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OfflineSporeDrinker
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How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat?
    #5431885 - 03/22/06 09:12 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

I been with my girl for a couple years now and she's been gaining weight and i'm becomming less attracted to her, physically. Is there anything I can do without making her cry or hate me?


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5431893 - 03/22/06 09:14 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Honey-bumpkins?

LOSE SOME EL BEES OR IT'S CURTAINS FOR YOU! :crankey:


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5431896 - 03/22/06 09:15 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

do you exercise? tell her you would like to exercise together.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5431903 - 03/22/06 09:16 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Well sure, there's a few things you could do - You could start with looking beyond her physical appearance and putting more importance in the last few years you've spent together. I doubt that you have stayed with her for her physical beauty alone, personality is usually what makes someone love another person.

If you're still that concerned about her weight, suggest going for long walks or something. Be more active with her. Have more sex. Encourage her to do things WITH you so that it doesn't come across like "Hey honey, you're fat". That's a great way to lose someone fast.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5431907 - 03/22/06 09:17 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

that suxs. Id ahte to be in your shoes dude.


I suggest not telling her and YOU start exersizing more, going to the gym, eating better then after shes used to it ask her if she wants to do the stuff with you.

There is no easy, or sugar coated way to say, "Baby i love you but youre getting fat." LOL.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: lowdominion]
    #5431909 - 03/22/06 09:17 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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lowdominion said:
do you exercise? tell her you would like to exercise together.




Exactly. Tell her that her HEALTH is important to you.

Make working out a fun activity for the both of you.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5431912 - 03/22/06 09:18 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

definately suggest that you two pick up a physical activity together.
and sugar coat the hell outta this one!(comin from a chic)

like, "hey hon, i was thinking, spring is coming and my new's year's resolution was to stay/get in shape. I want to start jogging X miles every 2/3 days. I would love the company if you would join me. I hate going alone and we could use the quality time. I miss you. You know with our crazy schedules we don't see each other much and I think this would be nice for the both of us."

If she live with you, go to the grocery store alone one day and buy lo-carb, lo-fat everything. if she asks, tell her "it's for me. please support me in my decision to be healthy and keep me away from a ton a junk food" If's there's nothing in the house to eat but health food and diet soda, she'll eat that.

just an idea. good luck. :wink:


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Liz]
    #5431917 - 03/22/06 09:18 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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Liz said:
Have more sex. Encourage her to do things WITH you so that it doesn't come across like "Hey honey, you're fat". That's a great way to lose *a girl* fast.




If a girl said "Hey honey, you're fat" to a guy he would be like "Yeah thats why your cooking steak tonight.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Liz]
    #5431921 - 03/22/06 09:19 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Yes, sex is a great way to lose weight. I'd prefer the honest way. Of course she may get a little hurt by it, but she'll know how you feel. If you're only together for physical reasons, then maybe it's time to shop somewhere else.

If there's love there..be honest and offer to help her out. Diet and excersize together.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Stonerguy]
    #5431926 - 03/22/06 09:20 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Quote:

Stonerguy said:
Quote:

Liz said:
Have more sex.  Encourage her to do things WITH you so that it doesn't come across like "Hey honey, you're fat".  That's a great way to lose *a girl* fast.




If a girl said "Hey honey, you're fat" to a guy he would be like "Yeah thats why your cooking steak tonight.




I know a few guys that are just as concerned with their physical appearance as some girls are.  :shrug:


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: ColorfulDee]
    #5431927 - 03/22/06 09:20 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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ColorfulDee said:
"hey hon, i was thinking, spring is coming and my new's year's resolution was to stay/get in shape. I want to start jogging X miles every 2/3 days. I would love the company if you would join me. I hate going alone and we could use the quality time. I miss you. You know with our crazy schedules we don't see each other much and I think this would be nice for the both of us."





that's lying :mad2:


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: lukeboots]
    #5431929 - 03/22/06 09:20 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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jonnywax said:
Honey-bumpkins?

LOSE SOME EL BEES OR IT'S CURTAINS FOR YOU! :crankey:




I didn't post this in OTD for a reason.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5431931 - 03/22/06 09:21 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Whatever you do don't go out and get her a case of slim-fast :thumbup:


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5431932 - 03/22/06 09:21 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

it was a joke

everyone is ok

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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: lowdominion]
    #5431936 - 03/22/06 09:23 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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lowdominion said:
do you exercise? tell her you would like to exercise together.




