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Silversoul
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A suicidal friend
#5396120 - 03/13/06 06:22 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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My ex-girlfriend is once again feeling suicidal. I don't know how long she's felt this way, since she's never really happy. But she told me today that she wants to die. I told her that if she kills herself, she might as well kill me too, because I'd be dead inside. That may have stopped her in the short term, but on the other hand, I'm worried that I've made her afraid to talk to me about her pain. She is currently seeing a therapist, but says she hates it. I just don't know what else to do. It's even harder knowing that we're 2,000 miles apart. I feel so helpless.
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mack_tasticlies
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Registered: 02/25/06
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Re: A suicidal friend [Re: Silversoul]
#5396135 - 03/13/06 06:30 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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tell someone, or just let it be. There is really nothing you can do, keep talking to her and most importantly listeing.
I would probably tell someone she trusts who is in a real position to help here, fuck she may get mad at you but its the most responsible thing you can.
She also might enjoy therapy more if she finds a doctor she likes better, the rapport is the most important part of the process. If she doesn't like her doctor it won't work.
You yourself need to go ahead and steel yourself agains the possibility she may do it. Have aplan of action ready so that if it happens you can take care of your own soul, I know it sucks but it is the simple truth. I hate to be the one to say this and I hope you won't look unkindly upon me for saying it.
good luck, I will pray for the two of you. Maybe I can convince the Grand Conductor to rewrite that part of the song.
p.s. lots of stand up and whose line is it anywayz alwayz cheers me up. That and my love of futurama amake life worth living.
Edited by mack_tasticlies (03/13/06 06:31 PM)
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MOTH
Wild Woman


Registered: 06/06/03
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Loc: In the jungle
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Quote:
mack_tasticlies said:
You yourself need to go ahead and steel yourself agains the possibility she may do it.
I agree. In the end, it's entirely her choice. She'll either do it, or she won't. Just up to her.
It's hurtful, but the only thing you can do (aside from calling someone who lives closer to her and filling them in on her mental state) is to be a supportive, grounding figure in her life.
Again...this is hard to hear...but everything is really up to her. The sooner you accept this and accept the fact that you ARE helpless in this situation, the easier things will go on you.
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