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quillini
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Re: I think I'm socially retarded. Hope? [Re: buckwheat]
#5556634 - 04/25/06 10:04 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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EXACTLY. It's like I want to be cool to people but my introversion makes me come off as an asshole. I want to explain, "no, no, I'm not really this way! I want to talk but have nothing to say!" And I've had countless people ask me what I'm scowling at, and I'm not scowling at anything. My face just sets that way for some reason. To keep a smile on my face takes constant, conscious effort, and it's exhausting. It's almost as though I have to force myself to act pleasant, or act in a manner other people will be comfortable with, which really is just pleasing people, and that's not being myself, is it? The way I feel about it is, if the look on my face is enough for you to pass judgement on me, then I don't want to be your friend anyway, you know?
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Re: I think I'm socially retarded. Hope? [Re: quillini]
#5556715 - 04/25/06 10:26 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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quillini said: EXACTLY. It's like I want to be cool to people but my introversion makes me come off as an asshole. I want to explain, "no, no, I'm not really this way! I want to talk but have nothing to say!" And I've had countless people ask me what I'm scowling at, and I'm not scowling at anything. My face just sets that way for some reason. To keep a smile on my face takes constant, conscious effort, and it's exhausting. It's almost as though I have to force myself to act pleasant, or act in a manner other people will be comfortable with, which really is just pleasing people, and that's not being myself, is it? The way I feel about it is, if the look on my face is enough for you to pass judgement on me, then I don't want to be your friend anyway, you know?
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buckwheat
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Re: I think I'm socially retarded. Hope? [Re: quillini]
#5556726 - 04/25/06 10:28 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Yeah you just have to find a way to pay attention and and speak.Initially i use to think the same as you that i don't have a response to them and have nothing to say. But i did, i just went thru it in my head really fast and it was satisfactory for me being such and introvert. so i started catching myself doing this and corrected my self by actually opening my mouth.
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Re: I think I'm socially retarded. Hope? [Re: PurpleKush]
#5556848 - 04/25/06 10:55 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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If you got to work to put a smile on your face your head isn't in the right place!
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Re: I think I'm socially retarded. Hope? [Re: quillini]
#5556888 - 04/25/06 11:03 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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it's all about sex. I'm in COLLEGE, for Christ sake! This should be easy! What the hell is wrong with me?
it's not all about sex...i thought the same way until i did it...now its not that big a deal anymore
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Re: I think I'm socially retarded. Hope? [Re: bobjones]
#5557029 - 04/25/06 11:47 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Hobbies. Then you easily find people with similar interests.
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Re: I think I'm socially retarded. Hope? [Re: Dimmy]
#5557119 - 04/26/06 12:13 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Dimmy said: you could always have a personality transplant. I heard it works wonders.
Or a face transplant:
HAHAHAHAHA
yeah.. im not sure why, but after going through this whole thread...and seeing that pic.. I started dieing. hahahahaa.
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Re: I think I'm socially retarded. Hope? [Re: quillini]
#5557141 - 04/26/06 12:17 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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I'm socially awkward too. I mean, once I get to know someone and be comfortable around them, I'm cool. But I have a really hard time meeting people and introducing myself. I wouldn't sweat it, though. As long as it's not on some kind of neurotic level, it's nothing to worry about.
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Re: I think I'm socially retarded. Hope? [Re: Silversoul]
#5557280 - 04/26/06 01:11 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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i had a very bad drug episode during a time of crisis in my life, that left me with severe PTS disorder. i became somewhat of a hermit, introverted, antisocial, i spent years being an introvert posting on the forums & abusing drugs on a weekly basis.
this really affected my social skills. socially, i (too) would think things in my head when i should be saying them out loud.
eventually, being an introvert really annoyed me to the point where i had to do something about it. i was sick & tired of feeling like a mime.
so i changed my routine, in essence a new 'reality' so to speak. i got a 2nd job, (my main job became stagnent, routine, i still have it cuz im payed well & my coworkers are like fam) but yeah, the new job really helped me speak freely. (not to mention i work with some HOT chicks) it forced me to be out n about & not sitting on my ass all day. i quit drowning myself in drugs, (altho i cant wait for the az gahtering this wknd. i miss the crew & i NEED a break)
as far as social fuctions goes, beer really IS a social lubricant. get buzzed. =] (im not saying get shit faced drunk & make an ass out of yourself (you can save that for later, for when youve made your friends that can appreciate the humour of making an ass out of yourself )
now that im always busy, all the gurlies want to hang out. i dont understand it, but hey whatever works right.? 
anyway, if you're sick & tired of being a prisoner, trapped in your mind, & you want to change, it requires you to change your environment, change your routine, stir it up. (thats what it took for me anyhow)
goooodluck.
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Re: I think I'm socially retarded. Hope? [Re: PinballWizard]
#11337299 - 10/28/09 10:02 AM (14 years, 3 months ago) |
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PinballWizard said: You have to possess a sort of confident vibe. That you don't really give a fuck about whether the person likes you or not. Or you could just watch the cool guy and try to copy him.
^ bad advice...
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