We both have very busy schedules. Full time work/full time school. Our free time usually consists of eating dinner, relaxing, and having sex. She eats healthy food for dinner, but loads up on junk food all day. There's pounds of candy around the house.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: lukeboots]
    #5431947 - 03/22/06 09:25 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

I have had this conversation before with an ex-boyfriend.

"Honey, you knew when you met me that I wasn't attracted to overweight people. I haven't changed, but you have. We'll diet together whatever, but too much more weight and I won't be sexually attracted anymore."

It's a harsh way, but it's honest and straightforward.

But I was talking to a guy. Most chics are way sensitive.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5431948 - 03/22/06 09:26 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Take charge of the food shopping. Buy healthy, convenient snacks and put them around the house instead of candy.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Liz]
    #5431963 - 03/22/06 09:29 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

welcome to your future women.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5431965 - 03/22/06 09:29 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

don't tell here she's fat suggest that shes getting hard to toss.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Liz]
    #5432001 - 03/22/06 09:35 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Quote:

Liz said:
I know a few guys that are just as concerned with their physical appearance as some girls are.  :shrug:




:bs:


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Liz]
    #5432004 - 03/22/06 09:36 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Quote:

Liz said:
Take charge of the food shopping. Buy healthy, convenient snacks and put them around the house instead of candy.




i don't live with her. she buys her own candy.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432011 - 03/22/06 09:37 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

steal her candy.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: sui]
    #5432015 - 03/22/06 09:37 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Candy is a killer.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432017 - 03/22/06 09:38 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

can you talk with any friends of hers maybe get one of her girlfriends to drop a dime


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: HELLOHEIDIJO]
    #5432018 - 03/22/06 09:38 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

There is definately NO nice way to say your fat. But losing weight together is the most effective. When my parents dieted, they did it together. It actually turned into a competition. But a good competition. Getting rid of the candy is a good place to start too.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: sui]
    #5432026 - 03/22/06 09:40 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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suimush said:
steal her candy.




That would account for my excersize, but not hers.  she's got pounds of it.  "OMG! easter candy 50% off after easter???  Yippie!"  :cruelworld:


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432032 - 03/22/06 09:41 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Look at the bright side.. At least now you know she's not planing on leaving you anytime soon.She probably let her self go because she feels "caught a good one"


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Bowers]
    #5432042 - 03/22/06 09:42 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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Bowers said:
There is definately NO nice way to say your fat. But losing weight together is the most effective. When my parents dieted, they did it together. It actually turned into a competition. But a good competition. Getting rid of the candy is a good place to start too.




Lose weight together would sound great if I had weight to lose, but I can't lose weight. If I went to a gym with her, I would be lifting weights to bulk up at least, and she'd spend 20 minutes on the treadmill and try to convince me to leave early.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: buckwheat]
    #5432049 - 03/22/06 09:44 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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buckwheat said:
Look at the bright side.. At least now you know she's not planing on leaving you anytime soon.She probably let her self go because she feels "caught a good one"




Ummmm, thanks i guess. I just wish the bright side didn't have to be so big.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432060 - 03/22/06 09:48 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

you can invest all this energy into being subtle and being "nice" about it

being nice isn't to have a hidden agenda behind what you say to your lover

tell her straight up that sex appeal is one of the reasons you began dating her
she probably started dating you because of your sex appeal too

if she gets upset and leaves you because she thinks your "shallow" then you just saved yourself the mess of having a relationship that drags on and on and ends itself as a giant mess


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432070 - 03/22/06 09:50 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

your relationship is over imo


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: faslimy]
    #5432080 - 03/22/06 09:53 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

got a pic? How overweight are we talkin here?


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: sui]
    #5432100 - 03/22/06 10:00 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

she's not WAY overweight.. she's just gained since we met a few years ago. maybe 20-30 lbs. She'd be smokin hot if she dropped some weight, but she still looks good.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432112 - 03/22/06 10:02 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Whatever you do, don't ask... "Hey baby...you aren't pregnant, are ya?"


