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Re: Male and female friendships [Re: goobler]
#5489337 - 04/07/06 09:33 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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goobler said: two simple facts that make platonic friends
#1 the thought of sex comes up every so often
#2 you are smart enough not to act on it
we are sexual creatures, sex in in our mind 24/7, none of you can dispute that
its how we temper it that makes us who we are
fucking EXACTLY.
I mean, I can be friends with a fine ass chick, want to bang her, but maybe she's a good friend of mines girl, or she's not attracted to me or whatever. Thats cool. We can still be friends without issue in most cases. But that doesn't mean I don't still want to fuck her. I just have enough willpower not to try.
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Re: Male and female friendships [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5490560 - 04/07/06 04:25 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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My problem is that I get infatuated with my friends. It happens 8 times out of 10, the other 2 times being people I don't find that interesting. It's not really a sexual thing (although I do fantasize in curiousity about that too)...more like a mental obsession that starts when someone stimulates my thinking or inspires me. I start believing I am in love with them. (my male OR female friends) I know it sounds creepy, but it's more like a form of super-intense admiration. Most of the time I can keep it in check and hide my "true feelings."
So yeah. Seems relevent to your question.
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Re: Male and female friendships [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5490771 - 04/07/06 06:25 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Well, my best female friend is an ex-girlfriend of mine. I have other female friends that I would probably fuck if I got the chance, but I don't really think about it that much. Then there are the ones who I just don't find attractive.
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Re: Male and female friendships [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5490879 - 04/07/06 07:45 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Hmmm... i probly shouldn't get into this one, i don't want to sound like a creep. I could go the RandallFlag route, and say the thought never crosses my mind. What a Hugh Grant i am. But the fact is, If i make a Plutonic Bond with a women, and that women turns out to be a good friend. My mind almost always goes to sex/feelings of intamciy. Your friends, you'v already go all these things in common. Wouldn't you make perfect lovers? The problem is, most of the time guys, and girls are making friends with eachother, they already have a mate. I have a girlfriend who i love, so i try to put those urges aside.
Gillete, i know you don't want to hear this, and this sort of thing freaks you out, but all your male friends: think about you while they masterbate on a regular basis.  Any guy tell me i'm wrong.
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Re: Male and female friendships [Re: Dreamer987]
#5491216 - 04/07/06 10:04 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Dreamer987 said: Gillete, i know you don't want to hear this, and this sort of thing freaks you out, but all your male friends: think about you while they masterbate on a regular basis.
What a smooth talker you are, Dreamer. Poor Gillette. 
It is possible that her very close guy friends view her purely platonically.
Edited by RandalFlagg (04/07/06 10:08 PM)
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Re: Male and female friendships [Re: Gillette]
#5491235 - 04/07/06 10:14 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Gillette said: Ummm I'd like to believe that not every guy I know wants to sleep with me.
I can say I have plenty of guy friends that I have no intention of sleeping with them, and I never notice any sexual tension, although I'm sure in some cases its there.
I do have 3 best guy friends, that I've known for about 10 years, one I did date, so he doesn't count, but the other two, I'm pretty positive theres nothing there, like we've even slept in the same bed and stuff, if anything was ever going to happen it would have already.
/makes mental note, do not want to sleep with gillette 
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Dreamer987 said:
Gillete, i know you don't want to hear this, and this sort of thing freaks you out, but all your male friends: think about you while they masterbate on a regular basis.  Any guy tell me i'm wrong.
seriously im not sitting around jerking off to my female friends...if im going to be doing that its to porno or past experiences.. i think it would be creepy to jack to every female friend i have
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Re: Male and female friendships [Re: Silversoul]
#5492002 - 04/08/06 05:32 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Paradigm said: Then there are the ones who I just don't find attractive.
