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Vvellum
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advice needed
#5702052 - 06/01/06 11:20 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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ok, so...several years ago I was in a relationship that ended badly. We never spoke to each other again. She went her way and I left town. Long story.
I have zero interest in ever seeing her face ever again.
We both have mutual friends. One of our mutual friends is opening a bar and the grand opening night is next weekend. Many old friends will be there and it should be a good time - two people going I havent seen in years and would absolutely love to hang out with them.
My ex will surely be there.
I do not want to see her much less talk to her. It would be incredibly awkward to run into each other - perhaps a night-ruiner.
Should I even go to the bar opening? What would you guys do?
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Jim


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Re: advice needed [Re: Vvellum]
#5702056 - 06/01/06 11:21 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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I wouldn't go....
I would tell your friend in confidence the situation
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Re: advice needed [Re: Jim]
#5702101 - 06/01/06 11:30 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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I say go. That whole mess was years ago. If you see her, just nod and don't give it a second thought. I would also suggest bringin a ladyfriend as a date.
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Re: advice needed [Re: Vvellum]
#5702106 - 06/01/06 11:31 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Fucking go. Play it cool. Say hi, hows it going. You know the usual bullshit and go on. Pretend she's a girl you met a concert one night and you barely remember her.
She'll love that.
I say go though, for your friend. Do it for the friend opeining the bar and the friends you would like to see. Don't go just because some bitch is gonna be there.
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Re: advice needed [Re: Vvellum]
#5702160 - 06/01/06 11:47 PM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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bi0 said: I have zero interest in ever seeing her face ever again. I do not want to see her much less talk to her. It would be incredibly awkward to run into each other - perhaps a night-ruiner.
that grudge must be a heavy burden to bear for such a long time, set it asside for a single night, go there, if you happen to see her, be friendly and polite. hump her in a bathroom stall if that helps but let it go, anger will drown you
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simply a way of saying it's all small shit, why sweat it
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Re: advice needed [Re: Vvellum]
#5702281 - 06/02/06 12:19 AM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Go!
Running away from the thing you fear, will only make it more powerfull.
Stop living in the past and enjoy a party with old friends.
If you see her.....only remember the good times you had with her. Ignore the hatred/anger.......see past it, for it can only bring you down.
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Re: advice needed [Re: Vvellum]
#5702298 - 06/02/06 12:22 AM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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You should go. You're there to support your friend. Try to avoid her as much as possible. If she bothers you by continuing to talk to you or following you around, then leave early. Tell your friend the situation so he understands your reason for leaving.
Go, have fun...hook-up with a new girly. 
BTW, hi there.
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Re: advice needed [Re: Vvellum]
#5702392 - 06/02/06 12:35 AM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Definitely go. Don't let her being there ruin an otherwise great night.
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Re: advice needed [Re: Vvellum]
#5702420 - 06/02/06 12:41 AM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Go. Ignore her if you cross paths.
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Re: advice needed [Re: Vvellum]
#5703522 - 06/02/06 10:28 AM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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Oh man...I love stuff like this. I think it's because I'm a very vindictive person. You should go just to show the ex that you do not give a fuck about her. But, you must do it subtely.
Show up with a girl if you can. That always helps to twist the dagger into the back of an ex. When you come into contact with the ex you must not engage in extremes. Don't be too over-friendly because she will think you still like her. Don't be mean or completely ignore her because you will look petty and like you are still hung up on her. Be blandly friendly. Make it look like you truly have no interest in talking to her, but that you are trying to be polite. Give her the same attention you would if a friend introduced you to somebody you probably wouldn't ever meet again.
Muhahahaha!!
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I agree with most posts. Go and and don't be concerned. The fact that you posted about this makes it obvious that it is a big deal for you. Cut that shit out. Are you still dating her? Hell no, so don't let her continue to affect your life! Pretend she is not there, even when you can see her standing across the room. Don't do anything to try and hurt her, or prove to her that she doesn't affect you, no need to play games. Just chill out and have some drinks with your friends. Forget about her, it's over man.
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Re: advice needed [Re: Vvellum]
#5703569 - 06/02/06 10:41 AM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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go. dont get shit faced though and start babbling like a madman to her
enjoy the buzz and flirt with other chicks
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Re: advice needed [Re: evolprim]
#5703638 - 06/02/06 10:59 AM (17 years, 7 months ago) |
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evolprim said: go. dont get shit faced though and start babbling like a madman to her
What he said. It probably won't be as bad as your thinking it'll be, just be civil to each other if you cross paths.
Leave the past in the past where it belongs and enjoy the present. If your ok with each other on the night, and end up talking nicely it might actually help sort things in your head abit.
I don't know what happened between you though
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Quote:
notapillow said: GO you can get drunk then it wont matter what hapens
best advice evar!
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