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peace_n_love
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Blowjob #2
#5573620 - 04/30/06 10:21 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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So it ends up that the girl that gave me the blowjob was my bestfriends ex. Who really wasn't all that nice to him. Now the next night my best friend and I go to another party and I hook up with the same chick, go down on her, blowjob again. Now my bestfriend thinks I'm a big asshole for doing this to him and won't talk to me...how should I handle this? This weekend's been fucked up! 
Peace.
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Re: Blowjob #2 [Re: Ferris]
#5573635 - 04/30/06 10:34 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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You should have handled it by not fucking around with his ex. Isn't there an unspoken rule between best friends saying that you don't mess around with each other's exgirlfriends? There is here.
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stefan
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try again talking with him about it 
also if you knew this was you best friends ex you should have talked about it befor you did anything to see if he was ok with it...
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Re: Blowjob #2 [Re: stefan]
#5573642 - 04/30/06 10:39 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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You don't do things with your best friend's ex. I'd be pissed off too. Especially since you did it twice.
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Edited by trendal (04/30/06 11:14 AM)
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Re: Blowjob #2 [Re: Ferris]
#5573644 - 04/30/06 10:40 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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I was sorta joking, but since it doesn't sound like you care about this friend very much. If he was a good friend before you hooked up with the girl, then you're in the wrong. It's ok though, just apologize and talk it out with your friend if you care at all
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peace_n_love
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Re: Blowjob #2 [Re: Ferris]
#5573650 - 04/30/06 10:43 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Yeah, I guess I've A) never been in a situation involving my best friends ex's and B)never really understood the scope of how much dammage it could do, something like that's never happened to me before. I'm gonna try calling him in like a day just after he's somewhat cooled off. Sound good? And to answer Ferris, yes he's one of my best friends so I feel pretty bad. Mind you I was drunk both times, no excuse however...
Peace, and keep posting thanks.
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best friends > blow jobs
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Quote:
VoidOfsPg said:
there's an unspoken rule between best friends saying that you don't mess around with each other's ex girlfriends
Thats how it was around here!~
and if anyone wanted to date an X...
they at least asked first if the other had a problem with it.
I haven't had anything to do with one of my old childhood friends in years...
because he chased after one of my X's...right after we broke up...and we had been together for 4 f#cking years.
and he never got anywhere with her...because she wasn't interested in him.
So he ruined a good friendship over a woman that he never had a chance with.
that was almost 20 years ago.
5 years ago he tried to straighten out the mess...he called me up and said he missed my friendship...etc.
I told him that I couldn't forgive him and that I didn't trust him anymore...and I told him to have a nice life.
He ended up marrying one of the grocery store checkers at my local grocery store. I talk to her...but not him. 2 years ago or so...she told me that his brother commited suicide...and that he was taking it pretty hard. I told her to tell him that I was sorry for his loss.
No Woman is worth losing a childhood friend...just say NO to chasing after your buddies X.
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this is bullshit. When people break up there should be no attachment between them anymore.
I am totally on Ross's side on this one. They were on a break. How the fuck does your friend think that, by breaking up with a girl, he can still say who she'll hook up with.
Roadkill, why should you care at all if a friend tries to get with someone you break up with? Like, I'm not getting this at all.
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Because even though they weren't together, he still wanted rights to the pussy. Its a stupid thing, but it can't avoided.
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Re: Blowjob #2 [Re: Ferris]
#5573724 - 04/30/06 11:13 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Ferris said: Tell him to fuck off and be happy for your blowjob like a true friend should
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recalcitrant said: Roadkill, why should you care at all if a friend tries to get with someone you break up with? Like, I'm not getting this at all.
When a relationship ends, there can be a period of extended attachment after the actual physical parting. It would be considerate and respectful of the friend to wait until the individual in question was actually over the person before pursuing the ex.
If the individual in question is completely free of the ex mentally, (which is verified through conversation, discussing it with the friend first...) then I think the ex should be fair game.
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recalcitrant said: this is bullshit. When people break up there should be no attachment between them anymore.
I am totally on Ross's side on this one. They were on a break. How the fuck does your friend think that, by breaking up with a girl, he can still say who she'll hook up with.
Roadkill, why should you care at all if a friend tries to get with someone you break up with? Like, I'm not getting this at all.
Not all breakups are clean, so I think it's just common courtesy to talk to a friend about it before you date one of his ex's. He could still have unresolved feelings from the relationship.
What's the harm in asking him? If you don't think he'll mind, then don't be afraid to ask. If you don't want to ask because you think he WILL mind...then you shouldn't be doing it in the first place.
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peace_n_love said: So it ends up that the girl that gave me the blowjob was my bestfriends ex. Who really wasn't all that nice to him.
a) This is your best friend, and you didn't know that this give you schlobbed your knob was his ex girlfriend? How is that possible?
b) You saying that she wasn't really all that nice to him sort of sounds to me like you're justifying it as being ok.
If he's your best friend, it shouldn't have been an issue to just talk to him about it briefly in advance. Put yourself in his shoes, I'm sure you would appreciate the same courtesy. Plus, you don't want to get the reputation as the guy who hooks up with all of his friends sloppy seconds, do you?
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Re: Blowjob #2 [Re: fubarvic]
#5573765 - 04/30/06 11:30 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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Why is he mad if its his ex.... If he was with her at the time then that's a dif. story. I say get some more head.
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Re: Blowjob #2 [Re: trendal]
#5573773 - 04/30/06 11:32 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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When I asked my friend if he would mind if I hooked up with his ex, he said no, he wouldn't mind. But I was drunk at the time and most likely didn't pick up on his hesitation. I feel stupid for not just being able to make that decision myself to realize that it would hurt him. Basically, I just wasn't thinking. I feel awful and I've really made that connection that my friends are worth so much more to me than any hook-ups...so much.
Peace.
Wish me luck that he forgives me!
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peace_n_love
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Ok to respond to Liz, by saying that she wasn't nice to him it meant that they had an awkward breakup, and she wasn't very nice about it. I wasn't trying to justify anything. By them having an awkward relationship it just makes things worse right. I'm sorry for the confusion. And also the first time I hooked up with her I knew who she was but I didn't make the connection of her being his ex untill after we hooked up.
Peace.
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Good luck man! I'm sure if he's a good friend and he sees that you are genuinely sorry, he will come around.
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