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Loving friendliness... *DELETED*
#5627629 - 05/14/06 07:59 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Post deleted by SDPReason for deletion: Paranoia of exposure
-------------------- Teonanacatl, open up my eyes This sacrament, this prayer, beyond the world of lies Guide me clearly through that which I dont understand Give me strength to find the path Help me fight any demons as you flow through me wholely This is my prayer, that you protect me from evil, and bring me closer to peace And open up my eyes, so i can see things as you do Amen
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Re: Loving friendliness... [Re: SDP]
#5627640 - 05/14/06 08:17 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Find a way to nail her. Make your life complicated. You will learn much more and progress on your spiritual path much faster. We learn through struggle. NAIL HER!
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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Re: Loving friendliness... [Re: Icelander]
#5627657 - 05/14/06 08:31 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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lol. More then just one "her", more of a pattern... I enjoy them as they are while "nailing" someone else, which is what makes it interesting. Kinda when you pass the line between not-and-actually giving a shit about that persons emotions, as well as the people you will hurt down the line to be selfish. Tao puts people in your life for a reason... and if theres one thing i learned about this truth its that you may not always know why or see why, but sometimes, even in the waaaaaay distant future, something will happen that will make sense, and its usually the last thing you would try to make happen, you are trying everything else to direct your life in a certain way, or make sense why someone is in your life, then sooner enough Tao enacts an entirely different plan (or sometimes, helps you with your plan, but only cause you tapped into the same idea of the plan he originally had, lol). One ive known on and off for like 12 years, almost hooked up once a few years ago, and im glad we didnt... it wouldnt have lasted, we wouldnt be friends anymore, and i woulda gotten in fights with her b/f (whoever it is at whatever time) cause i usually know them...
-SDP
-------------------- Teonanacatl, open up my eyes This sacrament, this prayer, beyond the world of lies Guide me clearly through that which I dont understand Give me strength to find the path Help me fight any demons as you flow through me wholely This is my prayer, that you protect me from evil, and bring me closer to peace And open up my eyes, so i can see things as you do Amen
Edited by SDP (05/14/06 08:33 AM)
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Re: Loving friendliness... [Re: SDP]
#5627830 - 05/14/06 09:49 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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I'm just kidding, sort of. I'm saying whatever you choose will have it's benefits and drawbacks.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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Re: Loving friendliness... [Re: Icelander]
#5627917 - 05/14/06 10:26 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Nah... i know what you mean. I know the joking + the truth side of it... its a valid point, and that way brings a lot of people towards different enlightenments. Obviously the phrasing of it wasnt menat to be taken litterly, but i donno, just not in my personality type i guess... i find girls seperately of my social circles, werid.
-SDP
-------------------- Teonanacatl, open up my eyes This sacrament, this prayer, beyond the world of lies Guide me clearly through that which I dont understand Give me strength to find the path Help me fight any demons as you flow through me wholely This is my prayer, that you protect me from evil, and bring me closer to peace And open up my eyes, so i can see things as you do Amen
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Re: Loving friendliness... [Re: SDP]
#5628060 - 05/14/06 11:08 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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What is healthy?
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I have considered such matters. SIKE
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Re: Loving friendliness... [Re: SDP]
#5628086 - 05/14/06 11:15 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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It sounds like you're worried that these relationships are unhealthy because you revolve your life around finding and nurturing love for/with another.
Why base your thoughts of health around your ability to find and pursue love?
You say that neither of you would act on this love. I'm assuming you mean in a physical way, i.e sex. But do you both want to? And the only thing stopping you is the thought of adultery? If this is the case I'd tell you that it is my opinion that you've already committed adultery.
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Re: Loving friendliness... [Re: Cherk]
#5628166 - 05/14/06 11:38 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Its not really not having sex b/c it would be adultery, its about not needing sex in that relationship because you know it would complicate it and you dont particularly desire it becasue you value the way things are now...
Its not nesc. about revolve your life around finding and nurturing love for/with another, i just became more and more buddhist and starting conencting a lot more to everyone, and caring about a lot of people. In doing that for someone of the opposite sex, you see the potential for attraction, but you just dont tend those thoughts... if you look at the good of anyone long enough your going to see the potential for attraction, because few people are wholely unattractive. Its just a matter of your intentions, and personal thoughts (adulterous thoughts, which you stay away from)...
Does doing this, however, cause more problems then good when it coems to members of the opposite sex? When trying to be act as an enlightening being should act, it makes sense that i would do this, never have sex with anyone (release from attachments), and be the ultimate best friend to everyone, however, i would like to find a g/f to eventually be a wife, but it seems like always putting out your energy to other people will stunt the progress of that.
-SDP
-------------------- Teonanacatl, open up my eyes This sacrament, this prayer, beyond the world of lies Guide me clearly through that which I dont understand Give me strength to find the path Help me fight any demons as you flow through me wholely This is my prayer, that you protect me from evil, and bring me closer to peace And open up my eyes, so i can see things as you do Amen
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Re: Loving friendliness... [Re: SDP]
#5628225 - 05/14/06 12:01 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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so ask yourself, "what do I want out of my life?"
Or don't worry, the Tao will sort it out
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Re: Loving friendliness... [Re: SDP]
#5628277 - 05/14/06 12:16 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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What about loving friendliness toward your male friends?
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Re: Loving friendliness... [Re: moog]
#5628303 - 05/14/06 12:29 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Quote:
moog said: What about loving friendliness toward your male friends?
What about it?
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If I should die this very moment I wouldn't fear For I've never known completeness Like being here Wrapped in the warmth of you Loving every breath of you
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Is there an echo in here?
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Re: Loving friendliness... [Re: moog]
#5629155 - 05/14/06 04:47 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Is there an echo in where? 
Sort of! 
 Peace.
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If I should die this very moment I wouldn't fear For I've never known completeness Like being here Wrapped in the warmth of you Loving every breath of you
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Re: Loving friendliness... [Re: SDP]
#5629254 - 05/14/06 05:10 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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I don't think I could do that "loving friendship" thing. If there was a chick that I was friends with and I really really really wanted to put it in her ass I know I'd try something eventually. So I would distance myself from her...
Buy a telescope maybe?
Haha, I'm kidding, but seriously you sure you got your feelings under control? If so you have excellent self restraint.
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hmm
i dont know, its kind of a natural thing for me (through several experiences ive had, i seem to have broken myself of sexual want or lust) so that i still want to be passionate and emotional with a woman, but at the same time i could care less about sex, [and while i am still young, i may very well abstain from sex for reasons i can not very well elaborate on here and now] which gives me more time to build a relationship with the girl
Which i think is amazing, with the girls who i am friends with.. and just friends, we seem to have a great time we hang out and actually build relationships, but it seems that whenever i have gotten into a relationship (even though ive been in relatively few) they ended rather negatively
but i suppose i was lucky most of those girls i am still friends with
i dont know man, just keep in mind the old saying "The good lord helps those who help themselves" its true
just consider what you want before you worry about whether it is right or wrong, and always keep this in mind, there will always be more girls out there to be friends with if you fuck up with one
o and on loving friendleness with male friends... ive found that very few males are as open emotionally as females, the few who i have met that are i have become very good friends with, and also the few gay people i know i have grown to be very good friends with similar to the way i have that 'loving frienleness' with my female friends
-peace
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Edited by TheGus (05/14/06 06:31 PM)
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Re: Loving friendliness... [Re: SDP]
#5630790 - 05/14/06 11:57 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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I find your ideas intriguing, and I would like to subscribe to your newsletter
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