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Mike_yy


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Im Gutted !
#5742842 - 06/12/06 06:05 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Someone who i love very much has just left me, i was acting like a prick getting jealous when i was drunk.
And now thats it !
This is a stupid thread i know but i just had to get it out.
I haven't felt like this in years, id forgotten how bad it is. I hope it goes away soon .
Im off to go get very stoned.
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ZippoZ
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Re: Im Gutted ! [Re: Mike_yy]
#5742946 - 06/12/06 06:28 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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just remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea... actually thats not really a good analogy as were over fishing the worlds oceans, but you get the drift.
give it some time, and try and keep in touch with her, even though you might not want to, its a good thing to do.
best of luck man. peace
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zippoz "in times of widespread chaos and confusion, it has been the duty of more advanced human beings - artists, scientists, clowns, and philosophers - to create order. In such times as ours however, when there is too much order, too much m management, too much programming and control, it becomes the duty of superior men and women and women to fling their favorite monkey wrenches into the machinery. To relieve the repression of the human spirit, they must sow doubt and disruption" "People do it every day, they talk to themselves ... they see themselves as they'd like to be, they don't have the courage you have, to just run with it."
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Mike_yy


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Re: Im Gutted ! [Re: ZippoZ]
#5743013 - 06/12/06 06:45 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Thanks man.
I do want to keep in touch, i'll have to see what happens.
It sucks though, it's not looking good lol.
oh well.
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MushroomTrip
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Re: Im Gutted ! [Re: Mike_yy]
#5743154 - 06/12/06 07:12 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Relax cause what's been done is done. Maybe some apologises would help, but nothing more. If you are to get back together, you will... if not, it means it was not enough what was there between of you two. I know it may sound harsh, but it's true. Try to understand and take advantage of your loneliness. Every time you get out of a realtionship, you need to reanalize yourself in order to gind out where you are, cause every relationship changes you. And you need to be aware of that change. And all in all, you'll be ok.
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   All this time I've loved you And never known your face All this time I've missed you And searched this human race Here is true peace Here my heart knows calm Safe in your soul Bathed in your sighs
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Re: Im Gutted ! [Re: Mike_yy]
#5744243 - 06/12/06 10:48 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Sucks man.
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Mike_yy


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I know, im being ignored completely. Im suppost to work today but i don't think i can.
I might sound like a pussy but i just want to curl up somewhere. I feel like i mean nothing, its only decencey to say something isn't it ?
Man i don't deserve this.
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Mike_yy


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Re: Im Gutted ! [Re: Mike_yy]
#5745050 - 06/13/06 07:50 AM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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This is a lesson for anyone who knows they are being stupid about something, but their emotions keep making them play up.
DON'T DO IT
Half the time your trying to protect something or get your point across, even tho you know deep inside your being unreasonable. Keep acting like that and you will lose eveything, then suddenly your point means fuck all and all you want are things to be like they were.
I hope im smart enough to learn from this, my stupidity is hitting me pretty hard right now.
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Re: Im Gutted ! [Re: Mike_yy]
#5745179 - 06/13/06 09:17 AM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Dude just relax. I know it sound unbelievably hard right now, but there's no need to panic, we've all been stupid more then once, I can guarantee you that, and whoever sustains they didn't they are lying. So try not to worry or blame yourself that much... cause without doing really stupid things we wouldn't have where to learn from. Being hard on yourself doesn't help a bit... this IS the time where you must get along with yourself. SO please, try to come in peace with the thought that you made a mistake.
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Re: Im Gutted ! [Re: Mike_yy]
#5745270 - 06/13/06 10:08 AM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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mikeyyork said: Someone who i love very much has just left me, i was acting like a prick getting jealous when i was drunk.
And now thats it !
This is a stupid thread i know but i just had to get it out.
I haven't felt like this in years, id forgotten how bad it is. I hope it goes away soon .
Im off to go get very stoned.
You got exactly what you deserve. You created it. Now go get stoned.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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Mike_yy


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Your right, it just hurts at the moment.
I'll miss her alot.
Thank you so much for your advice, again ! i really appreciate it.
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Mike_yy


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Re: Im Gutted ! [Re: Icelander]
#5745301 - 06/13/06 10:26 AM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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I wasn't that bad man, she's being very senstive about this.
I don't think i deserve this considering all we have been through, and all we have helped each other with. It was only afew days ago we was getting on fine.
She has a different opinion of me now, but she has changed it fast. Most of the time we are very close, so this is abit of a shock.
I realize it's me that has started this. For that i am very sorry. After feeling like this i don't think i could act like that again. I might never get to find out but i hope ive learnt something.
I was acting too strongly, but i was only doing that because i cared so much and i was worried, as stupid as that sounds. Its not like i told her she couldn't do anything, i was more just trying to understand her point of view. Which she told me i just never took it in properly, i think that has alot to do with this.
hmmm.
Thank you anyway, i guess this needs analysing abit. I'll probably think something different tomorrow, ugh.
Edited by Mike_yy (06/13/06 10:46 AM)
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Re: Im Gutted ! [Re: Mike_yy]
#5745448 - 06/13/06 11:30 AM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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This is what you said.
i was acting like a prick getting jealous when i was drunk.
Then you come on to say you didn't do much. Well which is it?
If it was an isolated incident then why her reaction? There's more to this then you are letting on.
Or
If you're being completely truthful then just let her go as she's not worth the trouble. She obviously has not been truthful about her feelings for you for some time.
If you want to get over your indulging in being heartbroken, try exaggerating your feelings to the max right now. Soon you will see and feel how silly it all is and you will move on.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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Mike_yy


