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Aninator
Flashtique


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What's the longest...
#5407740 - 03/16/06 10:53 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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... time it's ever taken you to get over someone?
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OneMoreRobot3021


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Re: What's the longest... [Re: Aninator]
#5407748 - 03/16/06 10:54 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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There was Rachel back in high school..that took me a while..I was pretty fucked by that for like 2 years.
Then there was Kristen freshman year of college. But I got sick of her, so after I dumped her it was more a feeling of release than having to get over her.
-------------------- Acid doesn't give you truths; it builds machines that push the envelope of perception. Whatever revelations came to me then have dissolved like skywriting. All I really know is that those few years saddled me with a faith in the redemptive potential of the imagination which, however flat, stale and unprofitable the world seems to me now, I cannot for the life of me shake. -Erik Davis
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daimyo
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Re: What's the longest... [Re: Aninator]
#5407751 - 03/16/06 10:55 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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20+ years. I'll never get over how great I am.
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OneMoreRobot3021


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Re: What's the longest... [Re: daimyo]
#5407754 - 03/16/06 10:56 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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-------------------- Acid doesn't give you truths; it builds machines that push the envelope of perception. Whatever revelations came to me then have dissolved like skywriting. All I really know is that those few years saddled me with a faith in the redemptive potential of the imagination which, however flat, stale and unprofitable the world seems to me now, I cannot for the life of me shake. -Erik Davis
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Liz
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Re: What's the longest... [Re: Aninator]
#5407773 - 03/16/06 11:01 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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A few months. The problem I've always had with relationships is that they drag on when they should have ended months prior. I think when my last boyfriend cheated on me it took me about 6 months to finally get over it.
I don't even think it was necessarily getting over HIM, it was getting over the relationship and the security of being with SOMEONE. He made it real easy to get over his sorry ass real quickly. 
I think the problem most people have is not being able to get over the actual bond, and not being used to being alone.
-------------------- Remember, remember the fifth of November The gunpowder treason and plot. I see no reason why gunpowder treason Should ever be forgot.
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In(di)go
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Re: What's the longest... [Re: Aninator]
#5407786 - 03/16/06 11:04 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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about a year...
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Adom
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Re: What's the longest... [Re: Aninator]
#5407792 - 03/16/06 11:05 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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month or two
I'm cold.
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goobler
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Re: What's the longest... [Re: Aninator]
#5407800 - 03/16/06 11:08 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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just long enough to have the last shovel full of dirt obscure them
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Aninator
Flashtique


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Re: What's the longest... [Re: Adom]
#5407801 - 03/16/06 11:08 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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i'm on like a year and a half and still going and he was never really my boyfriend
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In(di)go
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Re: What's the longest... [Re: Aninator]
#5407824 - 03/16/06 11:13 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
AniNator said: i'm on like a year and a half and still going and he was never really my boyfriend
the situation i'm going through right now might end up like that... i certainly don't hope so... but it can... so wish me luck...
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OneMoreRobot3021


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Re: What's the longest... [Re: Aninator]
#5407832 - 03/16/06 11:15 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
AniNator said: i'm on like a year and a half and still going and he was never really my boyfriend
I know you better than most o' these folks so lemme just offer my perspective...
I know you think about him a lot, but in a way I think this runs deeper. THis is about connecting with people on a really meaningful level. You're always looking for that. You, like me, are obsessed with your relationships with people and the levels they work on.
I think you're afraid of never making a connection like that with anyone else moreso than you really are having a hard time getting over HIM specifically...I dunno. (ps let's hang out soon k thnx bye)
-------------------- Acid doesn't give you truths; it builds machines that push the envelope of perception. Whatever revelations came to me then have dissolved like skywriting. All I really know is that those few years saddled me with a faith in the redemptive potential of the imagination which, however flat, stale and unprofitable the world seems to me now, I cannot for the life of me shake. -Erik Davis
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Aninator
Flashtique


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Good luck Indigo, I wouldn't wish this on anyone. All I can say is that if it does end up going to shit, it gets better and hurts less.
As for this "I think you're afraid of never making a connection like that with anyone else moreso than you really are having a hard time getting over HIM specifically...I dunno. (ps let's hang out soon k thnx bye)"
I think you're 100% right. but that fear of never making a connection like that again is what's making me think even more that he's meant for me. And that eventually we'll live happily ever after. yet we all know that's probably not gonna happen.
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Aninator
Flashtique


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Re: What's the longest... [Re: Aninator]
#5407856 - 03/16/06 11:22 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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And Yes we should hang out soon. I'm in queens till sunday. let me know if you're free.
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Krishna
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Re: What's the longest... [Re: Aninator]
#5407910 - 03/16/06 11:38 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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about a year... it took a summer without seeing or thinking about her before i was really over it, and able to talk to her again..
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In(di)go
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Re: What's the longest... [Re: Aninator]
#5407911 - 03/16/06 11:38 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
AniNator said: but that fear of never making a connection like that again is what's making me think even more that he's meant for me. And that eventually we'll live happily ever after.
know EXACTLY what you mean... exactly...
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Aninator
Flashtique


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Re: What's the longest... [Re: In(di)go]
#5407935 - 03/16/06 11:44 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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good to know i'm not the only one!
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Hendostan


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Re: What's the longest... [Re: Aninator]
#5407943 - 03/16/06 11:47 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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from my own personal experience, it usually takes about the same amount of time as you were with them to get over them...my last real "love" lasted about a year and half...it was about a year and a half after breaking up before i could really enjoy memories of that person without hurtful emotions attached. my last girlfriend was with me for about a month and a half..took about that long to get over it as well, which was a relief after the year+ thing. we're good friends now, but it still sucks going to bed alone all the time...i think that's the worst part.
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Silversoul
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Re: What's the longest... [Re: Aninator]
#5407954 - 03/16/06 11:50 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
AniNator said: i'm on like a year and a half and still going and he was never really my boyfriend
I was in a similar situation with a girl once. I finally did get over her and now we're back to being friends.
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Aninator
Flashtique


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Re: What's the longest... [Re: Hendostan]
#5407961 - 03/16/06 11:52 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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I can't say the same for myself. I knew this guy for like a year the last three months we were like intimate and starting shit and then i had to go away to school and it just sorta stopped for him and continued for me. we still talk. and i try to be his friend but i still see him as the personi want to be with forever. Someone i could never get bored of. The situations a little bit more complicated than what i'm making it seem but i don't want to get into the details no matter how important they are.
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Aninator
Flashtique


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Re: What's the longest... [Re: Aninator]
#5407966 - 03/16/06 11:54 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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But yea it's definitely taken longer than the 3 months of whatever we had was to get over him. and i've made progress. but i want to find someone else and it just doesn't seem to be happening.
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