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Mike_yy


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What is it about women that ?
#5769627 - 06/19/06 07:57 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Makes them get bored of things so often. How can a person go from being the best thing to have around, to being basically nothing. In the space of literally days or weeks, without that person actually changing at all.
Man I'm realizing i have so much to learn, and i thought i had learnt so much already.
( sorry for posting in here so often but if you had any idea what my life is like maybe you would understand how constant my stress is. All these little intimate issues have been affecting me badly recently [on top of everything], now i have to let go but I'm severely wondering what i need to learn from it all.)
I know lifes lessons feel like a kick in the teeth at first but i must be missing something.
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Re: What is it about women that ? [Re: Mike_yy]
#5769660 - 06/19/06 08:07 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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i assume you build all sorts of expectations at first. people tend to have a sort of "front" they cultivate but often not much behind it after a few days\weeks you hit that patch when you've ran out of things to talk about and usually expect the other person to keep delivering the goods but they can't!
it's not easy to form a relationship where you're comfrtable doing nothing togather or getting board. sometimes people are simply not in the mood and you just don't know how to adjust to this new state they exibit...
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Re: What is it about women that ? [Re: Mike_yy]
#5769732 - 06/19/06 08:29 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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So yeah, i guess i need to put this in aswell as im never clear about things.
Situation:
Im 23 years old, i live at home looking after my mum because she has emphasema. Ive had a full social life up to now, but for that last few years all my friends have been starting familys. So i don't see them that much anymore. Even my best friend i only see once a week because thats how things are now. Thats all ok, people need to do what they do.
But i feel so trapped in my situation, my mum may have many years left yet but me being in this house is taking away my youth. I mean im not allowed/carn't do anything.
My life is on hold basically !
So after years of this i eventually got into msn ( shroomery too but i still love it so ).
I met a girl after talking to many that i really connected with. We talked for up to 12 hours a day for nearly 5 months, now its ended because things do and i feel pain.
Sounds lame but because of my whole situation i got soooo sucked into it.
My best friend tells me i should just get out of this house. I feel like i should stay even though its killing me, my relationship with my mum is almost non existant considering. My mum and my bro on the other hand are totally different, but then he moved out years before as things got tough ( he is older than me though so i guess its right ) So im the only one who has to be at home. Man im going to miss out on so much in so many ways.
Anything you can say about this would help, i keep posting but i never really get to the point and i think that those of you that have helped before know this.
If i'd got to the point sooner maybe i wouldn't be writing this now !
Thanks,,,
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Re: What is it about women that ? [Re: Simisu]
#5769769 - 06/19/06 08:43 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yeah,, its hard.
Ive been round at a friends house tonight, i don't go round that often but ive been round twice this week.
Ive known her for years but we have never really hanged together, though she says im one of her best friends. I started to get a sense that she was tired of me being there, normally she's begging me to go round because i usually say "no" because im too stoned and stuff. She's not being funny about it but i can tell, if i keep going round she might become sick of it very quickly. Im not talking everyday here like twice a week i mean.
So do i hold back and keep saying "no" so she appreciates me when im there or do i just be a regular friend and let her get bored of me ?
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Re: What is it about women that ? [Re: Mike_yy]
#5769779 - 06/19/06 08:45 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'm not going to diss the entire female sex. But, there is a consistent thing that I have noticed about a lot of younger women; they get bored easily.
You have to have an exciting life to keep them interested. You have to have people wanting to hang out with you, fun shit going on all of the time, and charisma. If you are missing any one of those things you're fucked. They'll get bored and move on to the next guy.
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Re: What is it about women that ? [Re: Mike_yy]
#5769786 - 06/19/06 08:48 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Whoops. Double post.
Edited by RandalFlagg (06/19/06 08:54 PM)
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Re: What is it about women that ? [Re: Mike_yy]
#5769805 - 06/19/06 08:54 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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mikeyyork said: Ive known her for years but we have never really hanged together, though she says im one of her best friends.
Kiss of death. Women don't want to fuck or be with "best friends".
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mikeyyork said: I started to get a sense that she was tired of me being there, normally she's begging me to go round because i usually say "no" because im too stoned and stuff.
Classic immature girl behavior. When you are too busy for her or when you push her away she wants you. But, when you make an effort to really be around her she gets bored and annoyed.
I call this whole dance the "social ladder step-up". If you don't have time for her that means you have better shit to do. If you have better shit to do then that means you have a life. If you have a better life than she does...then she wants you because you are a catch and she will move up the ladder by being around you. But, if you are constantly wanting to be with her that means you don't have as many options for stuff to do. If you don't have as many options for stuff to do then that means you don't have much of a life. If you don't have much of a life...she doesn't want anything to do with you.
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Re: What is it about women that ? [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5769857 - 06/19/06 09:07 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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or maybe it's just him thinking all that shit? what if she actualy enjoys his compeny? what if that's all in his head? don't want to mess you up here but i have to deal with similar thoughts... he's stuck at home feeling unsetisfied about his life and when he finelly gets out he's only thinking "what do people think of my life... i'm boaring... mehhh...." or whatever and it creats that bad vibe he understands as "she thinks i shouldn't be around right now"
you shouldn't consider what she feels at all though! if she calls and you WANT to hang out with her then do it... and don't be afraid to call her either! she should be able to decide for her self if she'd like to see you. i'd lay off the weed for a while though! sounds to me like you're over analizing your self because you can't figure out what's wrong, right?
