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Gumby
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Relationship shit
#5601537 - 05/07/06 04:07 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Ok, so I've been with the same chick for about 2.5 years. Lately we've been kinda getting sick of each other(just little things that annoy one another). So a month or so back we decided to take a break where we wouldn't talk to each other unless necessary. That lasted about a week.
Things were cool for 3 weeks or so then the girlfriend flips out because I did 2 things to piss her off. She decided we need a 2 week break with no contact what-so-ever. Those 2 weeks are up today.
To be dead honest, I didn't miss her that much during the 2 week break. Well, let me rephrase that: I missed her, but it didn't "hurt," if you know what I mean. I'm to the point now where I could go either way in this relationship... If it works, great; if it doesn't that's fine too. I'm guessing that the apathy a bad thing. What do you say?
So seeing how the 2 week break is over, I could give her a call today. But I don't think I'm going to. If she wants to talk she can call me. She wanted the break in the first place. Would you call?
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Gumby]
#5601576 - 05/07/06 04:18 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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In my opinion, if it didn't hurt to not speak to her or see her for 2 weeks, when you've been together for 2 and 1/2 years, you may have reached the end of your relationship. I wouldn't call, and see how you feel when she calls you.
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Gumby]
#5601590 - 05/07/06 04:22 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Don't call her. Let things fester and hopefully the whole situation will explode into an emotional mess that will be like a wild roller-coaster. Aren't relationships fun?!
It sounds like you two have grown apart. Maybe it is time to move on?
Edited by RandalFlagg (05/07/06 06:34 PM)
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Gumby
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I'm kinda thinking along those lines. Oh well. It was a learning experience, if nothing else.
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Gumby]
#5601615 - 05/07/06 04:29 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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They all are.
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Octavius]
#5601637 - 05/07/06 04:34 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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idk ive always tried the "seeing other people thing".. that usually helps me make up my mind.. of course life is better without females, SHORT TERM, like if we didnt NEED sex.. what good would females do? no offense ladies, but seriously.. we need sports, food, sleep, and sex.. ur 25% of my needs.
seeing other people always helps u determine how special the person u are with is.
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Octavius]
#5601661 - 05/07/06 04:40 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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I hate to be a son of a bitch but I have only seen negative things come out of relationships either loss of a friend due to being whipped having a baby or always up eachothers asses....In my very humble opinion i think ppl should do as there animal relatives do and not practice monogomy and just be friends unless of course ur having a child , very very very very few species in the animal kingdom keep the same mate and no theyre not the smart ones either I really dont have any desire to be with one person my whole life but to share my love to all
i just dont wanna lose any more friends dammit
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Banez]
#5601664 - 05/07/06 04:41 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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OHSBrave06 said: we need sports, food, sleep, and sex.. ur 25% of my needs.
Well, if she cooks well, then that's 50% of your needs that she'd cover.
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: mungojerry]
#5601675 - 05/07/06 04:43 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Dolphins and seahorses keep the same mate for life. Dolphins are extremely intelligent in their own right and seahorses' adaptation for birthing their young safely is simply amazing.
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Deadmaker]
#5601677 - 05/07/06 04:43 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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yeah i guess being only 18.. i have yet to experience the cooking aspect of the relationship and most of the girls i end up with are pretty headstrong.. and i usually end up cooking (i enjoy cooking thou)
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: mungojerry]
#5601687 - 05/07/06 04:47 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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a chick and I were having troubles, she dropped in unannounced, I was drunk, we argued about me being boring. I ended with "Let's end this on a high note and have one last go in the bedroom." She accepted, angry sex and we said goodbye with a smile.
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Nashbar]
#5601694 - 05/07/06 04:48 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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yeah my last relationship (the chick was 28 with 2 kids so it was akward ne wayz) ended with me saying "how bout we just be friends".. and she said "friends with benefits>?".. that shit made my day and of course i accepted
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Banez]
#5601711 - 05/07/06 04:51 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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its not common in mammals, mostly birds, MOST animals that are mongomous (spelling?) arent bright ones
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: mungojerry]
#5601717 - 05/07/06 04:53 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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what are u talking about?
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Banez]
#5601732 - 05/07/06 04:59 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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monogomy in the animal kingdom
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Liz]
#5601791 - 05/07/06 05:14 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Meh, I hate to say it but it's really starting to piss me off that she hasn't called or anything. And thinking about it really being over is starting to upset me to.
Meh. Fuck all, I'm gonna go work out some more.
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Banez]
#5602090 - 05/07/06 06:36 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Quote:
OHSBrave06 said: of course life is better without females, SHORT TERM, like if we didnt NEED sex.. what good would females do? no offense ladies, but seriously.. we need sports, food, sleep, and sex.. ur 25% of my needs.
You charmer you.
