreamer987 said: The real issue is why a healthy young dude like yourself does not want a relationship.
I've been in a super anti-social mood for the past couple of months. I do not feel like putting forth the effort that is required with a relationship at the present moment.
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MOTH
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Then why not find a friend who is only interested in sex. They're out there, I'm sure of it. Or would you consider this "macking?"
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RandalFlagg said:
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Dreamer987 said: The real issue is why a healthy young dude like yourself does not want a relationship.
I've been in a super anti-social mood for the past couple of months. I do not feel like putting forth the effort that is required with a relationship at the present moment.
Your not the only person who thinks like that. Its a matter of disgust of society, you have too much animosity towards the people you meet, so you feel its pointless to meet new people or create relationships.
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"I've been in a super anti-social mood for the past couple of months. I do not feel like putting forth the effort that is required with a relationship at the present moment."
well thats no good. The anti-social tendency's only get worse if you give up like that. I know from personal experience. The only way to get better is to work at it. Get out, socialize. Meet new people... all that jazz. It may be hard at first, but it gets easier after time. You know this. I could be off on this, but it seems like you would be happy just to get laid, or settle for less in a relationship. Thats not good for you. If you settle for whatever comes along, your setting yourself up for emotional failure. Get out, Socialize. Wait for the right women to find you. In the meantime: Jack-off.
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rod said: people say saltpeter will
they force you to drink saltpeter disguised as a generic gatorade-like liquid in boot camp. true story
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RandalFlagg said:
I haven't gotten laid in two months.
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!
2 months? You fuckin wussbag! I could do 2 months standing on my head whilst singing "I'm a Little Teapot"
Perhaps some day you will cast aside the shackles of the material world to become more than just a biological machine who wants what the chemicals in his brain tell him to want.
it's called willpower, dude. Perhaps you should accquire some.
2 months
bwhahahahahaha
sorry, its just that... 2 months!
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Re: No sex [Re: DoctorJ]
#5807773 - 06/30/06 08:58 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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DoctorJ said:
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RandalFlagg said:
I haven't gotten laid in two months.
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!
2 months? You fuckin wussbag! I could do 2 months standing on my head whilst singing "I'm a Little Teapot"
Perhaps some day you will cast aside the shackles of the material world to become more than just a biological machine who wants what the chemicals in his brain tell him to want.
it's called willpower, dude. Perhaps you should accquire some.
2 months
bwhahahahahaha
sorry, its just that... 2 months!
Sounds like you havent gotten any in a while...
Dont worry man, all in good time Atleast so Ive been telling myself
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Re: No sex [Re: eligal]
#5807886 - 06/30/06 10:10 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Try 22 years /wrists
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Re: No sex [Re: eligal]
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its been a year for me, and i've never really been bothered by it. as i found much more fufilling ways to spend my time and energy.
just try not to concentrate on it. obsessing about it is only going to make it that much worse....shrug...
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Re: No sex [Re: DoctorJ]
#5808328 - 07/01/06 12:29 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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DoctorJ said:
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RandalFlagg said:
I haven't gotten laid in two months.
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!
2 months? You fuckin wussbag! I could do 2 months standing on my head whilst singing "I'm a Little Teapot"
Perhaps some day you will cast aside the shackles of the material world to become more than just a biological machine who wants what the chemicals in his brain tell him to want.
it's called willpower, dude. Perhaps you should accquire some.
2 months
bwhahahahahaha
sorry, its just that... 2 months!
J is right. 2 months is nothing. Stop bitching man. I thought you were done posting anyway....
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Re: No sex [Re: MOTH]
#5808517 - 07/01/06 01:15 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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EllemyshShade said: Then why not find a friend who is only interested in sex. They're out there, I'm sure of it.
Friends with benefits? Hell yeah. If that fell into my lap (no pun intended) I'd go for it probably.
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Randalflagg said: "I've been in a super anti-social mood for the past couple of months. I do not feel like putting forth the effort that is required with a relationship at the present moment."
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Dreamer said: well thats no good. The anti-social tendency's only get worse if you give up like that. I know from personal experience.
Yeah, I know. I go through phases like this. I've been kind of bummed lately so it is hard to get my social skills going.
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RandalFlagg
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Re: No sex [Re: DoctorJ]
#5808554 - 07/01/06 01:24 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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DoctorJ said:
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RandalFlagg said: I haven't gotten laid in two months.
2 months? You fuckin wussbag! I could do 2 months standing on my head whilst singing "I'm a Little Teapot"
Perhaps some day you will cast aside the shackles of the material world to become more than just a biological machine who wants what the chemicals in his brain tell him to want.
I can't help it.
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RandalFlagg
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Penguarky Tunguin said: 2 months is nothing. Stop bitching man. I thought you were done posting anyway....
I have no idea what you're talking about.
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Penguarky Tunguin
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Cheer up man... I need to do the same thing. Was at a friends house who just so happens to live about 20 steps away from the ex.... Could easily have knocked on her door, but decided against it.....
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RandalFlagg
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Oh God, I'm so horny.
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Penguarky Tunguin
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Want me to send you a pic of myself?
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RandalFlagg
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Woah pal. I don't swing that way.
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Penguarky Tunguin
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Hey man, you're all alone right? Who's to know, other than me of course.
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Stop posting in this thread about it... it's only going to make you think about it more. You've admitted that you are not likely to have sex in the near future, so why worry? If you're not willing to do anything about solving your problem, forget about your problem entirely.
Remember that you have complete control over what you think... your mind has the power to ignore physical impulses, regardless of their overwhelming strength.