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432113 - 03/22/06 10:02 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

id do the exercise together thing. Thats really your only option that doesnt end with her handprint on your face :lol:


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432114 - 03/22/06 10:02 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

She's still hot, i'm just noticing before its too late. I mean, what if we got married? What if she got tooo comfortable? I don't think i could sleep with a 200lb girl.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432118 - 03/22/06 10:03 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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Learning how to hide any blemishes, meeting standards men create
Painting flesh like painting a picture that subliminally suggests
To equally conditioned men that women are just there for sex
Striving to achieve the super model image the media project
Spending countless hours enhancing a look instead of self respect
Eating disorders insuring beauty and endangering health
When living life behind a mask you cant expect to know yourself
When women are taught one way to act and men are taught another"-A.R.




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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432135 - 03/22/06 10:07 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

dangerous territory, you don't know what you're up against



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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: CaptainH13]
    #5432141 - 03/22/06 10:08 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

nice feminist propaganda poetry


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: lowdominion]
    #5432150 - 03/22/06 10:11 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

haha....it's Aus-rotten...typical of the old era political Punkrock....


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: lowdominion]
    #5432151 - 03/22/06 10:11 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

i guess you could mention the fact that you noticed she was gaining weight, and you dont want it to become un healthy.

Show concern, NOT the fact that your not as attracted to her anymore.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: CaptainH13]
    #5432172 - 03/22/06 10:16 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Feminist garbage. Women are just as shallow as men when it comes to attractiveness. Ever notice how women go gaga over dudes who are 6 foot tall, have bodies of pure muscle, and have handsome faces?

In today's politically correct world nobody wants to admit that looks matter. Yet they do and everybody knows it. If you are going to be with somebody then you need to be at least somewhat physically attracted to them. Granted, physical attractiveness isn't everything. Temperment, personality, sense of humor, belief systems, etc.. all matter. But, physical attractiveness still does play a significant part in whether or not you will have romantic or sexual feelings toward someone.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: CaptainH13]
    #5432181 - 03/22/06 10:17 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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haha....it's Aus-rotten...typical of the old era political Punkrock....




They are from Pittsburgh. My friend played in a band with the lead singer of Aus Rotten. I've also seen them play several times. Needless to say, I do not agree with their politics.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: sui]
    #5432383 - 03/22/06 11:08 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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i guess you could mention the fact that you noticed she was gaining weight, and you dont want it to become un healthy.

Show concern, NOT the fact that your not as attracted to her anymore.




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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432388 - 03/22/06 11:09 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Put ipecac in all her meals.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: HELLA_TIGHT]
    #5432391 - 03/22/06 11:10 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

:lol:

She'll learn quick


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"Everytime I eat I throw up, so... if I stop eating... I'll stop throwing up."


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Liz]
    #5432398 - 03/22/06 11:12 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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Well sure, there's a few things you could do - You could start with looking beyond her physical appearance and putting more importance in the last few years you've spent together.




:rofl:


no really, tell her that youre thinkin of doin some exercise and if she would like to join (and if she doesnt join tie a biscuit to your shit and then run down the street...)  :thumbup:


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432405 - 03/22/06 11:14 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Leave that cow. Plenty of other women out there that actually care about their bodies.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: HELLA_TIGHT]
    #5432407 - 03/22/06 11:14 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Every time she looks like she's gonna hurl, ring a bell. This way, (after a bunch of times) you can make her purge simply by ringing a bell. Outcome? You win, my friend


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: RandalFlagg]
    #5432416 - 03/22/06 11:15 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

I say you study up on nutrition and what not and gain a huge interest in the subject.

Learn about how bad many candy ingredients are for your body. Read labels on all of your foods and make sure to NOT eat the ones that you find unhealthy. Show outright disgust for those junk food products.

You're infomation and attention to health will catch on.

Hint, start with high fructose corn syrup(in lots of candies), hydrogenated oils, and anything where a read food ingredient isn't the first listed(Yuck!).


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Boom]
    #5432420 - 03/22/06 11:16 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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Every time she looks like she's gonna hurl, ring a bell.  This way, (after a bunch of times) you can make her purge simply by ringing a bell.  Outcome?  You win, my friend





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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: eligal]
    #5432426 - 03/22/06 11:17 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Me and that Pavlov guy.




