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HeavyToilet
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So this girl...
#5576767 - 05/01/06 10:33 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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That I like is gonna get together with me today. She sends me a lot of mixed signals... sometimes she seems really into me and other times well... not so much. This will be our first get together outside of class.
I'm trying to think of activities for us to do. I know she is learning the guitar, which is great because I'm pretty skilled and have two guitars... so I'm thinking showing her a few things then jamming out for a bit.
We could perhaps go somewhere... since it's a really nice day out today. But I don't really know where or what we'd do.
I also have a boatload of alcohol and weed... but she might be working tonight... and she's not really a big drinker or weed smoker, so I don't think I should get her drunk and stoned if she's going to work later.
We'll probably be getting together late morning, or early afternoon... anyone got any ideas?
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PurpleKush
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well its fuckin beautiful outside here, if the weather's as good there, take her somewhere outside. grab them geetars (acoustic?) and head to the park or somewhere with a good view. go on a walk, try to hold her hand. thats usually the most harmless way of checkin if a chicks into you or not, and not offending her.
i hate bringing a girl i hardly know to my house/place/whatever. i tend to get awkward and stumble because until im familiar with them, even shit like sitting next to each other on a couch is torture for me. do i put my arm around her? do i lay down? is she bored? etc.
i dunno im fuckin awkward as hell, but being in a public place outdoors seems to take some of that pressure off.
good luck
if all else fails... ask her if she wants to get ice cream.
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fresh313
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take your guitar , make some sandwiches and goto a park .. feed the ducks. see if she wants to makeout if not take it easy
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AlteredAgain
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Since this is the first time you two are actually hanging out during your free time..
I think you'll more likely increase your chances of scoring with her if you leave the weed and alcohol at home.
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do both: play guitar and go outside for a walk or whatever
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HeavyToilet
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Re: So this girl... [Re: PurpleKush]
#5576807 - 05/01/06 10:52 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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We can't go somewhere with the guitars because I have one acoustic and one electric. Plus I'm sure she doesn't know any scales, so if we jam out away from the computer it will sound like shit.
I don't think we're at the 'holding hands' stage yet. I mean if I make that attempt and get turned down, it will be a disaster, probably ruining the relationship beyond repair. And I at least want to be friends with this girl.
I was thinking maybe a bike ride or something. Since I know she's into biking.
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fresh313
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bike riding isnt too personal , get 2 know each other kinda activity.
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gluke bastid
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Just be cool and have fun. Go outside, and don't try to force anything to happen. She probably already digs you.
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PurpleKush
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bikes sound good.
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kungpow
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If she is willing to go do something with you in your free time then she probably digs you man. Just don't worry about it or your gonna fuck up. Even if you do fuck up the chances are she'll still like you. So just go out there and be yourself. If you guys get into a relationship make you are yourself man. Make sure she OK with who you really are, tell her you drink and smoke weed. Make sure she isn't going to have a problem with it down the road. I hope all goes well for ya.
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HeavyToilet
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Re: So this girl... [Re: kungpow]
#5576851 - 05/01/06 11:08 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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She knows I drink and smoke weed. She said she used to smoke a lot of weed, but stopped since she'd always become really quiet when she was with a group of people. And I personally think weed is best with only one other person.
I'm sure in time I'll corrupt her. 
Also it's already sorta weird because she's FIVE years older than me. I'm 18 and she's 23.
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Re: So this girl... [Re: fresh313]
#5576858 - 05/01/06 11:10 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Quote:
fresh313 said: bike riding isnt too personal , get 2 know each other kinda activity.
That does sound cool! A good mind stimulating activity will get the blood flowing and you get some excercise in the nice weather. Good luck with whatever you choose and be sure and let us know how it went.
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HeavyToilet
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Re: So this girl... [Re: blissedout]
#5576868 - 05/01/06 11:13 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Uh oh guys... major wrench has been thrown into my plans.
The sky has clouded over.
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HSIHd
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Stay home and fuck
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PurpleKush
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sorry
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blissedout


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You mean like overcast, or rain clouds? If the temps nice, you can still do stuff outside.
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Re: So this girl... [Re: blissedout]
#5577100 - 05/01/06 12:14 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Do not try to hold her hand somebody said here.
That is a bad idea, because she might be the type thats like "OK im not your girlfriend yet were jsut getting to know eachother" sort of deal, and might feel silly holding your hand, so she might pull away and send u mixed signals... ull end up thinking shes not diggin you.... which doesnt mean that she doesnt like you, but that she feels kinda stupid showing that kind of affection in public when you barely know each other.
A bike ride sounds cool... just go somewhere secluded and talk and shit, see how it goes. Dont force something to happen, just take it easy and be comfortable with what you're doing. 
Good luck
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HeavyToilet
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Re: So this girl... [Re: blissedout]
#5577141 - 05/01/06 12:23 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Well I just got a call from her.
She said she wouldn't be able to make it today... and went in to depth as to why not and sounded sincere, so I'm sure it wasn't just some kind of blowoff.
But it sounds like we're gonna together some other time... so we'll see what happens.
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Bullshit...
Next time call up on her flakiness. Dont be an ass about it but dont be a wuss either.
Next time make her come meet you that way you dont lose time.
Oh and uh, go today with another girl man!! That way shes the one missing out not you and when she asks, so what did you do last time? you say, oh well I wouldnt let my day end cause of you (wink) so I went out and had fun with so and so.
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Re: So this girl... [Re: DICK]
#5577471 - 05/01/06 02:23 PM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Whenever you do get together, find some excuse to make physical contact. It doesn't have to be some big thing that means something. You know, something in passing. Like if you're talking to her and you grab her hand or touch her arm/shoulder for emphasis. Just make it fluid, like you think it is nothing, so for her to call you on it would mean she is waaaay reading into things. Physical touch moves things along by leaps and bounds (you'll eventually bone her so she might as well get used to touching), and you can get away with it as long as you don't try to make some kind of cheesy "moment" out of it.
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