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Re: What is it about women that ? [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5769878 - 06/19/06 09:14 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Great posts Randal. I've noticed the exact same thing.
Women are brought up to believe they are princesses. If they are not treated like that (and that could mean many things) then they move on to the guy that will treat them like princesses. Because they have the vagina and guys want the vagina, they think that their double axe wound is gold. The only way to counteract this is to not give into the call of this bleeding genital. It's hard for 99% of the guys, but that guy that plays hard to get, will be hard a lot longer than guys that don't, if you get what I'm saying. 
The only solution is to date older women. But there lies a problem as well... and that is many older women will NOT want a long term relationship with a man who is younger than her. They just don't do it. Women give into the opinions of others on a ratio so high that it boggles the mind. Even if they consider themselves rational ( ) thinkers, they still base their personal actions on what others think of them or their situation. It's absolutely ridiculous.
As for the OP, you're 23, taking care of your mom and "I mean im not allowed/carn't do anything." You're taking care of her and she's still imposing adolescent-era rules on you??? Get the FUCK out of this situation as soon as possible!
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The whole "treating them like a princess" thing is a fine line. If you overdue it they will see you as needy, desperate, and pathetic. There is no greater anti-aphrodisiac than that combination.
Edited by RandalFlagg (06/19/06 09:38 PM)
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Re: What is it about women that ? [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5769972 - 06/19/06 09:41 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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I know. I'm saying don't treat them like a princess. Treat YOURSELF like a MAN and do what a MAN would do. That's the key. Take charge of shit. Treating her right doesn't equal treating them like a princess. Treat them like your WOMAN.
But also remember that the best way to deal with them is to treat them as if they were an unruly teenager. 
When they're not acting like that, treat them like a woman, hopefully they'll start acting like one more.
I have to stop capitalizing. 
And I'm rambling.
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Penguarky Tunguin said: I know. I'm saying don't treat them like a princess. Treat YOURSELF like a MAN and do what a MAN would do.

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Penguarky Tunguin said: I have to stop capitalizing. 
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Get that bitch in line! Don't take any shit from these bitches!
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Re: What is it about women that ? [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5770158 - 06/19/06 10:28 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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RandalFlagg said: I'm not going to diss the entire female sex. But, there is a consistent thing that I have noticed about a lot of younger women; they get bored easily.
You have to have an exciting life to keep them interested. You have to have people wanting to hang out with you, fun shit going on all of the time, and charisma. If you are missing any one of those things you're fucked. They'll get bored and move on to the next guy.
dude, I've had all those things going for me for several years and still didn't get laid as often as I should have.
women are a mystery. mostly one that isn't worth your time.
but every now and then you bump into one that knows you and you know her and there is no secrets or bullshit between you. Thats what you need to be on the lookout for.
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Penguarky Tunguin said: Great posts Randal. I've noticed the exact same thing.
Women are brought up to believe they are princesses. If they are not treated like that (and that could mean many things) then they move on to the guy that will treat them like princesses. Because they have the vagina and guys want the vagina, they think that their double axe wound is gold. The only way to counteract this is to not give into the call of this bleeding genital.
totally agree. our society spoils women. if guys didn't bend over backwards all the time just to get laid, women would have to step up their game.
I've been spreading psychic vibes to make men more resistant to the charms of women, in hopes that they might grow some balls and start using their minds a little more and their genitals a little less.
One of the reasons most women despise me is because I'm ruining their little global pyramid scheme. Men and women are equal. No sex is superior to the other. Anyone who has a problem with this I say: STFU, fascist!
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Re: What is it about women that ? [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5771653 - 06/20/06 07:21 AM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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RandalFlagg said:
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Penguarky Tunguin said:
Coming soon!! Penguarky Tunguin: Misogynist motivational speaker
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Get that bitch in line! Don't take any shit from these bitches!
Exactly! Ever see Magnolia?? "Respect the cock and tame the cunt."
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Re: What is it about women that ? [Re: DoctorJ]
#5771661 - 06/20/06 07:27 AM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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I agree with you too man.
If guys would stop thinking with their small head 99% of them time and use the other one, like you said, women would have to step up their game.
Invariably you get the "well, it's my nature to want to fuck as many women as possible". True, but we aren't primates, we have a human brain and a human mind capable of analysis, contemplation and reflection. Use it! EVOLVE.
"The modern world knows of women who feel they want to be emancipated materially and socially from man, but not of men who feel they want to be emancipated inwardly and spiritually from women."
"Contemporary humanity believed, almost without question, in the great ignominious dogma of the moral superiority of women."
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Re: What is it about women that ? [Re: Mike_yy]
#5771709 - 06/20/06 08:04 AM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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We talked for up to 12 hours a day for nearly 5 months
to me, that sounds like the #1 problem. thats roughly 1800 hours. it seems like after talking for that long, you would just run out of things to say... and yes, get bored.
try not pouring yourself out all at once, leave some mystery, man!
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