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odd thing is.. that happens to be my best quality (atleast females say).. im not the best looking guy but they say im hella sweet and a charmer.. i dont see it..
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Adden]
#5602099 - 05/07/06 06:38 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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S_2 said: Dolphins and seahorses keep the same mate for life. Dolphins are extremely intelligent in their own right and seahorses' adaptation for birthing their young safely is simply amazing.
Dude, dolphins are sluts. You ever see all of those suggestive flips they do?
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Banez]
#5602101 - 05/07/06 06:39 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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if they made like a virtual pussy, that was close to realistic,.. women would be fucked.. i mean.. then we could all just live with our buddies and not have to worry about all that "emotional" shit.. ahh that would be the day
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Banez]
#5602110 - 05/07/06 06:42 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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A fake pussy doesn't moan and squirm and cling to your neck and whatnot. Nor do they have tits. Nothing would ever beat being with a real woman.
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Gumby]
#5602112 - 05/07/06 06:43 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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::sighs:: ur right.. but god damn.. that would be the day.
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Gumby]
#5602294 - 05/07/06 07:33 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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The correct choice is DO NOT CALL HER! Turn off your phone, go do something to distract yourself, and forget talking to her today. Give yourself some peace, think about what you want.
I believe your best bet is to break things off before she cheats on you, because that's going to suck x10. You're not in the shit yet, and you don't want to be in the shit, although sooner or later you'll probably have to be in order to learn your lesson.
End things on good terms, maintain respect for yourself, and maintain a high opinion of her.
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Quote:
RandalFlagg said: Don't call her. Let things fester and hopefully the whole situation will explode into an emotional mess
That kind of made me sick
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Gumby]
#5602401 - 05/07/06 08:04 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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From everything you are saying it sounds as if your relationship is dead. It is more of a habit or a chore than it is a fulfilling endeavor.
I am not going to say it is a lost cause...but I have never seen relationships come back from the stuff that you are saying is going on. I think it's time to move on man.
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Gumby]
#5602414 - 05/07/06 08:08 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Definately don't call. That will put you in the weaker position and it will be downhill from there. Show some strength now.
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Quote:
Microcosmatrix said: Definately don't call. That will put you in the weaker position and it will be downhill from there. Show some strength now.
I've been in similar situations. It becomes a battle of wills. Who will break down and make the first call? It is childish, but it is necessary sometimes. You have to prove you have balls.
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Gumby]
#5602433 - 05/07/06 08:13 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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And if she comes over, immediately start hammering like you have been working on the house the whole time.
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if i were you, EVENTUALLY call her and talk to her if she doesnt call you, but not within 3 or 4 days. i mean you do not want this relationship turning horrible, at least be friends with her, it doesnt have to be you guys just completely dont talk any more and hate eachother u know? u should try the old friends with benefits thing
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She'll call, beecause if he don't she'll call because she's pissed off. But that still gives him the higher perch. He should then just say he's been buzy as fuck working and didn't even realize the 2 weeks were up, lol
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Gumby]
#5602450 - 05/07/06 08:18 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Does she have a sister you could have sex with?
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That would put him out with a bang fer shure.
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Gumby
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Quote:
RandalFlagg said: Does she have a sister you could have sex with?
If I was a chick, that might be a possiblity... get my drift
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Gumby]
#5615621 - 05/10/06 11:40 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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So last night I sent her a text asking if she was done with her exams. Never got a response. 
Called her today, no answer. Left a message just checking if she was doing alright. Never got a response from that either. I'm 98% sure this relationship is over. 
Fuck it all, like I said I don't mind either way. Sucks that it is over, but I will move on. Surprisingly, this doesn't hurt at all. Guess that's just more of a sign that things are over. Oh well. Like I said, it was a learning experience.
Only thing I'm worried about is loosing her as a friend. She is BY FAR my best friend ever. I don't know how to approach that. Maybe not talking to her for a few weeks/months will make things easier.
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Banez]
#5615689 - 05/10/06 11:56 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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OHSBrave06 said: yeah my last relationship (the chick was 28 with 2 kids so it was akward ne wayz) ended with me saying "how bout we just be friends".. and she said "friends with benefits>?".. that shit made my day and of course i accepted
Fellow pimp right here!
28 aint shit though. Try 36. I was 20 at the time. Boom shakalaka. 
And Gumby, she tested you and you lost, you cracked and contacted her...it's over. Move on.
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36? Try 82! Nothing beats the sure, steady gums of DECADES of experience.
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Re: Relationship shit [Re: Gumby]
#5621481 - 05/12/06 02:26 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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If any of you were wondering the outcome of this... We're done. Relationship is no more as of today, I broke it off with her but she said she was going to do the same thing.
I'm going out drinking tonight to celebrate Maybe even hook up with someone
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