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Aninator
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Just a complaint
#5466187 - 04/01/06 01:37 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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I hate it when you hook up with someone and they ignore you after. bah....
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Krishna
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Aninator]
#5466189 - 04/01/06 01:38 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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although one might say, equally as bad is when you hook up with someone and they treat it like something it isn't..
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Aninator]
#5466198 - 04/01/06 01:41 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Its a very difficult balancing act that hardly anyone gets right
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Aninator]
#5466309 - 04/01/06 02:38 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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depends on what you mean by hook up. random sexual encounter with an acquaintance?
now there afraid you might want to take it to seriously so they feel they have to ignore you.
who's at fault here?
perhaps you should try not to get addicted to people so quickly.
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Aninator
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Todcasil]
#5466331 - 04/01/06 02:54 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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i'm not addicted to him. there's just a drastic difference in how he's treated me since. Zero eye contact. Zero real contact. I'm not demanding of attention by far. I don't expect anymore than to be treated as a friend at least.. which is what we sorta were. I eamn he lives in the same apt with a couple of my good friends. and i mean we've know each other for a while. we've talked and hung out a bunch.
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Aninator]
#5466334 - 04/01/06 02:56 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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did you have a good time?
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Aninator
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Aninator]
#5466369 - 04/01/06 03:28 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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well. yea i mean i had a good time seen as though he's someone I had my eye on for a bit and never really thought things would come to fruition with. So i enjoyed fooling around with him. it wasn't as exciting as i thought it might be. but i mean the only reason i look back on it in a weird way is because of how he's treated me since.. i mean right after we fooled around we hung out for a while and talked and kinda layed together and stuff, held hands, you know the deal. we just talked music you know? nothing intense. I'm really not the demanding type in terms of attention. I didn't expect him to shower me in love and affection. i didn't really expect much other than friendliness.
Since that night I've done the best i can to like stay out of his hair. But I'm really good friends with his apt. mates and some people are in from out of town staying with them and I've been hanging out there more but, from my point of view, not making it seem like i was there for him and just sorta kept my distance unless he was sitting next to me on the couch. In which case i tried just saying "how was your day, how was class" and i didn't get much... my other attempt was i went into his room while he was watching futurama and sat with him for a bit. he was laying on his bed. i sat at the edge. i didn't say a word except for "i've never really watched futurama before" and he said "its a great show" and that's the most i've gotten from him. Which kinda sucks.
but meh. he's a raging alcoholic and i probably am thinking he's cooler than he really is. I dunno it just seems to be a really immature way to go about things.
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Aninator]
#5466373 - 04/01/06 03:34 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Quote:
AniNator said: but meh. he's a raging alcoholic and i probably am thinking he's cooler than he really is. I dunno it just seems to be a really immature way to go about things.
Immature is right. He is just being awkward... don't let him get to you.
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Aninator]
#5466407 - 04/01/06 04:20 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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I don't want to come off as an arrogant asshole, but I feel like this saying would apply to your situation.
"Wisdom is understanding others. Enlightenment is understanding yourself."
When things like this happen to me, I try to understand the other person's behavior as well as my reaction to their behavior.
But like you said, "meh". I agree.
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Aninator
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yea i'm definitely not like a reck over it. It's just one of those.. Hey WTF? moments you know?
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Aninator]
#5466883 - 04/01/06 09:38 AM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Quote:
AniNator said: I hate it when you hook up with someone and they ignore you after. bah....
Get used to it baby. Us guys are pigs.
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Ahhhhhhhh, fresh meat.
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Quote:
Us guys are pigs.
Girls have done the same thing to me. It's not something unique to our gender, Randal.
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Aninator]
#5467448 - 04/01/06 12:50 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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hey, are you going to go to 10klf, Ani?
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Aninator
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Krishna]
#5467733 - 04/01/06 02:26 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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no... i know some people who are. I might. it's like the 3rd week in July right? MAybe i'll go i've beent hinking about it. it's really such a beautiful camp site. i wanna go for that alone. camp out by a lake and swim in a lake as my shower. Are you going?
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Aninator]
#5468218 - 04/01/06 04:53 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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i'm pretty sure i'll be there. was originally planning to visit friends in europe, but scofield playing with phil & friends has decided my attendance at bonnaroo, and i'm hoping he'll announce that he'll play with them at 10klf too!
i've never been to 10klf, actually, but some friends went last year and said it was a great scene.
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Aninator
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Krishna]
#5468236 - 04/01/06 05:05 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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so you're roo-ing it tooo? that's good to know. I'd love to meet up with you man. It would be really nice to hang out again.
