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irascible_raunch
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
#5432640 - 03/23/06 12:22 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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20-30 lbs. is quite a bit of weight to gain in just a few years. She hasn't mentioned it? She doesn't talk about it bothering her? She doesn't seem less confident? ...I think she's getting too comfortable, man. And moreover, 20-30 lbs. is a lot of weight to lose, and it'll take strict dedication on her part, meaning she'll have to be internally motivated. You have a pretty tough situation on your hands.
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
#5432661 - 03/23/06 12:29 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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I agree with the exercising together suggestion. Do you have a gym membership? If not, the both of you should sign up, and work out regularly.
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
#5432689 - 03/23/06 12:38 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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You could play "catch me & we'll have sex"!
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
#5432736 - 03/23/06 12:51 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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just say it.. or ask her to go workout with you or do something physical
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: 40oz]
#5432794 - 03/23/06 01:14 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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suimush said: i guess you could mention the fact that you noticed she was gaining weight, and you dont want it to become un healthy.
Show concern, NOT the fact that your not as attracted to her anymore.
ding! ding! ding! we have a winner!
That's what i'd say too...
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Kamek]
#5432817 - 03/23/06 01:29 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Kamek said:
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40oz said:
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suimush said: i guess you could mention the fact that you noticed she was gaining weight, and you dont want it to become un healthy.
Show concern, NOT the fact that your not as attracted to her anymore.
ding! ding! ding! we have a winner!
That's what i'd say too...
no yall... that would be lieing
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
#5433086 - 03/23/06 06:31 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Tell her that you've been noticing that eating crap food makes you feel sluggish and shitty. You tell her you've been thinking about eating good food lately and getting some exercise, just to see if it makes you overall feel better. Then ask her if she'd like to participate in your 'experiment' to see if it really works. That's a nice way.
Whatever you do, don't tell her that Sea World called and offered her a job to swim around their tanks this summer.
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? *DELETED* [Re: Left Nut City]
#5433119 - 03/23/06 06:46 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? *DELETED* [Re: Scott Bennett]
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Scott Bennett]
#5433134 - 03/23/06 06:57 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Interesting page there...
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Scott Bennett]
#5433140 - 03/23/06 07:03 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Yeah, lol. That is pretty crazy looking
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
#5433167 - 03/23/06 07:25 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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If she is under 200lbs and gained some 25lbs in a few years that's one huge problem.
She should diet + exercise (there's no other way) and not lose more than 8 % of her bodyweight or she's in deep trouble.
The despair will keep on growing and she'll keep on gaining if nothing is done about this, it won't balance out on its own.
She is definitely concerned about gaining ~25 lbs, I think 19/20 who're a tad overweight would.
So: she's aware of it and hiding it from you.
That means some subtlety will go a long way, and she'll try to hide her response.
Acknowledge that you notice, let this sink in, then show concern and offer help.
But I don't think we're getting the straight jazz here. I think there might be problems between you which make you focus on her gaining weight and losing attractiveness. Is the love still there? If the communication between you two is failing then the weightloss message could give rise to needless drama.
However you do it, slip the message to her gently. And ask yourself about where things are really at in your relationship. If she is to lose weight for you to remain interested, there might be more going on than a weight problem.
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: SporeDrinker]
#5433170 - 03/23/06 07:30 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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SporeDrinker said: I been with my girl for a couple years now and she's been gaining weight and i'm becomming less attracted to her, physically. Is there anything I can do without making her cry or hate me?
she's not WAY overweight.. she's just gained since we met a few years ago. maybe 20-30 lbs. She'd be smokin hot if she dropped some weight, but she still looks good.
She's still hot, i'm just noticing before its too late. I mean, what if we got married? What if she got tooo comfortable? I don't think i could sleep with a 200lb girl.
Dude, she isn't the one with the problem. If you love her, then it won't matter that she is gaining weight.
Period. 
So since your only in it for sex........ Uncle Owl is gonna tell ya how to do it. 
You: Hey hon I sure do miss it.
her: Miss what?
you: That nice flat tummy you had when we met.
her: What!
you: You have been putting on a few pounds these past few months and it is getting in the way of my ability to eat your pussy properly. I love to work my way from your neck down to your sweet little pussy, sampling some of you wares on my way down. Love hanging around the tits but there is just too much tummy and it is taking me much too long to get to the pussy. So why not ditch the candy and junk food for a few months and lets really try to work some of those pounds off in the bedroom!
Regardless of how this turns out you cant loose. It will either work and you get your "smokin hot" piece of ass back, or she slaps the shit out of ya and you go find another "smoking hot piece of ass" 
The best win/win scenario I 've heard in a long time. 
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: niteowl]
#5433339 - 03/23/06 08:50 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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stop buying beer and buy liqour instead, shell loose weight and get drunker at the same time! a win win situation...
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: niteowl]
#5433409 - 03/23/06 09:09 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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niteowl said:
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SporeDrinker said: I been with my girl for a couple years now and she's been gaining weight and i'm becomming less attracted to her, physically. Is there anything I can do without making her cry or hate me?
she's not WAY overweight.. she's just gained since we met a few years ago. maybe 20-30 lbs. She'd be smokin hot if she dropped some weight, but she still looks good.
She's still hot, i'm just noticing before its too late. I mean, what if we got married? What if she got tooo comfortable? I don't think i could sleep with a 200lb girl.
Dude, she isn't the one with the problem. If you love her, then it won't matter that she is gaining weight.
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: adrug]
#5433467 - 03/23/06 09:23 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Liz]
#5433492 - 03/23/06 09:28 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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you got a photo album? Just look through it and comment jokingly about her weight gain. Then maybe suggest you two work out or something. Just tell her that your worried about getting old and fat too and you want to prevent it. Do it together.
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: Liz]
#5433527 - 03/23/06 09:34 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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tru, but only when uve been married 30+ years...
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Re: How do I tell my girlfriend that she's getting fat? [Re: AliceDee]
#5433548 - 03/23/06 09:38 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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just wait tell she ask you "does this make me look fat?" and say yes. then shell notice and hopefully do somthing about it.
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