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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432429 - 03/22/06 11:18 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

I don't think there is an easy way to say it. Without getting smacked... at least that's what would happen to me.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: eris]
    #5432436 - 03/22/06 11:20 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

its easy if youre a pimp


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Liz]
    #5432457 - 03/22/06 11:25 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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Well sure, there's a few things you could do - You could start with looking beyond her physical appearance and putting more importance in the last few years you've spent together.





FAST FORWARD 20 YEARS

you find yourself with a fat ass wife and fat ass kids sitting on the couch watching fox news.


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    #5432467 - 03/22/06 11:26 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

:lol: :shocked:


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Tien]
    #5432489 - 03/22/06 11:31 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Don't forget loving Jesus wearing Tweetybird shirts shopping at Wal-Mart eating fast food everyday for breakfast lunch and dinner while popping your prescription pills so you don't feel shit.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: HELLA_TIGHT]
    #5432504 - 03/22/06 11:33 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)



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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: daimyo]
    #5432509 - 03/22/06 11:35 PM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432640 - 03/23/06 12:22 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

20-30 lbs. is quite a bit of weight to gain in just a few years. She hasn't mentioned it? She doesn't talk about it bothering her? She doesn't seem less confident? ...I think she's getting too comfortable, man. And moreover, 20-30 lbs. is a lot of weight to lose, and it'll take strict dedication on her part, meaning she'll have to be internally motivated. You have a pretty tough situation on your hands.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432661 - 03/23/06 12:29 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

I agree with the exercising together suggestion. Do you have a gym membership? If not, the both of you should sign up, and work out regularly.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432689 - 03/23/06 12:38 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

You could play "catch me & we'll have sex"!


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5432736 - 03/23/06 12:51 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

just say it.. or ask her to go workout with you or do something physical


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: 40oz]
    #5432794 - 03/23/06 01:14 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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suimush said:
i guess you could mention the fact that you noticed she was gaining weight, and you dont want it to become un healthy.

Show concern, NOT the fact that your not as attracted to her anymore.




ding! ding! ding!
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    #5432817 - 03/23/06 01:29 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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suimush said:
i guess you could mention the fact that you noticed she was gaining weight, and you dont want it to become un healthy.

Show concern, NOT the fact that your not as attracted to her anymore.




ding! ding! ding!
we have a winner!




That's what i'd say too... :thumbup:





no yall... that would be lieing :mad:


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5433086 - 03/23/06 06:31 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Tell her that you've been noticing that eating crap food makes you feel sluggish and shitty.  You tell her you've been thinking about eating good food lately and getting some exercise, just to see if it makes you overall feel better.  Then ask her if she'd like to participate in your 'experiment' to see if it really works.  That's a nice way.

Whatever you do, don't tell her that Sea World called and offered her a job to swim around their tanks this summer.

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    #5433134 - 03/23/06 06:57 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

:lol:

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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5433167 - 03/23/06 07:25 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

If she is under 200lbs and gained some 25lbs in a few years that's one huge problem.

She should diet + exercise (there's no other way) and not lose more than 8 % of her bodyweight or she's in deep trouble.

The despair will keep on growing and she'll keep on gaining if nothing is done about this, it won't balance out on its own.

She is definitely concerned about gaining ~25 lbs, I think 19/20 who're a tad overweight would.

So: she's aware of it and hiding it from you.

That means some subtlety will go a long way, and she'll try to hide her response.

Acknowledge that you notice, let this sink in, then show concern and offer help.

But I don't think we're getting the straight jazz here. I think there might be problems between you which make you focus on her gaining weight and losing attractiveness. Is the love still there?
If the communication between you two is failing then the weightloss message could give rise to needless drama.

However you do it, slip the message to her gently. And ask yourself about where things are really at in your relationship. If she is to lose weight for you to remain interested, there might be more going on than a weight problem.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5433170 - 03/23/06 07:30 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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I been with my girl for a couple years now and she's been gaining weight and i'm becomming less attracted to her, physically. Is there anything I can do without making her cry or hate me?

she's not WAY overweight.. she's just gained since we met a few years ago. maybe 20-30 lbs. She'd be smokin hot if she dropped some weight, but she still looks good.

She's still hot, i'm just noticing before its too late.  I mean, what if we got married?  What if she got tooo comfortable?  I don't think i could sleep with a 200lb girl.