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Re: Im Gutted ! [Re: Icelander]
#5745762 - 06/13/06 01:33 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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I was acting like a dick, but not in a way that i would say is unbearable. Obviously im wrong because of her reaction. but i wasn't being that bad.
Its not just an isolated case, i said most of the time we are very close. Which we was, but yes it has come up in the past. Ive never had a reaction as bad as this form her, but its affected her twice before.
I admit i made a mistake, but given how well we get along normally i don't think i deserve being abondoned totally. I still think things are ok in my head ( or at least they would be ), but her perception has changed.
At the end of it its up to her, if she doesn't want to be around then she shouldn't be.
I just want to forget about it and move on, preferably with her still about. I know i made a mistake though so of course thats going to be what i want. Obviously she thinks very different to how i do.
Whatever happens, happens but it just seems like such a waste.
I could of been alot worse, i wasn't trying to control. I said she can do what she wants. I don't know what i was doing really, i was just reacting badly to stuff.
Its not the end of the world, and im not the worlds biggest twat. I just fucked up !. Now i feel gutted.
This just seems like abit much, i must of really pissed her off. She is very senstive though, and she does have a short fuse. As i have found out, she's still lovely tho even with that. I just hate it when its aimed at me.
Edited by Mike_yy (06/13/06 05:22 PM)
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Re: Im Gutted ! [Re: Mike_yy]
#5746404 - 06/13/06 04:47 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Just give it a another 30 years and the experience of getting dumped and dumping plenty of times. If you are wise you will realize what's really going on, and it's not what popular culture has been saying. Then you will be ready for some great relationships.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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Mike_yy


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Re: Im Gutted ! [Re: Icelander]
#5746468 - 06/13/06 05:17 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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I wasn't really dumped, she was a friend that i had got really close too. Ive spent hours and hours talking to her and i was scared of things changing, i smelt change and i over reacted. Stupid really !, but i have enjoyed so much time with her.
(well, maybe i have been dumped abit)
Sorry for being a whiney bitch, i was quite upset when i first wrote this thread. I am feeling better already.
What do you think is really going on ?, if you don't mind me asking im all intrigued now,,,, .
Man i'll be 53 in another 30 years !
Edited by Mike_yy (06/13/06 05:45 PM)
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Re: Im Gutted ! [Re: Mike_yy]
#5749262 - 06/14/06 11:10 AM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Well I'm 53 now. It was only when I finally realized and could act on the realization that I didn't need anyone for anything. I was fine on my own and like myself enough to enjoy that state forever.
Then a different type of women showed up in my life. (Veritas) We don't need each other for our selfworth and stay together because we want to learn somethings about ourselves in relationship to each other. If the time comes to leave we will not have major regrets or sadness as we both know that life is change. It took me most of my life to get here and I ain't going back for nothing. 
What I think is "going on" is that we are taught a fairytale about love and romance and although it doesn't turn out like the tales we keep on trying to make it and the result is mostly massive suffering.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
Edited by Icelander (06/14/06 11:12 AM)
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Mike_yy


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Re: Im Gutted ! [Re: Icelander]
#5750956 - 06/14/06 08:05 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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I guess you would need to lose that dependency we have.
I know there are times when the dependency doesn't even exist, and your happy. So when you become dependent, why you think you would be miserable without that person i don't know. Love i guess, attachment, selfishness, fear.
Its strange really, it can change a person completely.
I seen Verita's on here , she gives some very good advice. I'm sure Ive rated her before, she seems very knowledgeable and wise.
I think your idea of what's going on sounds about right, Ive thought similar myself but its never impacted on me the same yet. I still get attached so maybe its that i have to actually realize it, rather than it just being some thought i had one day. I think ideas and realizations are very different.
Its sad that society thinks like that though.
I'm more or less out of the pulling game now because i had realizations . Suddenly it seemed so shallow and like an act. Men acting a certain way to pull women, women looking for men that are acting a certain way. I rarely go to a club and see people being themselves. Most people think thats something you SHOULD be into, like its to be normal.
Maybe it can be fun but i want to be myself. I mean fate usually does throw something at you. Thats when things seem to be more meaningful.
It would be nice to cut the heartache out but then we would never learn what we need to,,, .
Nice talking to ya !
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Re: Im Gutted ! [Re: Mike_yy]
#5750973 - 06/14/06 08:09 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Well, things happen. Go on and live life at its fullest, and dont let something pull you down and keep you from being happy.Also, dont get stoned...i know it seems smart, but drugs cant sove problems.
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Mike_yy


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MisterShroomGuy said: dont get stoned...i know it seems smart, but drugs cant sove problems.
They do help for short term. Weed makes it alot easier to concentrate on something else, taking your mind off things.
People are prescribed drugs for high stress. If you get really bad and you go to the doctors you be given something, so i would say they can be very helpful in some cases.
Ideally only for short term, but if you smoke dope you smoke dope .
Thanks for your advice and time though
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Re: Im Gutted ! [Re: Icelander]
#5751041 - 06/14/06 08:25 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Icelander said: If you are wise you will realize what's really going on, and it's not what popular culture has been saying. Then you will be ready for some great relationships.
can you elaborate on this?
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