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BuddahKillah
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Another girl problem thread.
#5421784 - 03/20/06 09:46 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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So, I have been with this girl for about 4 months and im in love with her. I broke my coller bone in a car accident and I dont have insurance so I had to come 800 miles away from home for surgery. Now im stuck up here for another 2 weeks. I dont know what to do because, I really think she is either cheating on me or is going to. And I have good reason not to put full trust into her. The thing is ... im really in love with her and I want to tell her to go ahead and fuck other guys... 2 weeks is a long time. I really dont want her to, its just it would be better than me finding out she's cheating on me. My question is : Do you think this choice will destroy our releationship?
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Re: Another girl problem thread. *DELETED* [Re: BuddahKillah]
#5421793 - 03/20/06 09:49 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: roby000]
#5421798 - 03/20/06 09:51 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Its not that she is moving on... I know she will be with me when I get back. She just likes to fuck all the time and I almost know she is going to. You are also right though... If she cant last 2 weeks then I guess it was never real to begin with. I just dont know what to think or do.
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: BuddahKillah]
#5421894 - 03/20/06 10:20 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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fuck the hoe then,fuck try going to jail and coming back to a girl.just be like did you cheat on me.if she did reach back a slap the hoe.ask around.shit, youll be fine.i promise.4 months is not even a long time.ive been with my girl friend for 3 years.trust me you will fall in love again if soemthing bad happens.goodluck.
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: plataloco]
#5421935 - 03/20/06 10:31 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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plataloco said: fuck the hoe then,fuck try going to jail and coming back to a girl.just be like did you cheat on me.if she did reach back a slap the hoe.ask around.shit, youll be fine.i promise.4 months is not even a long time.ive been with my girl friend for 3 years.trust me you will fall in love again if soemthing bad happens.goodluck.
Thanks man, that really is what I needed to hear. If she cheats on me... she's a fucking hoe and always will be. I kinda knew that before I got with her so I cant really get too upset. I knew what I was getting into.
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: BuddahKillah]
#5422004 - 03/20/06 10:54 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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love has a nasty way of turning man into wimpy little pussies... my best advise is treat her like you would anybody else and youll act more of a man... shell then respect and love you in return because of it
(note i said be a man not an asshole :P)
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: DICK]
#5422013 - 03/20/06 10:55 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Great advise man... I need to hear shit like this every once in awhile. Thx, really.
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: BuddahKillah]
#5422025 - 03/20/06 10:58 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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cheat on her first, that way you wont feel used when she does it to you, and if she dosent cheat on you dont tell her you were with molly rotten crotch while out of town.
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: BuddahKillah]
#5422028 - 03/20/06 10:59 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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no problem... ill bitch slap back to reality if need be
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: roby000]
#5422046 - 03/20/06 11:02 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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roby000 said: cheat on her first, that way you wont feel used when she does it to you, and if she dosent cheat on you dont tell her you were with molly rotten crotch while out of town.
Trust me... thats what I feel like doing. But I also think that might be the reason she is doing it to me ... Love ... WTF
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: BuddahKillah]
#5423327 - 03/20/06 08:51 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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This doesn't sound like "love" at all. 
You don't trust her, and have good reason not to? How can you love someone that you don't trust to keep her legs shut for a mealey 2 weeks while you're laid up after surgery?? If she doesn't have and self control you're wasting your time.
Honestly though, you should rethink your definitio of "love"
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: Liz]
#5426616 - 03/21/06 06:16 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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^^^Yeah dude read that post good and hard.
You're in love with her and you say you want to give her the go ahead to go cheat on you? You love her and says she's a hoe behind her back? I wouldn't blame her for cheating on you. How old are you anyway? If you are in a 'loving' relationship and your girl can't go 14 days, 224 waking hours without cheating on you,...I don't even know what to tell you.
Fuckin' shit.
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: Grok]
#5426923 - 03/21/06 07:12 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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I would never call my g/f a hoe... I said I would if she cheated on me... in which case she would be. I do love her and I think it is perfectly normal for me to be insecure when she is 800 miles away and I may be gone even longer. You people make me out to be a bad person... I'm just insecure and I'm sure she has the same insecurity's ... but we still love each other
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: Liz]
#5428174 - 03/21/06 11:19 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Liz said: This doesn't sound like "love" at all.
technically, we dont have a firm definition of how love is to be shown or felt. it purely is, and it is possible that everyone has a personal interpretation of love.
so maybe it is love?
but anyhow, i jsut gotta ask yall, am i the only one who burst out laughing at this thread?? lol, really! she cant keep her legs closed for two weeks...  and the guy is ok with it!! 
this thread deserves some type of reward
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: eligal]
#5428234 - 03/21/06 11:36 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Im not ok with it... I want to let her so she does not do it behind my back. I know this is lame ... thats why im fucking posting here. If you dont have any help, then dont fucking post at all.
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: BuddahKillah]
#5432352 - 03/22/06 10:58 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Look man, your situation is a little screwy. How exactly do you want us to help?
Question - are you actually ok with being in a relationship in which you allow your partner to cheat on you even though you don't like it at all?
That seems to be along the lines of what you are saying. To me that suggests you don't have much self-respect or very little experience with relationships. If I ever felt I needed to tell a girl I was with to not cheat on me, there would be no relationship. You think two weeks is the longest you'll ever be away from her? No trust=no worthwhile relationship.
I hope this helps.
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: Grok]
#5433762 - 03/23/06 10:18 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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cilosyb said:
very little experience with relationships.
I really don't have much experience with relationships. This is the first girl I have ever really loved. That is why I don't just want to tell her to fuck off. I know I don't trust her. Its because she lied about her past in the when we first met. She lied about things like where she was born. She said she was from Greece and stuff like that... just because she was trying to be accepted so hard. I found out and still stayed with her. Just to show her how much I really cared. She told a lot of lies to all of her "friends" about her past and now she feels like she has no real friends so I'm helping her threw this shit. I feel like I'm doing the right thing in a way but, I also feel like I may just be getting used. Is it really possible to re-gain trust in someone ? She also lied about worse things... like she said she used to have eating problems and stuff but she really didn't... those are the lies that scared me. I'm just not sure what to do and, I know the people on this site give much better advise than any of my friends. Thanks for any help you can give me.
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: BuddahKillah]
#5433812 - 03/23/06 10:31 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Question - are you actually ok with being in a relationship in which you allow your partner to cheat on you even though you don't like it at all?
No im really not ok with this at all. The thing is... I may just be being paranoid because im crazy in love. I just feel like I know when someone is hiding something from me... and that is really what it feels like. I was right last time with her when she lied about alot of things and I called her out on them. She didnt deny any of it though and I respected that, its just now I really dont have much trust in her.
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: BuddahKillah]
#5433892 - 03/23/06 10:51 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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oh you crazy emo kids
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: DICK]
#5433970 - 03/23/06 11:07 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Emo fucking sucks. I should just bottle up all my emotions and go drink 40's and fuck mad bitches. I would prolly feel alot better.
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Re: Another girl problem thread. [Re: BuddahKillah]
#5436948 - 03/24/06 01:35 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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BuddahKillah said: Emo fucking sucks. I should just bottle up all my emotions and go drink 40's and fuck mad bitches. I would prolly feel alot better.
works for me
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