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Aninator]
#5468252 - 04/01/06 05:10 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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how well do you know him? lots of times it's things from the past that crop up in these situations and make everything seem weird. if you wanna get over it, just talk to him about it. Be up front and brutally honest, no bullshit. what I mean by brutally honest is don't try to soften anything up. that's just social conditioning.
A lot of the time when you try not to say anything in benefit for the other person, the situation jsut ends up shittier anyway. do thinkgs your own way Tell him exactly what you've told us, if he's an understanding cool person, he'll at least think about it. if not, then at least you'll feel better about it when you've cleared that air for yourself.
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Aninator]
#5468260 - 04/01/06 05:12 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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i'm pretty sure i'll be at bonnaroo. i went in 03, and although i've heard that the atmosphere has gone a bit downhill since (or, really, the festival has just gotten very big), i'm hoping on getting a vip ticket through a member of this site (who fucking rocks! ). we'll definitely have to hang out.
you should hitch a ride with omr when he comes to visit plur, lol & meats sometime around may - we'll probably all meet up in chicago
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Aninator
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Krishna]
#5468373 - 04/01/06 06:01 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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That would be SUPER sweet. I'd love to. That sounds like fun.
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Aninator
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: kaiowas]
#5468412 - 04/01/06 06:11 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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I dunno we're not Buddy Buddy or anything. i met him this semester We've hung out and talked a handfull of times.
And i'm defintely not afriad of confrontation. I'm prolly one of the most blunt and honest people i know. But I feel like even mentioning it to him will make it seem like i'm freaking out or something. I feel like if I say something he's gonna think i took it more seriously than it really was. Or that I want something more serious out of it. Which isn't the case. Liek i said all i expect is friendliness.
I'm just not gonna go there for a while and see how reacts again. i mean it's only been like less than a week. meh. MEH MEH MEH! what a stress relieving word to say.
MEH in times like these i like to pull out the good ole Dessy Walls album and play Stress Management. Here I'll share it with y'all.
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Aninator]
#5468417 - 04/01/06 06:12 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Yes that reminds me of a time not too long ago when i asked a woman out on a date, and she ends up just ignoring me or just acting totally different around me when I see her around. I got to know how she was anyway, I am glad it never has gotten any further then just being a friendly acquaintance.
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Aninator]
#5468447 - 04/01/06 06:18 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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"And i'm defintely not afriad of confrontation. I'm prolly one of the most blunt and honest people i know. But I feel like even mentioning it to him will make it seem like i'm freaking out or something. I feel like if I say something he's gonna think i took it more seriously than it really was. Or that I want something more serious out of it. Which isn't the case. Liek i said all i expect is friendliness."
see that's what I'm saying. If you said to him what you said to us, that shows that you ahve enough trust in yourself and him that he would take it the right way. even the little shit like "I feel like if I say something he's gonna think i took it more seriously than it really was" is actualy the coolest shit you can say to him. it lets him know exactly what you are thinking and it will make him and you more comfortable around each other. it totally clears the air because you are speaking your mind to the fullest.
i mean, even if you don't really care that much (though you cared enough to post it) it's really good to practice shit like this.
-------------------- Annnnnnd I had a light saber and my friend was there and I said "you look like an indian" and he said "you look like satan" and he found a stick and a rock and he named the rock ooga booga and he named the stick Stick and we both thought that was pretty funny. We got eaten alive by mosquitos but didn't notice til the next day. I stepped on some glass while wading in the swamp and cut my foot open, didn't bother me til the next day either....yeah it was a good time, ended the night by buying some liquor for minors and drinking nips and going to he diner and eating chicken fingers, and then I went home and went to bed.
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Skunk420]
#5468491 - 04/01/06 06:27 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: TheDude]
#5468511 - 04/01/06 06:30 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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It was with a woman i work with anyway, I see how she is as a person anyway...so no loss there.
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kaiowas
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: Skunk420]
#5468527 - 04/01/06 06:34 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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-------------------- Annnnnnd I had a light saber and my friend was there and I said "you look like an indian" and he said "you look like satan" and he found a stick and a rock and he named the rock ooga booga and he named the stick Stick and we both thought that was pretty funny. We got eaten alive by mosquitos but didn't notice til the next day. I stepped on some glass while wading in the swamp and cut my foot open, didn't bother me til the next day either....yeah it was a good time, ended the night by buying some liquor for minors and drinking nips and going to he diner and eating chicken fingers, and then I went home and went to bed.
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Aninator
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Re: Just a complaint [Re: kaiowas]
#5468898 - 04/01/06 08:07 PM (17 years, 9 months ago) |
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Maybe I will. yea i should just be upfront. Thanks man.
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