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dr0mni
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Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage?
#5515277 - 04/14/06 09:36 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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so after more than 8months of no girlfriend and no luck finding dates, I finally sort of hit it off with this girl that I went to highschool with. We talked like all night, and I could tell she was kinda into me (even though she's got a bf already)...
but I know that she's got a lot of baggage and issues. I won't go into detail. But it seems like the girls that I'm really attracted to are always insecure and needy. I mean, I hate it, but i connect easier with those girls.
I mean, I want a girl with confidence, but not so much that she cheats on me. I just don't want any more dependent relationships!
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: dr0mni]
#5515351 - 04/14/06 09:54 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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b/c girls like that are good in bed, they are the equivalnet of the 'bad boy' image if we can sort one of them out/ settle one of them down boosts are freakin ego a bit
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: Taco Chef]
#5515377 - 04/14/06 10:02 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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i have the same problem... only its the other way around. i always get crazy bitches with baggage and all kinds of issues hung up on me and have to be a huge asshole to get rid of them.
shit, my ex just got thrown around by her moms boyfriend for no reason other than him being a drunk, and he told her mom she would have to choose between her daughter and him. she chose him. thats so fucked up... i feel bad, but i know at the same time she would get all attached again if i show her too much attention. shitty situation
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: dr0mni]
#5515404 - 04/14/06 10:09 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Because you want to play the role of the man in the situation and even though you know all the issues and baggage that she has, you want to be that one guy who looked passed it all and helped her turn into that awesome girl who is a slut in bed with only you and an angel out in public.
It's a lot of guys fantasies but unfortunately it hardly ever works out. The poster who said that it's the male's equivilent of a "bad boy" is absolutely correct.
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: Penguarky Tunguin]
#5515455 - 04/14/06 10:26 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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because they are easy to control?
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: dr0mni]
#5515491 - 04/14/06 10:40 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Stop lying to yourself. There is no uch thing as a woman without drama and baggage!
they are ALL crazy!
Its just a matter of finding the one with the mental disorder that matches your personality best.
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: mndfreeze]
#5515505 - 04/14/06 10:43 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Pretty close to my lifelong mantra. I feel that women are all nuts. Its up to the man to decide if he can put up with a girls brand of nuttieness.
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mndfreeze said: Stop lying to yourself. There is no uch thing as a woman without drama and baggage!
they are ALL crazy!
Its just a matter of finding the one with the mental disorder that matches your personality best.
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dr0mni
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: kilroy69]
#5515702 - 04/14/06 11:45 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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wow! lots of good answers!
My last two gf's were definitely a case of me trying to "be that one guy who looked passed it all and helped her turn into that awesome girl who is a slut in bed with only you and an angel out in public." It really worked with the last one too! lol! Except that she remained a shallow, superficial, judgemental priss.
I definitely agree with the thing about finding a girl a a complementary mental disorder to myself.
So are you guys saying that I shouldn't worry if a girl has baggage?
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: dr0mni]
#5515815 - 04/14/06 12:16 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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They were just saying why you were attracted to them.
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: dr0mni]
#5518532 - 04/15/06 10:36 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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So are you guys saying that I shouldn't worry if a girl has baggage?
Depends on the severity of the baggage. 
Everybody has baggage. EVERYBODY. The question is, what amount are you willing to take on and add to your own baggage?
Me? Right now, I'm not willing to take on any baggage. I've got too much shit going on. Maybe later.
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: Penguarky Tunguin]
#5518539 - 04/15/06 10:38 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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McKennaDMT said:
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So are you guys saying that I shouldn't worry if a girl has baggage?
Depends on the severity of the baggage. 
Everybody has baggage. EVERYBODY.
Shit, most of the women I have dated had enough baggage to fill a 747's cargo storage area.
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5518542 - 04/15/06 10:39 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Would you call yourself an emotional baggage handler?
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: Penguarky Tunguin]
#5518556 - 04/15/06 10:45 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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McKennaDMT said: Would you call yourself an emotional baggage handler?
Zing! That's not a bad description.
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: Penguarky Tunguin]
#5518622 - 04/15/06 11:01 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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i think baggage comes from drama, and drama is the discourse of all relationships young; i think its because there is not enough other things taking the attention of the couple. I just started dating this x-gf i thought swore off for good, but like an addiction i've pulled myself back into it, feending for a nurturing parner and familiar grounds for baggage---- it's true, all people have baggage, but women just tend to wear it on the sleeves more then the gentz making it seem like they have more. this girl is totally dedicated to making the relationship work but i've been to depressed and pissed at mostly everybody i see for some reason. she thinks its living in baltimore that does that, i think it's me getting to know my neighbor in a differnt way, a more criticle way; usually it's a shitty deal to feel like everyone disagree's with you, but how else would you learn how to disagree with yourself? anyways, all i'm saying ius that everyone has baggage and it just comes down to being with a person that will either propetuate the drama's or turn them into something else. Fuck Drama its the only reason minivans exsist and the only thing we see when we protect our problems onto others...our own baggage. fuck that, i hate feeling what im "supposed" to feel about things. i'd rather not be candy coated thank you, it rots the mentle chompers.
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: TheQueen]
#5518670 - 04/15/06 11:16 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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9 out of 10 girls have baggage and are crazy.... the extra one just pretends very well that she doesn't.
DON'T BE FULLED.
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: BrAiN]
#5518672 - 04/15/06 11:17 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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I'v been fooled but I've never been fulled.
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5518776 - 04/15/06 11:45 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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full me one.. shame on you
full me twice.. you just can't full me again
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: dr0mni]
#5518786 - 04/15/06 11:47 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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oh and in regards to your original question:
because you want to help, and that's a natural human tendency.
Either that, or subconsciously you think you can't do any better or something similar... so you go for insecure girls because they are easier... at first. More trouble in the long run.
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: Shroomism]
#5518960 - 04/15/06 12:39 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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FULL ME ONCE!
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Re: Why am I always attracted to insecure girls with lots of baggage? [Re: mndfreeze]
#5519007 - 04/15/06 12:51 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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mndfreeze said: Stop lying to yourself. There is no uch thing as a woman without drama and baggage!
they are ALL crazy!
Its just a matter of finding the one with the mental disorder that matches your personality best.
by far the best answer ive seen...and i cant top it..i can only /agree with it...exelent job
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