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ShattrdHarlequin
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How to Break up with a girl?
#5659670 - 05/22/06 10:51 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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So I've been dating this girl for a couple of months.... its gotten really serious really quick... to the point of her wanting me to move in... etc. etc..... well I took her out to a fest with me this weekend and just being around tons of beautiful happy people made me realize that this girl is just too negative for me to be with.... I never really noticed that basically every other thing she says is some kind of complaint.... but now it seems to be all I can focus on.... I want to get out of this relationship.... shes REALLY attached to me and I don't want to hurt her anymore than I have to as she is a really awesome person.... I'm sure.... "you're just too negative of a person" isn't the way to go about it.... how can I put it to her without hurting her too much?
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badchad
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IMO breaking up is like taking off a Band-Aid. Doing it quickly and fast minimizes the pain.
Don't screw around with "We'll take a break for a while", or "Lets just slow down". Be straight and to the point.
-------------------- ...the whole experience is (and is as) a profound piece of knowledge. It is an indellible experience; it is forever known. I have known myself in a way I doubt I would have ever occurred except as it did. Smith, P. Bull. Menninger Clinic (1959) 23:20-27; p. 27. ...most subjects find the experience valuable, some find it frightening, and many say that is it uniquely lovely. Osmond, H. Annals, NY Acad Science (1957) 66:418-434; p.436
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adrug

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If she already wants you to move in, she's going to be hurt no matter how you break up with her. Just get it over with and let her find someone else to make unhappy.
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Liz
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Truth is always the best policy. If she's too negative, tell her that. Maybe there's a possibility that you pointing this out to her will make her work towards changing that aspect of her personality.
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Veritas

Registered: 04/15/05
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Handle it the way you'd like her to break up with you. It shows disrespect for her to continue in the relationship when you are already gone emotionally.
Talk to her, be as straight with her as you think you could handle her being with you. If you could take someone telling you that an aspect of your personality is the reason they want out of the relationship--then tell her. If not, then go for the standard "it's not you, it's me, I'm not ready, I'm too young, etc..."
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