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Re: I don't know why she calls me. [Re: demiu5]
#5499423 - 04/10/06 10:51 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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lol this is kinda funny to me cuz ive never been in this situation... what you should do is give her a taste of her own medicine, call her up 4am one night and pretend to cry and blah blah blah you know what to say....
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Left Nut City
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mattzdope said: I'll tell you something and you can take it how you want bro. It pays to be a good guy, however it never pays to be "the nice guy", and there's a very thin line. You have to be a prick sometimes. I'm going to reach a bit and guess that she also calls you to talk about problems she's having with her boyfriend?
I could not explain it better than this.
She's making a punk out of you.
Try calling HER ass all fucked up at 4AM and see how down she is with that!
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Re: I don't know why she calls me. [Re: Liquidkick]
#5499777 - 04/10/06 12:42 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Liquidkick said: Ok, so i have a friend, she is super hot, i like her a lot, but i never made a move. So i am in the friends zone, so be it. Whatever...
Well there's your problem right there. You obviously don't want to be in the friends zone. If you did just want to be friends with this girl and nothing more her calling you wouldn't even raise your eyebrow.
But it has become significant because you want her to think of you as more than a friend. You want her to want you the way you want her.
I don't know what is motivating her to call you like this, but I would guess it is a combination of two things. 1) She is not blind and it is clear that you like her, and she is ok with making you feel needed. She has found some sort of way to ask you to be there for her that is somehow intimate yet safe for the both of you. 2) She is being your typical selfish spoiled little girl, and she is using you. She has her boyfriend, who for whatever reason she feels like she can't call when she is drunk and scared. And then she has you, and she knows she can call you when she is flipping out and you will make her feel better.
I understand that you like her and it is easy to want to help her out, but if she is stringing you along and making you feel confused and crappy, you gotta put your foot down in one way or another. If not, she will go on making you feel like shit indefinitely, and she might not even realize it. If the calls really aren't bothering you at all, then its not an issue. But it sounds like they are making you kind of emotionally confused. You could either insist that she stop, or you could just tell her it doesn't really make sense to you why she calls you like this and you think it is crossing some sort of boundary.
Good luck, you seem like a good dude and I'm sure if you keep it real she will respect you and respond well.
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Re: I don't know why she calls me. [Re: Left Nut City]
#5499794 - 04/10/06 12:46 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Funny thing is i have drunk dialed her before being an idiot, but not in the crying wolf sense. I only answered the phone cause i was still partying. And was about to head home for the night anyway. i was still up so it was no biggie, i actually thought she wanted to party when she called me. I have had some late night party sessions with her before.
The times she has called before, if i am up, i'll pick up, but if i am not i won't.
I haven't talked to her for 2 weeks before the drunken crying call.
I don't really want to distance myself, cause i have essays i have to write and i need her help with them.
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Left Nut City
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Re: I don't know why she calls me. [Re: Liquidkick]
#5499828 - 04/10/06 12:59 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Well if it's a value for value relationship, and you feel you are being compensated on your end then there is no trouble. Once in a while though give her the pimp hand and show her who has the balls in the relationship.
Trust me, it works.
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Re: I don't know why she calls me. [Re: Left Nut City]
#5500078 - 04/10/06 02:32 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Great advice! 
Show her you won't put up with her shit, if that's what you want.
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mattzdope said: Simple answer to that. You probably enable yourself to be her personal tampon, that's why. Not trying to be rude bro, I've been there myself.
Exactly man, I've been there and done that, fuck it sucks man, get out of being her personal tampon as matt oh-so eloquently put it.
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Re: I don't know why she calls me. [Re: drtyfrnk]
#5500307 - 04/10/06 03:53 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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She needs to be choke slammed the fuck out.
+old jokez
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Re: I don't know why she calls me. [Re: HELLA_TIGHT]
#5500322 - 04/10/06 04:00 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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I'll talk to her about it. It doesn;t bother me though, i am just wondering wtf is going on in her head.
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Re: I don't know why she calls me. [Re: Liquidkick]
#5500565 - 04/10/06 05:26 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Re: I don't know why she calls me. [Re: HELLA_TIGHT]
#5500573 - 04/10/06 05:29 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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...and Hella changes his avatar (back) again.
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Re: I don't know why she calls me. [Re: Liquidkick]
#5500797 - 04/10/06 06:32 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Next time she calls all drunk and crying just be like hey baby wana fuck? What you got to lose?
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THE KRAT BARON
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QuantumMeltdown said: Next time she calls all drunk and crying just be like hey baby wana fuck? What you got to lose?
Agreed.
I'd have done that long ago if I were in his shoes.
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RE: Liquidkick
I only read the first post but this is my take.
She calls you for support because you're a sure thing... She gets drunk feels vulnerable and isn't getting the responses she wants from who she is with and calls you for support. When you respond the way you do she feels better and no longer needs you.
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QuantumMeltdown said: Next time she calls all drunk and crying just be like hey baby wana fuck? What you got to lose?
Use those exact words, how could she say no?
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Re: I don't know why she calls me. [Re: Liquidkick]
#5503377 - 04/11/06 12:37 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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If you're good friends with her, couldn't you just ask her why she calls you?
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Re: I don't know why she calls me. [Re: cybrbeast]
#5503551 - 04/11/06 01:29 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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He'll never get a straight answer that way.
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Liquidkick
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So i talked to her today. I guess she got in a huge argument with the BF, and tried to run away, she gave me some sob story of like she really loves him crap.
She apologized for calling me and not calling back. Then she wanted me to go to the strip club with her, and she would buy me drinks all night long, but i declined.
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Re: I don't know why she calls me. [Re: Liquidkick]
#5506640 - 04/12/06 05:43 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Why would she want to take you to a strip club. Is she bisexual? Or just for kicks? Or is she just playing mind games on you? She sounds like a strange and messed up creature. But then again, why say no to free drinks and naked girls?
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Re: I don't know why she calls me. [Re: Liquidkick]
#5506660 - 04/12/06 05:53 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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sounds like she knows you like her and she likes you, but she knows she cant be with you.
So trying to make you feel better about the situation she confides in you, wants to go to strip clubs with you, because she knows she makes you feel good.
what she doesn't is that it confuses you and fucks with your mind.
OR shes just fucking with you
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Gluke Bastid I would guess it is a combination of two things. 1) She is not blind and it is clear that you like her, and she is ok with making you feel needed. She has found some sort of way to ask you to be there for her that is somehow intimate yet safe for the both of you. 2) She is being your typical selfish spoiled little girl, and she is using you. She has her boyfriend, who for whatever reason she feels like she can't call when she is drunk and scared. And then she has you, and she knows she can call you when she is flipping out and you will make her feel better.
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