Dude, she isn't the one with the problem.
If you love her, then it won't matter that she is gaining weight.

Period. :sad:

























So since your only in it for sex........
Uncle Owl is gonna tell ya how to do it. :wink:

You: Hey hon I sure do miss it.

her: Miss what?

you: That nice flat tummy you had when we met.

her: What!

you: You have been putting on a few pounds these past few months and it is getting in the way of my ability to eat your pussy properly. I love to work my way from your neck down to your sweet little pussy, sampling some of you wares on my way down. Love hanging around the tits but there is just too much tummy and it is taking me much too long to get to the pussy. So why not ditch the candy and junk food for a few months and lets really try to work some of those pounds off in the bedroom!




Regardless of how this turns out you cant loose. It will either work and you get your "smokin hot" piece of ass back, or she slaps the shit out of ya and you go find another "smoking hot piece of ass" :grin:

The best win/win scenario I 've heard in a long time.  :thumbup:





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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: niteowl]
    #5433339 - 03/23/06 08:50 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

stop buying beer and buy liqour instead, shell loose weight and get drunker at the same time! a win win situation...


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    #5433409 - 03/23/06 09:09 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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I been with my girl for a couple years now and she's been gaining weight and i'm becomming less attracted to her, physically. Is there anything I can do without making her cry or hate me?

she's not WAY overweight.. she's just gained since we met a few years ago. maybe 20-30 lbs. She'd be smokin hot if she dropped some weight, but she still looks good.

She's still hot, i'm just noticing before its too late.  I mean, what if we got married?  What if she got tooo comfortable?  I don't think i could sleep with a 200lb girl.





Dude, she isn't the one with the problem.
If you love her, then it won't matter that she is gaining weight.

Period. :sad:





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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: adrug]
    #5433467 - 03/23/06 09:23 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

:thumbup: :yesnod:


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Liz]
    #5433492 - 03/23/06 09:28 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

you got a photo album? Just look through it and comment jokingly about her weight gain. Then maybe suggest you two work out or something. Just tell her that your worried about getting old and fat too and you want to prevent it. Do it together.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Liz]
    #5433527 - 03/23/06 09:34 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

tru, but only when uve been married 30+ years...


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: AliceDee]
    #5433548 - 03/23/06 09:38 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

just wait tell she ask you "does this make me look fat?" and say yes. then shell notice and hopefully do somthing about it.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: AliceDee]
    #5433555 - 03/23/06 09:39 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

I don't think love should be affected by someone's appearance changing from weight gain, regardless of whether you're been together 3 years or 30.  :shrug:


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: adrug]
    #5433589 - 03/23/06 09:47 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

fuck that.


To the original poster,

if she is gaining weight and you are losing sexual interest in her then it has to be dealt with. You can't change who you are and the way circumstance affects you.

You need to sit her down and explain to her your concerns in a very sensitive but honest fashion.

Convey to her why you are so interested in helping her gain some of her old beauty back, because you appreciate her and don't want to lose her to something as trivial as weight. You also need to compliment her on thing s you deeply enjoy about her.

Its understandable that if she is gaining weight that it is affecting your desire for sex with her. it is unfair for women to think that just because they have caught a good that means they can allow themselves to become pigs. Its selfish and highly insensitive to the men. We don't want to fuck no cows. relationships are a responsibility, both parties need to communicate and try to meet in the middle. It is has long been understood that men are affected very intensely visually, this means it is the women's responsibility to consider this and act appropriately, just like there are certain measures men have take when dealing with their side of the arrangement. One being the communication aspect of the relationship.

Tell her, be polite, expressive and also very sensitive, you would be doing her a far greater disservice by letting her get fat then dumping her, now she is fat, lonely and her prospects not so good. Her feelings will still be hurt, if you tell her and help her combat it her feeling s will be ruffled sure, ultimately her feelings will be better than they were before. When she has regained her former grace and you sex is frenzied and passionate. She will know you are capable of being honest and greatly admire you for it, finding a sense of comfort and trust that wasn't there previously.

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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5433820 - 03/23/06 10:32 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

You guys are serious pushovers. I believe in honesty in relationships. If she loves you she should be able to handle you telling her that she is getting heavy. Christ its not like your telling her she got aids or anything.