I'd recommend meditation over masturbation. Masturbation may temporarily curb the physical drive, but surely it isn't helping you think about sex any less.
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Re: No sex [Re: Torrid]
#5808652 - 07/01/06 01:45 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Torrid said: Stop posting in this thread about it... it's only going to make you think about it more. You've admitted that you are not likely to have sex in the near future, so why worry?
Remember that you have complete control over what you think... your mind has the power to ignore physical impulses, regardless of their overwhelming strength.
Masturbation may temporarily curb the physical drive, but surely it isn't helping you think about sex any less. I'd recommend meditation over masturbation.
ohm....need sex.....ohm.....need sex....ohm....
Just kidding. Thanks for the advice.
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MOTH
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RandalFlagg said:
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Randalflagg said: "I've been in a super anti-social mood for the past couple of months. I do not feel like putting forth the effort that is required with a relationship at the present moment."
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Dreamer said: well thats no good. The anti-social tendency's only get worse if you give up like that. I know from personal experience.
Yeah, I know. I go through phases like this. I've been kind of bummed lately so it is hard to get my social skills going.
Where is feeling bummed coming from?
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Re: No sex [Re: MOTH]
#5809303 - 07/01/06 10:16 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Probably 'cause of the decrease in poon intake....
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vicious cycle...
increased exercise and other forms of 'release' will help.. you like to fish and be outside, right? spend more time outdoors.. go for short hikes in the evening a few hours before bed.. while you're out, your mind shouldn't be on booty as there are no obvious signs in nature (save for that occasional used lifestyles).. and, you'll be too tired to lay in bed thinking about the ass you aren't getting when it's time to call it a day.
in the mornings.. the gym, maybe? jog? bike? i dunno what your schedule is like, what you do, etc.. (you passed out at NE before we had any sort of conversation )..
or.. you could go the artsy route and paint or sculpt or something..
just find more things to occupy your time that provide some form of release that while maybe not comparable to busting a nut, will keep your mind off that piece of missing pie.
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Your active sex drive is fueled by testosterone. As you are in your twenties, your testosterone levels are still fairly high, though lower than they were during adolescence.
The main reason you go into what I like to call the "camel phase" (as in walking across miles of desert without an opportunity to quench your thirst) after six months is that the lack of activity causes your testosterone levels to drop.
If you would like to induce the "camel phase" a little earlier, you can lower your testosterone levels by refraining from fantasy and masturbation, eating a primarily vegetarian diet, avoiding vigorous exercise and weight training, and only playing games you are likely to lose.
(Sexual activity/fantasy, meat, exercise & winning competitions all raise testosterone levels.)
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Re: No sex [Re: Veritas]
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Re: No sex [Re: MOTH]
#5809539 - 07/01/06 11:56 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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RandalFlagg said: I've been kind of bummed lately so it is hard to get my social skills going.
Where is feeling bummed coming from?
I don't really want to go into it.
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Re: No sex [Re: Veritas]
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Veritas said: The main reason you go into what I like to call the "camel phase" (as in walking across miles of desert without an opportunity to quench your thirst) after six months is that the lack of activity causes your testosterone levels to drop.
If you would like to induce the "camel phase" a little earlier, you can lower your testosterone levels by refraining from fantasy and masturbation, eating a primarily vegetarian diet, avoiding vigorous exercise and weight training, and only playing games you are likely to lose.
The game-losing thing sounds like a great idea!
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RandalFlagg
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Yoschie99 said: increased exercise and other forms of 'release' will help.. you like to fish and be outside, right? spend more time outdoors.. go for short hikes in the evening a few hours before bed..
Yeah, keeping busy is a good idea. That does keep my mind off of sex usually. It's when I'm lounging about watching hot women on TV is when I really start to think about it.
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Source: "The Alchemy of Love and Lust," by Theresa L. Crenshaw, M.D.
An excellent book to read if you'd like to understand endocrinology & how it messes with your life.
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MOTH
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RandalFlagg said: I've been kind of bummed lately so it is hard to get my social skills going.
Where is feeling bummed coming from?
I don't really want to go into it.
Alrighty then.
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just suck it up and go meet some broads!
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RandalFlagg
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KingOftheThing said: just suck it up and go meet some broads!
Yeah, good point. I'll get around to that one of these days. But, at the present moment I am kind of pushing people away. I don't think that I am emotionally ready for a relationship at the moment.
And the woman that I really want won't return my calls:
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man, its not all that bad, and sex is just sex. not really a big deal imho. i actually decided to do away with the bullshit of sex after newyears, so i could concentrate on other more inportant things in life.
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Re: No sex [Re: ZippoZ]
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yeah I haven't had sex in four months its not that bad, as long as no one mentions it
at the same time, I can't be bothered with it, I don't want a relationship, or a fuck buddy, so really theres no point in complaining.
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yeah, in reality sex is great, wooooooooo sex
but it comes along with a lot of social connotations and issues, such as relationsihps, std's, drama, and last but not least chiildren.
As i really would prefer not to have anything to do with a good portion of the things listed above, sex is just a bad idea.
of course this is the logical side of my mind, and on ocasion the physical side kicks in, with its thousands of years of sex that has brought me to be, evolution, and the internal human nature to procreate.
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Re: No sex [Re: ZippoZ]
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zippoz said: but it comes along with a lot of social connotations and issues, such as relationsihps, std's, drama, and last but not least chiildren.
As i really would prefer not to have anything to do with a good portion of the things listed above, sex is just a bad idea.
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RandalFlagg said: And the woman that I really want won't return my calls:
She's a man, baby!
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Awwww, nigga that's a DUDE!
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