BUT
as you wrote this you thought about sex with them.
infact every one in this thread is thinking about sex with a lot of people they wouldnt normally think about just because of this thread
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RandalFlagg
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Re: Male and female friendships [Re: goobler]
#5492095 - 04/08/06 07:12 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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goobler said: infact every one in this thread is thinking about sex with a lot of people they wouldnt normally think about just because of this thread
Oh goobler.....oh...... *moan*
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Gillette
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Re: Male and female friendships [Re: Dreamer987]
#5492344 - 04/08/06 10:19 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Dreamer987 said: Hmmm... i probly shouldn't get into this one, i don't want to sound like a creep. I could go the RandallFlag route, and say the thought never crosses my mind. What a Hugh Grant i am. But the fact is, If i make a Plutonic Bond with a women, and that women turns out to be a good friend. My mind almost always goes to sex/feelings of intamciy. Your friends, you'v already go all these things in common. Wouldn't you make perfect lovers? The problem is, most of the time guys, and girls are making friends with eachother, they already have a mate. I have a girlfriend who i love, so i try to put those urges aside.
Gillete, i know you don't want to hear this, and this sort of thing freaks you out, but all your male friends: think about you while they masterbate on a regular basis.  Any guy tell me i'm wrong.
heh, greeeeeeaaaaaat.
But really, like my guy friends that know me really well, and know how absolutly disgusting I can be, wouldn't sleep with me, to them I'm like a guy, ya know?
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Re: Male and female friendships [Re: Gillette]
#5492391 - 04/08/06 10:39 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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if you're like a guy then give me a rainbow
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Re: Male and female friendships [Re: Gillette]
#5492456 - 04/08/06 10:59 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Dreamer987 said: If i make a Plutonic Bond with a women,
If you make a plutonic bond with a women, it's gonna be very solid 
platonic*
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Re: Male and female friendships [Re: daimyo]
#5495417 - 04/09/06 01:44 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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I apologize for jumping into this thread a little late...but I love threads like this.
For me, there's only a few ways a woman can be friends with me. One, she's waaaay older than me and I obviously have no sexual attraction to her. I worked with this amazing older lady, late 60's. She was awesome in everyway. We talked about everything. Nothing was off limits and she told me never to hide what I was thinking, always say what's on your mind, even if its vulgar and/or includes profanities. Another girl I am friends with was older than me and black. This sounds bad, but I'm just not attracted to black women. It's nothing personal at all, I'm just not. But she was one of the best people I have ever met in my life. Good friend, I talk to her once a month, but there was NEVER any sexual attraction at all.
If I have any sexual attraction to any female that I know I have a SHOT at getting with, I can't be friends with. My mine is way too pre-occupied with getting her naked or getting all mushy and thinking about wanting to start something serious.
I guess I just don't see how a guy could be friends with a woman and be her emotional tampon and not want to get something out of it. I mean, Randal, do you honestly get satisfaction from hearing about woman's problems and whatnot? Please tell me you don't actually sit there and listen to a woman talk about problems with the man in her life. I've been there and NEVER AGAIN will I do that. Not unless I'm getting some satisfaction out of it. And satisfaction for me and most guys is either good sex or good food. A man probably shouldn't listen to a woman talk relationship problems unless that problem is himself. I refuse to talk women about relationship problems.
Great thread though. I hope it will continure.
And Gilette, yes, your male friends have thought about sleeping with you at least once. It's not even an option.
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Edited by McKennaDMT (04/09/06 01:51 AM)
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RandalFlagg
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McKennaDMT said: I mean, Randal, do you honestly get satisfaction from hearing about woman's problems and whatnot? Please tell me you don't actually sit there and listen to a woman talk about problems with the man in her life. I've been there and NEVER AGAIN will I do that.
When I am romantically or sexually interested in a woman and she talks about the men in her life, I refuse to listen to that. I refuse to be a doormat like that. But, if I have absolutely no interest in the woman and she wants to talk about the men in her life, I'll listen. But, I expect her to listen when I need to talk about the women in my life.
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Re: Male and female friendships [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5496365 - 04/09/06 12:04 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Fair enough.
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