Why is it an initial reaction to feel ashamed at strong feelings? Usually these feelings are pointers, allowing us to delve into our subconsicous and find out what the real meaning behind the top emotion is. For example, if you were to find out your neighbor just got a brand new car and you immediately start feeling jealous of his car. This would seem to many to be just another jealosy issue. It is, but in order to fix this problem of jealosy, one must first find out what the lower layers of emotion are.
Many would stop at the first layer, and call it a day. I mean, it's embarassing enough that your neighbor got a better car, why make it worse by thinking about it? It might actually help one to skip this same routine when another situation like this one arises. Do the work now, have it pay off later type of thing. In my opinion, when one feels jealosy, it is most likely an insecurity issue. Jealosy is just an emotion created to protect the ego. Once you become less subservient to your ego, you are able to explore emotions more and "disarm" them at a lower or base level feeling. To me, it seems that the lower you go to explore where an emotion stems from, it creates a much better result of finding out what the real issue is and solving it.
The bottom line is that I feel that I need to be less of a slave to my ego than I am currently. The ego, while fun at times, seems to me to be more of a flaw than anything else.
-------------------- Moderation is key "There is no god higher than truth."
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Yes right, but it's not only about jealousy. Think about how many people feel ashamed with feeling love for somebody else. Or attraction, despair, impatience. It all comes from deeper layers as you said. And the problem is a social one too. Cause if you come and think about it, the way society, media and all these shit are washing our brains with has the biggest impact on our behaviour and the way we want the others that are around us to perceive us. For example, there is let's say this commercial with this tough guy which also looks good and has mo emotion (as is vulnerable point) and gets all the attention from hot chicks plus an awesome car to go with. The reaction of maybe more then 60% of the males is to get that "tough" look and behaviour thinking that would make him look hot and ready for action, not to mention that could have any woman and car he wants, cause that's what that funky commercial tells, so in his mind, they must be right. And then start neglecting his emotions, doing stupid things sometimes is order to get that "I don't care" look. So instantly, as an effect to that, he'll just go around trying to get rid of all his emotions. Now, in the same time, women watch this commercial too and the majority of them go crazy about tough guys with hot cars cause they'll just think something like " oh, wait till my friend sees me with such a hot guy, she'll go insane", that thinking coming from her own fears and complexes. That's what it's called using human emotions in order to make them... give us their money and souls. Emotions are one of the most precious things a human being can have. They can rise us up and make very spiritual persons, as well as they can tear us down and get out what's worst and mean. So people get emotionally manipulated by turning what could be a noble emotion into a daemon. And that's where the problems begin. Cause people don't come aware of the roots of their desires, they just act on impulse and here interferes too the self preservation instinct. See, I've thought about that a lot and came to the conclusion that fear can be very easily confused with the that instinct, cause the reactions resembles too much and then, in panic, people can't tell one from another. People must become aware of theyr true nature but this is veru hard when yes, the media, again puts a sad face on everything and tears people's moral to the ground, we're not able anymore to see the good things so we can regain our faith in ourselves. Cause it all comes to that. Somebody which has believes in his of hers feelings won't feel threatened by feelings like fear, jealousy or whatever. Because they already know that these are normal feelings, not necessarily jealousy. Even jealousy can be turned from an evil feeling to something spiritual, it's all a difference of a point of view. Like let's say they think about it in a manner like that: Oh it's not a bad feeling I get for my neighbor's new car, I just wish I had one like his and there's no reason for hating that, cause instead of hating him, I can try to do my best to be able to afford such a car. And so on.
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   All this time I've loved you And never known your face All this time I've missed you And searched this human race Here is true peace Here my heart knows calm Safe in your soul Bathed in your sighs
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