Im dead serious. Just don't say your not as attracted to her obviously. The girl im currently seeing tells me all kind of shit id rather not hear but at least i know what she thinks and work on improving myself.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5433869 - 03/23/06 10:46 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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Is there anything I can do without making her cry or hate me?




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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5433931 - 03/23/06 11:00 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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Tell that fat bitch to call Jenny Craig.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
    #5434021 - 03/23/06 11:16 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

"I Think Your Friend Doesn't Look So Good After She Put On Weight."

or buy her a dress that's a little to small for her and say, "I bought this dress for a slim woman like you."

?When you can?t get your suitcase to close, ask her to sit on it. The pressure from her weight will close the suitcase, and the embarrassment will get her to the gym faster than she can scarf down a third slice of pizza."

?Watch Celebrity Fit Club with her and casually ask if she would ever consider it.?

Lie to her and say, "Have you lost weight cause you're lookin better everyday."


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    #5434041 - 03/23/06 11:22 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

^^^ those are good...

and if your ever behind her, squeeze her tummy and jiggle around her fat and act like your laughing with her, not at her!


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: nakors_junk_bag]
    #5434084 - 03/23/06 11:31 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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nakors_junk_bag said:
fuck that.


To the original poster,

if she is gaining weight and you are losing sexual interest in her then it has to be dealt with.  You can't change who you are and the way circumstance affects you.

You need to sit her down and explain to her your concerns in a very sensitive but honest fashion.

Convey to her why you are so interested in helping her gain some of her old beauty back, because you appreciate her and don't want to lose her to something as trivial as weight.  You also need to compliment her on thing s you deeply enjoy about her.

Its understandable that if she is gaining weight that it is affecting your desire for sex with her. it is unfair for women to think that just because they have caught a good that means they can allow themselves to become pigs. Its selfish and highly insensitive to the men.  We don't want to fuck no cows. relationships are a responsibility, both parties need to communicate and try to meet in the middle.  It is has long been understood that men are affected very intensely visually, this means it is the women's responsibility to consider this and act appropriately, just like there are certain measures men have take when dealing with their side of the arrangement. One being the communication aspect of the relationship.

Tell her, be polite, expressive and also very sensitive, you would be doing her a far greater disservice by letting her get fat then dumping her, now she is fat, lonely and her prospects not so good.  Her feelings will still be hurt, if you tell her and help her combat it her feeling s will be ruffled sure, ultimately her feelings will be better than they were before.  When she has regained her former grace and you sex is frenzied and passionate.  She will know you are capable of being honest and greatly admire you for it, finding a sense of comfort and trust that wasn't there previously.

IMHO





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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Liz]
    #5434094 - 03/23/06 11:33 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

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Liz said:
I don't think love should be affected by someone's appearance changing from weight gain, regardless of whether you're been together 3 years or 30.  :shrug:



You know what?  This stuff about how weight doesn't matter is bullshit.  There's a difference between love and attractiveness.  If I'm with a girl I love and she puts on a bunch of weight, then of course I'll still love her, but that doesn't mean it won't bother me.  If this guy's girlfriend had a coke problem, everyone here would be encouraging him to get her some help, but if he speaks up about her eating problem, then suddenly he's shallow.

:nonono:


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Liz]
    #5434167 - 03/23/06 11:57 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

Good try but not realistic. If she is getting fat and he is loosing interest in her ,no matter what her personality is like he is always going to be thinking "what a chunk" and looking for anonother girl. My advice is to get her to work out with you. If she won't or does not take the hint you may have to tell her to loose that chunk or split.


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Liz said:
Well sure, there's a few things you could do - You could start with looking beyond her physical appearance and putting more importance in the last few years you've spent together. I doubt that you have stayed with her for her physical beauty alone, personality is usually what makes someone love another person.


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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Silversoul]
    #5434171 - 03/23/06 11:58 AM (17 years, 10 months ago)

tell her if she cant drop the pounds then shell end up in mounds.(and by mounds I mean rolls, shell be a fat bitch).


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Man takes advantage of who he is,nature is his home, where he evolved from. So why does he turn it down, defy, and mutalate his birth ground? why does he spread disease, murder his native animals,rape and torture his land, and still feel descent of who he is? live a life that is not true? excepts an artificial home?


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